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BerlinCity Game Journey (Day, Night, Online)
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BerlinCity

BerlinCity

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Join Date: 10/22/2012 | Posts: 864

 I am a 37 year old, just out of a 6 year long relationship, who is re-descovering the world of dating again.
I have been gaming during the day for more than two months already. This is a journal of my journey.

This is my dream woman:
* between the age of 23 and 33
* Between 160 and 175 CM
* Big boobs, round ass
* Exotic: Asian, african, middle eastern or latina
* Extroverted and expressive: she laughs, cries whenever she feels like it
* Healthy sense of humor, and can also laugh about herself.
* Intelligent and curious about the world: reads a lot, or is interested in culture, arts or politics*
* did not lose her feminity, dresses like a female: skirts, dresses, sexy stuff
* Does amazing BJs until the end, and does everything in bed to please me with a huge smile.
* spoils me by giving massages or cooking

Reasons why i am taking this journey:
* I want to have sexual choice, and a harem of girls i can call whenever i feel horny
* Because sociallizing with pretty girls is fun as hell
* Never feel lonely again
* I love spending times with women in general, i think it is more fun than men
* Because i said to myself i am going to do it, so sticking to my integrity and keeping my word
* The magic of turning a complete stranger into a friend or a lover
* Because the alternative is paying for sex, which is a no no
* I can easily meet people and specifically women when i am travelling.
* meeting strangers is a great adventure that pumps me up with adrenalin.
* emproving my social skills, and growing up as a man.
* Because game makes me discover myself, and know how to observe and handle my emotions.
* because gaming brings me in the zone, and in state and i experience feelings i do not feel in any other way.

My ultimate goals:
-i have made the reference point of fucking 4 different girls on one day.
-I can pull a girl of hot looks from the street to my bedroom because of my deep pickup skils
-I can pull a hot girl to my hotel in any city i travel to

-I have at least 5 fuck buddies i can call whenever i feel horny
-I use my expertise knowledge, to teach young and old men how to be attractive men.
-I take care of my looks and body to look the best i can be.

My year 2013 goals:
30 lays  (Go high or go home!)

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BerlinCity

BerlinCity

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 25.12.2012

I am getting back on track, after being ill in a bed for few days. I approached three different sets on the street.

Set one, did not go anywhere, she kept walking
Set two was pretty good, and the girl was intrigued. and we chatted for around 7 minutes. trying to number close her, she said she had a boyfriend
Set three was fine, but i ejected since she was not attractive enough for me.

After that i had a date with one the girls i day-gamed a couple of weeks ago. I kind of gave up on sleeping with her, and want to keep her in my social circle as a good friend, but who knows, maybe i will manage to f-close her at some stage.

Conclusion
Always work on keeping the momentum. Macro long time momentum is important, but also micro-momentum of trying to keeping it going during a single day.
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 26.12.2012

I approached women in the tourist area. My goal is to perform the approac as good as possible, and i did with some of the sets. I am noticing an issue with the motivation, and keeping the heat despite the low result. I am working on having wings, where we push eachother into sets and make games or bets and stuff, this should help my game significantly.

Conclusions:

Just do it. 
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BerlinCity

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 27.12.2012

Today was simply great. No closes, but i feel awesome, and the great thing is now "rejections" even push my state up, so i do not care...and every set wether negative or positive pushes my state up.
I even noticed some kind of success barrier.Once i noticed in my body, my state is getting pumped, and there is a growing smile on my face...i started finding reasons in my head not to approach.

there was an awesome girl i approached, and she is so gorgeous, i almost froze. She was standing there ready to get gamed, but after 2 minutes i ran out of things to say, and i was in awe of her beauty.

Another funny set towards the end, where a girl i approached, started laughing, and told me she had been approached by me weeks before...she started laughing, i felt so weird and told her have a nice day and ejected....what a funny coincidence.

conclusions:
Get over the success barrier, and push for more approaches, so it all get more and more automatic, and you reach a point where you do not care about the response anymore, and all you care about is your own state and fun.
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Based on the book "Frame Games" by Michael Hall:
Reframing process of some mind frames,  which are not helpful for pick up:

Excercise: QUALITY CONTROLLING FRAME GAMES
Frame: "approaching girls on the street is fun as hell"
*Does this state, decision, belief, thought, part, behavior, meaning, evaluation enhance your life or not?
-Yeah, it makes me enjoy the process of approaching women more, and get more joy out of it
Does this serve you well?
-For sure.
Does it empower you?
-Yeah...i feel like a real man, who is taking real steps to emprove his life, and going for what he likes, loves.
Do you like this?
I love it
Does it set up the direction that you want your life to go?
Definetly. If i keep doing this for the next 10 years, i will have abundance in the women field. But will also charge my self confident and my self image of being a man of real action.
Do you find this frame game wonderful and magical?
It is wonderful, magical and empowering
Does it promote sanity all around?
Yes. It sets an example of taking the world in a relaxed way and being a real man of deeds.
Does it create the kind of legacy that you want to leave your children?
Yes. If i have a little boy, he should learn how to approach the women he finds attractive.
Would you like it installed in your children?
Yes.
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 Excercise: SICK THINKING CLEAN UP FRAME GAMES
1) identify negative thinking pattern:
-over-generlizing: "looks always matter to get girls"
2) Validate: It sounds like the way you are thinking involves over-generlizing. As you step back and examine it, does that seem accurate?
Yes, this comes often to my mind, when thinking of pick up and meeting women.
3)How long have you used it in thinking?
For as long as i can remember.
4)Has it served you well?
I do not think so. But i think i was protecting myself of being put in an embaressing situation, where people would make fun of me and for being a bit overweight. But i have missed a lot of chances to meet girls or push things to escalate with them.
5)What more useful way of processing this information would you like to use?
It is good to take care of my body, but there are many "ugly" people getting laid, and also overweight guys. It is a matter of energy and state, than looks
6)Challenge and/or dispute the Frame
I have seen ugly people picking up girls succesfully. I consider myself over weight, but i pulled girls into instant dates, even having more weight than now. 
This frame is ugly, it limits my possibilities of approaching the women i want. There are old people dating the hottest chics, like the guy who dated Heidi Klum. There are younger guys richer than him, but they were not able to date her. He beleived in himself and did it and dated other hotties. 
7)Replace it. How would you rather think?
It is good to take care of my hygiene and body. But that is enough. More important is my manly maculine energy, and self confidence. There are men uglier than me who date really hot women. Being a bit overweight does not matter.
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 28.12.2012

just few minutes ago, i did the so-called "yad-stop" on 3 girls on the street. The first 2 completely ignored me, but the last one actually stopped. I had a different energy in the last one, and i really wanted her to stop, fixed my body posture and my voice. 
The sets did not go anywhere, but see conclusions:

Conclusions:
do the pickup ritual daily, to foster your view of yourself, as a man of deeds, who aproaches anytime anywhere. And who follows his own rules, not rules of society.
"Failed" sets, are now actually starting to boost my state. Because i know i am the man, and i do what i promised myself to do, and i do not care about people reactions.
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#7
BerlinCity

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 the last few days, i had my baby daughter 24/7....so was not able to hit the streets.

but today i had around 2 hours time.

so i hit the streets.

31.12.2012

I did the first 4 sets, then one of them went pretty bad...and that really shook my game...i needed like 30 minutes to relax and back into it. I am very depending on the results. i need to free myself from the results.

so right after i relaxed, everything went well again. I noticed i am getting into the mindest "independent from the outcome", which simply felt awesome, because i did not give a shit. which means in future i will be able to do as many sets as i want to.

Conclusions
-Freedom from outcome is very important for my game, i need to keep it, manage it and raise it at all costs.
-If gaming in german feels weird, then do it in english. It is just as good, and also expresses integrity, since my mother tongue is arabic anyway.
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 01.01.2013

Daygame time. The weather is rainy and sucks, so i say to myself, only doing a set quickly to stay in the daily rythm. I do 3 approaches, but notice inside i would have been able to have done more, because there are some sets on the street.
I notice the "yad stop" for stopping women on street works better and better. 
And i notice the "stinge" from getting rejected, is diminishing, i think i am really getting closer to my goal of freeing myself from the outcome.
I really think a lot about having a wing, or even a Lair. I think that would help me a LOT. I feel even i am the only guy in Berlin doing this shit...lol....I need to keep my eyes open on that and look for people interested to join where we can support eachother.

the goal for tomorrow, is 15 aproaches, with the stop. and giving it the best performance, because i cannot control the response of the girls ;)

Conclusions:
The more you do, the simpler and easier it gets. Keep working on your reframings, motivation and freeing yourself from outcome.
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  Hey guys,

i am going through the process of reframing some limiting beliefs concerning pick up. I thought i should share them with others, they might be useful for people starting or restarting the game like myself:
If anyone has more ideas on reframing a belief , feel welcome to reply.

Belief 1: "Aproaching women on the street is creepy"

- How would you know, if it is creepy?
Just a feeling
- Has there been situations, where it was not creepy?
Yes, many women and girls felt flattered, and had a huge smile. Many went with me on dates afterwards, or even after 10 minutes of chatting.
- What is the effect of sticking to this belief on the short term?
I think my mind is just trying to protect me from harming people, or making a fool of myself.
- In what way are you harming people? are you physically hurting them or ruining their day?
No, ofcourse not...Never had that happen until now. Few walk away, but most are flattered when approached directly on street.
- In what way are you making a fool of yourself? aren't you being more brave than 99% of the other men? And most people do not even notice you. And those who do, do not know you anyway, or do not care. And those who know you, you should not care anyway.
- What is the effect of keeping this beleif on the long term?
I will not be approaching women = not being social = not getting laid, and having a miserable life without women or hardly any women. And feeling like a coward for not approaching the women i find attractive.
-What are alternative beliefs that would empower you, and make your future life better?
-approaching women on the street is bold, brave and masculine
-approaching complete strangers and turning them into lovers or friends is a great adventure
-aproaching on the street gives a cool adrenalin rush that makes me proud of myself.
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Belief 2: "I cannot approach, because i am not in state"

- How do you recognize that you are "not in state"?
I am in my head, and hesitating and rationalizing about every step.
[Can you think of some ways, to quickly get into state, or near that?
* Watching daygame or RSD-Videos
* Relaxing or meditation for 10-20 minutes
* Assume all the next approaches will not yield any results, so you free yourself from outcome, and do your best approach "performance" without handling the response of the woman.
* Consider the world as your pick up lab, and you have as many trials and errors as you want.
* Doing warm up sets, simply saying Hi to everyone while walking past them
* Doing pick up after a recharching experience like working out or running
- What will happen on the short term, if you keep this limiting belief?
* I think my mind is trying to protecting me from feeling fear, or feeling awkward inside.
- What happens if you keep this belief on the long term?
I will stop doing approaches, which will make my social life really miserable, and hardly any sex.
- What are more empowering beliefs?

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Belief 3: "Success rate is too low, when picking up on the streets"

-How can you decide what is high rate? and what is a low rate?
That is different between people and situations, good question
-What is the short term effect of keeping this belief?
I think my mind is trying to protect me from being frustrated over and over again
-So how can you help your brain not get frustrated?
Lower your expectations. Be more interested in the correct execution, than the response or reaction you get.
-What is the long term effect of keeping this belief?
I give up on this issue, and stop approaching using this as an excuse and lose my self respect and also any chance of having decent sexual and social life through cold approaching.
-What are more empowering beliefs?
* "first 1000 aproaches do not count"
* every person has different learning curve. I remember i had 3 trials to get my driving license, and was frustrated comparing myself to others. But i finally got it, and now driving is very simple and relaxed.
* the more i execute, the more i learn. and the more my body and mind gets reference points and used to chatting with hot women.
* One good result out of a thousand is good enough, because it means a lay or a fuck buddy.
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BerlinCity

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 some limiting beliefs to take care of:
-"Other people are watching me"
-"German girls do not respond to that,it is weird in a german culture"
-"I am too fat/unattractive"
-"I am too old for most girls"
-" What if i run out of things to say? "
-"She looks like a bitch"
-"She is not my type"
-"Women do not find me sexy"
-"Picking up in German languages does not work"

Good book for reframing : http://www.scribd.com/fullscreen/60640279?access_key=key-clr8utq8dxa6h0vfb5c
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