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December 10th, 2016
A quest for becoming spiritually one with the eternal power of the universe by f*'king lots of dumb girls and living Now...
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myrwy

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I'm 22 years old. I have had very little experience with women even though I have always been very interested in ladies and had many crushes. I have had many girls have a crush on me but I have waited too long to act. I have been seriously approaching girls for 4 months during the day and night. I have been sarging mostly alone.

This weekend
Friday: I drove to the city (pop. 150k) and stepped out of my car. Soon I see this very good looking girl walking her little dog but I don't approach. I laugh at myself because almost every f*cking time I let the few first girls just go by instead of approaching.

As I enter the club I immediately see few sets I could open but I don't. I take a little tour around the club and take a seat. I tell myself not to panic because eventually I will approach. About 10-15 minutes pass by and I stand up. I walk by the two set of girls heading to the other side of the club. Finally I approach two ok-looking girls and ask what they are celebrating. They are very open and I don't have to do much talking. The other girl touches my bald head but I'll soon find out that they both have babies at home. The other one apologizes that they are taken and it was a good try. I say to her that" what are you apologizing for, I didn't know I was hitting on you?"

I see two hot girls, brunette and blonde, and I make the approach. I guess I asked what they are celebrating and "life" was their answer. I try to guess what they do and we talk a bit. Then the blonde wants me to guess how old she is and I reply that I'll guess but don't hit me afterwards. I say 28 (she wasn't looking that old) and they start laughing. She was actually 18 and had a boyfriend.

The brunette (age 23) was very talkative but soon the conversation turned into PICKUP. She started talking about how my approach was and do I get a lot of girls by doing that. She said that I must be very confident guy to come and talk to them. She asked me why I'm here alone drinking just water. I kept my cool pretty good and kept staring into her eyes and her noticed that ther pupils were dilated. 
She wasn't mean but she said that when I approached I was confident and now she had crushed me, which was partly true.  She was glad that I gave her some insight about how "people like me" ("PUA") think and hoped that I also gained something from the conversation. I didn't know if had I lost more than gained...LOL. I asked her number but she said that I have to "perfect" my approach just a little bit and that she doesn't do random dudes. This was the longest conversation I have had with a girl I'm trying to pick up.

Saturday: Started like friday but this time I approached the 2nd and 3rd set of girls I saw on the street. Before I could get in the club I had to wait at least 30 minutes in the line and so my state came down a notch. I started approaching but my biggest problem for today was that I couldn't keep the conversation going and I ejected as soon as there was that moment of awkward silence. Maybe it was because I wanted it to be as good as the night before.

I had watched Brad's "gorilla"- video about tonality and stuff just before and now I was trying it.  You can't really hear yourself in the clubs even if you shout so I don't know if my tonality was good. Like I'm commanding my voice to sound authorative and everything but I can't really hear it. As I was dancing there were these three asian girls and I somehow knew that if I had gone physical on one of them it would have worked out. But I didn't, I was scared that this COULD actually lead into something. That is the worst when you don't do something because it could actually WORK and could lead to something new, like kissing a girl!
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Bennn

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Title of your journal is awesome man. Makes me lol
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Meeting a natural bad boy and hot girls looking for sex.

Arrived to the club early and the place seemed to be empty. I walked upstairs and there were only these two hot girls, blonde and brunette. I pretty soon approached them and asked where all the people were. We talked about the club and other stuff (they were sitting and I was standing). After maybe 15 minutes I left to check the downstairs.

More people were coming in and after a bathroom break I went back up. The blonde girl was talking with some dude (the bad boy) and the brunette was somewhere else. When the brunette joined them I approached the group and introduced myself to the guy. The dude bought alcohol shots for us but I couldn't drink it because I was driving. We talked about it and it turned out that he had lost his drivers lisence because of DUI. He didn't understand that I couldn't drink and became offended and somewhat aggressive. :DD

After a while everything was cool and he said to me that he was going to fuck the blonde ( he knew the girls before) and asked did I want pussy? "Ok" I said. After a while the natural bad boy had apparently left with his girl and the brunette was alone. I thought that I should ask her if she wants to change the venue but I didn't know whether she liked me or not ,so I didn't talk to her ( I should have ASSUMED it!). It became very clear that the brunette didn't want to leave the club alone and I think SHE APPROACHED some guys sitting in a table. I left as I thought that I had used my chances with her.

So the hot brunette was desperate for sex. What should I have done? Yes, I should have engaged her more and just stayed with her and let the attraction build. Who knows, now I could be having sex instead of writing this... Well, I still learned something new.
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I feel a little bit lost... Last couple times of sarging were before my small christmas break. I made some approaches and got bad responses every time. Tonight I went out but I couldn't approach. I was scared of the girls' reactions. I had chances to do a couple of very "low risky" approaches, like talking to the girl sitting next to me after she had been looking at me couple times. I had the opener in my mind but I started thinking "what then?", "I have to talk to her and do all kinds of stuff before this gets anywhere" (idk if I really thought like that but it feels like it now). 

So it seems that I'm TOOOOOOO outcome dependant.
Now I let out a little cry: "This is as hard or maybe even harder than it was when I started cold approaching 7 months ago!"

Time to go back to basics. I must do it the way I started. Just approaching. I see a girl and all I think is that I approach. Never mind the am I having fun?, am I cool?, how do I game her after the approach? am I in state? and all that other SHIT (:D?) I JUST HAVE TO MAKE THE APPROACH.

I can have totally awesome life. It's not about wanting it it's about MAKING IT HAPPEN. Doing it.
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Small chunking kicks ass

I got myself back on track by small chunking like tyler advices in Game is fun as hell!! video. I entered the club and saw a cute girl in the corner texting.

Me: Hi! You are cute. What is your name?
Girl: XXXX
Me: I'm XXXX.  We both have four letters in our name and it begins with the same letter
Girl: omg, this is destiny.
Me: yeah, it starts here.
(She was pretty drunk and our faces were very close to each other. She was talkative and said she may be leaving to another venue soon.)
We talk a little bit until I eject.

I made two more approaches until I met a friend from high school. We talked and went to the dancefloor.

There I high fived a girl, spun her around couple of times and got her close. (the move I've been thinking about doing many times) Asked who she is and introduced myself. Then I let her go and continued dancing without her. (lol)

I'm happy that I started to take action once again.
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Plowing and the importance of fun

As I was walking to the venue there were two girls who had some trouble locking up their bicycle. Police car was driving slowly in front of me and the girls stopped the police car for help. I went in and asked what the problem was with her bicycle. The police car ejected and after a while we were able to lock the bicycle.

At the venue I didn't approach immediately. There were so many cute girls to choose from (I love Finland..). The venue is like a medieval night club. There are some paintings of castles and renaissance people. At the bar counter I asked a girl why there are medieval paintings in a night club. She made some comments about hell and the paintings. I let the conversation die.

Next I saw an energetic girl and approached.

Me: You are highly energetic. What is your name?
Girl: I have to be energetic because I'm a guest. (tells her name)
Me: So you are not from here?
Girl: No I'm from xxxxxxx
(We talk a little bit more until I do some very clever)
Me: Well have a nice evening!
Girl: You too!

I leaned against the wall and two girls came sit next to me. I decided to finally do some plowing. I asked if they had ever eaten quinoa. How it is like rice but more healthy. How it has omega 3's and proteins. After I was done one of them asked if this was a student party. I tried to guess what they were studying but just as the conversation was getting somewhere the other girl hears her favourite song and escapes to the dancefloor with her friend. I shout after them to try out quinoa sometime.

I tried to hunt down one lonely, semi crazy, semi slutty and sexy girl but didn't get a chance to approach her.
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Sunday is a great day to go out.

The venue is full of people. I chill around the venue and watch some random guy approaching few sets. Soon I make eye contact with this hot girl sitting by herself and approach her:

Me: Hi you are cute.
Girl: Thanks.
Me: What's your name?
Girl:xxxxx
Me: I'm xx. Do you like nuts?
Girl: Nah, I don't like them
Me: I think they are great. Very healthy.
Girl:-
Me: I guess you are working in cosmetology?
Girl: No I'm actually xxxxx. Where are you from?
(I tell her where I'm from, about her age, and turns out that she is with her brother and her brother's random friend)
The random friend and the brother come and we introduce each other. The brother goes to order and the girl goes to bathroom. I stay talking with the random friend.
The girl comes back but I kinda ignore her. She goes to find her brother probably because she doesn't know either of us. After a while I move on.

I ask a girl next to me who she is. She asks why and I say that she is cute. I start talking about quinoa (another food topic) and how it is awesome food. She is pretty cold but I keep asking about her life. I tell her to have a fun night.

I see a super cute girl in a mixed set and go up to her.

Me: Hey!! You are cute!
Girl: (Laughs) Oh thanks.
Me: what is your name?
(We exchange names and I think I fell in love right then and there because she had the cutest anime eyes ever. Her pupils were crazy big.)
Me: Do you watch ice hockey?
Girl: Yeah, I went to see a hockey game last week
Me: Did you know that NHL starts next week. It's super awesome.
Another girl: They have had the lockout.
Me: That's right. Millionares just wanting more and more. Fans don't see hockey because of that.
Girl: It's crazy.
(Her friends go somewhere and she is going with them but I tell her to stay. We talk about what she does for work, subway sandwiches and the usual stuff. I think it's going great but she want's to go to her friends and so she goes.)
I could have said: "Yeah, let's go and find you friends!" and gone with her but no.

I roam around the venue for some time and decide to approach the previous girl again. She is with her friends ordering drinks and there is very little room. I'm basically awkwardly behind her and start talking how my band had a gig last weekend. I say that because she is awesome I want to take her number. She says not now and leaves with her friends.  ;´´´´ ( 

I'm beginning to understand what Brad means by the "first five approaches don't count". Next time I'm going to really hammer it.

Oh and I have a date tomorrow with a girl I met through online dating site. So that's good news.
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Cool to see somebody taking action - nice journal!

A tip:

myrwy wrote:
So the hot brunette was desperate for sex. What should I have done? Yes, I should have engaged her more and just stayed with her and let the attraction build. Who knows, now I could be having sex instead of writing this... Well, I still learned something new.
Be careful not to overthink and calibirate before the fact, but just try things, enjoy the moment, and stay in set and see what happens. You can always review it afterwards, and see what you could've done differently, if things didn't work out. If you stayed in, who knows what could've happened? :-)

Keep it up!
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jais wrote:
Cool to see somebody taking action - nice journal!

A tip:

myrwy wrote:
So the hot brunette was desperate for sex. What should I have done? Yes, I should have engaged her more and just stayed with her and let the attraction build. Who knows, now I could be having sex instead of writing this... Well, I still learned something new.
Be careful not to overthink and calibirate before the fact, but just try things, enjoy the moment, and stay in set and see what happens. You can always review it afterwards, and see what you could've done differently, if things didn't work out. If you stayed in, who knows what could've happened? :-)

Keep it up!

You are totally right. Sometimes I find myself thinking about this stuff when I should just go with the flow. And thanks!
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I just had my first real date ever. I met her on a online dating site. She was investing a lot more than I in the messages so I knew she wouldn't flake.

We meet up and go to a coffee shop. We take our teas and coffees and sit down. She can't find some bracelet and keeps digging her handbag like crazy. I ask if the bracelet is made of 12 carat gold or something and she says that her granpa gave it to her so it has emotional value.

Finally she finds it and we can start talking. We talk about all kinds of stuff and I try to make some statements, cold reading here and there. I'm pretty chill but she is nervous. She laughs but doesn't make a lot of eye contact. This girl is shy.

I decide it's time to leave the coffee shop and go for a walk. We walk around the city centre and the conversation goes pretty good. I try to slow down a little bit and get her to stop and face me but she keeps on going. Her bus leaves and I offer her a ride home. When we get at her place she is exiting the car immediately. I ask if we should change phone numbers and she agrees and says that she was thinking about that but forgot.

I'm pretty happy how it went. I should have started talking more before we sat down. There was no physicality, I couldn't really hug her in the car.

She is super shy so I just need to take my time with her and go slow.
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Small epiphanies and first approach outside the club for a long time.

I was hesitant to go out tonight because of my acne. I reasoned myself that it's okay and I can't control it just like I can't control the girls I approach. I tried to do my 20 minutes of meditation but my thoughts kept wandering.

As I was driving, suddenly, out of nowhere I just felt it. I felt how I'm just a form of conciousness. Just like that tree over there. I've read about E.Tolle and had moments where I feel like I'm part of everything etc but this time it was more intense. When I parked my car I just looked at this house in front of me. All I could see, all I could understand was that house. It even seemed to grow bigger as I watched it. It lasted no more than 30 seconds but I have never experienced that before. I felt like I wasn't in this world anymore, it felt like some other reality. Of course I can't really verbalize it.

So after that I enter the club. I feel light and confident. I stop a girl and tell her she's cute but she is looking for her boyfriend. Next I see a blonde girl at the bar and approach her. I scream "HEY!" "You are cute!". I ask her if she likes ice hockey and that NHL starts tomorrow. She says her brothers like ice hockey and that she is from a different city. (Idk if I felt little bit insecure of how my acne was today or what but I tell her to have a fun night and I leave the club.)

I visit another bar trying to book a gig for my band. As I'm walking back to my car (which was close to the club I went earlier) I see a girl walking towards me. I keep looking at her and when she is close enough I tell her:

Me: Hi. You are cute. What is your name?
Girl: (she is thinking if I'm going to rob her) Ohh.. Thanks, I'm xxxx.
Me: So where are you coming from?
Girl: I'm coming from ( the club I went earlier)
Girl: You should go there. My beautiful friends are there.
Me: (I kinda freeze up for a moment and think to myself that I want you, thats why I'm talking to you, duh!)
Girl: There is lots of hot women there. You should go there.
Me: (I make an expression like OMG! Really! with my mouth open and say) Okay.
Girl: Are there any restaurants nearby? I'm going home and have to walk all the way to xxxxxx.
Me: Yeah turn left there and you will find some restaurants.
Girl: Have a fun night.
Me: Have a fun night also, even if you are going sleeping.
Girl: bye
Me:bye

No shit I should have pushed that last approach further. This was the last time I let something as trivial as acne hold me back.

The girl I went to a date with started texting me first. I'm trying to set up date#2 for this weekend.
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