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richie rich

richie rich

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have you tried seeing a psychiatrist?? it could really help I'm not being facetious. 

sometimes when I"m depressed I try to think of all the things in my life that I am grateful for and the things I have to look forward to and how lucky I am to even be alive and breathing in the US where I have my basic needs taken care of and the right to exercise my free will. It changes your perspective.
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richie rich

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ok. so dude! you just need to wake up tomorrow and pretend you are a total boss. expect people to treat you like a boss, expect girls to treat you like a boss, and if they don't, demand their respect. people will doubt you and mock you at first, but hold your frame. fake it til you make it. 

eventually you will start to see yourself as a boss because that is the person you are portraying to everyone else. when everyone else realizes that you are a total boss, and then you realize that, "hey, I'm kind of a boss,"

you'll realize that you were a boss all along and the only thing holding you back was YOU. 

thats how I did it :)
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richie rich

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also i struggled with depression myself, the best way to avoid depression is to stop thinking about being depressed and totally change your train of thought into something positive. a lot of us are addicted to feeling depressed, we can't help it. I know I was, and getting depressed is normal, it happens to everyone so don't feel like you're weird of different than everyone else. Most people are depressed all the time, they're just good at hiding it. 

i can tell you are an awesome guy, you just have to start believing it yourself!! 
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UtopiaFive

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Most psychologists are massively sucky at their profession.  Just saw this page of posts with you and Rich.  

Go find the book called "Reinventing Your Life" by Jeffrey Young.  His work is famous for dealing with personality disorders.  Which most people into pickup, that's all they have.  Not something that causes you to be unable to live a normal life...just a basic inability to have solid relationships with girls and people you work with.  Check this video:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pa-z847tgfQ

There he is talking with 2 other guys (they're talking about Borderline Personality Disorder aka Jeffy) but look at how the way they talk is like comparable to different pickup guys.  Only one of them (IMO) you'd want to be friends with, or to have as your therapist.  

Anyway, get the chapter of that book called "Defectiveness" if you actually have the low self-image of yourself.  Honestly I had the same thing and a few months ago a conversation with my therapist, another one with Buddhagames, and reading this chapter, really helped me "get" it.  

I don't know if you need your own sequence of things to happen, but for me, there was this deep realization that I truly wasn't proud of myself.  I told my dad this one the phone, and I think this was like...admitting my flaws, my defects, rather than "fighting it" so to speak.  

Also LOL that you're reading Revelations, which I get back into game I'm definitely gonna check out Mystery's shit.  I think before going into it though one ought to be "mentally healthy" -- but regardless I'm more doing stuff for my long-term, working at changing/swaying the kind of work I do, notably being able to make what I make, working independently, so I can allocate more time to business activities rather than job activities.  

Yeah so check out that chapter and maybe the whole book if you're so inclined.  

Peace bro!
 
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AustinCC

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i'm not going to go into more symptoms, but what rich said is soooo money. We tend to get in comfortable thought loops and for most guys who are "chodes" or "hardcases" are stuck in very very negative ones. To make positive thought loops your norm takes time, because you're literally changing the entirety how you think about the world. it's tough! After awhile it becomes the norm, but every once in a while, even i slip into some negative thought loops and have to deal with it. the better you get the less this happens because you learn to deal with it and know what triggers you need to pull to get yourself in a positive/relaxed place again. 

i also think that thought loops have a big play in why guys always go through up and down periods when they first start going out much more dramactically than when they get used to going out and hitting on girls. 
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Dylan..

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Lol fuck that sucks you have to hang out with people like that all the time. It's annoying when you have to hang out with those types of people, but I think it's a good thing. Because you can look at their fucked up mentalities and behaviours, relate it to your own and even reflect on your self to see if you have any fucked up behaviours or attitudes; chodes are a blessing in disguise haha.
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Spike@ Wrote:
So I'm living with an abstinent couple.




Didn't know that was a thing... I can somehow imagine the girl telling you "ya, me and my boyfriend, we don't have sex at all". But hey that sounds a lot better than hearing your roomate fuck someone every other night, which is what I'm dealing with.
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Dr Destruction

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Heheeee I'm going to give an internet cookie to you for that big booty girl on my thread. Yeah lobotomies are crazy ass stuff, did a college  final presentation on it. It's pretty fascinating too, it turns people into real life zombies. 
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UtopiaFive

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HAHA 2 fastttttttttttttttttttttt 2 furioussssssssss
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UtopiaFive

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lol no recollection really?  

man i've lost a lot of those memories from those days to be honest.  past 18 months I never really have been that same person.  I mean the "real" part of me you knew is still there and "more grown up" but the doucheyness is less pronounced for sure.  

dang wrote a longer post on my phone responding to this but it crashed :'(

but i was talking about "i have to have fun" being a belief that is not necessarily true.  you can also find girls who are still cute and more on your level, energetically, that night.  or even in the cheater method you can chat up fatties, ask who they're here with, then befriend ones with hot friends who are off dancing and "having fun", then just stick with the fatty while keeping her from thinking you two can get together...then "pull the group" and meet the cute girls and eventually get their #.  not "field tested" but its fucking obvious that it can "work just fine."  many things to try out.  

I guess even fattys will befriend you better if you are "fun" thuogh so back to your oringinal point haha...maybe the bar for "fun" is lower than we realize though?



 
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