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Exeter

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I recently moved from Boston to Chicago for work.  This is my second field report with RSD. It will consist mostly of stories where I go out and try to have fun on the weekends.
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Nights in Ann Arbor

First time going out in a long time - I do drugs and get really drunk for a couple weeks, talking to 18 and 19 year olds in college. This continues for about 2 weeks, I make out with a lot of girls but not much else happens. Not entirely proud of the narcotics, but it was a good zap to get my brain social after a long hiatus.

MaxBar (Chicago)

A close friend from home is helping me move in to my new apartment in Chicago. We get drunk then head out around 11. I already love Chicago bars for staying open until 3 or 4am. The best thing I did was approach the first girl I saw in the bar and the night built from there. We had a few solid interactions and I took 3 numbers. Every interaction felt solid, 3 ended up with long make outs.

One great interaction was a cute girl marketing cigarettes - Dominique. I made fun of her since I was a lung cancer researcher, she didn't believe me, I teased her for being ignorant, she reveals that she speaks 4 languages. Talk for an hour, then get her number and text her the next day.. we'll meet soon.

Not too thrilled about drinking so much, but very happy with the results and the quality of girls in a new city. No gaming, just talking and fun.

Kyoto and Beer

Went out to a BYOB sushi place for dinner with my brother and a friend. Things went well... I focused on being normal and complimenting things that were cool rather than trying to be cool. We went to an apartment party afterward where we knew no one. Two of the girls are absolute angels... the rest are a bit cold but they all start to warm up with time. After everyone is sufficiently drunk we walk to Beer, a karaoke and beer pong table bar nearby. Again I approach the first girl I see in the bar, a cute bartender named Margo. We flirt for a bit then I head off to find the group. Not much to say besides basic conversation since I don't know these people, so I kept reminding myself that it's my first time meeting these people, just be chill, relax, etc. Around midnight interactions with girls start to seriously improve. Girls just pick up on this shit. 

I reapproach the bartender a couple times, once blowing out a pair of guys. They got pissed and tried saying here's her number bro but I brushed it off fine. One of the cuter single girls in our group started gaming me a bit later in the night. I sort of blew myself out but I know I'll see her again.

I'm so happy to get the ball rolling quickly in a new city. It's a lot easier the second time around since I have friends here and I know how to make more friends quickly. Also, I fucking love the people I just met and I love this new city.

Glory times on the horizon.
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Hot tub apartment, model approach

Saturday was an interesting night. It started off with plans to meet some friends from home and ended with a long night out with 2 of my roommates. We walk to a building that looks dilapidated on the outside. In reality it's really nice and has all sorts of fun shit like shuffleboard and a hot tub. There's a nice party going on inside so I meet everyone and loosen up. 

We walk to a German bar nearby on Fullerton. I had a few drinks and a big group of friends so the first approach is easy, seated 2 set. They're not receptive at first, I stay and eventually they warm up. The other guys come in and chat for a bit. I go back to talk with our friends, we talk for a bit just making fun of shit in the bar. I approach a girl seated at the bar, very cute brunette. She's extremely social and seems almost too comfortable, turns out she's a model, her fiancee is a bartender. She introduces me to him and to the owner, both very cool guys. Chat for a while longer, didn't get the #. Loved talking with girl who's smart and attractive, meshes with NIM.

Head to Halligan's bar next to my place, meet some more mutual friends of my roommates. Have fun vibing for a bit and getting social, meet the bartenders. My roommates bounce to get food so I head across the street to Lion's Head tavern, then upstairs to a club called the Apartment. It's a lot of fun, I talk to a couple girls inside then leave. Talked for a bit with pair of fun girls outside under these heat lamps, then walk a few doors down to Mallio's. Then I walk past MaxBar and realize my apartment is across the street from where I was on NYE... the entire street is full of bars and clubs and people having fun.

Felt good getting out and social without drinking much. Keeping the momentum alive this week.
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I go to Ann Arbor Thursdays hmu if you ever go out there again
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Burton2 wrote:
I go to Ann Arbor Thursdays hmu if you ever go out there again
Cool man, will do. Ann Arbor's a special place.

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Nice FR btw.

Saturday night, out with my brother and one of his friends. Get to an Irish bar, talk to a couple girls at the bar. Dislike drinking beer, love talking to girls. Dance around a bit then head home. Felt good to get out after spending the weekend with my parents.

Going to see Alex this weekend.
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Alex FT Chicago

Met Alex, listened to stories, had some laughs. Made some new friends.

Halligan's

Out with roommates. I've got some good momentum going with work+gym+diet+meditation and I feel relaxed. Talk to some girls outside... they try to cut with a group of 6 but I tell them to fuck off (lighthearted) and go in first. In the bar I meet up with some other guys. Come to realize that one of my roommates is more social than the others, chat with him for a while.

The same group approaches. We mess with them a bit, some were shy at first but they wanted to keep fighting. I was just friendly but didn't break the wall. Get approached by a couple other girls at the bar, another birthday girl... tall. She has a cute Indian friend. She says her mom is in the bar, we role play a little like she's setting me up with her mom.

A pair of girls approach. One is sweet, the other is fat and hitting shamelessly on my roommate. The rest of us watch and laugh. I leave around midnight.

One thing I noticed tonight. Not drinking makes it tougher to get social, but I'm never striving to stay on top of the environment so being bored is part of the night.
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Hot Seat notes

I didn't feel like I'd get much out of Alex HS. I went anyway and left very satisfied. It was more helpful than the Owen/Julien imo. I started to see what Alex meant in a lot of his videos and how his explanations correlated with wording of other instructors. When he said, Scandinavian countries are prime for learning game; that is where he 'saw the Matrix'. His videos didn't seem to align with this at first but slowly it sunk it. I left with some quality notes. Also met Derrick and some other younger guys.

Thanks Alex for the hard work. I recommend the Alex HS.

Dinners and bar crawls

Cold approach isn't on my mind. Work, gym, diet, and meditation occupy my willpower. Making lots of friends and planting seeds for the summer. Coworkers and young and cool and I'm not going into any relationships thinking about game. Still going out and meeting people with zero expectations feels pretty good. Miss sex, tho. I could use more of that.
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Basketball game 1

My school won, awesome.

Basketball game 2

My school didn't win, damnit.

Talked to a few girls in line, drank some wine with one while waiting in line to get in, approached one during game 1. Just having fun. 

Life is officially settling after a year of insanity. Hitting the gym 5 days a week, diet and supps are consistent, reading, business is steadily growing and work is going well. Nurturing these seeds. Amazing how much changes with just one month of diet and exercise and a few friends.
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I'm in Ann Arbor and sometimes go to Chicago. Join the inner circle in AA here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/506299216046910/
It sounds like you're having solid life. Awesome.
Too bad we lost the basketball.
I'll send you a message about myself.
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talebo wrote:
I'm in Ann Arbor and sometimes go to Chicago. Join the inner circle in AA here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/506299216046910/
It sounds like you're having solid life. Awesome.
Too bad we lost the basketball.
I'll send you a message about myself.

Thanks for the link. Sending you a reply now.

Last week was interesting diet-wise. My older brother and I ate apples and green tea (and nothing else) Monday thru Friday. It's amazing how much energy we had even at work. Repeating this minimalist weekday diet again with vegetable combinations. Rememinder: less is more.

Friday


Had fun at work happy hour then went bowling with some coworkers after. Bowling was a lot of fun. There was free food and drinks all night and I was on a team of mostly girls. I like hanging out with my coworkers because they're fun to be around. The girls at work are just so hot and total sweethearts. Being around them and talking all week has expanded my comfort zone in game tremendously and also grown my appreciation for women.

Saturday

Went to a shitty bar called Stadium on Clark and Fullerton. Not much there, just catching up with some new guy friends and having a drink. Move to Halligan's on Lincoln. Get in and vibe with our group for a bit. Do some basic exercises like tapping my foot, singing, yelling stupid shit. We've got a good spot by the bar where lots of people walk and order drinks. I say hello to a cute blonde girl name Jo, we role play for a bit and it goes well. Talk to another group of 3 girls nearby for 10 minutes or so, also goes well. Go to the bathroom. 

Waiting in line next to a cute brunette girl, we laugh at the fact that there are 5 girls in the women's bathroom (a single), but it's odd that there are 3 men's bathrooms in the bar and only 1 women's. I let her go in the men's despite waiting longer. See her later with her older sister and drunk guy friend. Guy tries blowing me out, older sister throws him off and I talk to both girls. It's just fun convo, they leave for a bar in Wrigley and I take her number... forgot her name though damnit. I guess the guy was her bf but I didn't know. Don't drink so much bro, it makes you sloppy.

Back to 3 younger girls from earlier -- Lauren, Lauren and ??. ?? tells me I have pretty eyes, This develops into some strong EC and we separate a little from the group. I try some basic escalation but don't keep the vibe up. The girls move to another part of the bar and I don't see them again.

Fun night and can still feel momentum building. I think my supreme lack of anxiety was due to having a cool group of friends, consistently hitting the gym and meditating, eating healthy, and having a few drinks. I can feel my focus switching to the fun of going out. Needs work: physical escalation, focus on making other people feel good.

Everything starts with the daily habits.
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