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December 3rd, 2016
Death of the 27 Year Old Chode
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BKW

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Join Date: 02/21/2012 | Posts: 987

So this is edition #2.  Most this year I was working on a lot of inner stuff and found a girlfriend 2 weeks into making "Death of the 26 Year Old Chode".  We dated for a while until she moved to FL for her masters.  I dated other girls here and there but nothing too special.  I didn't do too many approaches thus far in 2012 (probably slightly over 120 in-person approaches) as many other guys on this forum.  Anyway, not really sure how often I'll keep this thread updated as I've been getting less and less interested in reporting approaches, etc., but will see how it goes :)

My Goals for 2013:
*Bang at least 20 girls
*Do not get into a monogomous relationship until I reach a level of high consistency


Date with hottest girl yet
I actually went on a date last night with a REALLY pretty girl last night. She was on her way to a bday party that night on the date so I just figured we could had some convo over coffee because I cold-approached her at college (she's 23) and figured might as well just get to know her a little bit and build some comfort before she left to the party. She's pretty cool girl and intelligent and sophisticated, but the best part was she was probably the hottest girl I've ever had on a date, so it was a really good reference experience. I had another hot girl on a date earlier this year but she was weird and acted kind of crazy and didn't see her again. She seemed like she enjoyed herself and the conversation was great with her doing most the talking. I felt centered and relaxed and enjoy the company. Hard to tell what is going to happen as I haven't got a sense she's too interested, but I told her I thought she was pretty before we went on the date so she knows I'm into her like that. Idk, will ask her out again this week and try to get more intimate with her and should have a better opportunity. This one could go either way though. I'm just excited because she's extremely good looking and cool but if it doesn't work out then more approaching :) Will keep updated
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BKW

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(FR) Dark rainy afternoon; 2 approaches on campus and notta

Tried to get the hot girl out for drinks this week but she doesn't seem too keen. I'll try next week and if she's not down then I'll delete her number and move on.

I've been approaching at least 2 times a week since the end of my last FR thread. I've been getting more consistent with numbers but still don't feel on top of things.

Thought I'd go out today as it was my day off. Didn't feel motivated at all and burned half the day away sitting around. Finally, around 3pm or so I got off my ass, went out in the rain basically, and walked around campus. Stopped one girl but didn't go direct, and then stopped another one and went direct but didn't get her number. Nothing special. Just felt like writing I guess.

I think I'm addicted to meeting girls. I still am not necessarily the best at it yet but I am hooked. That's all I think about constantly. I don't think of it as PUA shit at all. This shit should be NORMAL for most people, wanting to meet girls. Now that I've tasted success and have found a decent place and nice routine to meet women, I can't stop right now. The more I meet women the more I am in awe of them, seriously. I just want to bang lots of girls when I'm single and when I find a girl I really like it's like magic. How can you not be addicted to that!? I'll be approaching for a long, long time in the future...

I HAVE STARTED KEEPING TRACK OF ALL MY APPROACHES ON AN EXCEL SPREADSHEET. This will help me keep track of unseen sticking points like not asking for numbers enough, etc. I plan on making charts as well. Will post my progresses for the month(s) on this thread via a picture of the spreadsheet!
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I know, I feel you. It's weird that it's not normal to go out and meet girls. At least doing it every once in a while. Otherwise dudes are just shooting themselves in the foot by not meeting girls by approaching, b/c they never really meet new girls. This topic is pretty profound. 
BKW wrote:

[/font]This shit should be NORMAL for most people, wanting to meet girls.  
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OteliaKeller

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Otherwise dudes are just shooting themselves in the foot by not meeting girls by approaching, b/c they never really meet new girls. This topic is pretty profound.




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BKW

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Right. I can't imagine a more productive way either. They say meet girls through friends? WTF? Meet girls online where competition is outrageous and competitive? Meet girls at work? LOL. Cold-approaching is like a must for guys--A MUST! It's silly to think people think approaching strangers to ask out or w/e is weird.
dave7- wrote:
I know, I feel you. It's weird that it's not normal to go out and meet girls. At least doing it every once in a while. Otherwise dudes are just shooting themselves in the foot by not meeting girls by approaching, b/c they never really meet new girls. This topic is pretty profound. 
BKW wrote:

This shit should be NORMAL for most people, wanting to meet girls.  

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BKW

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(FR) College approaches

Approached 6 girls today walking around campus.  Got 1 number but she didn't respond to initial text.  Feeling a bit defeated, but it's part of it I guess.  Whatcha gonna do?
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BKW

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College is out for a month!?

Damn man, college is out for a month which means I'm going to have to go back to bars or other places for a bit. College is just my niche, so it kind of sucks to have it taken away.

It's interesting though, having done bars, stores, etc., before I can look back on some of the crap that held me back a little. Basically, it was wasting too much time not approaching enough because I'd try stores and maybe get at best 3-4 approaches in a week there (maybe not that little), which was nothing.  I remember the most frusterating part of trying to meet girls in stores was driving all over town to hardly find anyone! When college kicked in it was like an endless stream of girls walking back and forth to class. Bars are probably the next best thing to college in my opinion. I'm just gonna have to get used to the night life for a bit again I guess :P
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BKW

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In need of some indifference

Needing to step the fuck up and get back into being icy because I am caring too much about things right now. i think college approaching made me kind of complacent and i need to desensitize myself again. so i'll be going out solo again to bars and shit here real soon
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BKW

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( FR) Finally went out solo; zero approaches; trying to get back into the rhythm

The following was a report I wrote tonight and copied it from another site to here:

Alright, so I finally went out to a club/bar tonight solo. Of course I didn't want to go, but I went anyway. It's a country dance bar but since I know it's busy on wednesdays I feel like it's a good place to go. There were a decent amount of girls there; all of them in mixed-groups (boy and girls groups) so I didn't even bother approaching because I didn't want to approach some guy's girlfriend or anything. I wasn't there long, maybe 20 minutes, but it was long enough for me to drink a beer and scope out the place. I later went down to downtown Kent but it was pretty dead and a couple bars were closed probably due to the fact we had a really bad snowstorm earlier and the roads are still pretty bad.

It was nice to finally go out again. Doing this **** is no doubt lonely sometimes but I think it's well worth it. Either way, you risk a chance of being lonely doing nothing or lonely going out so it's not like I'm putting myself in a worst position. It only feels that way--emphasis on the word "feels". The beauty of life is that we adapt to things and they almost always get better. I know if I continue going out great things are bound to happen; obviously, I must approach, however.

I'm going to add what I've learned if I learned anything for each report...

What I learned tonight:
-Going out is sometimes lonely, but it's necessary.
-Don't neglect mixed-groups because you never know who's with who; keep an eye on girls who don't appear to have boyfriends within the groups and then approach

What things I need to work on:
-Think about approaching mixed-sets, and keep an eye out for the girl's within the group who don't appear to have boyfriends
-Go out more
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BKW

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"Negative Motivation"

I'm definitly building  "negative motivation" lol.  I feel like it's what I need to get back out there.

Went out to some stores but no approaches.  Saw maybe two I'd approach but I didn't go for it.  In a way, I'm happy I'm building some frusteration.  I probably need it more than I know.  I suppose putting that kind of negative pressure on myself is beneficial which makes more sense as to why I should keep going out solo when I don't feel like it--the negative emotions build up my strength, so to speak.

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BKW

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Dead night; approached a 2-set

The following is copied and pasted form another site I posted at:

Only approached a 2 set at a table. I wasn't nervous at all. Talked a bit (5-10 minutes) but they weren't really interested in asking questions. I don't want to keep talking, and I figure I'll meet other girls, so I said goodbye to them and left. Thing was, come 1am and it's still pretty dead besides 100 dudes in the two bars I usually go to so I just went home.

Lesson for next time: always ask for number before leaving. Always ask for number regardless.

I feel pretty good I went out and approached. I didn't have any approach anxiety, which is probably due to my experience, but I have noticed that if you don't go out for a while you need to polish up certain things to get results--in this case, always asking for the number. I will remember this next time I go out.

Other than that, pretty much a dead night. I had only one other chance to talk to another group of girls but didn't because one was on the phone and the only was trying to get inside the bar. I got this **** though. Leaving, I feel like I did what I'm supposed to do. I feel good. Unfortunately, I don't live in a big city or anything so I think my best options are stores and bars until college kicks back in, but I think I may go out to bars even when the semester comes back for the sake of practice. I realize throwing myself out of comfort zones are crucial and it makes me feel good. I want to put emphasis on situations I feel uncomfortable in and challenge them because I know doing so only increases my confidence.

Feeling good I went out Will repeat tomorrow. I work till 3pm, but hopefully I can get some store approaches in as well as hit it up at night. Feels good, man. It was a good conformation that I can still go solo and approach without fear; just need to polish up somethings and I'll be 100%. Rejections are bound to happen. Probably one other aspect I should put my attention to is approaching mixed-sets as it seems there are a lot of them. Approaching mixed-sets will be somewhat new to me so I think I can learn a lot, but I think it'll be pretty easy if I put my mind to it. Overall, as long as I approach and start a conversation I feel like a high percentage of the job is done. I just need to practice closing.
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