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October 19th, 2017
Motivation gone to shit
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Ty

Ty

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Join Date: 04/02/2008 | Posts: 227

Had a decent run recently. Healthy stash of numbers, pushing my comfort zones and fucked a girl a couple of weeks ago.

Recently though my motivation to go out has gone to shit. It's just like "meh" whatever. Normally I can't wait to get my ass out there but at the minute I'm not even arsed. When I go out now I'm half arsing it and it's fucking me up.

Does anybody know any ways for me to get that motivation back, or links to any articles/videos which would help? Cheers
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hope

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Join Date: 10/18/2012 | Posts: 332

Don't try to force it man,if you are not feelin like going out stay and chill
obviously don't stay every single time get to know yourself...know if you are
just being a little or if you just feel tired and want to chill:)
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sportspsycho

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What satisfaction do you get out of pickup, besides the physical/emotional? Sex is like a sport. You can participate in it in part to satisfy your ego, like "I want to show how good I am", or you could come to it from a more process oriented angle ("How much progress have I shown this time? What can I improve on? What other challenges can I tackle?").
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Ty

Ty

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Hope
Yeah it's been pretty relentless the last few months, my flatmate's into pickup too. Live right near the bars (in the most literal sense) so I feel bad sitting in when I know there's hot girls about. Maybe I am being hard on myself and a few nights off will do me good


sportspsycho
Hmm I've used an ego based approach before. Like when I see non-community guys out-doing me it pisses me off, like "fuck that I'm better than this shit". It does work but it can lead me to being quite negative overall. Then again if it helps get me through the first few sets, plus it's better to be pissed than have no emotion at all.
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hope

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Well you don`t need to stay home you could just go out for a walk or go to the cinema
just chill,then go back strong...you just need to stop worring to much about pick-up
you need to be happy just for the fact you are alive,as long as you are alive there is HOPE;)
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