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#91
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Ok, I´m in a bit more positive head space now again after sleeping around 9 hours.

In July I remembered that if you want to get good it´s good to small chunk the process. So my goal for July was to get verbal game down. It didnt happen so I´m still
workin on it. That mutherfucker is so dependent on how you´re feeling physically, emotionally, energy-wise so it´s hard to get consistent in it even when you know that it´s just
1. talk whatever the fuck comes on your mind 2. Keep talking for hours


Went out on friday, all sober this week. I wasnt motivated to fuck which means 95% failure rate.

Did 4-5 sets with the dude that joined us 1-2 months ago, I´ll call him J (it´s fast to write ;)  )
This time it was his turn to demonstrate the art of just keep talking about whatever comes to your mind and the set starts rolling. He did it many times.
I think the massive difference between many gyus and me is actually the fact that because I dont drink caffeine, my brain is always sort of standing still,
whereas other people´s mind is always scanning for stuff to talk about.
-> Try more energy drink and tea

The biggest thing however is, that I still find it so weird to go up to a stranger and just start talking about myself. And just talking about random shit no one cares about.
I still assume they are just gonna walk away and it´s not gonna work. Therefore I dont do it and I fail.
-> Just fuckin do it



So tonight I´ll find the balls to go into sets and just go overboard with self expression. Then scale it back once I start learning it. And I shall do it alone mostly cause I dont want to embarrass my friends that badly..
Always remember though that when trying to get the set going it´s better to do try-hard talking in an uncomfortable weird way than sit there silent.

Another thing about yesterday is that "The process oriented trance" that worked for me on wednesday was just a distant memory now. When you´re not in "I wanna fuck mode" you tend to self-sabotage all the time.
See what happens tonight in a more upper scale place with super hot girls sober..
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Quick update from sat night:

My favorite openers for the night:
"I love myself. Do you love each other?"
"Can I sit down for a minute, the Feng Shui is really good here?"

Ran into Natural Tim and Alex too at the end of the night. I´ve seen more than  half of the RSD instructors in real life by now, all here in our northern little city. Helsinki = Great.
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RSD Theory by Tyler:

THE PARADIGM SHIFTS
PARADIGM SHIFT #1: SUCCESS WITH WOMEN IS A “SKILL-SET”. IF YOU WANT THE “SPECIFIC” GIRL OF YOUR DREAMS, LEARN TO BECOME GOOD WITH WOMEN “IN GENERAL”.
PARADIGM SHIFT #2: YOUR LOOKS AND MONEY ARE NOT OVERLY IMPORTANT. IT’S ABOUT THE QUALITIES SHE SEES IN YOUR PERSONALITY, AND EMOTIONS SHE EXPERIENCES WHEN YOU’RE AROUND.
PARADIGM SHIFT #3: MEN EXPERIENCE ATTRACTION LIKE A LIGHTSWITCH, WOMEN EXPERIENCE ATTRACTION LIKE A VOLUME KNOB. (attraction happens fast. It is always easier to get a new girl to like you than change an existing perception.)
PARADIGM SHIFT #4: WOMEN CATEGORIZE YOU AS “LOVER” OR “PROVIDER”, AND HAVE TWO MODES OF BEHAVIOUR DEPENDING ON WHICH ONE YOU ARE.
PARADIGM SHIFT #5: WOMEN ENJOY SEX AS MUCH AS MEN DO, AND WILL HOOK UP IF YOU DON’T HAVE A JUDGEMENTAL “DOUBLE STANDARD” ABOUT SEX.
PARADIGM SHIFT #6: TRADITIONAL DATING IS USUALLY LOGICAL, AWKWARD, AND SLOW. WOMEN MAKE DECISIONS ABOUT SEX EMOTIONALLY AND QUICKLY, AND DECISIONS ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS LOGICALLY AND SLOWLY.
PARADIGM SHIFT #7: THE STRONGEST POSITION TO GET A GIRLFRIEND IS TO BE THE LOVER AND THEN SHIFT INTO THE ROLE OF PROVIDER IF YOU CHOOSE.
PARADIGM SHIFT #8: FIELD EXPERIENCE IS KING. NEVER SPECULATE ABOUT WHAT WOULD WORK WITH WOMEN, GO OUT AND TEST IT FIRSTHAND.
PARADIGM SHIFT #9: REJECTION DOES NOT EXIST. ALL FAILURE IS FEEDBACK, AND BUILDS YOUR BASE OF REFERENCE EXPERIENCES.
PARADIGM SHIFT #10: BECOME ABUNDANT WITH WOMEN. IT IS THE ULTIMATE SELF-FULFULLING PROPHECY.

FEMALE PSYCHOLOGY:
1- Want sex but have to pretend they don’t to create a non threatening narrative to their future beta male husbands
2- Zero accountability to guys they just met
3- Respond to value and emotions in the moment
4- Test guys to see if they’re congruent
5- Exhibit themselves by dancing and spending hours getting ready
6- Want to have fun and pump their own state
7- Desperate for validation and will often have sex for it
8- Simultaneously the most secure and most insecure
9- Tell themselves they go to club to dance, secretly open to meeting the right guy
10- Frustrated that guys can't "just be cool", get hit up all the time but by the wrong guys, also can be oversaturated with cool guys in big cities
11- Open minded to sex at times, harder at other times
12- Lifestyle of a pro hottie

INTERACT AS A MAN TO A WOMAN – INNER GAME
1. Transcend Social Conditioning
2. Cultivate Core Confidence
3. Center Yourself In The Present Moment
4. Draw State From Within
5. Have A Strong Sense Of Reality (who you are, what you value, what vibe, what boundaries, unflinching / unwavering)
6. Feel A High Sense Of Entitlement
7. Walk Through The World With Ease
8. View Sex As “No Big Deal”
9. Addict Yourself To Positivity
10. Assume Value (Be The Buyer Not The Seller)

INTERACT AS A MAN TO A WOMAN – OUTER GAME
1. Master Sub-Communication
2. Dictate The Vibe
3. Communicate Playfully And Free Associate, Not Logically And Thinking Ahead
4. Self-Amuse, Don’t Seek Reactions
5. Use Qualification And Disqualification
6. Assume It’s “On” But Calibrate To Her Feelings
7. Be Clear In Your Intent
8. Have No Agenda Or Outcome
9. Build Up Social Momentum
10. Lead

PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER: THE “HOW TO”
1. Open
2. Create attraction
3. Recognize and pass congruence tests
4. Do an instant date
5. Get physical
6. Get a number
7. Handle logistics
8. Take her home
9. Escalate to sex
10. Move it to relationship land

DIFFERENT STYLES OF PICKUP
1- Minimalist Game (do nothing)
2- Self amused (pump your state in front of her)
3- Hard to get (make her chase)
4- Aggressively sexual (get up in her face and escalate)
5- Cool friendly guy
6- Asshole
7- Short interactions and work the whole club
8- Fast pulls
9- Social circle and lifestyle based
10- Late night street game as people pile out of the club
11- Daytime
12- Online

Final Thoughts: Your Journey
1. Fashion, grooming, style (congruent to your personality and depending on where you live and go out)
2. Gym & Nutrition
3. Reading
4. Sleep
5. Meditation
6. Travel
7. Mastermind Group
8. Mastery Attitudes
9. Outcome, Purpose, Action
10. 30 Day Challenge, True Enjoyment Of The Journey

Tyler
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I listened to the Tao of badass audio a bit and was surprised that it filled a few holes I've had with rsd.

1) Your belief: I am attractive (I am enough). When you get evidence that says you're not attractive or you feel bad and don't quite believe it, you just take it as an exception
2 ) Women make decisions based on emotions.
Men can only make decisions based on logic. It's your role you must play. Women can't respect you if you act like a girl.
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From the RSD Facebook page:
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FR Friday 23.8.2013
This was a really fun night. I felt great physically which was the first time in 3-4 weeks I guess. Also looking healthy again after a while so sets actually open way easier. I've struggled with that the last 4-5 nights out. Also with the right amount of wine I was really present so potential for the night was through the roof.

Why did I fail to get results again then?

The missing pieces were:

1. Closer mindset
2. Basic outer game execution (choose a target
3. "I´ll come back to these girls later. And then out and not go back to them or not find them.
....
So I was feeling super awesome and confident and I had this dream set in the beginning of the night. Just walked up to 5 girls sitting down and went up to them all charismatic and they liked me right away. Then got a bit silent and turned away a bit but i kept going with witty and fun conversation and they started to love me after that and started asking me questions and and game me.
These were quality girls too.

But then I got stuck.. what do I do?
I ejected with "See you later"

It was a full table so there was no chance to really join them. I should have just gone back to them later when there were only 2-3 of them left. And then choose my target
and focus more on her. (Basic outer game I know, but I still have too little experience with this to have it on autopilot).
My biggest excuse to go back was actually "What the hell do I talk about? It´ll be awkward soon.." 
Again fucked in the ass by verbal game.
Should have gone anyway and learn.

Also danced with some hot teen cuties on the dancefloor upstairs. Nice. Have to lead these somewhere too.
Dancefloor has produced major results before, need to find the magic again.

All in all a nice reference experience between the shit nights I´ve been having lately.

Saturday 24.8.
Trying to work on making money so I went out for only 2h. 00AM-2AM.
One shot to calm down and relax.

Main lessons that got reinforced again:
- just getting in the zone and having fun does not work. I only get rejected by every girl. Why?
Because on I´m in a hyper state and tense and breathing is shallow and stressed.
- breathing from as low as possible brings the masculine vibe and simply works. Girls see
you as an authoritative guy and respect you immediately. It´s harder to be fun and talk a lot
but it works better than talking a lot and getting nowhere.

LESSONS
- Physiology for the win
- Apply outer game. Stay in set for at least 5 min to see what happens. Closer mindset always in the bar.
- Freedom of outcome.  If you forget this, your tonality sucks, you chase too hard and seem desperate. Loser vibe.
- I´ve only done openings all night and ended up alone. Need to stay longer or move the girls around and pull.

So my game right now:
- Maximize looks/health
- You are enough (I can totally be with these girls. I´ve banged hot girls before. I´ve had hot girls chasing me. I´m the only one in the way.)
- range of emotions instead of logic
- Momentum
- Relaxed, masculine physiology (if possible)
- Closer mindset  (numbers, lead more, isolate)
- Freedom of outcome
- Stay in set / isolate

My thoughts of Alex game right now
It´s really easy to get distracted by all the new information coming at you all the time and ignore good basics.
I still believe Alex´s stuff is awesome but staying in set and walking out the front door is bullshit in my opinion in normal clubs.
I think you need to take the lead and move the girls, become their boss. Then isolate and pull.
If you just stick around in the set, the girls usually take off unless you´re super awesome.
It´s easier right now to just isolate and pull.
I hope to become as awesome as Alex of course, but right now that method is fucking me up big time.


I feel pretty hopeless with my game right now.. I truly hope it´s a sign of a huge boost soon.




Loving this song right now and the video aint too bad either ;)



Stolen line of the week:
House:
"You have one of the best game faces I´ve ever seen. Also one of the best game bodies."
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I´ve forgotten to keep track of what I´m doing to get my financial goal achieved. So here we go:

I had a big click on monday..
caused by these:
Brad Branson:
www.youtube.com/watch
and
Pat Flynn
www.smartpassiveincome.com/8-productivity-tips-why/

Wonder if I can keep up with that mindset this time.

Update:
Just got my boss to agree to a 4-day week at work! Woo!

Trying to get results for my client who I gave the first month for free for testing. They´re stuck on page 2 at #1, damn.

3 reference clients. 2 more potential ones coming. Then I should be able to get bigger clients easier aka bigger deals.

Learning PPC now.
Motivated to start after this:
www.viperchill.com/ppc-case-study/
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Really liked this one. Entertainment is fucking up my productivity nearly every day.
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I missed wednesday this week because of a long day at work so only 2 nights out this week, no biggie.

Friday 30.8.2013
Semi-drunk. Tivoli.
Not really a great night. I felt physically awful all night so the night was a bit doomed but I did my best anyway.
One major thing I still slack with is respecting the momentum process. It fixes so many things I struggle with (verbal game and outcome dependance etc.)
Great example at 21-23 min:


Time to write the story of one set to remind me of the importance of little details in game. It´s not just you are enough. You need to know the little details of outer game too to be more awesome
than naturals.
One good set and that was at twilight zone 3am. Semi-fattie but pretty, fuck it - it´ll do at this point of the night.
Opened, went nicely. She said her friends will arrive soon. I´m like "What? At 3am?"
Turns out they were 2 guys. So she went to them and thought I´m done. She´s a fattie so, fine, no worries, I give up.
I find these situations are always tough...do you go after her and meet the guys... or do you just stay and rely on her realizing you´re the cooler guy cause you dont give a fuck and trust she´ll
come back once she realizes these clowns are not nearly as awesome as you.
This time she invited us to meet the guys. We went to meet them. Soon she started to seem like she´s taking off, so it was time to take charge so I took her and
lead her to get me some water at the bar. She had the hickups which made the interaction easily funny.
She was on the fence about the pull. And finally ended up taking off.
The moment she took off reminded me for the last time, I hope, of the weird thing I keep seeing again and again which is:
If I talk to my friend for even half a minute and not engaging her, she will leave. I guess it hasnt hooked well enough or something. Anyway, always keep her/girls as a part of the conversation and dont
just start having your own conversation with your wing while in set.
  (unless your conversation is super fun of course and it draws the girls in)

LESSONS
- Actually apply momentum. Respect the process or be a cry baby.
- Stay engaged with the girls in set
- The guy who cares less usually gets the girl
- Momentum helps you with not taking the game so seriously
- My frame crumbles very easily early in set. Hold the frame of "There´s not reason why I´m not enough" and demonstrate your personality. Ray Charles game.
- When you dont get girls you might get a bit depressed by it. Being depressed and getting an identity of "I dont get girls" takes you even further down and makes it harder to get girls.
It´s a cycle of negativity and neediness. Hard to get out of it. I guess again, momentum creates abundance in a night so that´s your best bet along with a positive outlook.



LR Saturday 31.8.2013

Sometimes the planets just allign for you and every piece of the puzzle just clicks magically. And you pull a fattie :)
Taking one shot on sober nights is a really effective strategy btw. You no longer feel like an outsider though
you´re still sharp.
Tonight I took a jäger and just magically relaxed and felt awesome. I had some fun on the dancefloor with J as he pulled a chair, I sat down on it
like Madonna and he started to go around me. The girls around started to cheer us loudly making us the center point of the dancefloor. Awesome.

Yeah, so to keep it short. When I said the stars align for you, I mean, I was feeling quite optimal tonight, the girl´s dress and their birthday party crew offered a world of stuff to talk about and she kept talking a lot so I didnt have to, her friends kept coming into the set too to help keep it going and so on. I had some fun with them though I was quite sober. My wing J helped me a lot too by staying in set with us and joining me at critical times. It was easy this time. She lead me by the hand many times so it felt like it´s in the pocket early on. I tried to go for the pull at 2.30 but she hesitated. No biggie, screened her later ("What´s your plan tonight") and trusted it will happen at the end of the night cause she obviously liked me so much. (The girl memorizing your name and asking it many times = really good sign)
Girls always surprise you - it´s like a rule. Even this one. At about 3.15 am she started to walk away fast from me. Then she said "Don´t leave me, I´ll go talk to my friend fast" and sounded like she really didnt want to lose me. Then boom she disappeared. I took it cool, always be willing to lose the girl. Finally we saw her again and went up there, talked to her friend who was dressed as Tom of Finland. Acted cool , cracking jokes with him instead of trying to get into the convo she was having with her friend. Just trusting it will happen. Even after this we managed to lose each other.
So we waited outside for the girls to show up . Winner strategy. Pulled easily cause she obviously had decided to jump me tonight.
For story´s sake I gotta mention that once we got on the bus that goes to my place, surprise surprise, all her friends were there and tried to get her to their after party. I lead her by the hand and made sure she wont. Easy.

And we had almost the best chemistry Ive had with anyone. so much fun, a bit of a sex fiend too. She was awesome company.
And I love it how many girls say stuff like "I bet you do this every weekend"
If she only knew..  She also asked "So how often do you do this?". "The appropriate amount, I said".

I had decided I wouldnt bang fatties anymore. But going through the process of spending the night at the bar and pulling, the sweet validation of someone being all over you and loving you stroking your ego a bit, and finally sticking it in the warm hole now and then is all good now and then  :)
Beats going home alone for months and months.
I think it´s ok if about 1/5 of your chicks are fatties ;)


Btw a reminder.
About leaving the set:
Ozzie:
"4. Don't forfeit interactions because they start off bad.
This is your rule of thumb. Most interactions that start out awkward become
gold mines if you stick by them. Guys who reinforce the habit of leaving too
early, they never get laid."
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Productivity tip of the day:
Do the pre-planned things first. Then do the things that seem as important that come up all the time. You can do those after.
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Ive been thinking about why it strongly seems I'll fuck up my goals for this year.

1) I have "long term ADHD". I am all over the place working on a million things at once instead of choosing 1 thing at a time and finishing it all the way before moving back to work on a million things at a time again. 1 thing at a time. Step by step in a planned order.
2) Clear plan missing. Time to take one hour and think of a step-by-step plan, schedule it and follow it.
3) Not enough will power
4) Update once I come up with more reasons
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