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October 23rd, 2017
Heal Weird and Lame Behavior. The SAM Program (Self Alignment Miracle)
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PeanutButter

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EDIT: JUST GOT LAID HAHA YES, I LOVE ASIANS!

Before I continue about this method, I want to talk about me. I want to say that I had been a ridiculous chode for about four years. For four years I struggled to break out of my shell, give strong eye contact, and just be a cool dude. The weird thing is, I was cool five years ago, so it kind of felt like I was cursed or some shit. I am not sure how I got chodey, but if i had to hypothesize, I would say that it was from being alone and ruminating too much and too much focus on things done wrong.

None the less, I want talk about a five step process that helped clear my mind and has started a huge leap in my game. Like since I did these things I have been the loud guy in class, the guy that can walk up to people, and I have been the guy that friends look to for confirmation. I feel like I have not been this happy in a while, and I feel like im making progress, and I believe that growth is what also creates happiness.

The reason I wanted to share this is because I want to help people that were in my situation. The dudes that are so in their heads that they can’t enjoy anything. The guy that walks around and self criticizes everything he does. I am writing this for them in the hopes of helping them.

This whole process is necessary because it is a self-perpetuating system. I also want to note that these things are a compilation of stuff from Tyler, Tony Robbins, NLP, as well as my own mix of things.

5) Leverage and Visualize. (spend about 15-20 minutes right before you go to sleep,when you wake up, or both)
This is really a two in one thing, but since I do these steps one right after another, and for the sake of brevity, I put this as one step.

What is it?
This step is designed to build leverage to take action and to have some consistency with your habits.
By visualizing the potential person you can be, you are more inclined and motivated to take action.
And really, when you do this step, continuing the whole SAM program becomes easier and less of a task.
In reality, it becomes kind of fun, because you know that the process is working and that putting the time in will equal results.

Steps?
- Close your eyes and think about some traits or behaviors that you would like to achieve.
- think about the positive things that these characteristics bring.
- think about the negative things that not adopting these attributes would bring (make sure you understand this)
- last but not least visualize yourself with this attribute. (this was hard to do for me that’s how bad my case was)
- try to be as clear as to what it is you want(funny enough, your brain might block you from visualizing yourself with these positive traits
                                                                        keep trying. It becomes easier to do this with time).
- make it really enticing and feel the positive emotions when you start to realize the potential positive traits this behavior can bring.
- likewise, make it really painful when you see the negative traits that not having these traits brings. (tricky, make sure you understand)

for example: Strong voice tonality attribute
So you think about the positive things that happen when you have strong tonality.
think about the positive things that embracing a strong loud tonality would bring.
Like attracting women, coming across clearly and confidently, getting attention,
connecting better with people, etc(really feel and visualize this clearly).
Then you think about negative of not having this is. So if you don’t have strong voice
projection you dont attention, family looks down on you, act like a chode, have no
confidence, etc(really feel and visualize the negatives of not having this)

*note  - eventually, doing this becomes easier, and you gain more control over your thoughts.
This has a tremendous impact on your behavior because you create an imprint of who you should be.
if your into spiritual stuff, this also has a law of attraction meaning behind it as well. what you focus on is what you get,
and all that self fulfilling prophecy stuff
.

4) No Porn/ No Fap.
Theres a lot of studies done on this

what is it?
- Do not watch porn and do not masturbate.

Why this works?
- You build up testosterone which makes you more confident and manly.
- You stop looking at girls in a needy/creepy way (Well, you don’t have a strong happy core yet
and trying to be sexual while trying to nail your inner game can be hard. So I would say focus on
being happy and becoming a likeable guy first).
- a lot more time to get stuff done
- builds discipline


3) Positivity Challenge (you don’t have to do this forever, but maybe a month or so)
What is it?
- Reframe every negative thought into a positive one.
- if you think about something negative, quickly shift your attention to something positive.
- accentuate and acknowledge your strengths, weaken your so called "negatives traits."
- do not build resistance to your negative actions, acknowledge them but do not give it strength.(you
                                                                must understand that negative actions happen, even to the best).

For example: A thought comes into your head, and it goes something like "That was the weirdest thing i just did."
acknowledge it. say "yes that was weird, but its part of the process." Then laugh at it, and weaken it.
By focusing on it, your creating a blueprint for how to act when that situation occurs again, and so you must
laught at it, and dont put emotion behind it.Then quickly shift your focus to some good thing about it.
Maybe say "im proud of myself i approached," and really give yourself strength because you had courage.
The best reframe I use on just about everything and
it gives me an urge to just laugh at myself is to say “this is part of the process of growing and self development” For me, this reframe gets
me in a good mood because i know that this behavior is only temporary so i just enjoy it and laugh at it
.

*NOTE - stop the negative ball from rolling. if you have negative thoughts, do not feed it by saying "oh no, i messed up i had a negative thought."
thats just feeding the negativity. you brush yourself and say "part of the process" and move forward. DO NOT RUMINATE.

2) Unstifle yourself. (spend about 5 minutes unstifling yourself everyday)
what is it?
you act in a confident strong manner, and do this a lot so your brain builds synaptic pathways to this behavior.
with time, this behavior becomes much more frequent.


Steps?
- Do something that you might consider unusual and own it( do this by yourself)
- become as confident as possible while doing it and be unapologetic
- When you feel embarrased that your doing this activity, push yourself even further and
      become even more expressive and more confident.
- remain relaxed, and centered and unreactive.(very important)
- the attitude you should have is “im just enjoying myself and im cool, if you don’t think this is
cool, your not cool.”
- you cannot half ass this, go balls the wall. Be loud as fuck. be stupid as fuck. but keep that
     mentality that this might be lame if someone else does it, but im fucking cool and remain unreactive.

for example: Today I turned the music on pretty loud, and I sang a song without half assing
it. At first, I felt like people were watching me doing this even though I was in the privacy of my
home and there was no one here. I felt very embarrased, but whenever i felt like i was being judged, I pushed my comfort zone
and I took control of my emotions and felt relaxed and actually enjoyed singing the song. The key thing is to remain relaxed and
cool, yet confident and assertive

Another example: The other day I put on a song and just danced all the way through it. I
felt so stupid at first, but I pushed through it and eventually just owned it and had fun. The main
thing is to keep calm and relaxed and imagine if someone were to make fun of you, you would
just remain calm and not be reactive. Huge thing in this is to remain grounded while doing it and
and remain unreactive


Watch these videos from the blueprint


notice how the guys didnt own it, and didnt remain centered(they kind of looked around for acceptance).
be the opposite of that. be tyler, be loud confident and remain centered and self assurred.

1) Meditation/eyes open meditation
(spend about 30-60 minutes everyday)
I actually do three types of meditation, but if your eye contact is decent just do this first two.
The first way I do it, is with my eyes closed for the first 15/20 minutes and focus on breathing
the second way is with my eyes open for the next 15/20 minutes on focus on breathing.

The final way(NOTE: only do this if you have bad eye contact) is with eyes open and focus on holding
strong, unflinchable eye contact + holding stable and happy, self-generated emotions.

why this works?
You become a more calm person with meditation. You learn to be happy without a lot of stimulus and you are able to push thoughts to the side and
remain unreactive.

Steps? (for first two types of meditation)
- Close your eyes and focus on your breathing
- every thought that comes into your head should be pushed to the side and your focus
should return to your breathing. (do not get angry that you lost focus, this happens A LOT when starting out)
- slow down breathing and elongate breathing a bit
- avoid short panicky breathing habits
- after 20 min, meditate with your eyes open

extra thing( if your eye contact is bad, do this after closed and open meditation. maybe 10-15 minutes)
- spend extra time doing open eyed meditation but focus on keeping your emotions stable and unshakey eye contact
- Your eyes should be in an unflinchable manner, make it strong.
- hold your self-generated positive emotions along with good eye contact


*NOTE - A big thing about meditation is your breathing patterns. I am quite certain that there is a correlation between your breathing
patterns and your nervousness/anxiousness. The key thing is to have long, strong, and exaggerated breathing habits. when i first started meditating i noticed that my breathing was
short, not forceful and cautious. also i noticed that if i tried to make myself have long powerful breathing, i couldnt do it! like i would
have a long inhale and then it would stutter. i would inhale, break, continue inhale, break, continue inhale. 
I think my nostrils were like closed off or something. FUCK THAT! transform your breathing into long inhale and exhales without stutters and what not.
it also makes keeping your attention and focus on your breathing is easier when you make have exaggerated breathing.
really after your first meditation with long inhale exhale youll feel a difference. just dont do it too much to where you feel too lighthead. find that nice balance.

to close this up.
I know this is weird to a lot of people, but I think it can help a few as it has helped me.
If you try this for a week or two, let me know.
I would like to know if this has helped anyone else.
i would also say, never stop growing and never stop pushing yourself. I watch an RSD video every day before I meditate

This wont make everyday the best day ever, but it increases your happiness and growth baseline.
Remember what Tyler says, progress isn’t an upwards slope, its and up and down thing so stick to it, and do not get discouraged
if you regress a little bit, in the bigger picture youve improved tremendously!
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PeanutButter

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Join Date: 11/15/2012 | Posts: 31

Pumpkin Head wrote:
I only believe the no fap tip from these, im going 2 try out th positivity thing.
As the saying goes, take what works for you and discard the rest.

but I believe that you should try out meditation, and unstifling for sure
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RoboticRover

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Join Date: 11/19/2012 | Posts: 2

Thanks Peanut Butter. that's a great post with a lot of Effort put in. It would be nice if you shared your Experiences in further detail.

Also regarding your open eye meditation thing, I just found out this thing called 'Open Focus' going to try it now ::)

thanks Mate !!
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hope

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Great.Thank you;)
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PeanutButter

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RoboticRover wrote:
Thanks Peanut Butter. that's a great post with a lot of Effort put in. It would be nice if you shared your Experiences in further detail.

Also regarding your open eye meditation thing, I just found out this thing called 'Open Focus' going to try it now ::)

thanks Mate !!
no problems guys.

I am not going to say that I bang chicks every night but damn has my inner game improved.

- way more unreactive. (before i couldnt maintain eye contact with anyone, even family)
- consistently better mood (before i was kinda depressed.now my baseline is moderately high)
- my vocal projection is seriouisly amazing!(i speak clearly, and very loud now, without trying[i think this is the unstifling part of the process])
- more relaxed(before I was anxious when there was even one person around)
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Great post, bro! Love it! I'm a huge proponent of no fap/no masturbation, visualizations, and I really like your points about making the same unreactive face during meditation that you would be making with a girl and the deep, fluid, long breaths during meditation.

One thing I would add is the value of visualizing EXACTLY what you want in real time. Like as you're walking up to a girl, you visualize walking up with confidence and her lighting up. Or you could also visualize her sucking your mushroom tip or going BALLS DEEP with her. The key is to visualize it in detail and really feel like it's happening right then and there!
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OMAR

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Good stuff peanit butter. Im finally gonna do a positivity challenge after realosed how much negativity i cam carry when i havent been meditating, ie when i play fifa wit my lil bro, i get pissed when he sucks lol. I would add about meditation that u shouldnt be trying to make faces or trying to do anything. U shud actually lwt go of all tension from head to toe and visualize the letting go of tension in ur facial muscles in ur hands legs body feeet etc. U shoudl let go of the need to control ur muscles orfacial ur body when u neditate. Just let it all drop to the floor. And also try buteyko breathing method pattern, its awesome.
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PeanutButter

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Fred E. Rick wrote:
Great post, bro! Love it! I'm a huge proponent of no fap/no masturbation, visualizations, and I really like your points about making the same unreactive face during meditation that you would be making with a girl and the deep, fluid, long breaths during meditation.

One thing I would add is the value of visualizing EXACTLY what you want in real time. Like as you're walking up to a girl, you visualize walking up with confidence and her lighting up. Or you could also visualize her sucking your mushroom tip or going BALLS DEEP with her. The key is to visualize it in detail and really feel like it's happening right then and there!
ya  good points deff

OMAR wrote:

Good stuff peanit butter. Im finally gonna do a positivity challenge after realosed how much negativity i cam carry when i havent been meditating, ie when i play fifa wit my lil bro, i get pissed when he sucks lol. I would add about meditation that u shouldnt be trying to make faces or trying to do anything. U shud actually lwt go of all tension from head to toe and visualize the letting go of tension in ur facial muscles in ur hands legs body feeet etc. U shoudl let go of the need to control ur muscles orfacial ur body when u neditate. Just let it all drop to the floor. And also try buteyko breathing method pattern, its awesome.

ya good points, the difference for me was i kinda used muscles in the opposite way. Like my natural face was kinda needy, but used more muscles.
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Love it.
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Great post. I will do everything but scrap the no fap.
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