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No more posts like this. Pick up your sac and get more women...
Dude, as much as you may want these posts to disappear the posts will keep coming, only because it is a sticking point a lot of newbies have. This is not going to change. What CAN change though is you, who have nothing better to do with your time than tell other people to pick up their sac and get more women.. Try to ignore these posts instead of getting your hands to type all these words of wisdom, I think this will be better for us all. Thanks.
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Those are words of wisdom. There are articles as well covering the topic so read before you post. The only way you're getting to get rid of oneitis is to have a constant inflow of women... Stop the posts, we're not changing.
you may fail your test this girl. think about that. Where are your values bitch? Besides she prob had a good time, wait for after the test and see, for now focus on your main goals.
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Hit me up by PM if you want to game in NYC. Don't care about your skill level just need the balls to approach and have a good time. Always looking for new people to game with.
Hit me up by PM if you want to game in NYC. Don't care about your skill level just need the balls to approach and have a good time. Always looking for new people to game with.
yeah whatever makes your day, can you just help by showing the article? As I said I checked but haven't found it! (and plus I didn't know what oneitis meant until now).
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Here's the frame I have found useful when dealing with girls I start to get those feelings you are talking about:
"When I'm with this girl, she is going to see 100% of me. She is going to see the peaks and the valleys of my personality and the drama that might come with it, she is going to see me laugh when she's funny, and she is going to see me mad when she pisses me off. She is going to be surprised by my spontaneuity, but secure in my state as a sex worthy man who does not give a fuck. When I am with this girl, all I am going to do is give and give and give. She will get all of my value, with me expecting nothing from her. Because I don't need anything she has. I have it already."
GIRLS NEED YOU BECAUSE THEY ARE EMOTIONALLY DEPENDENT ON THEIR ENVIRONMENT. You, however, do not need them because you have the frame mentioned above. You like them around, and you are glad you get to express yourself 100% when you are around them, but you dont need them because they don't provide you anything of real value (other than the fake happiness that comes from her validation).
You are her drug and if you express yourself 100%, she is going to want to hit that drug forever. Girls should never be your drug. Your path in life, as well as the progress you make from pushing your boundaries, should be.
"When I'm with this girl, she is going to see 100% of me. She is going to see the peaks and the valleys of my personality and the drama that might come with it, she is going to see me laugh when she's funny, and she is going to see me mad when she pisses me off. She is going to be surprised by my spontaneuity, but secure in my state as a sex worthy man who does not give a fuck. When I am with this girl, all I am going to do is give and give and give. She will get all of my value, with me expecting nothing from her. Because I don't need anything she has. I have it already."
GIRLS NEED YOU BECAUSE THEY ARE EMOTIONALLY DEPENDENT ON THEIR ENVIRONMENT. You, however, do not need them because you have the frame mentioned above. You like them around, and you are glad you get to express yourself 100% when you are around them, but you dont need them because they don't provide you anything of real value (other than the fake happiness that comes from her validation).
You are her drug and if you express yourself 100%, she is going to want to hit that drug forever. Girls should never be your drug. Your path in life, as well as the progress you make from pushing your boundaries, should be.
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P.S. And ignore the guys giving you shit above. We all have to figure this shit out man, and we all work at our own pace.
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Here's the frame I have found useful when dealing with girls I start to get those feelings you are talking about:
"When I'm with this girl, she is going to see 100% of me. She is going to see the peaks and the valleys of my personality and the drama that might come with it, she is going to see me laugh when she's funny, and she is going to see me mad when she pisses me off. She is going to be surprised by my spontaneuity, but secure in my state as a sex worthy man who does not give a fuck. When I am with this girl, all I am going to do is give and give and give. She will get all of my value, with me expecting nothing from her. Because I don't need anything she has. I have it already."
GIRLS NEED YOU BECAUSE THEY ARE EMOTIONALLY DEPENDENT ON THEIR ENVIRONMENT. You, however, do not need them because you have the frame mentioned above. You like them around, and you are glad you get to express yourself 100% when you are around them, but you dont need them because they don't provide you anything of real value (other than the fake happiness that comes from her validation).
You are her drug and if you express yourself 100%, she is going to want to hit that drug forever. Girls should never be your drug. Your path in life, as well as the progress you make from pushing your boundaries, should be.
that's helpful, thanks, I think that's what I was looking for, the frame one should have! you know, you start getting into this, thinking about getting better so that you will be able to get that one girl when the time comes,, the one girl who can 'satisfy all your neediness' but it's not really like that is it? it never stops, so you have to change your frame and let go of ALL the validation seeking (cause I think that that's what it is ultimately), FOR ALL ETERNITY! It's hard to realise that though! And it is even harder to change it, since your mind is kind of addicted to falling into those circles of thinking!"When I'm with this girl, she is going to see 100% of me. She is going to see the peaks and the valleys of my personality and the drama that might come with it, she is going to see me laugh when she's funny, and she is going to see me mad when she pisses me off. She is going to be surprised by my spontaneuity, but secure in my state as a sex worthy man who does not give a fuck. When I am with this girl, all I am going to do is give and give and give. She will get all of my value, with me expecting nothing from her. Because I don't need anything she has. I have it already."
GIRLS NEED YOU BECAUSE THEY ARE EMOTIONALLY DEPENDENT ON THEIR ENVIRONMENT. You, however, do not need them because you have the frame mentioned above. You like them around, and you are glad you get to express yourself 100% when you are around them, but you dont need them because they don't provide you anything of real value (other than the fake happiness that comes from her validation).
You are her drug and if you express yourself 100%, she is going to want to hit that drug forever. Girls should never be your drug. Your path in life, as well as the progress you make from pushing your boundaries, should be.
I guess it's like changing the reason you go to the gym from 'I want my body to look good' to 'I want to be fit'. You can't really see that you are doing this for the looks at first and you think to yourself that you are just going to get the looks and be done with it! but that's not the case, as this never ends either!
And even if Tyler tells you 'the reason you are doing this is unhealthy and wrong', if you haven't realised yourself what the reason is and this is wrong you can't really do anything about it! It kinda makes more sense now!
Nice, thanks again!
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so I've been with this one girl I REALLY like, we had sex at my place and now the neediness is taking over! I'm starting to have thoughts like 'maybe she didn't like it' or 'maybe she regrets having sex with me' or 'I should call her' or 'maybe she's waiting for my message' and other chodely thoughts. I know I shouldn't have these thoughts but, the reality is that I have them and as Tyler says 'whatever you resist persists', so I accept this, but want a way to fight it!
When we were together, we said that we would meet after my exam (in four days) and I'm sure she enjoyed being here, but still I have these STUPID thoughts taking over my mind, while I should be studying! Normally what I would do is go out and approach other women to destroy the neediness but now I can't because I have to study all day for four more days! And as the time passes the neediness is growing! I'm sure many of you have experienced this before and I want to know how you got over it and any useful info about this? I have even searched through the many RSDN articles, but haven't really found anything precisely on the topic. If there is one and I missed it, could you post it here?
Thanks in advance! Peace!
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