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December 17th, 2017
Ze Passion of Love
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Paris Boum Boum

Paris Boum Boum

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Join Date: 04/02/2009 | Posts: 3103

Hello, zis iz Paris Boum Boum.

This is my new journal, because I like making new journals.

I am going to write down what happens during my nights out, and to gather my thoughts on everything which is pickup related.


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These days I am a bit rusty: I go out less, I have many things to work on in other areas, and I spent a whole month living like a monk, seeing nobody and not going out. I laid a new girl last week though, ha ha.

But the important thing to never forget is this: http://www.rsdnation.com/node/218077

There I learned TWO massive lessons:

-I am not taking enough action. I still haven't understood how to take more action without being more outcome dependent. I'll try to figure that out

-Most importantly: when I am on, my game is on the level of what I saw during the hot seat. There are sets I run (not consistently, not always, not these days) that look exactly like what I saw on video. So one goal will be to learn how to do that more consistently.

It's the best description of what is happening to me these days: I KNOW I can be pimp and I can REMEMBER many pimp experiences, but I don't BELIEVE I had them anymore, I don't believe I can do it again, it's as though it happened to somebody else. So another goal will be to get back on track identity wise.


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Rules of ze Passion of Love:

1- Positivity:
I focus on the good shit that happens, I report the good shit I do instead of being butthurt that negative shit happened.

2- Learning:
I view every mistake / experience as a lesson I need to learn and implement in order to reach the next level.


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Youpi.


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(EDIT for later reference)
My other journals :

Ze 30-Day Challenge to ze Fuck
Episode 0 - How I became what I was meant to be : http://www.rsdnation.com/node/129196
Episode I & II - Ze Legend of ze Doubble Phuck / Ze Kompute3000 Archivez : http://www.rsdnation.com/node/154478
Episode III - Love, Dong, Light & Magic : http://www.rsdnation.com/node/178486
Episode IV - The Return of Mandala : http://www.rsdnation.com/node/180784
Episode V - Paris Fuck Boobz : http://www.rsdnation.com/node/188236
Episode VI - Ze 30 Day Challenge to ze Fuck 2012' : http://www.rsdnation.com/node/217942/forum
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Paris Boum Boum

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DAY 1, 11-26-12
Monday

BEST MIXED SET APPROACH EVER - INTERACTED WITH A HOT BLONDE WITHOUT PLANNING THE INTERACTION

I go see a girl I know. I stumble on other friends I know. I feel at home.

I talk to a blonde girl. I reopen her later on upstairs. I am trying to make the conversation going. My intent is low, I am reacting more, I try to react less and to make her comply. A guy comes in, his frame stays solid and he keeps a good vibe. I know I shouldn't react, but I do. I leave. I realize later on that they were friends. It teaches me something awesome: it's because he didn't care about the outcome that he had a vibe so good that I started to get in my head and to react to him.
But how to be free from outcome on command ? That's what I need to figure out.
So opening that girl was good, and the guy taught me something about approaching mixed sets.

I talk to my girl's friend. She doesn't give me anything. Seriously. I am trying to make something happen, but she withdraws everything, every IOI, I don't know where the fuck I am going.
But there was one point where I thought "fuck it", and started being more authentic with her. I told her she was good at sarcasm for petty things, and asked her if she was as commited as that for things like the war in Syria. It opened a short window where she finally acted like a normal girl.
So the good point here is that I tried to do something, and this persistence will lead me somewhere in the long run.
It didn't go anywhere after, but this taught me that I need to be more authentic right off the bat when I feel she's trying to be too cool for school. Authenticity means making the other react more than you are reacting to the other.
Also it teaches me that when I stay in a grey area, when I try to not fuck it up, nothing happens. If I take risks I'll lose many but also I'll close many more.

I talk to a short redhead. This was beautiful. I was on, she was with a guy, I open right away without thinking and they saw me like I really am, so they react to me hardcore. When I am not pretending to be a chode, when I take action, my real self finally expresses itself and it seems to be very charismatic.
Why do I say that ? Because the guy was her boyfriend. Because he paid me drinks. Because the girl isolated me. Because she told me she didn't know her boyfriend from very long. We made plans to meet up on Thursday.
I was just being normal, unapologetic, not giving a fuck, and I introduced them to all my friends, so they were happy to share the fun.
So I made an awesome approach on a girl with her BF, the approach was so awesome that the girl started to game me in front of her BF, that the BF paid me a drink, that she ditched her BF a bit, that she was ready to exchange numbers but I declined when I saw her BF coming - without planning, just by keeping the good vibe.

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So now I'll take one lesson I learned today, and I'll focus on it this week.
This lesson will be "I can have good and better interactions when I don't plan the approach".
So I'll try my best to keep that in mind and implement that this week.
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ApuPimpin

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I'm back nigga...

respect this line
Paris Boum Boum wrote:
"when I stay in a grey area, when I try to not fuck it up, nothing happens. If I take risks I'll lose many but also I'll close many more"

I had a great response for your post. But then I got high and I forgot it all :)

Were you tipsy or drunk during the last solid interaction?
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Robert Greene - "The 48 laws of power"

“If you are not yourself, if you surrender your personality, you have nothing left to give the world. You have no pleasure, no use, nothing which will attract and charm me, for by the suppression of your individuality, you lose your distinctive character.”

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My FR's. Give me feedback gawd damnit
Apupimpin: Round 2
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Paris Boum Boum

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DAY 2, 11-26-12
Tuesday


Talked briefly to a girl with interesting after effects in a library.

DAY 3, 11-27-12,
Wednesday


Did a few short approaches in bars.
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Paris Boum Boum

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ApuPimpin wrote:
Were you tipsy or drunk during the last solid interaction?

No. Unfortunately.
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 I am in zis.
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ApuPimpin

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No that is good.

I find it much easier to game while tipsy or drunk. It sucks because when I'm not I don't escalate hard enough, I play more of hte friend vibe. When you can game hard sober that's when you got it.


Paris Boum Boum wrote:
ApuPimpin wrote:
Were you tipsy or drunk during the last solid interaction?

No. Unfortunately.
__________________
"Understand: It is within your power to set your own price. How you carry yourself reflects what you think of yourself. If you ask for a little, shuffle your feet and lower your head, people will assume this reflects your character. But this behavior is not you-it is only how you have chosen to present yourself to other people"
Robert Greene - "The 48 laws of power"

“If you are not yourself, if you surrender your personality, you have nothing left to give the world. You have no pleasure, no use, nothing which will attract and charm me, for by the suppression of your individuality, you lose your distinctive character.”

Edward Wilmot Blyden (1832 – 1912) Liberian statesman

My FR's. Give me feedback gawd damnit
Apupimpin: Round 2
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Paris Boum Boum

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Note for self:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=EjRTU_acA2k#!

This is the epitome of having no intent. Never again.
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Dr Feelgood

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I'm witz ziz as well.

Had to take a little break just like you.

Go, Paris!
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Paris Boum Boum

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11-29-12, DAY 4
Thursday


I deleted my post because I am slightly retarded, so here is the short version:

-Didn't want to go out. Ate broccolis. Went out.

-Didn't approach 2 hot blondes in the first bar. It shows me that I don't follow the process religiously. Therefore it is only normal that my results are inconsistent, and it's a good thing that the universe doesn't reward my laziness and my lack of drive.

-Interacted with a tipsy brunette there.

-Ended up in a place with many girls.

-Approached a hot brunette with boobz, with "blip blip blip". Didn't work lol. But I don't care, so it shows me that I either I get blown out and I don't care, either it's going well and I fuck, so either way it's a win.

-Approached a girl looking like a cat. I reacted when she reacted badly to how I stopped her. It shows me the reason why I should open more and be a slut. To find the girls I can connect with, I have to accept girls who don't give me the desire to connect with them.

-Approached an Australian girl with the best ass ever. My conversation was lame. But it shows me that I shouldn't have been so worried to open her. Opening right away gives me the intent I need so much when I wait before opening.

-Approached a short brunette with short hair. Lame conversation also. It shows me that I am focused on fucking and not on having a cool conversation. But I think now that having a cool conversation will help me to fuck her more than a lame conversation.

-Approached a tall cute brunette. She started to push me away when I got into her space. I sometimes react to that, especially when I am in chode mode like these days. It teaches me that it happens, and that my focus shouldn't be so much on the menial events of the interaction, but I should keep the big picture in mind. Anyway she wasn't my type, but she was hot.

-Approached a foreign brunette, and maybe 1 or 2 other girls that I can't remember.

-Didn't approach a blonde with SUPERBOOBZ(tm). It shows me why I should take action and approach: if I don't, I won't have any opportunity to get what I want.

Tonight I also learned that stripping away all my self-confidence is just another advanced supplication tactic. A very funny tactic at that, because it can NEVER work.
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Cat wrote:
 I am in zis.


You are the light of God shining upon my hazy eyes.
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