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March 27th, 2017
Do you ever feel your outgrowing the people around you?
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#11
risingstar

risingstar

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Join Date: 12/08/2012 | Posts: 231

DeanLaxer wrote:
(the quote fucked up but I hope you find this anyways, risingstar)

I realized that I have to start actually doing my own shit in order to grow. I mean, I can't just go through life and rely on entropy to make way for me. I think we all have two choices: either you let life shape you, or you shape your life. And I don't want to be shaped; I want to shape.

And yes, what you say about how people communicate with each other is so true. Before I started my "journey" (thanks Tyler and Julien for initiating this), I would complain about stuff and talk shit about people. "Dude, she is so disgusting. I hate the way she looks." I stopped doing that shit, because I realized I'm just projecting my weaknesses outwards by talking down on people or by complaining. Some of my friends still shit-talk, and I fall into it as well sometimes, but most of the time I simply do not agree with them. I just reply with "is that so?", or some shit like that.
Haha, some of my friends thinks I'm going through some kind of personal crisis, that I'm nuts. 
Let them think however they want, its your life, like you said. You shape it however you want. Atleast im going to do it from now, im tired of drinking. I want to improve go up to sets do crazy stuff SOBER. I want to do so much in life it's about time I get off my ass :)
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#12
DeanLaxer

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Join Date: 02/27/2013 | Posts: 15

You go bro! ;)
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#13
Liam_Anthony

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Join Date: 02/14/2013 | Posts: 327

I feel you.

I've let go of a lot of relationships bc of this. But kept a few.

The few I kept i just accept the interactions for what they are.

I have one friend who wants to chill and play xbox from time to time. So we will make it a night and chode out. And its cool as fuck.

Bc I never play video games so he brings his xbox over and we drink craft beer (a new hobby of mine).

Since i dont do this often its a nice change of pace and I enjoy it. tons of value in the interaction.

Im not sitting there thinking;

"ah fuck, i can be out in club blah blah blah... Or damn dude you have no ambition."

Don't expect EVERYONE you know to want to better themselves. Remember YOU are the minority in terms of wanting to better yourself.

But do strive to surround yourself with people who are better than you and want/have similar goals.

Liam
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#14
o2high

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Join Date: 06/08/2012 | Posts: 475

Ya im going through the same shit.

I think my friends are secretly threatened by me.

They act very aloof towards me and like me for who I "was" not for who I am now. 

I didnt like who I was, and I love who I am now.

They are lame but I accept them, by still treating them with respect.

I overlook their flaws and forgive them for their lame behavior. But it seems they do not really relate to me or just dont really appreciate what I have to say, how I think, what I do, and who I am.

Anytime I go out with them they just sit there at the bar and drink while I approach girls. Then they creep in and try to dominate the set basically cockblocking me by talking over me, ignoring me and focusing on the girl. I have abundance so I move on to the next one and am kind of happy they are occupying the set keeping it warm while I go and meet other girls in the venue, then I can come back and choose to steal the girl back and amog them if I have to. This does make an awkward car ride back if we carpooled, so works better if we came in separete cars.
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o2high

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#16

thomasbkin93

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Join Date: 02/17/2013 | Posts: 6

Feel like this every single day ..
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#17

Hellion

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Join Date: 02/23/2010 | Posts: 157

risingstar wrote:
Yeah man it's about time I do the same. I want to travel, make money, bang lots of chicks, and mostly I want to enjoy it with people who are happy to be there and want to progress the same.


Not everyone shares this view on life, many people just want to settle down and have a family. A lot of the people who do dream of doing this believe it's not within their grasp. RSD instills a unique world view in some people, one that you're going to find very hard to find in other people unless you know entrepeneurs/players or whatever. The majority of people aren't even aware of what they are capable of, it isn't their fault, don't resent them. At the same time, don't try and dictate to people how they should live their life or they will resent you, I think if people want answers they will go looking for them.

Maybe they will ask more questions if they see you getting success with their own eyes. Also, if you're living the lifestyle you want, I'd imagine the type of people you will resonate with will come along in social circles which you forge. It's all well and good to say you want more out of life than most people, and you can't understand why others don't want to persue it, but unless you're out there pimpin it and making it happen you're no better off than them really. Just a man with a dream, like every other man with a dream.

The solution is to just make the best of what you have currently. I'm kind of stuck in a similar rut to you now, I'm currently focusing on business at present though as it's what is currently within my reach, and the most important think in my priorities currently. I'm moving to a different city in a few months time and I want to be set up and stable enough to facilitate the lifestyle I envision when I move there. I also have a friend there who is willing to go out 7 nights a week and pimp it. We disagree on a lot of things but its the best I can do currently for a wingman. He may be very different in mindset to RSD (wants to get girls to look cool more than as a self improvement thing) but I can work with that. It isn't a problem if we're out pimpin 7 days a week and doing whatever is relevant to our OWN goals in the club.

Also think about this, the only reason you can get ahead in business and pimpin is because you are able to push yourself to be better than others. If everyone was into improving themselves, what you do would not be possible. The 'little man' needs to exist.
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