Working out the going out muscles, went to a new wing place close by. It's kind of like hooters, except it's more a sports bar type atmosphere instead of girls in tanktops, hot shorts. Overpriced food and drinks, don't know how long it'll last here, there's stiff competition for casual dining with competitive pricing. Basically, it's all waitresses and bartenders, typical average young girls working for tips. Practiced my BOSS frame, flirted with a cute waitress, it is what it is. Lot of waitresses had that bitchy attitude, though they really don't have enough hotness to pull it off. Probably all the suburban chodes are hitting on them. Whatever.
So, Alex has this equation, The Attraction Equation for Picking Up Girls From Cold Approach. A* = HV + [±]E∞.
I've seen it for a while but until recently, I didn't realy understand it. I though I understood it, but I realy, really didn't understand the proper context. I didn't understand the high value part of the equation, and I certainly didn't understan dht range of emotions part of the equation.
Now that I'm incorporating my BOSS frame, I'm starting to understand the range of emotions part of the equation. I think that's how it works, guys must, must understand the high value part of the equation, then they can understand the range of emotions part of the equation and fully understand how that results in attraction, arousal.
High value guys are not limited in their expression, they are not limited in their emotional expression. Game recognizes game, so high value trait is the awareness of the range of emtions and effectively expressing the range of emtions for proper situations. High value guys have access to full range of emotions, so they simplre express whatever emotional state they want to express. This leads to girls reacting to the dominance, girls responding to the high value man, girls getting aroused by the high value guy expressing range of emotions. Guys sense the proper frame and it increases their state, so it's the positive feedback loop in action.
Chodes don't know any better, so chodes are strictly limited in their emotional expression, it's mostly superficial creepy smile, with the impotent chode frustration and anger simmering underneath. That's why their vibe is always off, they're incongruent, no matter what they do, the lack the emotional fortitude to really express their emotions, which frustrates them even more, and it all get's into the negative feedback loop. Sucks to be the chode.
That's why game is so fucking important. I love the game, I am the game, I am the BOSS. I love the proces and I love executing the program.
Working out the going out muscles and flirt with the waitresses and bartenders. Gotta work it with what's available. Practice my BOSS frame. Joking around with hired guns is canon fodder, the real tests kick in probably tomorow.
The intriguing thing about my BOSS frame is the concentration of value. My BOSS frame is the BOSS 24/7. As jeffy says, you can't be half gangsta. My motto is the I can't be some part time BOSS, I am the BOSS full time bitchezzz. It simply means that I am fully responsible for being the BOSS at all aspects of my life, my career, my game, my workout routine, my responsibilities, I have to be the BOSS at everything in life. It's so fucking liberating to admit that I am the BOSS full time. This way, I don't have to bullshit worry about when do I put on the BOSS frame or is it OK for me to be the BOSS or some other nonsense. I am the BOSS all the time, I am the BOSS everywhere.
Being the high value man is critical phase in the evolution of game. Love the game. Love the life.
Working out the going out muscles, it's getting a bitl easier to just go out. Previously, there were lots of resistance, like I've bot stuff to do, and all that nonsense. Now, it's just go out and see what happens. Working my BOSS frame, living the super pimp identity. It's more a state of being than doing, but it's combination of both.
Working out the going out muscles, it's just matter of going out now. Used to have excuses like I don't have time for it on weekdays and other nonsense, but I'm forming the habit of going out, no matter what.
I'm still heavily state dependent in my approach, so I have to work on that issue. When I'm out of it, I'm out of it, so I can't make a move, I'm pretrified wood in many cases. Lots of ego protection going on, but I'm wearing them down. I saw a decent girl in the supermarket before I "went out", but in my mind, I still wasn't in state yet, so I used that as an excuse to not approach. But, it's still a fucking excuse, so I have yet another issue to work on, awesome.
It's one thing to be in a club full of girls to build up momentum and state. It's another to go out on a slow night, see bunch of ugly people and not let it affect my state. But, in the end, all this I need to build momentum and state is also another set of excuses I'll have to eradicate. It is what it is, one step at a time bitchezzz.
It's my choice to go out to these suburban bars, because it's convenient. When I'm ready and able, I'll have to change venues. Otherwise, just deal with what's available now.
Working out the going out muscles, the persistence muscles, the hooking muscles, etc. So, every girls I open, I'm hooking for minimum of 30 seconds. It sounds easy, just open and hook girls for 30 seconds, but any guys that read this, try it out, see what it takes. It's way, way more difficult than it sounds. Sidenote, I think this is probably the reason why most guys that get in the community end up quitting. Girls are atrociaous in these 30 seconds and most guys simply can't deal with this. Sucks for them. But, I'm in it to win it bitchezzzz, so I stick it in and open and hook for 30 seconds. It's glory timezzz.
Anyway, I learn quickly what it takes to hook most girls for 30 seconds. Eye contact, smile, dominant attitude, physical escalation, all that shit has to happen within that 30 seconds for girls to hook. So, I am pushing myself harder and harder. It's the positive feedback loop in action, or Tyler would call it momentum building process. Anyway, effective action is what it takes bitchezzzz.
Another sidenote, when I was pretending to be the biggest chode ever, I used to think that I would to anything for the hot girl, yet I wouldn't even make the lamest attempt to open the girl. So, that's the biggest chode crock ever, the bane of chode beliefs, the reason chodes are chodes, chodes simply don't do anything, they won't do anything and get frustrated when they don't get the hot girls and blame everything in the world for that bullshit, instead of blaming themselves for not taking effective action. Sucks to be chode. Whatever I know better.
I forgot about persistence. This is the difference between the armchair game thorizers and guys that go out and take effective action. I had to open this hot blonde 4 times before she hooked. The first three times I opened this hot blonde, she completely ignored me. I understood what was up, I am 44 year old man opening this hot 22 year old blonde running around the club like a pinball. Now, most guys just give up on girls like this, but not me, I know better.
So, I see her walking with her friends, I open her for the 4th time, and this time, she looks at me, she's curious to know why I am opening her for the 4th time. It's Prime Time bitchezzz. So, I look at her with hyper lazer eye contact and tell her that I love blondes. She hooks instantly. I spit game and she loves me. Tells me how handsome I am and kisses me. I tell her that's not enough. She say indignantly, "Do you expect me to make out with you". I look at her, nod up an down, and say "Yes". She smiles, shit test crashed through bitchezzz. She kisses me more. We're in bubble of love and I'm spitting game with million dollar mouthpiece.
Her horde of friend come in and cockblock. I'm solo, so it's difficult logistics with this many girls. And, I forget to get her number at that time to bridge her during the night. Shaking off my rustiness. Remember to get the girls numbers quickly so I can hit them up later in the night. The hot blonde is dragged away by the horde of cockblocks. I see her later, but she's getting kicked out for some reason, the shit that happens in the night.
I open more girls and hook for 30 seconds, it's so fucking blast.
Love the game, love the life, love the process and loving the effective action.
I was really busy today. Had to run around and get stuff done. So, naturally, the inner voice told me to stay in, I'm tired, It's too late to go out, blah, blah, blah. That's the whole point of working out the going out muscles. Whenever I have these kind of whiny voices that tell me to just stay in and relax and all that bullshit, I can smack it upside the head and overcome that shit. So, i"m out bitchezzzz.
Continuation of my hook for 30 seconds challeng and gradually stepping up the weight by approaching harder sets. Big groups, mixed sets, just getting it done, no excuses, just sticking it in. That's my new motto for the 30 second hook challenge, Just stick it in.
Sidenote, Doing hard sets do wonders for progressing the understanding of game. Which goes like this,
Chode -> don't know jack shit, don't do jack shit, frustrated with impotent rage at girls. Really bad vibe, every girl can sense the putrid smell of desperation, negativity and helplessness. Just bad all around. I was there, I know how bad it is.
Newbie -> Starts doing stuff like reading up on game, going out, approaching girls, starting to take action. The thing about the newbie is the timing is off and the newbie does the wrong thing, wrong time thing, and flounders around most of the time. Guys can take anywhere from an hour to 10 years to get over the newbie phase. Everyone goes througn it. Most guys give up because it's very challenging phase and really burns the ego and most guys can't deal with the newbie phase. The newbie wants the easy way learn game quickly and just get results.
Intermediate -> Sometimes does the right thing and sometimes takes effective action and sometimes gets results. I guess I could call it the getting lucky phase, though it's not really luck, it's matter of doing the right thing enough times and eventually results will happen. But, don't have any idea as to what's effective and what's not effective. Kind of blindly following some advice that seems to work. Not consistent at all and have to rely on wings or groups of guys or pickup routines or some other external factor to get results. The danger of the intemediate phase is that mosy guys get stuck in it for ever and ever. The guys get "good enough" results and just stagnate. Gets stuck on results, chase results.
Advanced -> Fully understand that the game is just simple matter of expressing true inner state. Expand more on this later.
Anyway, I'm spitting super pimp game now, dominating girls and mixed sets. One thing I've learned over and over again, hot girls are ALWAYS in groups, large groups. So, I'm working out my group dynamics muscles, dealing with the tough sets and getting shit done. Dominating the group, girls and other guys, projecting my true self. It' Prime Time bitchezzzzz.
Love the game, love the life, love the process and love taking effective action.