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October 31st, 2014
Hot Seat with Alexander
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tinytim

tinytim

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Join Date: 12/17/2012 | Posts: 11

I went to the SF Alexander Hotseat.

To help clarify what it is:
- this was specifically run by Alexander, and all the videos were of him (not Tyler, Jeffy, etc).
- Alexander has his OWN method. While it's consistent to the RSD theme of inner game, It's very different than what Tyler teaches. It's not about having state. It's different than what Jeffy teaches. It's not about beast mode.

To that second point, Alexander is up front about this, which is good. I've been to two Hotseats in the past, loved one, hated the other, am not an RSD fanboy (I actually had to register a second ago to post this), but I also come with a sense of comparison.

Alexander came with strong recommendations from a couple local SF guys who are legit, good, and vouched for how solid his game is. I was skeptical, but I trust those guys, so I walked through the door with a skeptical but open mind.

And... it was fucking awesome. I mean, it was the SHIT. I'm a conceptual person, so I like to think about what people are saying, how much they are saying, and whether it fits together as a larger picture or if there are pieces that just dont link. His concepts were simple. They fit together. They link, and create a progression of start to finish. I can see how it works in my mind.

But more than that, I saw how it worked in practice, last night right after the Hotseat. The problem with seminars is that you get a "seminar high" and it's easy to get pumped up about concepts that are great on paper, or great for a jock, or great for a high energy guy, but are shit for you in practice.

I went out after Hotseat, just stuck to his basics, and I felt fucking fantastic. And I got results; I was in set longer, I talked to more girls, girls I would be intimidated about before, hooked more, girls were chasing me more, and his core concepts made sense as I viewed my night through their lense. All that in my first night. More than that, it felt natural. It didn't feel like I had to put on a performance.

He has a very simple paradigm:
- You are Enough.
- Stay chill, stay relaxed.
- Amuse yourself. Never be trying to impress.
- Arousal is better than attraction. Simply being around a girl builds her arousal, so stop trying so hard to build internal state, stop using attraction routines.
- Just spend enough time with her, walk out at the end of the night with her, and you can *ACTUALLY* fuck her that night (caveat: there's obviously some logistical screening involved).

I'm actually not representing it entirely, but those are the basic basics. Those are the bones of the body. What ties it together, the ligaments, tendons, muscles, are the videos he shows and his in depth explanation of what things like "You are Enough" really means. The meat is in the details. You can get a good sense of those by watching his youtube videos on those concepts, though explaining it in a way where you can really get it, and putting it all together is what Hotseat is about.

What blew me away is not that those concepts are mind blowing. They are not. They are almost boringly simple, which is odd. Even when you put them together in the combination he did, they just result in the picture of a chill, relaxed, confident guy who just chit chats with a girl and looks utterly unimpressive to any outsider or PUA who would be at the same venue.

But then you see video after video after video of him doing this method from start to finish and ending the video with him having sex with girl after girl after girl, year after year, and its like... what the fuck?

Okay then, Alexander, tell me what you have to say.

Oh but wait... People tend to complain about with PUA instructors are whether they can only fuck fat chicks, ugly chicks, or get laid really really infrequently. Alexander showed us a rolodex of images of girls he's been with. They are ridiculously hot. I mean, really REALLY hot. Great faces, great bodies. Cheerleaders. Models. Athletes. Alexander does have the build of a rugby player, so okay fine, you could try to justify that. But he's also short. And has acne (in the photos). And the girls he's with... Did I mention the rolodex of hot girls? He's not getting by just on his looks.

You could then say, alright well maybe he just downloaded some photos from the internet. But then you see the in-field footage of girls as he does his method, and they are the same as the girls on the rolodex.

So then its like, okay Alexander, REALLY teach me what you know.

So here's how the day went:
- I walk into seminar room, skeptical. Kind of grumpy that I have just dropped $300 on just a reputation that he can truly pull hot chicks.
- He talks through his method. It is simple. It feels very good, is simple, addresses my constant fears -- my tiredness of building state, my dreading those nights of trying to harness the energy I know I need to be a woo rockstar that throws bitches around and dominates them. His message is to let go of routines. Let go of attraction. Let go of state and woo. Let go of the tremendous effort it takes to even do the shit we do to open sets, to engage girls, to pull.
- Alright Alexander, so let's see your stuff. I can be chill, I can be relaxed. But I also can go home alone with my dick in my right hand every night doing that.
- What the hell just happened? He really pulled that girl.
- Next video: Wait, he pulled the next girl too.
- Next video: He pulled another girl. Doing that same thing he keeps doing and telling us to do.
- Okay, this is coming together. Let me try this at the club.
- I feel fucking great. I'm talking to girls. Hotter girls. I don't care about rejection. I don't care about choding. I feel fantastic even when I'm not in set, when I'm being a "chode." I stop self judgement. I'm feeling so at peace, though I'm not trying hard... Actually, I'm trying less than I normally do, but I'm getting more results. Oh here's another girl, I'll go talk with her.
- Club shuts down, I'm walking home. I don't feel frazzled. I don't feel exhausted. I feel chill. I feel strong. I did more, engaged with more girls, was pursued more, but did it all with less energy, less effort, less fear. I feel more myself.
- I get home. This feels like it fits. This really fits. I feel like I cheated, in a way, because I got to just be me set in a new framework, rather than me set in a series of efforts to emotionally fist pump, beast mode, talking about engaging shit. I almost felt bad that I didn't need to burn calories to get results.

Second day of seminar was just a continuation of the first. Solidifying the concepts. Watching more videos. Him stopping the video, pointing out what he's doing. Still being awed that he can talk to girls, start to finish (sex), using the same basic thing. My current theory is that this is how Naturals do it. This is like, the analytical breakdown of how to be a natural.

A few criticisms I have (just logistically about the Hotseat format itself, hopefully Alexander sees this review at some point):
- At first I didn't get the full conceptual picture he was trying to paint. He built it up slowly (or maybe he rushed through it and it was too fast for us to write down). Would have really helped to somehow have it all spelled out in bullet points, up front. Like, "Here's what your mentality should be coming in. Heres what you do at first. Here's what you do at the end." It took most of the entire day of taking notes and hearing answers to some well-asked questions to piece it together. I'm not sure I would have gotten the entire picture without Alex answering certain questions that the audience just happened to ask.
- The first phase of the talk, he was rattling off ideas and concepts too quickly for my comfort. I saw people writing furiously heads down, I was as well. Sorta stressful. It would have been great for him to pause, wait for people to catch up, repeat the idea again, and then move on. Tyler is really great at emphasizing a point, pausing repeating it, reiterating it from a different perspective, and pausing... Would have been great to that from Alexander. Pacing was great for the second half of the talk and the second day.
- We started late both days because some people hadn't shown up (some bootcamp guys). That cut into video time, I think, though Alexander was just an awesome, awesome guy about giving us as much time as he possibly could once we did start. Even if we go late, realistically its not the same as starting on time, as night clubs get started, everyone needs decompression, etc. Alexander waited for them, but I think it hurts all of us in the end, since everyone gets less video time, which is what we all came for.
- Really, really enjoyed the fact that he played interactions from the start of when he meets the girl to the very, very end... Literally, every second of it. Helps me know that I really saw the entire thing and there wasn't some magical PUA move he pulled at minute seven that sealed the deal (we're all skeptics. I felt this was powerful to see everything). However, that means much fewer videos we get to see than say, Tyler's Hotseat. We were all hungry for more videos, even with a second day of bonus footage. I don't know how to resolve this issue, but perhaps its to alternate between showing full-length videos and then showing some where he fast-forwards through them.
- Really appreciated his willingness to answer questions. Super helpful, especially with the first point above. There were times though where I felt the questions were irrelevant to the video or just too corner-case and are irrelevant for the rest of us ("I had this time where I was with this girl, and we walked to her car, and she was with a friend, and...", "What are the legal ramifications of having video footage blah blah...", "What video editing software are you using and what technology is that you're using..."). Questions are awesome, random questions are okay to break things up, but when they were irrelevant to the content, it was precious time wasted and there were quite a few. If he could say "cool question but ask me later on Facebook" or something like that, I think it would give for more fun video time.

Overall, I'm really impressed. I really am. I'm intermediate in my ability to meet and hook up with girls, so we'll see where this takes me, since the proof is in the fucking pudding. I'll post back once I have time to implement this. Which, unlike a lot of instructors' methods, won't take long to put into practice because it's ridiculously simple.

If you do his Hotseat, it may free you from walking down a path where you're always trying, trying to get good, working, striving, learning state, learning routines, learning to be "better" and the inner game or outer tactics you feel you need to do to bridge the gap from where you are to where you want to be.

Alexander comes off as very honest. Which is important because it's so easy to be skeptical about his method. He's a good instructor. He gave 110% percent. He never was never dismissive. He really talked fully through all his points. He was sick, he was tired, he had all sorts of things he could use as excuses but he was entirely dedicated to delivering an impactful Hotseat. His ideas are extremely new shit, like I've NEVER heard any other instructor or school really put forth while doubling down on it. His gets real results (girls) and the proof is there on video. Those videos connect directly to his concepts. His concepts are clear. They are promising. They make sense. And you won't see this anywhere else.

Solid hotseat. For me, worth the money.
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Joey Valentino

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OP do you think there's any merit to the idea of going to an instructor event which is most compatible with one's own personality?
I'm more or less sold on taking a paid RSD program at some point in the next 18 months, just trying to decide which and who now.
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Thanks for the review.
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 @Lockdown Absolutely go with the instructor who you feel most compatible with personality wise or feels most close to your current belief system. I think your point is well grounded, and my experience having taken the 3 hotseats as well as doing various bootcamps is that you'll get more out of someone who you can relate to and find commonalities with; his methodology will be easier to believe in, easier to model, easier to implement, since it will be congruent to your current style of doing things.

Your major choices as far as RSD stuff is a Hotseat or Bootcamp. Which instructor runs it will alter the content of your experience. You can PM me if you want advice on deciding.
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tinytim wrote:
 @Lockdown Absolutely go with the instructor who you feel most compatible with personality wise or feels most close to your current belief system. I think your point is well grounded, and my experience having taken the 3 hotseats as well as doing various bootcamps is that you'll get more out of someone who you can relate to and find commonalities with; his methodology will be easier to believe in, easier to model, easier to implement, since it will be congruent to your current style of doing things.

Your major choices as far as RSD stuff is a Hotseat or Bootcamp. Which instructor runs it will alter the content of your experience. You can PM me if you want advice on deciding.
Cheers mate nice one!
My thought's currently are start with an Alexander free tour and then if it's good take an Alexander hotseat. If you have any insight feel free to get at me on here or Facebook. Appreciate the offer of value from you on this.
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"I just wanna fuck bad bitches, all the nights I never had bitches, now I'm all up in that ass bitches"
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Join Date: 10/02/2012 | Posts: 9

 Guys, i need your help. I signed up for the hot seat but it is only next year in my town, but I saw that Alex made a video and a manifesto but I do not know how to find it? Where can I watch the video and read his manifesto? 

Thanks.
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There's a long video on Alex's Youtube channel where he breaks down his Natural Attraction manifesto, it's probably the single most impactful 'game' content I've ever come across personally. It's also probably on RSD Underground and RSD Nation.

As for his written stuff, his blog website is a good place to find it.
TharmesSantos wrote:
 Guys, i need your help. I signed up for the hot seat but it is only next year in my town, but I saw that Alex made a video and a manifesto but I do not know how to find it? Where can I watch the video and read his manifesto? 

Thanks.
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“However many holy words you read, however many you speak, what good will they do you if you do not act on upon them?”
― Siddhārtha Gautama
"I just wanna fuck bad bitches, all the nights I never had bitches, now I'm all up in that ass bitches"
 - Dr Dre
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Join Date: 10/02/2012 | Posts: 9

 Lockdown, thanks for your answer man. I really do apreciate it .
just one more thing: I signed up for the hot  seat within the bonus period, where these things were added as a "bonus". Is it out there in the open for everyone now? Not that I care because I would have signed up anyway, but I just would like to know if it is the same content.

Do you know anything about it?
Thanks again, Dude!
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Thats a good approach Lockdown. Sample his free tour and make the decision, thats what I did. I have to honestly say though, I thought he was just "okay" based on the free tour, but I was just BLOWN away during Hotseat. What made the difference was a few San Francisco guys who I really trust, who are legitimately good with girls, have been in the community for a while, have been around the block with RSD, and them saying that Alexander has CHANGED their game that really convinced me. It wasn't free tour that pushed me to do it.

That being said, I understand that I'm just an internet face, and you couldn't trust me to make to sway you the way that I could trust these guys to sway me.

Definitely give him a chance. I have to truly verify this though real first-person experience through my upcoming pickup months, but until then, I believe that he IS what I've been waiting for in the pickup community, after three years of learning from everyone else... He is, to me, quite possible, the real deal.
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