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October 21st, 2017
confused about this one chick
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paulgoespua

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Join Date: 02/24/2013 | Posts: 6

sup readers!

im a 16 y/o guy starting with learning the game, i have seen the blueprint and i am reading the forum often and am going out since turning 16

i got to know this chick 1 through a friend of mine from the band im in and we had a great connection when he brought her to the bandmeeting to sing for us.
she brought a female friend (chick 2) of her's and we all had a great time, i just played the fun guy with a passion for drumming and i started teasing and throwing little negs here and there at both and they digged it.

so shit got serious with this chick 1 and i was more friendly to chick 2. What happened next is that chick 2 started to give me information: that she liked me ( which i already knew because of our vibe and kino etc )

but whats confusing me here is that i went for the kiss after another great night with alot of physical interaction but she rejected me and said that it would be to 'easy' , and after i got home chick 2 (they had a sleepover) sended me a text with the following text

: chick 2 : okay here's the deal, she likes you alot, but she wants you to play hard to get because she doesnt want to lose attraction

and the times after that that i've seen here i still knew she liked me but she won't kiss me or anything more sexual than that. And what im making from this and my info from chick 2 is that she wants to create the idea that she is not a and doesnt kiss after like 5 dates because she is afraid to lose me ( even though she is the really outgoing party girl who is not like that )

so i was like i like her she likes me whats the problem ? how should i go about this
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csolo

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Join Date: 09/22/2012 | Posts: 27

If your a natural gamer, your abundant attitude should be "fuck it, next babe".

But just in case you dont lol, (I still think you should just hit the club) what to do is. Dominate and dictate! Vibe her up, chatting to her make her laugh and then just go in for it. If she likes you she will do it, but If she doesn't, does her rejection affect you? No, you are an internally validated man, why SHOULD YOU let it bother you?

I was a bit cringy when I read the title, "..one chick...". You need to work on abundance, have the frame of mind that you already have a girlfriend at home and playin' with chick 1 and 2 is just for fun and if it don't work out your not arsed for shit!

A good way to improve your physical escalation which it looks like you need help is to hug her within the first 30 seconds (Brad's 30-Second Rule) using any excuse, such as "you got a drink...*hug*".

Try to do a lot of infeild in the club, 20 minutes  a day is fine (Tyler). Try watching videos by the instructors online Youtube, just subscribe to the channels. But for every 2 vidoes you watch, ensure you go out! Your new, so watch the videos to pick up (pun unintended) the vibes, mentality and attitudes from the instructors which is very usefor for me, rather than just getting the knowledge which at this stage is to advanced. Tyler says for the first year, "Foundations"(RSD product) is enough. After a year, you will then come to fully understand the value they give. Also, the knowlede I find, subconscioulsy internalises within 6 months anyway. Watch thise is your interested:












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sugarshanehelms

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Join Date: 03/02/2013 | Posts: 9

 Bump
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sugarshanehelms

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Join Date: 03/02/2013 | Posts: 9

Agree
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sugarshanehelms

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Hello
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sugarshanehelms

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Gg
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sugarshanehelms

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Gg
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mbs

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Join Date: 09/15/2012 | Posts: 12

Lucky man. She gave you a heads up on how to get her. By "playing hard to get" it seems like she means she wants you to have the badass drummer attitude she'd expect you to have when she first saw you on your drum throne. Watch the Jeffy Show, he subtly sorts that out. 

What I'm saying is...threesome is your goal here.
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paulypickup

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Join Date: 02/24/2013 | Posts: 9

little report on the current situation:

i actually stoppes trying to get this chick 1

this weekend i let 2 friends and my band sleep over at my house, chick 1 couldnt come. So what happened is i have slept in 1 bed with chick 2 ( didn't make a move though because we weren't alone and because of band situation etc.)

and things started going really well with this chick 2, and today after everyone was gone chick 2 and 1 started texting me. Chick 1 was asking stuff about the sleepover and according to chick 2 she's jealous and interested again lol
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freshstaus

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Join Date: 03/03/2013 | Posts: 984

man you need to set your boundaries and tell her that you dont accept that shit from a girl. If you recall from the blueprint, in this case, she is trying to put you in the "role" of that guy who chases the girl around while she is playing hard to get. Make it clear to her that you do not take that shit, and go on with your life. eventually, she will come back
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1. Im the star of my own movie.
2. Don't fall into "debate game".
3. Don't compare yourself to anyone. Be on your own path and trust it instead.
4. Man to woman frame from the start allows easy escalation.
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paulypickup

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Join Date: 02/24/2013 | Posts: 9

yeah i agree man and i actually did because i told
Her im done with all the bullshit and moved on a few days ago
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