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How do you keep your girls happy while pimping other girls?
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Dr Feelgood

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My primary FB in Vienna, who practically has almost GF status at this moment finds it very hard to deal with the fact that I'm fucking other girls. I just moved away to Hamburg. The last 2-3 weeks before I was moving away I was promising her to not fuck any other girl till moving, because spending that time with her was more important to me. In the new city I was completely occupied with finding an apartment, etc., and am also my game has been getting weaker, so I haven't fucked any girl yet. But she is starting to ask me every week if I'm seeing somebody, because she is feeling anxious, sitting at home wondering.

Once in Vienna she asked me where I had been, I told her I had been on a date. She was in tears and very hurt. I came by and we made the deal I described above. Every time I told her about another girl, basically the same thing happened: Huge drama with in the end reconsiliation. I guess the drama draws her closer to me as well.

I don't want to have that bullshit in my life, but I guess the chance of her walking away gets higher with every girl I even date, let alone fuck. This girl means a lot to me, how do I give myself the best chances of keeping her while doing my thing?

Please don't tell me to just go hard on her ass - of course I need to be able to draw a line, but before I do that, I want to try. And don't start telling me I'm in scarcity either, I know I will survive if she goes away. But she matters a lot to me. Giving up game is no option. So what is my best shot here?

Please only guys with experience in these kind of thing answer my question. Tell me about your experiences too, what did you do in such a situation and what happened as a consequence?

EDIT: I summarized (for my purposes) a thread with RSD instructors views on this in post #42 (page 5).
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The Duck ✘

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Why did you tell her about the other girls?

And if you're not able to frame control the shit out of the situation and make her be comfortable with the fact, let it go or stop caring about her reaction. If she's still there, she's still there. If not, let her make her own decision.
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make a deal with her where you only get to bang other chicks if it's in a threesome w/ her.

win-win-win.  lol
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 I'm not advanced ofc, just intermediate, but I've had some xp with this. What helped me is that I realized that I did like my girl, and I made it clear the value I bring to us spending time together and my positive influence on her. So yea maybe try to change the focus from you banging other girls to the value you bring. Girls love the value and when guys influence them positively to eat healthy and be engaged in life or whatever you got going. So focus on the things you guys really enjoy doing together and the new stuff you try together. 
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I'm a big proponent of the lie as of late.
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Dr Feelgood

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The Duck ✘ wrote:
Why did you tell her about the other girls?

And if you're not able to frame control the shit out of the situation and make her be comfortable with the fact, let it go or stop caring about her reaction. If she's still there, she's still there. If not, let her make her own decision.

I only told her once she asked. I don't lie there and you can't doge that question forever.

The frame control part is interresting: Can you give me an example of what you would say? Maybe two examples of how I could frame it?

Thanks for your answer!
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Dr Feelgood

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Brian♥ wrote:
If you wanna keep a girl and fuk other girls on the side, you best lie.
Nope, not my style. Also, I want to have relationships to people I trust and who can trust me.
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Dr Feelgood

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chiffonade wrote:
make a deal with her where you only get to bang other chicks if it's in a threesome w/ her.

win-win-win.  lol
Dude, do you think threesomes are what this girl is waiting for..?

Besides, if I can only pull to threesomes I will pull sooo much less girls.
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Just lie about it.  DUUUUUUUUUUUUHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!

Here's why:

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Dr Feelgood

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dave7- wrote:
 I'm not advanced ofc, just intermediate, but I've had some xp with this. What helped me is that I realized that I did like my girl, and I made it clear the value I bring to us spending time together and my positive influence on her. So yea maybe try to change the focus from you banging other girls to the value you bring. Girls love the value and when guys influence them positively to eat healthy and be engaged in life or whatever you got going. So focus on the things you guys really enjoy doing together and the new stuff you try together. 
Thanks, sounds like good advice! I will do so.

How did the story and for you? Can you get into specifics and tell us some spicey details?

Anybody else got any ideas?
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Dr Feelgood

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The whole lying thing is not good and not even necessary. There are enough girls who stick around anyways.
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