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January 18th, 2017
Relationship Help
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roquev8

roquev8

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Join Date: 09/14/2011 | Posts: 80

  Ok, so I have a girlfriend which does not want open relationships. I don't mind that she's an awesome girl to begin with. I've always stayed on my path, it depends on what i'm doing, if i'm busy and she watns to hang out I will tell her no. and she knows that it's a danm no. she tells me herself that that's why she's always so attracted to me. Recently i've been getting but-hurt over shit, mad over shit. And yesterday she was in my room and she wanted to leave because we were arguing.

What i want to know is if you guys think i should just let the relationship be because i'm choding down...
or
I should work on not getting angry at her shit anymore, because in a way i feel like i'm just failing her shit tests, but the only reason why she stays with me is because i'm always out and about improving my carrreer.

As a side note i kinda felt like she had the pants when she left last night,,, god danm that shit annoyed me.

Comments are encouraged!!!
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csolo

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Join Date: 09/22/2012 | Posts: 27

 Straight away I knew what YOUR problem was: Self-sabotage. She's fine, you're the problem. This might be a bit an ego-bruiser, but fuck it it.
Realise that YOU have a problem(s) and you need to fix it.
What it is, is that you are doing quite well so far. But on a subconscious level - your subconscious thinks there is too much heat due to associations with pains, so what does it do: It turns the air con on and suddenly your success CRASHES.
BTW I totallly recommend you buy Personal Power II by Anthony Robbins as it will definately help you with, not only this, but any problems you may encounter in life.
You need to do what TR (Tony Robbins) calles "conditionong".
Take 20 minutes out to do it. You brush your teeth and take a shower daily, so why shouldn't you condition yourself. Basically (VERY BASIC (compared to Personal Power II), you need to take 20 minutes out of your day, ideally in the morning, sit down and write down a list, as detailed and as long as possible, of all the pain you would face from not being as tolerative as you SHOULD be (e.g. failing relationships), then go into MORE detail of what would happen from that one pain (no relationships, forever alone, etc). Then do the same for another list, but instead, a list of all the PLEASURES you would get from being tolerative (e.g. more happy in life), then go into MORE detail of what pleasures you would get from that pleasure (e.g. better life, happier memories, etc).
After the first day is completed, just go over and (condiition) ensure that you recoginse all pains and pleasure. Repeat the second day for about a year. After a year, twice a week. After 6 months of doing it twice a week, do it twice a month. After 6 months of doing for it twice a month. Do it TWICE A YEAR, for the rest of life.
Take 20 minutes out to do it. You brush your teeth and take a shower daily, so why shouldn't you condition yourself. Basically (VERY BASIC (compared to Personal Power II), you need to take 20 minutes out of your day, 

This requires a lot of effort, time and possibly money. But these investments are upto you. I can only show you the door, I have done all I can. You must walk through it.
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michaeldbenoit

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Join Date: 04/26/2013 | Posts: 3

I don't find your girl is serious for relationship, she is with you because she needs you, that's it.
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ActionSchmacking

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Join Date: 04/08/2013 | Posts: 17

 open relationships are the way to go
try to convince her and honeslty if not you may just want to move one

good luck with whataver choice you make
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Dat_Owl

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Join Date: 04/28/2013 | Posts: 11

You're doomed. You have some shitty control and anger issues which stem from a lack of confidence in yourself.

You need to let it go. She's seen you get butthurt over dumb shit, she's seen the mask slip and she won't forget it.

You need to go work on becomg a more rounded and congruent person so you don't lose your shit for no reason again.
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