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December 3rd, 2016
I Jerked Off last Night and it made me Cry?
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Buttmuffin

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Join Date: 01/19/2012 | Posts: 39

 If you're looking to improve your overall life quality and how much you enjoy life, this might help you.

I'm getting fairly confident with women and getting good results also.
But the more women I'm with, the more I realise that it doesn't make any long term difference.
My base level happiness is still the same.

That's what inner game is for and with all the eastern philosophy there's lots of material to look at.
I've read Eckhart Tolle, books on mediation and books on presence.
They are all good, but I tend to find it a bit challenging to apply to daily life.
You're not your emotions and seeing the positive side and all that.

I thought of this frame, which has helped me a lot with spacey things as accepting the now and enjoying different emotions
and situations.

It is called the "That's cool too" frame.

You're probably thinking this sounds pretty simple. And it is. But this state of mind automatically makes you look at the
positive side of things, enjoy the situation you're in and just be chill.

Use it in whatever situation you're in, and you'll realise that this is your life, you'll only experience this moment once
and the only thing you really can do is enjoy it. Whatever moment you're in it is a part of your life, so you can appreciate it.

Again this sounds all weird, but let's look at it in reality.

Remember relaxation is key as Alex says. And not only to success with women but more importantly happiness.

- You're sitting in a social situation with some girls and other guys. One particular guy is leading the conversation a lot.
- You start to feel anxious and feel like you should do something, you're not enough. You should do something, you should try harder.
- The negative thought loops start and you soon feel bad, and all that you do now is coming from a bad try-hard place.

Instead you could say to yourself. "I'm sitting here, chilling, listening, enjoying this situation, I can relax and have fun, I don't have to be the center of attention
all the time, THAT'S COOL TOO."

It makes you accept that it's okay to do whatever you're doing, even if you aren't doing anything.
When you've accepted it and you're just enjoying it, it is much easier to let your natural personality flow freely.
You're positive, light, fun and a good human being.
You might think this makes you not take action, but as we know everything is so much easier when you're in a place of non-resistance.
Therefore it makes it easier for you to take action, and more importantly to just enjoy the situation you're in instead of building up all this negativity.


As Tyler talks about there is self-improvement and self-acceptance. They are both important but I think only self-acceptance brings happiness.

- If you're in the supermarket and the cashier is a bitch, that's cool too.
- If you're enjoying listening to good music, that's cool too.
- If the party doesn't go to the bar you're recommending, thats cool too.
- If you're getting constant shittests from a chick, that's cool too.
- If you're not getting shittests from a girl, that's cool too.

I hope the state of mind comes across. With this frame everything that happens just becomes a cool part of life,
that is either funny or awesome.

It helps you get to the ideal Alex talks about too.
Noone can really make you crazy excited or really depressed, you're in your movie, enjoying life, being centered.

The frame also got a lot of compassion in it, so you can't really get mad at anyone for anything, or blame anyone, it just is. You'll stop being a negative creep, either bashing others or yourself.
Your view on life becomes positive, uplifting and strong.

Anyway that's my two cents. Hope you can use it, if not that's cool too.
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jlaix

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Honestly the title is how I imagine most of the posting members here at rsdn spend an average evening
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Obisco

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I guess it was a real tearjerker.
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Obisco wrote:
I guess it was a real tearjerker.
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 AAAHahahaaaa, this is the sickest thread name I've seen in my life. I'm laughing so hard right now :D It's sort of tl;dr, but you made me laugh
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jlaix

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Actually I think the following is more appropriate for the above comment:

"I guess... (Puts on sunglasses) it was a real tearjerker"

http://instantyeah.org/
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jlaix wrote:
Actually I think the following is more appropriate for the above comment:

"I guess... (Puts on sunglasses) it was a real tearjerker"

http://instantyeah.org/
Touché.
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jlaix wrote:
Honestly the title is how I imagine most of the posting members here at rsdn spend an average evening
Isnt it painful for you to think that?
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posts that sound like a sales pitch bore the shit out of me
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Seedro

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knocking on jerking off AND crying?

...fuck off!
jlaix wrote:
Honestly the title is how I imagine most of the posting members here at rsdn spend an average evening
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RollsLikeSocrates

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That is a lot to read through to figure out why you jerked off then felt the need to cry about it.
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