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December 6th, 2016
Stuff i learned going out 183 days in a row (long)
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Today is the first day in 6 months that i did not leave my house to go game some girls. Just to give you guys a look into me:
i spent today juggling work, studying, and texting some potential FBs. When i first walked into this challenge, i was a virgin, i thought that a good day constituted of a girl giving me her # and approaching 
a lot. I've walked the path that most would've crashed, every single day i went out and pushed myself. i used to think of approaching as this HUGE success, now its second nature to me. 
I had a lot of bad days, days where people wanted to fight me, nights where i saw a man get cheated on by the love of his life, days where EVERY FUCKING GIRL didn't like me, or was creeped out by me.
I had a lot of good days as well. I've pulled and fucked 8 girls since mid-may, 5 were on the same day i met them. The day i lost my virginity i got rejected 30 times in a row before pulling the chick. 
I attended hotseat and did everything in my power to get better at this. and better i became, all before the age of 19. I lost a lot of friends, and made a few new ones. I met A LOT of girls, something like 2000. 
I hate bragging, it strokes my ego and fucks me up, but im VERY FUCKING PROUD of what i've done. As i look back onto this now i realize that i have a long way to go still, but im sure as hell 
happy that this is where the journey is leading me. I wanted to list all the lessons I've learned, for myself and for all of you, so that you may all get motivated to go out and fucking push it, or if you are already
maybe a lesson i've learned can help you, either way here are the lessons that made me who i am:

Have a BONER: simple yet utterly effective. Magical shit happens when you talk to girls while having a boner. It puts you in a sexual mood, even better if she knows you have one, it helps you try to see 
things from the end game perspective (aka the pull), and you can use it as a reason to blame her for YOUR actions: "hey this wouldn't have happened if you didnt give me a BONER, its all your fault".
How to get le BONER? simple, as your in set, say overtly sexual shit, anything from putting a baby in her to taking her into a bathroom. do it even if its miscalibrated and gets you blown out out of a few
sets, fucking do it to pump your sexual state. Once you have it then ACT IN THE WAY IT WANTS. would your boner like to be up close to her? move her closer in. would it like to make out with her? whip it
out and let her know. put it in her..... you get the picture. HAVING A BONER helps to clear your intent, why would you have one if you weren't sexually aroused?

Re-open/its never over: i never knew how fucking HUGE this was, till i started implementing it. Rejection is not rejection boys. Rejection is a feeling in the moment that girls have, it is by and large
not a reflection on you (assuming you've got your shit together game-wise), it is just a consequence of the circumstance. The thing that made me realize this was when i opened a blonde
STUNNER at a popular bar district and she blew me out. THREE WEEKS LATER i reapproached her while i was doing a bootcamp for my buddy, she remembered me, i framed it as if it was fate,
got her facebook (she saved business in my phone as "sex trade"), added her, regamed her, got the meet up, pulled and fucked her a little while later. Did the fact that she rejected me matter one bit?
FUCK NO. The more i started reopening sets (and the less time i took in between reopening) the more i found that rejection is in many ways a shit test, and all shit tests can be passed. IOW: rejection
means nothing.

Everything is temporary: every single set, every girl, every number, every pull, every FB is not forever. No matter how embarassing or how bad, no matter how amazing and epic, nothing in this game 
EVER lasts. That is a truth that everyone around me has found. Just because your game is FUCKING AMAZING one day doesnt mean that the next you'll be the same. Even if the lasts 20 sets hooked
it doesnt mean the next one will. Just because you're feeling good doesn't mean you will pull, and vice versa. This is a really fucked up concept because it takes a lot of the expectations you had for the 
day/night and then just completely fucks it up. This is why its important not to be emotionally dependent on the outcome. Your results give you a prediction as to what is to come next, based on 
very recent reference experiences. If it doesn't happen the model of reality your recent experiences just built for you implodes and you are left standing around like wtf just happened? You'll ask me: 
"wait so if im feeling like shit and getting blown out all day, as well as choding on a lot of sets, I COULD STILL PULL?!" and i would answer:  "yup". Never get too attached to a girl, or a set of standards
or anything for that matter as it all tends to fade away. (this is the thought process behind my SAME DAY ONLY policy).

Step hard: THIS ONE IS FUCKING HUGEEEEEE! Julien told us at hotseat that your opener will not be the difference between you getting (or not getting) laid. And i agree with that 100%. However
i do think that if you walk up to a woman, full balls deep, say what you want EXACTLY the way you want it, push your way into her reality, and (this is big) give her the oppurtunity to reject you; this will
EXPONENTIALLY DECREASE THE TIME BETWEEN OPEN TO CLOSE. For example: if i go in with "hey your cute" im most likely stifled and going direct to get myself into that congruence headspace.
When i say step hard i mean GRAB HER ATTENTION, DEMAND THAT SHE SPEAK TO YOU. I feel more congruent being direct, so i'll say something like "YOU ARE FUCKING GORGEOUS WHO ARE YOU!"
, and bang im in. You can say anything, as long as it has the intent behind it, as long as it is completely unstifled and unrestrained, and as long as
circumstances don't get in your way, the girl's will get SOAKED right away. The reason this happens is because no matter WHERE you are the girl is not having a lot of fun (unless she's SMASHED,
like legit idgaf drunk). so you roll up and pull her emotions up out of DEEP inside of her, emotions she didnt know she had. Probably a bit harder to do this in a club, but you can always use physicality to 
compensate for that :).

Plough: the best girls will give you a shit ton of resistence. you WANT THEM to give you a lot of resistence. this means they only fuck a few guys that can push through that shit. Russian girls and black
hood girls are famous for this. the secret to pushing through this: keep feeling the way you were feeling before she said anything. outer game: don't even acknowledge her resistence. just keep going.
Ploughing shows her you're a real G thats worthy of getting fucked, sometimes after they see you've been through enough they DRASTICALLY reduce it (though they never actually stop) just to make it 
easier. its like a video game where as you progress it gets much easier, every dweeebs dream! 

Hammer it out till the bitter F****** end:

nough said

What constitutes a bad night:
a bad night isn't a night full of rejections and blowouts, it means your taking ownership of your fate and attempting to meet a lot of women. That's always a good night.
No a bad night is when you let shit get to you, maybe it was a girl who rejected you originally, maybe you didnt push something far enough, etcc... and then you start feeling butthurt, you start thinking
that you suck shit, you stop approaching your stunners and settle for some mediocre shit. You decide you don't want to push it, you want to stay where you are and just bask in the validation
or negativity you are currently entranced with. No matter who you are, no matter how long you've been doing this or how "advanced" you are, you will have these nights. They're good for you,
because the very next day you realize what a faggot you acted like then you decide that it wont happen again. "Bad nights" as in blowout city, usually involve one or two girls hooking
oddly, if you are feeling like shit then you wont run with it and blow them out. 

Get comfortable being uncomfortable: sometimes i needed other people to give me a push, others i was the one pushing people. no matter what your doing, find what you're afraid of and do it.
most fear (as we know) is stupid because we have no actual reference experience to back it up. My main motto is: "if the mind says no, you say go!"  cheesy, but it gets the job done in the most
simplistic terms. you afraid of approaching that 6'5 stunner? do it. You afraid of mixed sets? do it. you scared of going for the pull? do it. anything that you are in some way shape or form intimidated
by, fucking do it. This will not take the fear away, i myself sometimes still get AA, but the fear is reduced significantly. Thats the most you can ask from all this. I'm sure tyler himself still gets intimidated
as fuck going into mixed sets with really big drunk guys because well they're faggots, but he is still able to consistently do it only because he pushed himself all those times before that the fear is now
subsided. You will never not have a boundary where you are not uncomfortable, yet that should bring you some comfort because it means that there is ALWAYS space to improve yourself.
as you progress you'll have to become original in pushing your comfort zone, but that is something to be discussed in another post.

You want a lot of hot bitches? keep approaching: a lot of people hate cold approach. they think its a waste of time, think its too difficult and too inefficient. you could always do what others do and work
your way into where your stunners are, only to be the typical chode around them and not get laid. the point is that cold approach CAN give you an abundance of women unlike any other method.
You have to keep forcing yourself to be social over and over and over again, that is the only way to be able to step to your stunners with a regular look on your face and keep it going till the end.
You could do what DL did and build a lifestyle around it, a lot of people say he's cheating, but hes still got cold approached REALLY down tight, so he could make a new social circle at any point
iif he wanted to. Why? because he mastered the skill of talking to strangers and getting them to love him :). until you can do that, stay on the cold approach mastery path, till you can choose for 
yourself where you want certain things to be.

Be social AND sexual: if you find anyone that knows me, they know i make A SHIT TON OF GAY JOKES. i could confuse anyone into thinking i was gay and it would be TOTALLY believable because
im always joking around sexually while socializing. I'm like this at work, at school, while beasting, it doesnt matter. im overtly sexual without coming off as a total creep. This gives me a slight
advantage when i want my intent to be clear as its always sort of in this" lets go make babies" type of thinking. This is to be used as a tactic in order for YOU to more easily accept your desires as 
a man. Society puts us in this weird box where they throw at us TONS of pics of naked girls, sexual stimulation, and then attempts to put feminist values on it, so one side they're turning us on and
exciting us, the next they're telling us that these sex symbols you should treat the same way you would treat another man. Theres an obvious conflict which causes us to restrain ourselves for the
sake of social acceptence, however if you were to be sexual ALL THE TIME, then not only will you no longer restrain yourself (at least as much) but it'll just be universally accepted as: 
"that's just the way he is". plus it has the added benefit of making chodes feel uncomfortable devil

You are who you surround yourself with: I would be nothing without my crew. Seriously, all my success isn't even mine, its the success of my crew. Every lay we've gotten, every set we've hooked
every way our game has evolved, it is not any one individual's victory. It's OUR victory. I was lucky, i surrounded myself with champions, i realize that not a lot of people have what i have with the TGSMC.
There were some days where i would've quit the challenge, where i alone was NOT strong enough, and the second i needed someone to lean on, my crew was there to inform me what a faggot 
i was being...... then id go out :). Honestly do what you can to surround yourself with the absolute best people people, and i dont just mean results wise. find the people that push themselves, the ones
that will keep going no matter what, the ones that will call you out on your bullshit, find the ones that will push you when you're too weak to do it yourself, and finally be one of the people i just described.
I love my team, #TRAILBLAZINGGENTLEMANSSOCIETYOFMODELCITIZENRY4LYFE

Focus on the context > outcome: you are not God. There is nothing you can do to walk up to a woman and guarentee that she will come home and fuck you. The pickup community has attempted this
for the last 20 years, and if you guys have seen the lairs lately they clearly still don't have it down :P. That said, the only thing you can do is set up the context for the girl to do what she already wants 
to do. You initiate this by approaching. You approached her, she now gets to meet you. The way you continue to set up the context is by leading the interaction towards leaving with her,
then to your pull location, then escalate. What you are doing is not a tactic, it is you setting up the context of the situation. So you got her alone in a room, and you're both naked, guess
what that sets up the context for? :) Again doesn't mean it will happen, but the context of the situation is the ONLY thing you have slight control over. So use that to your advantage, at the end of
very gaming session ask yourself "did i try to set up the context for the girl to do what she wanted to do?" if the answer is anything but yes, you got work to do. 

Don't beat yourself up: This can be both a good and bad thing. Me i used to REALLY grill myself whenever id miss an approach or just suck in general during an outing. At first this was very good
for me as it meant i was serious about getting over my fears and pushing myself. However after a while it became TOO much of a habit for me, i became obsessed with being overly
critical of myself, taking literally no time to think about my successes. Only my failures. This was fucked up as i was REALLY improving a lot (kinda missing that rapid improvement) yet
i was looking at myself like man i suck shit blahblahblah. yet i was doing pretty good. the trick is to know when to beat yourself up when being a faggot, but dont be overly critical of what you
are doing EVERY step of the way.

You can do anything: when i first got into this i won't lie, i was envious of my crew. They would always tell me about doing this crazy ass batshit insane stuff during the night time and i always felt
like an outsider saying: "yeahhhh, me and this girl talked for 5 minutes.....". At first it was tough, and over and over again i would feel like i was on the outside of my own crew. However this pushed
me to make shit happen during daygame. It is now part of my mindset that everything my boys could do in a nightclub i could do off a daytime approach. And did it i did. I was the first in my crew
to get the SDL, the first to get the daygame makeout, the first to pull in the MORNING, all because i had this crazy competative urge to keep up with the monsters that are the members of the TGSMC.
What this taught me is that once you eliminate fear, the only thing that limits you is your own imagination. There is NO REASON you could not do something. You have no excuse not to get good,
all you need to do is believe and trust in yourself, push yourself for better. 

Draw state from within: I was always a very positive person. The reason i was like this is because my household is VERY negative. I have fights with my family every day. Whenever i say
this people always say i should distance myself from them but i actually think it helps me out. when i leave my house i make the conscious decision to leave all the negativity back there
go out and have a blast. This keeps my mood at about a 7 or 8  all the time. Then thats when events take charge and either bring me down or pull me up. I cant control those peak experiences,
however i can control how my mood is on a day to day basis. This is why when i go out im usually doing okay. This all comes down to deciding where your happiness is going to be.
I use negative events as leverage to feel good, same thing with positive. This is what you should do. MAKE those positive emotions come out of you regardless of what the current circumstances
are (unless your not eating, in which case GTFO the internet). 

Suck her into your reality: this requires you to have a strong frame. If your frame is still weak then don't try this, you're not fully ready yet. If your frame is good but inconsistent then this will push it
that extra step. When you roll up you use MASS self amusement to pull her into your world. I like talking about baby making and her attempts to take my long gone virginity. No matter what just keep
pumping your own state, regardless of her loving you or swearing at you. After a while she will see that everything she does LITERALLY just pings off of you. Eventually she will be extremely
OVERPOWERED by your emotions. After that, she will become SUPER complient. So me im a silly retard, so i will go in with my typical direct shit then ask her some questions very authoritatively
because i am actually evaluating her, then if she goes in the direct i like i'll be like "cool when are we getting married and making babies?!" and then ill go off about how we'll exploit our children's youth
in exchange for cheap labour :). All this is said with an incredible amount of emotion/retardation, at this point she's polarized so when i say "lets go" shes like "OKAY! :D"
The only thing required is that you express how you feel and don't let any reaction of hers affect you in any way shape
or form. After that she will literally melt in your hand and that is when the crazy makeouts, the bathroom pulls, the insta dates happen. This is what will create that tight knit hook that will
make getting the girl 49849684584848964896496848484x easier.

Approaching = attraction: yup its as simple as that. Your a man that stepped up and went after what he wanted. Even if you creep her out, approach her again when your not being
creepy and TADAAAA she loves you. This realization fucked with me when it happened because i figure it was old school game style that i had to go in and be all fancy to get the girl, now all i have
to do is step to the girl and its done. 

Everything i have said here is neither true nor untrue. This is my set of principles that i live/game by, i found that it helps me out, and maybe a while later i will say that this doesnt help me anymore.
However i listed them here so that all of you may attempt to go out and try. see if my mindsets work, get back to me. The best thing to do with game is to experiment, fuck up and try again. 
I really had a lot of fun over the last 6 months, no 18 year old can say they've been on the adventures i've been on. I wouldn't trade them for all the money in the world.
I can't begin to describe to all of you what this has done to me, it brings tears to my eyes just thinking about it :').
have fun enjoy AND GO OUT!

Gravity
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Ballgames

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 Yeah, that's incredibly fucking impressive, man. 

Both the post and the whole 183 days thing. Seriously. 

I got nothin but MAD respect for that shit dude. 
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buddha thats cool dude, youre gonna surprass him, what you got like 4 months left?
ive started today 21 days solo game. i started a 30 days regular challenge but got sick like 2 weeks ago after 16 days.

thats shame that people here(israel) dont understand the value of going out in a row and momentum.
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 Wow dude that is really fucking impressive. Gives all of us other guys more proof that it can really be done.
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This entire topic is full of win.

Really impressed that you were able to get all of this down and thoroughly explain it. I wish I knew about this stuff at your age. I'm 24 and have basically no reference experiences (because I'm a pussy), but this topic is really motivating me to push myself 100%. Good shit, Gravity. I think anyone would benefit from this read.
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Just a note to add to gravity'success: he's funny looking.

<3 u mofo!

Sick article!

I loved the part about boners and putting her in your frame. Both are things that I need to practice more (I understand how stupid it sounds that I need to practice boners. But guess what I dunevencare)

On the one about Beaton yourself up, I'd say it's actually a good thing. Everyone who I know thinks they've got a loooong way to go to being better at game, and I think being critical of yourself and
performance in field is key to that. It's a sign that you have a higher standard for yourself and as long as you're beating yourself into taking action vs beating yourself into apathy and inaction you're doing good.


Tomorrow day game . Let's practice boners...
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I think I've gone out EVERYDAY for the past year and the only thing I've learned is talk to every chick who I percieve as attractive, IMO it seems like every "technique" doesn't work,  it's more like just "take the chance" even though some things work better than others
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Gravity wrote:


Everything is temporary: every single set, every girl, every number, every pull, every FB is not forever. No matter how embarassing or how bad, no matter how amazing and epic, nothing in this game 
EVER lasts. That is a truth that everyone around me has found. Just because your game is FUCKING AMAZING one day doesnt mean that the next you'll be the same. Even if the lasts 20 sets hooked
it doesnt mean the next one will. Just because you're feeling good doesn't mean you will pull, and vice versa. This is a really fucked up concept because it takes a lot of the expectations you had for the 
day/night and then just completely fucks it up. This is why its important not to be emotionally dependent on the outcome. Your results give you a prediction as to what is to come next, based on 
very recent reference experiences. If it doesn't happen the model of reality your recent experiences just built for you implodes and you are left standing around like wtf just happened? You'll ask me: 
"wait so if im feeling like shit and getting blown out all day, as well as choding on a lot of sets, I COULD STILL PULL?!" and i would answer:  "yup". Never get too attached to a girl, or a set of standards
or anything for that matter as it all tends to fade away. (this is the thought process behind my SAME DAY ONLY policy).

Gravity
Wow this entire post and specifically this portion is INCREDIBLY mature and insightful. I've had to read this paragraph 5 times. it blows my mind you are only (or not even) 19. keep beasting man and keep posting this value!
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@buddha: thanks a lot dude, I'm sure your 90 day challenge will yield similar results
@mars: lol <3 you too homie
@richie rich, earthbound65, & turlast: thanks a lot guys, you really have no idea what it means to me! 
@mstar: idk what your talking about, im a stunner......... :). and you suck me off first yes? :P
@mikevick07: agree, you'll never see me talking to anything under a 6 (unless im being an EXCELLENT wingman)
@novel: thanks dude! yeah im 18, and dont worry this is just the beginning thumbs up
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This post is amazing, it explained stuff I forgot in terms I could understand and brought to my attention some of my own uncousious beliefs. I first remember gaming with you in May and how we were then, how things change lol. This is only the beginning. Let's get it broski.
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