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Girlfriend LTR advice, girls stops having sex, but still wants to hang out
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#21

Kjaye777

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Join Date: 05/07/2012 | Posts: 534

Mate you are probably spot on with that.  I really like the affection side more than sex if I'm honest. I just don't want to get into a relationship until I have really started to develop my personality more and pushed my comfort zones and boundaries.

A few months ago attracting a girl like this would have been right out of my reality. I know I can go further if I commit to the processes but at the same time yeah I do like this girl and enjoy a bit of cherish time for sure.
johnathandeer wrote:
 I think people get upset not because of you, but how the girl is pulling some bullshit and alot of people can relate to that....and it seems to me like you half want this girl to be your girlfriend...and if that's the case then make her yours. But if you want to just have casual sex you really gotta listen to these guys even though it may seem radical. just my 2 cents
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#22
chiffonade

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dude if she's the hottest chick you've ever been with in 15 years and don't have alternatives...

you don't deserve her.

get that through your head because it's already crystal fucking clear in her head.  go find other chicks
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#23

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Agree with above. She can smell the neediness on you. The minute you take on the mindset of having options, she'll want to fuck you again. You don't even need to pull anyone to get mindset. Just be willing to switch to another girl at the drop of a hat
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#24

escalator

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Sounds like you know what to do. You just need to practice. First, let go of your easy going attitude. It's probably anyway a mask that you're hiding behind. Pretend that you're a badass SOB that doesn't take orders from a woman. I bet it will soon feel very natural. Your first assignment is to make her into your sex slave. Make her work hard to deserve you.
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#25

Kjaye777

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ok guys, firstly thanks for the advice. Jeffy, apologies for the dumb post, warning noted.

It seems there is definitely a consensus viewpoint here.  I want it more than her, I'm letting her control terms. I'm reacting etc.  I think I've also maybe slipped into a comfort zone of finding this girl, really enjoying spending time with her and not having approached in a few weeks as a result. I've kind of got used to the affection and liked it, and maybe reverted back to chodliness now.

But how exactly do I change this now?

It seems Jeffy and chiffonade would say its over, don't contact her ever again. Other say I need to show her I am in charge. I want to try that, although I am well aware that coming in here and asking a bunch of strangers on the internet how to take control and dominate is completely contradictory and pathetic!

LIke I'm going to take control and be man right now! But er please can you tell me how to lead and be dominant and not give a fuck???

I am starting to see my problem.

It's funny when I first came on to this forum I thought Jeffy was always unfairly hostile to everyone, but I am starting to see that years of being in the game have given him short tolerence for the ingrained little bitchness of weak minded posters.  It's an adapt or die mindset.

I need to adapt.

I will work on this and hope to be reporting back next week that I am fucking her like a boss.
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#26

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Kjaye777 wrote:

She came back Monday night.  We hung out yesterday for a few hours. She was happy to make out with me, let me go down on her for about 30 minutes but again left when I wanted to escalate for sex.

Then today we hung out for a few hours, as friends, but she won't let anything happen.

She keeps telling me she knows we are not going to be anything, that the attraction she felt isnt the same now and that we are just friends, although then she'll let me start kissing her, rip her knickers off and start eating her out.


I just don't know what to make of this.


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The Duck ✘

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WTF.

Do you even read yourself
Kjaye777 wrote:
Easy to say when you are a pick up boss with an entire address book of alternatives though.

I'm new to this, she is the hottest girl I have been with in 15 years and I have no one else at the moment. Same with RocknRollPUA's advice.  Dude I'd LOVE to make out with and fuck hotter girls than her but I'm just starting out learning this shit haha, if I had all those options I wouldnt have needed to write this thread!

I am going to follow Tyler and try and amp myself into a narcisstic rage and dictate reality to her lol.

I do get the feeling your advice is probably spot on, just a lot easier to see from your position.  Still I will try and make this my mindset...
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The first time the chick came over and didn't fuck, I'd tell her, "Get the fuck out of here, lose my number."

I don't play that shit

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#28

Kjaye777

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haha seems I have much to learn still.

In a way creating this thread, and the mostly contemptuous responses I have received have helped me clarify my thoughts.

I still have a lot of natural chode mentality and in a relationship I slip back into it.

Not a huge problem, as I only found this stuff this year and am coming from a place of total scarcity and failure so the road is not going to be one of rapid and constant progress.

Points noted however, I need to man up and stop being a weak minded reactive pussy.

The Duck ✘ wrote:
WTF.

Do you even read yourself
Kjaye777 wrote:
Easy to say when you are a pick up boss with an entire address book of alternatives though.

I'm new to this, she is the hottest girl I have been with in 15 years and I have no one else at the moment. Same with RocknRollPUA's advice.  Dude I'd LOVE to make out with and fuck hotter girls than her but I'm just starting out learning this shit haha, if I had all those options I wouldnt have needed to write this thread!

I am going to follow Tyler and try and amp myself into a narcisstic rage and dictate reality to her lol.

I do get the feeling your advice is probably spot on, just a lot easier to see from your position.  Still I will try and make this my mindset...
jlaix wrote:
The first time the chick came over and didn't fuck, I'd tell her, "Get the fuck out of here, lose my number."

I don't play that shit


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#29
RockNRollPUA

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The fact you can't follow my advice is exactly the reason you are not worthy enough to fuck this girl again.  Keep going out into the field until making a girl wet is as easy as breathing.  Resist any urge to become attatched to ANY GIRL.  That's not love you are feeling, that's scarcity.   She needs to feel it, not you.
Kjaye777 wrote:
Easy to say when you are a pick up boss with an entire address book of alternatives though.

I'm new to this, she is the hottest girl I have been with in 15 years and I have no one else at the moment. Same with RocknRollPUA's advice.  Dude I'd LOVE to make out with and fuck hotter girls than her but I'm just starting out learning this shit haha, if I had all those options I wouldnt have needed to write this thread!

I am going to follow Tyler and try and amp myself into a narcisstic rage and dictate reality to her lol.

I do get the feeling your advice is probably spot on, just a lot easier to see from your position.  Still I will try and make this my mindset...
jlaix wrote:
The first time the chick came over and didn't fuck, I'd tell her, "Get the fuck out of here, lose my number."

I don't play that shit

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#30
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Jokes on you bro.
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