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SlowLearner

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Join Date: 08/08/2012 | Posts: 119

I've been approaching since 1st of September this year, so only been in the game for a month. I'm 19, engineering major at college (live in Gothenburg, Sweden btw) so my life essentially revolves around studying, exercise and pickup. Right let's talk statistics: in this month, my first month of game only approached 45 sets (low number mostly due to illness), 0 makeouts, 0 numbers, 0 f-closes. Just me getting a taste for the game. The game is fucking hard and brutal, but what I love is how real it feels to get blown out, to talk to people etc. It's a fucking adventure.

Background: Standard story, nerdy. shy, socially anxious and very awkward. I knew about pickup since 16,17 but never really implemented anything. Was always more focused on school (although this was really an excuse for me to not socialise). In my last year of high school I really realised there was something wrong with me, as I would literally repel people with my awkwardness and tension. After graduation, I decided I needed to change. And now roughly a year later, I am starting this journal.

Monthly goals (shout out to Mars for the format, www.rsdnation.com/node/216527/forum)
Approaches (day + night) :200
Makeouts: 1

Focus
Tonality
Physicality
Escalation
Trying lots of new things

Let's make my second month something to fucking remember!!!!
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Mannish

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Join Date: 10/01/2012 | Posts: 2

Hey yo brother!

As you said, it's an adventure! 45 sets in one month is a pretty nice number! You approched more than 1 hb per day and that's a good number for someone who wants to develop the skills. Keep it up and always remember: You have nothing to prove to anyone, all you need is to have fun.

There are no bad results bro, only feedback. Being dumped is pretty lame at first, but funny as hell seconds later. Find yourself a wingman and keep the HARD-MODE. Your life will change in a matter of months.

GAME ON DUDE!
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SlowLearner

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Join Date: 08/08/2012 | Posts: 119

Mannish wrote:
Hey yo brother!

As you said, it's an adventure! 45 sets in one month is a pretty nice number! You approched more than 1 hb per day and that's a good number for someone who wants to develop the skills. Keep it up and always remember: You have nothing to prove to anyone, all you need is to have fun.

There are no bad results bro, only feedback. Being dumped is pretty lame at first, but funny as hell seconds later. Find yourself a wingman and keep the HARD-MODE. Your life will change in a matter of months.

GAME ON DUDE!
Thanks a lot for your words man, already found a wingman actually but he 's out of town for another week :(

Journal update: Today was pretty crappy, I'm pretty stressed with all my school stuff so it's hard to find time to do approaches. Although I did have opportunities but as usual I chode out ;( Daygame is really hard for me. Saw 2 girls on my bus, got off at the same stop as me. They live in the same area as me. All I had to was approach one or the other, but I fucking pussied out!!! I just can't will myself to do it. I haven't approached in over a week so maybe that's why. If I would have approached one of those girls, there is the chance that I could be banging them in the future, a small chance albeit, but compare it to not approaching at all where you have 0 chance of sleeping with them. Argggh so frustrating, feel like such a wimp. I'm gonna try to do some daygame approaches on average girls, just so I get used to it.
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SlowLearner

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Join Date: 08/08/2012 | Posts: 119

Friday, 5th of October
Meet up with 2 guys from RSD, really cool guys my age and at the same level of game as me! We talked a bit, was really awesome hearing someone in real life talk about PU stuff, cause you can't really talk to normal peeps about this shit ;) Anyways, we daygamed a bit, I had a lot of approach anxiety. Finally I did an approach, blown out in like the first few seconds :P Got some more balls, approached about 5 more sets. Then me and wings talked about going out later. Approached a girl on my bus after we got off, she was shocked and said she was going to see her bf. I ejected :P We went out, winged with only 1 of them (Victorious Swede), cause other wing was drunk and with his friends at another club :p Me and Swede went to a bar called PC, swede got us in for free (sweet!!!!), I did 3 approaches in there. Swede was doing really well with a 5 set although I was really out of it, too bad he didn't get the number. Went to the club our other wing was at, did an approach on the street on a really cute girl, and did an approach on a 2 set in the club. Didn't get anything. Was great to see my wing doing so well, really motivates me :) Me however I was feeling sorta out of it this night, don't know why, but was very self conscious. Looking forward to more outings!! 12 approaches

Sat, 6th of Oct
Tried to do some daygame at my local mall, but no hot chicks. Can't really push myself to approach average chicks. Did see 2 hot girls, but taller than me, and pussied out. 0 approaches

Sun. 7th of Oct
Daygamed at local mall. Approached a cute girl, but when I got closer, she was kinda...not cute :P She was 16 too, to add insult to injury. Approached a girl seated outside, this one was fucking cute! 17 years old, half swedish half serbian, goes to school in the area, couldn't really hear what she was saying. I ejected after 2 mins though cause I got scared of the interaction going poorly if I stayed in set. Have to stop doing this to myself, I always eject prematurely (haha that can be misinterpreted). 2 approaches

Approaches (monthly goal): 14/200
Makeouts: 0/1
Total approaches overall: 59

Good points
-Voice is pretty loud
-Stood my ground in daygame when girls were like why are talking to us etc
-Got shit-tested in bar twice by a really cute girl (2nd approach), passed both although I ejected (fuck me!)

Lessons
-Approach even if you're out of it
-Very hard for me to keep conversation going past opener, get better at conversating
-In a bar always try to be talking to someone all the time, don't ever just stand there alone
-Stop ejecting so early

Next goal: Stay in set for at least 5 mins
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SlowLearner

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Join Date: 08/08/2012 | Posts: 119

Spoke to wings on text and facebook, hopefully we'll be going out tomorrow :D :D could be potentially around 5 guys there, should be awesome.

Approached a girl on campus on monday (8/10/12) thought she was cute at first, but kinda average. She was really surprised (in a good way) and obviously intrigued and aroused. She was walking away from me and I managed to stop her and get her full attention on me, which was the only good thing about this set. Anyways I ejected too early, same old sticking point. That makes a career total of 60 approaches, and 15 approaches this month which is shit, but hey at least I'm doing it. It's just hard finding time for daygame, and going out nights is not an option, cause of school. Can't wait till Christmas holidays, 3 solid weeks of gaming ftw!

(For those of you not interested in my academics feel free to not read this :P this is mainly for me)
This weekend I gotta study my fucking ass off. Goals are as follows:
-Finish all unfinished math chapters and exercises (do chapter 3 and 4 in school on Friday if possible)
-Write down all the shit I need to remember like the derivatives of the inverse trig functions, etc and the proofs
-Do all the Engineering methods past papers and look at your weaknesses
-Finish MATLAB exercises in book
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SlowLearner

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Chode night out, just got home. A bad night for me, emotionally and mentally. It was bad because of my thought processes and how bummed out I was, and also because I only did 2 approaches. Was expecting more on such a big night out with 4 other wings.

We go to pregame at a bar called Chez Amis; I'm pumped up and ready. Me and Victorious Swede scout out a two-set; I open. As luck would have it  I end up talking to the unattractive one and Swede ends up with the hot one. The one I'm talking to is sruprisingly shit-testy, but kinda cool at the same time. She keeps going on about how we're trying to pick them up and shit; I responded by saying that me and Swede made elaborate mathematical calculations involving the angle in which they were sitting to the floor or some shit. She cracks up. Although what I think fucked me over was that I didn't admit me and Swede knew each other. She could probably tell I was lying and eventually she just blew me out. I didn't give a shit, cause she was unattractive and I left. Swede did really well, and he got the hot girl's numbers! Fuck yeah!

Then me and a guy from RSD (whose been gaming for 2 years), we'll call him stiff wing on a 4 set. I open, and notice they're somewhat unattractive. Doesn't matter though it's all about the reference points right? Haaha this was actually a good set, I pretend like we're secret agents and been told to investigate suspicious people  to see if they check out, and unfortunatley they do not check out. I also talked about twilight, justin bieber and pink bear-hats. Ejected after like 5 mins.

Was feeling pumped. Then when we move to a bigger club and I lose it somewhat. I get in my head and think too much giving me massive AA. My biggest fear is getting beat up boy these big boyfriends for talking to their girlfriends and spinning them around. I was in set a few times with wings but I myself didn't open anything. Tried to wing Swede on a 2 set, was going well cause I separated the friend from the really cute Japanese girl, but the friend's bf came and pushed me out of set.  How do you guys deal with boyfriends coming in? Cause he just took her away from me.

2 approaches this night...was expecting so much more from myself.

Lessons

-Don't lie when shit-tested
-You need to risk rejection, getting beat up by boyfriends, being laughed at etc
-Stop ejecting
-Warm up better (say Hi to strangers, do some streetgame etc)

EDIT: I feel as if I'm slipping back. As if all the good foundation habits I built are leaving me...for instance I can't keep eye contact with girls anymore sometimes, and I worked really hard to ingrain that in me,
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SlowLearner

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Join Date: 08/08/2012 | Posts: 119

Quick update. Approached a fucking smoking hot blonde on campus today. She was wearing a sexy blue dress, heels and looking sexy. As soon as I stepped into the building, I see her standing by the elevator and I just approach. Didn't even think about it, just happened automatically. I smile say 'Hi how's it going', she smiles back is like 'good I'm gonna visit my dad he's a professor here', I think I was so surprised that I took action that I can't think properly. Anyways, I get her to high five me and I tell her she looks hot, before she goes on the elevator. I didn't even get her name or number or anything, but at least I made her day and next time I see her...it is ooooooon.

Approaches this month: 18
Total approaches: 63

I won't be updating at all as I have exams and will be focusing on them completely. After my last exam on the 28th, I will beast like a bitch. Will also start playing football as a goalkeeper hopefully soon for a team my friend plays for. So fucking excited can't wait.
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SlowLearner

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Too fucking long since I updated. Will keep this quick as I gotta keep studying. My exams are over, and I went daygaming with my german wing. We went around town at 12-14.30 approaching. I approached 5 sets; first one I ejected, got blown out by all the others. Ahh a blowout is excellent for the soul. Hahaha on one of my approaches, when I said Hi to her, my phone fell out of my pocket and dropped on the floor and the battery fell out :P Picked it up and she was standing there waiting for me. Laughed it off, got the boyfriend objection, I say "I have a boyfriend too, he'd be really pissed if he saw us talking". Blowout though. The problems I had today were mainly tonality and posture; I could tell there was something wrong with the way I was subcommunicating to the girl by the  way i felt internally and I don't know...just seemed kinda off. I need to learn how to get an interaction past the opener and just keep talking. It's fucking hard because of my crappy ass social skills. Thinking back to it. the longest interaction I've had with a girl off cold approach was probably at a college party back in September, or possibly when I went with all 4 wings (October 13th), which was probably max 5 mins. I've actualy started my challenge (don't know how long I'll keep doing this challenge, but at least a week). My challenge consists of me approaching (either daygame or nightgame or both) everyday as well as staying on top of eveything in my life; school, exercise, nutrition and meditation.

Monthly approaches: 23
Total: 68
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SlowLearner

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Choded out of nightgame today; went to some bars, checked them out and there weren't that many people but one of them had a decent crowd. Choded out cause I'm probably intimidated approaching older people (late 20's and 30's) as a 19 year old. Nothing to report really.

Btw, yesterday I was talking to a guy in my class; he told me about his lack of motivation towards studying, and how he slept poorly and didn't eat well. I gave him some advice on building habits for success and told him to work out and eat healthy. I think as guys who are into self-development we should really try to help people who don't have the same insights or influences as us. I think it's also important when you're out approaching, if you see someone down to make them happy. I remember when I was out one night back in September, I saw a girl who looked sad; I asked her are you sad, she was like no, I stayed for a while and made sure I put a smile on her face before I left. She wasn't attractive just that I think as guys who draw happiness from within we should extend that to others.
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Join Date: 10/21/2012 | Posts: 8

 keep the progress up look forward to reading your progress
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Approaches: 3        Approaches: 2
Rejects: 0                Rejects: 0
Didnt-Close: 3        Didnt-close: 0
Numbers: 0             Numbers: 2
Dates: 0                   Dates: 0
Lays: 0                     Lays: 0
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SlowLearner

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Join Date: 08/08/2012 | Posts: 119

mannymoose90 wrote:
 keep the progress up look forward to reading your progress
Thanks dude :) Us newbs have just gotta keep fighting!

Thursday 1st of Nov 2012 - Streetgame Blowouts
Tonight on camus was my university's pubcrawl, which only happens 4 times a year, and last time it happened I did streetgame and I kinda made it a decision everytime there was a campus pubcrawl I would do streetgame :P Basically what happens is that different departments all around campus set up bars and sell bar. As I don't drink there's no point in me going other than to game. Warmed up by saying Hi to strangers, going around conversing with people and giving fist-bumps and being social in general. I learned the lesson of warming up properly from the last nights I went out. I learned a shitload this night, so much to take in from just 2 hours. I approached 6 sets.

Set 1
So I'm walking around in the dark and rain, fuming that there are no hot girls at my college. I see a group of people and a tall blonde in them walking and I open her, "Ay who are you", (some people stare at me) she tells me her name and I ask her what she's doing, she tells me she is going home. I walk with her. This interaction lasted at least 4 -5 mins, which is great cause I didn't eject. She is a master's student here. I talk to her about random stuff, how I believe people in Japan love me and that in a public square in Tokyo there is a huge ass flat-screen TV showing my entire life and that the Japanese people are behind me and shit hahah. I ask her about her hobbies, she tells me she sings in a choir. I tell her to sing a note for me, she says no, I persist, she finally does, I say "you suck". Finally at a street corner, I try to number close, she says I have a bf, I go "me too, he doesn't care", but still no dice. That's all cool. Peace girl :)

It occurs to me that I didn't even tell her my name when she told me hers. She didn't ask but still, I'm a random guy to her.

Set 2

Go up to this girl, tap her say Hi, who are you? She's Russian, works as a project manager here. She's going home. I walk with her as well. Her English is pretty bad, and I can't really remember what I said, but it was mostly just talking shit. One thing I'm confused about is whether she give me an opening, because early on in the conversation I told her "There's a pubcrawl on campus where they serve beer and alcohol", she goes "Ohhh I have a bottle of wine at my house". Anyways I say goodbye at a street corner, don't go for number cause her English makes it hard to understand and she was probably pretty self-conscious about it. Lasted at least 5 mins, really good.

Set 3
This is one is a shorter, funny one. I see these people queing at a bar, I go what's the line for to this cute blonde, we talk for a while shoot the shit. Her friend comes in, and I handle this pretty well, by saying "Hey what's up" to the friend as soon as I see her come in, and then I tell the friend that I'm the blonde's long lost cousin (think I picked this up from one of Juliens vids - cred) . Blondey laughs and doesn't say anything against it. But then, ahhh I eject for some faggot ass unknown reason.

Set 4
I'm really proud of approaching this girl for some reason haha :P Well it's mostly cause all the guys in my year know her, she goes in the year above us and a lot of them think she's really hot, although I think she's a 6, 7 at best. I see her walking, I go "Ey, who are you?" (thinking back on it I should've probably smiled more cause it was dark and rainy). She seems pretty keen and I walk with her to the busstop, talking about stuff. I wait with her at the stop. I notice she's pretty shy and nervous (maybe I creeped too hard :P); the conversation consists of me doing a cold read about how she's shy, which could come off as bitchy to some people, but I think she's just thoughtful, and talking about how I'm a such a shy, introverted little boy with rosy red cheeks, and a lot of other shit I can't remember. I also make fun of her accent, and tell her to say "I love pink bear hats" so I can place it. Her tram comes and I say goodbye, no number close (faggot). Lasted 5 mins or something. Cute girl.

Set 5 (weird set)
See a 2 set with a hot blonde, and an unattractive one. Go "Ey what are you doing", hot one goes "come here" and grabs me by the waist and looks at me. Her friend is standing to the side, looking on. She starts asking me what major I study etc. I eventually tell her my major. She goes, "oh there's lots of your class there (pointing away from her)", and then tells me there's lots of hot girls there too. I say I don't like girls, and then she says, well then you should leave. And I do, like the little I am.

Could have done so much better in this set. Instead of falling into her frame and answering her questions, what I should've done was maybe gone like as soon as she grabbed me"Woah woah, if you wanna get laid tonight you gotta go slow, I'm shy baby, I bruise easily", that kind of shit, and asked her the questions. Learn from my mistakes boys. I actually stumbled  in set a bit, due to bad footing and she probably thought I was a drunk chode who manned up, so that's why she was so resistant.

Set 6 (hand of god)
Tell myself that I'm not leaving until I do a hand of god open on a set. See this 3 set walking, with a girl who is a 6 that I've wanted to approach for a while. I chode a bit, but then I do it. I go "Ey!" and hold it out. I hold it for like a minute until I leave. She's like no, no I Can't, you're gonna fall (am walking backwards facing her) and her friends are giving me the boyfriend objection.

The night ends with me on a bus eating an apple and a pear, thinking back to how it went. Come home eat some salad, and that's it. I like getting blown out, it's good for the soul. Hell I love everything about this game, even being out in the rain hustling.
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