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This is getting weird
Im right there with you...Its like opening girls just for the sake of opening...I acknowlege they are hot but I dont have that burning desire to fuck them...Been going on for awhile now...If the interaction goes well though I start to feel more and more turned on in their presence, just staring into their eyes, feeling the skin, smelling them etc...Maybe its just chemistry with certain girls...Idk...Would love to hear more about this issue as well
I'm in the same place mate. Ihad cancer years ago, have massively reduced lung capacity as a result and I don't have a sex drive really around women. I do have a massive porn urge from time to time and still jack off but with girls, I really struggle to get hard.
I think its probably psychological as much as physical, and the results of me being so sick but it fucking sucks.
I've just started seeing a really cute 29 year old girl and our sex so far has been a few thrusts and then me going down on her for ages and playing with her pussy. She seems to like it but its not satisfactory in the long term. I've got another really hot 20 year old girl who wants to meet up this weekend as well and she is so sexy I'm not even sure I will be able to get an erection. It could really fucking suck, but I guess I have to go through with and overcome.
I'm guessing your problems are psychological because you have been so long without sex. I mean, sex is just like dancing, singing, public speaking etc in that it is a very vulunerable and exposing position to put yourself in and sometimes your body shuts down and doesnt want to perform and risk failure.
Frustrating as hell but the only way to overcome is to face it and try and have sex anyway!
I think its probably psychological as much as physical, and the results of me being so sick but it fucking sucks.
I've just started seeing a really cute 29 year old girl and our sex so far has been a few thrusts and then me going down on her for ages and playing with her pussy. She seems to like it but its not satisfactory in the long term. I've got another really hot 20 year old girl who wants to meet up this weekend as well and she is so sexy I'm not even sure I will be able to get an erection. It could really fucking suck, but I guess I have to go through with and overcome.
I'm guessing your problems are psychological because you have been so long without sex. I mean, sex is just like dancing, singing, public speaking etc in that it is a very vulunerable and exposing position to put yourself in and sometimes your body shuts down and doesnt want to perform and risk failure.
Frustrating as hell but the only way to overcome is to face it and try and have sex anyway!
I'm in the same place mate. Ihad cancer years ago, have massively reduced lung capacity as a result and I don't have a sex drive really around women. I do have a massive porn urge from time to time and still jack off but with girls, I really struggle to get hard.
I think its probably psychological as much as physical, and the results of me being so sick but it fucking sucks.
I've just started seeing a really cute 29 year old girl and our sex so far has been a few thrusts and then me going down on her for ages and playing with her pussy. She seems to like it but its not satisfactory in the long term. I've got another really hot 20 year old girl who wants to meet up this weekend as well and she is so sexy I'm not even sure I will be able to get an erection. It could really fucking suck, but I guess I have to go through with and overcome.
I'm guessing your problems are psychological because you have been so long without sex. I mean, sex is just like dancing, singing, public speaking etc in that it is a very vulunerable and exposing position to put yourself in and sometimes your body shuts down and doesnt want to perform and risk failure.
Frustrating as hell but the only way to overcome is to face it and try and have sex anyway!
Dude, you need to immediately go to your doctor and get a prescription for Viagra or some other erection drug. You can take half pills. That way your worry about the erection lasting is totally taken out of the equation for the time being. Later on, you can experiment without the drug assist. But for now, you are pre-occupied with this issue, and what you SHOULD be concentrating on is your interactions with the girls, and honing those skills. This erection issue is not the issue that you should be worrying about, and there is an easy solution. But you have to level with yourself, tuck tail, and go get it handled. I think its probably psychological as much as physical, and the results of me being so sick but it fucking sucks.
I've just started seeing a really cute 29 year old girl and our sex so far has been a few thrusts and then me going down on her for ages and playing with her pussy. She seems to like it but its not satisfactory in the long term. I've got another really hot 20 year old girl who wants to meet up this weekend as well and she is so sexy I'm not even sure I will be able to get an erection. It could really fucking suck, but I guess I have to go through with and overcome.
I'm guessing your problems are psychological because you have been so long without sex. I mean, sex is just like dancing, singing, public speaking etc in that it is a very vulunerable and exposing position to put yourself in and sometimes your body shuts down and doesnt want to perform and risk failure.
Frustrating as hell but the only way to overcome is to face it and try and have sex anyway!
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The only people for me are the mad ones,
the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk,
mad to be saved, desirous of everything
at the same time, the ones who never yawn
or say a commonplace thing, but
burn, burn, burn,
like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding
like spiders ac r o s s the stars.
-Kerouac
The only people for me are the mad ones,
the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk,
mad to be saved, desirous of everything
at the same time, the ones who never yawn
or say a commonplace thing, but
burn, burn, burn,
like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding
like spiders ac r o s s the stars.
-Kerouac
You may want to try the method espoused in the Massive Intent thread. Worth a shot.
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I saw that IHOP was serving "breakfast anytime" so I ordered French Toast during the Renaissance.
When you masturbate what do you think about? What turns you on. For me, learning what turns me on in the moment with a girl took as long or longer than learning what to say. I'm in my 20's and I actually thought I had sexual problems. Only recently have I begun to learn that I really just need to better express what turns me on and act on being turned on.
Edit:You need to go out of your way to find chemistry. Not every girl will turn you on.
As an example, for me, I've learned that one of the things that turns me on is when a girl begs me to fuck her. I love it when a girl says, "I can't take it any more, fuck me." and then saying something like , 'No you can't be greety Lisa. I like torturing you too much. Now what do you say? "Pleaaase."
I mean shit - just writing that is kinda hot. It took me forever to learn that this turned me on - and how to act on it. Find out what turns you on. And just act. Don't think
Edit:You need to go out of your way to find chemistry. Not every girl will turn you on.
As an example, for me, I've learned that one of the things that turns me on is when a girl begs me to fuck her. I love it when a girl says, "I can't take it any more, fuck me." and then saying something like , 'No you can't be greety Lisa. I like torturing you too much. Now what do you say? "Pleaaase."
I mean shit - just writing that is kinda hot. It took me forever to learn that this turned me on - and how to act on it. Find out what turns you on. And just act. Don't think
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MY Emotions are so emotional and stuff
I'll be fine once I get it.
Life is a beach I'm just laying in the sand
First Post I ever put up on RSD. Check it out and then check my journal from 7 months later. If I can do this so can you: http://www.rsdnation.com/node/213997/forum
Dear Journal: http://www.rsdnation.com/node/219007/forum
MY Emotions are so emotional and stuff
I'll be fine once I get it.
Life is a beach I'm just laying in the sand
First Post I ever put up on RSD. Check it out and then check my journal from 7 months later. If I can do this so can you: http://www.rsdnation.com/node/213997/forum
Dear Journal: http://www.rsdnation.com/node/219007/forum
I think it's normal, you look at chicks as people to interact with now instead of unobtainable walking fuck holes. Not every single one is going to turn you on. In fact a lot of them are downright damaged.
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But to give you some background first, I've been out "gaming" for about 5 weeks now. Before I found out about any of this I was in a 4 year relationship and after that crashed and burned I've been without female contact and sex for 14 months now.
I did get to make out with 2 girls on my first night out with the people introducing me to the whole gaming idea but that's pretty much it.
Anyways, tonight was probably the first night when it didn't feel weird to talk to a girl, no heavy lump stuck in my chest before I opened up on someone which to me is great improvement.
For some reason lately I've not felt any urge to even try to get laid, I simply spend my nights out opening sets trying to learn how to speak with people but I'm starting to sense that my whole "I don't want to have sex" vibe is kinda ruining the whole attraction part usualy ends up with the set leaving me after just 2-3 minutes.
Any healthy person is kinda supposed to have some urge for sex right? I still have a long way to go before I manage to pull a chick out of a club and sleep with her seeing as I can't really have a proper conversation for more than 3 minutes but the fact that I've been without sex for 14 months and that it doesn't bother me is starting to freak me out.
Anyone experienced anything similar to this?
Oh, and no, I'm not gay so that's not the "issue" so to say here.