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Ah, I'm glad that you get it.
I don't like putting words in anyone's mouth but from what i've HEARD of the "jeffy style of texting", lmao, he would prob shit on this hard.
BUT
for what I'm doing, this is actually very good text "game"... it may not be the style that certain guys like, but for what it is, it is pretty solid text game. Too much rapport, yes, I should NOT have gone that deep over text, ESPECIALLY with THIS type of girl but, other than that... yeah this is really solid text game.
That being said- I agree with you about waiting until real life to ramp up the sexuality. being too sexual over text will get you a lot of flakes.
And yeah- this style of texting is def. more along the "manwhore" school of thought...
But I am genuinely curious how someone, using "jeffy style of texting" would have played this. Becuase I honesly do not think that she would have been down to meetup, if I had just gone for logistics/super short texting convo, since it was such a short iniital interaction.I think that my understanding of his style of texting is totally off, as well, so would love an example.
Does anyone have an example of what that may have looked like? I'm genuinley curious.
I don't like putting words in anyone's mouth but from what i've HEARD of the "jeffy style of texting", lmao, he would prob shit on this hard.
BUT
for what I'm doing, this is actually very good text "game"... it may not be the style that certain guys like, but for what it is, it is pretty solid text game. Too much rapport, yes, I should NOT have gone that deep over text, ESPECIALLY with THIS type of girl but, other than that... yeah this is really solid text game.
That being said- I agree with you about waiting until real life to ramp up the sexuality. being too sexual over text will get you a lot of flakes.
And yeah- this style of texting is def. more along the "manwhore" school of thought...
But I am genuinely curious how someone, using "jeffy style of texting" would have played this. Becuase I honesly do not think that she would have been down to meetup, if I had just gone for logistics/super short texting convo, since it was such a short iniital interaction.I think that my understanding of his style of texting is totally off, as well, so would love an example.
Does anyone have an example of what that may have looked like? I'm genuinley curious.
I practice the Jeffy school of "get the fucking meetup ASAP".
It has been working for me as of late. This doesn't mean I'm some sexual robot, it just means I wait for real life to ramp up the rapport and physicality.
If the girl is meeting up with you after giving you her number, she best know the deal. And if she doesn't, she's stupid enough that she probably doesn't need rapport.
So what I'd say is stop talking so damn much over text. But then again, that's not helpful since you are trying to develop "text game" where you can escalate things over text. I just don't find anything as salient as real life. Manwhore will strongly disagree and he is probably right, but I really don't feel bothered to waste my time texting some chick.
It has been working for me as of late. This doesn't mean I'm some sexual robot, it just means I wait for real life to ramp up the rapport and physicality.
If the girl is meeting up with you after giving you her number, she best know the deal. And if she doesn't, she's stupid enough that she probably doesn't need rapport.
So what I'd say is stop talking so damn much over text. But then again, that's not helpful since you are trying to develop "text game" where you can escalate things over text. I just don't find anything as salient as real life. Manwhore will strongly disagree and he is probably right, but I really don't feel bothered to waste my time texting some chick.
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The only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn, like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars
A man may fall down many times, but he won't be a f ailure until he says someone pushed him"
Buddha
This is the night of:
Me: Yo its ____. Bearded douche from ____.
Her: hahaha
Her: how are you
Me: I'm good. My ride/friends left ___ so im at home. Thinking of driving back lol.
Her: Don't do it. Drunk driving isn't good.
Me: I'm sober yo
Her: Why did you leave then you fucking weirdo.
Me: My ride. I don't wana bus
Her: You didn't drink? You are just an asshole normally?
Me: I alternate between asshole and nice. Keeps the hos guessing.
Her: Yup
Me: Anyways ur hot as fuck and seem kinda kewl. I'm gona take you out.
Her: LMAO
Her: You are a fucking joke buddy
Her: I want to punch you in the face
Me: Calm down sweet cheeks. No violence.
Day after:
Her: Hehe I'm hung over.
Me: Still wana punch me in the face?
Her: blah blah
Me: set up the date
This is the fucking maximum amount of texting I would do. IMO I feel like I'm wasting time unless each text is progressing towards something.
Me: Yo its ____. Bearded douche from ____.
Her: hahaha
Her: how are you
Me: I'm good. My ride/friends left ___ so im at home. Thinking of driving back lol.
Her: Don't do it. Drunk driving isn't good.
Me: I'm sober yo
Her: Why did you leave then you fucking weirdo.
Me: My ride. I don't wana bus
Her: You didn't drink? You are just an asshole normally?
Me: I alternate between asshole and nice. Keeps the hos guessing.
Her: Yup
Me: Anyways ur hot as fuck and seem kinda kewl. I'm gona take you out.
Her: LMAO
Her: You are a fucking joke buddy
Her: I want to punch you in the face
Me: Calm down sweet cheeks. No violence.
Day after:
Her: Hehe I'm hung over.
Me: Still wana punch me in the face?
Her: blah blah
Me: set up the date
This is the fucking maximum amount of texting I would do. IMO I feel like I'm wasting time unless each text is progressing towards something.
Ah, I'm glad that you get it.
I don't like putting words in anyone's mouth but from what i've HEARD of the "jeffy style of texting", lmao, he would prob shit on this hard.
BUT
for what I'm doing, this is actually very good text "game"... it may not be the style that certain guys like, but for what it is, it is pretty solid text game. Too much rapport, yes, I should NOT have gone that deep over text, ESPECIALLY with THIS type of girl but, other than that... yeah this is really solid text game.
That being said- I agree with you about waiting until real life to ramp up the sexuality. being too sexual over text will get you a lot of flakes.
And yeah- this style of texting is def. more along the "manwhore" school of thought...
But I am genuinely curious how someone, using "jeffy style of texting" would have played this. Becuase I honesly do not think that she would have been down to meetup, if I had just gone for logistics/super short texting convo, since it was such a short iniital interaction.I think that my understanding of his style of texting is totally off, as well, so would love an example.
Does anyone have an example of what that may have looked like? I'm genuinley curious.
I don't like putting words in anyone's mouth but from what i've HEARD of the "jeffy style of texting", lmao, he would prob shit on this hard.
BUT
for what I'm doing, this is actually very good text "game"... it may not be the style that certain guys like, but for what it is, it is pretty solid text game. Too much rapport, yes, I should NOT have gone that deep over text, ESPECIALLY with THIS type of girl but, other than that... yeah this is really solid text game.
That being said- I agree with you about waiting until real life to ramp up the sexuality. being too sexual over text will get you a lot of flakes.
And yeah- this style of texting is def. more along the "manwhore" school of thought...
But I am genuinely curious how someone, using "jeffy style of texting" would have played this. Becuase I honesly do not think that she would have been down to meetup, if I had just gone for logistics/super short texting convo, since it was such a short iniital interaction.I think that my understanding of his style of texting is totally off, as well, so would love an example.
Does anyone have an example of what that may have looked like? I'm genuinley curious.
I practice the Jeffy school of "get the fucking meetup ASAP".
It has been working for me as of late. This doesn't mean I'm some sexual robot, it just means I wait for real life to ramp up the rapport and physicality.
If the girl is meeting up with you after giving you her number, she best know the deal. And if she doesn't, she's stupid enough that she probably doesn't need rapport.
So what I'd say is stop talking so damn much over text. But then again, that's not helpful since you are trying to develop "text game" where you can escalate things over text. I just don't find anything as salient as real life. Manwhore will strongly disagree and he is probably right, but I really don't feel bothered to waste my time texting some chick.
It has been working for me as of late. This doesn't mean I'm some sexual robot, it just means I wait for real life to ramp up the rapport and physicality.
If the girl is meeting up with you after giving you her number, she best know the deal. And if she doesn't, she's stupid enough that she probably doesn't need rapport.
So what I'd say is stop talking so damn much over text. But then again, that's not helpful since you are trying to develop "text game" where you can escalate things over text. I just don't find anything as salient as real life. Manwhore will strongly disagree and he is probably right, but I really don't feel bothered to waste my time texting some chick.
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Right,
So if a girl is down to meetup- she's going to meetup with you.
BUT
If she's not down to meetup, you're not going to convince her, VIA TEXT, to do something she was not going to do otherwise.
accurate?
So if a girl is down to meetup- she's going to meetup with you.
BUT
If she's not down to meetup, you're not going to convince her, VIA TEXT, to do something she was not going to do otherwise.
accurate?
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The only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn, like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars
A man may fall down many times, but he won't be a f ailure until he says someone pushed him"
Buddha
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/233192/forum
The only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn, like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars
A man may fall down many times, but he won't be a f ailure until he says someone pushed him"
Buddha
You got it homeboy. I use texting for screening.
I don't put any value in one girl or try to turn them around.
I don't put any value in one girl or try to turn them around.
Right,
So if a girl is down to meetup- she's going to meetup with you.
BUT
If she's not down to meetup, you're not going to convince her, VIA TEXT, to do something she was not going to do otherwise.
accurate?
So if a girl is down to meetup- she's going to meetup with you.
BUT
If she's not down to meetup, you're not going to convince her, VIA TEXT, to do something she was not going to do otherwise.
accurate?
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Fair enough.
So yeah, it's just different styles.
So yeah, it's just different styles.
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The only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn, like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars
A man may fall down many times, but he won't be a f ailure until he says someone pushed him"
Buddha
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/233192/forum
The only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn, like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars
A man may fall down many times, but he won't be a f ailure until he says someone pushed him"
Buddha
Yup, and I'll say when I stopped caring about whether or not the girl met up and just screening... I got way less flakes, way more lays, way better success in field...
I took Jeffy's Hot Seat and he is the reason I got into RSD in the first place. Jeffy Show 2 is the foundation of my game. So I just figured since I went to his hot seat and he spoke on text game I'd roll with that because I'd be better off with that than teaching myself my own process.
Then again, you will see I passed her shit tests on the phone and by keeping stuff brief and ASSUMING she will want to meet up you are showing her certain traits.
Definitely nothing wrong with trying to turn things around via text. Not for me or for most guys. You clearly have a little bit of a detail/feedback oriented style that requires time investment. This being said, I'd still keep it as minimalist as possible to reach your goals.
I took Jeffy's Hot Seat and he is the reason I got into RSD in the first place. Jeffy Show 2 is the foundation of my game. So I just figured since I went to his hot seat and he spoke on text game I'd roll with that because I'd be better off with that than teaching myself my own process.
Then again, you will see I passed her shit tests on the phone and by keeping stuff brief and ASSUMING she will want to meet up you are showing her certain traits.
Definitely nothing wrong with trying to turn things around via text. Not for me or for most guys. You clearly have a little bit of a detail/feedback oriented style that requires time investment. This being said, I'd still keep it as minimalist as possible to reach your goals.
Fair enough.
So yeah, it's just different styles.
So yeah, it's just different styles.
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Do you use a different style for different location meets though? I mean you met that girl in a club by the sounds of it, where she was drunk, at night and in a completely different atmosphere to Buddhagames who spoke to a girl during the day for 5 minutes as I understand it.
I think your texts work great for a drunk girl you were acting like a douche to in a club but would you have spoke the same way had you only had 5 minutes with her during the day?
I'm just curious, because myself I would have spoken more along the lines Buddhagames did with his 5 minute day game girl, but for a girl in a club I would have been much more like you.
It seems like a calibrated situational difference rather than a different text style generally.?
Not disagreeing with you, just curious to know how you would talk to a sober girl on her way to work.
I think your texts work great for a drunk girl you were acting like a douche to in a club but would you have spoke the same way had you only had 5 minutes with her during the day?
I'm just curious, because myself I would have spoken more along the lines Buddhagames did with his 5 minute day game girl, but for a girl in a club I would have been much more like you.
It seems like a calibrated situational difference rather than a different text style generally.?
Not disagreeing with you, just curious to know how you would talk to a sober girl on her way to work.
You got it homeboy. I use texting for screening.
I don't put any value in one girl or try to turn them around.
I don't put any value in one girl or try to turn them around.
Right,
So if a girl is down to meetup- she's going to meetup with you.
BUT
If she's not down to meetup, you're not going to convince her, VIA TEXT, to do something she was not going to do otherwise.
accurate?
So if a girl is down to meetup- she's going to meetup with you.
BUT
If she's not down to meetup, you're not going to convince her, VIA TEXT, to do something she was not going to do otherwise.
accurate?
This girl was sober at the club during "social mingling" time (9:30 PM-ish). We talked for 5-10 minutes. Nothing of substance. She just shit tested me for like the last 3 minutes.
I do the same thing for girls I meet during the day/evening. It's like Julien's video on "pre-calibrating". If I need to calibrate my text game I won't do it under the circumstances under which I met the girl, I will do it with some "social awareness" to the way she is reacting to my texts (which is way harder than real life where there's body language/tonality, another reason I try to push hard for the meetup instead of diddle-daddle on text).
I do the same thing for girls I meet during the day/evening. It's like Julien's video on "pre-calibrating". If I need to calibrate my text game I won't do it under the circumstances under which I met the girl, I will do it with some "social awareness" to the way she is reacting to my texts (which is way harder than real life where there's body language/tonality, another reason I try to push hard for the meetup instead of diddle-daddle on text).
Do you use a different style for different location meets though? I mean you met that girl in a club by the sounds of it, where she was drunk, at night and in a completely different atmosphere to Buddhagames who spoke to a girl during the day for 5 minutes as I understand it.
I think your texts work great for a drunk girl you were acting like a douche to in a club but would you have spoke the same way had you only had 5 minutes with her during the day?
I'm just curious, because myself I would have spoken more along the lines Buddhagames did with his 5 minute day game girl, but for a girl in a club I would have been much more like you.
It seems like a calibrated situational difference rather than a different text style generally.?
Not disagreeing with you, just curious to know how you would talk to a sober girl on her way to work.
I think your texts work great for a drunk girl you were acting like a douche to in a club but would you have spoke the same way had you only had 5 minutes with her during the day?
I'm just curious, because myself I would have spoken more along the lines Buddhagames did with his 5 minute day game girl, but for a girl in a club I would have been much more like you.
It seems like a calibrated situational difference rather than a different text style generally.?
Not disagreeing with you, just curious to know how you would talk to a sober girl on her way to work.
You got it homeboy. I use texting for screening.
I don't put any value in one girl or try to turn them around.
I don't put any value in one girl or try to turn them around.
Right,
So if a girl is down to meetup- she's going to meetup with you.
BUT
If she's not down to meetup, you're not going to convince her, VIA TEXT, to do something she was not going to do otherwise.
accurate?
So if a girl is down to meetup- she's going to meetup with you.
BUT
If she's not down to meetup, you're not going to convince her, VIA TEXT, to do something she was not going to do otherwise.
accurate?
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Yeah, I also am not going off "my own" style... I've had a lot of practice/training with manwhore
And I also have to say that since doing this style of texting, my numbers have converted much more consistently.
Plus- I enjoy texting and having a back and forth with a girl... It has its advantages and disadvantages but it is what it is. Similar to how, seemingly, most guys on this forum consider it "a chore" to text/talk to a girl... I genuinely enjoy it.
One thing that does confuse me is how guys are so willing to do in-person game but then when it coems to text it's like, "nah, fuck game... I'm just gonna go bare bones"... it's like- well, if that's your philosoophy, why don't you just go super bare bones in-person as well... is there somehow less value on a girl after she's givin you her number, than before?
Like, I'll spend 2000 dollars so that I can game a girl in-person, but then I'm not going to put any work in via text....
Like, I get the philosophy of screening and just assuming she's down to meet... but, then you gotta be consistent about it.
And, obviously, this isn't directed at you, in particular... You seem like you know what you're doing, actually... But for a lot of guys, this is def. something where I"m just like, "huh?"
And I also have to say that since doing this style of texting, my numbers have converted much more consistently.
Plus- I enjoy texting and having a back and forth with a girl... It has its advantages and disadvantages but it is what it is. Similar to how, seemingly, most guys on this forum consider it "a chore" to text/talk to a girl... I genuinely enjoy it.
One thing that does confuse me is how guys are so willing to do in-person game but then when it coems to text it's like, "nah, fuck game... I'm just gonna go bare bones"... it's like- well, if that's your philosoophy, why don't you just go super bare bones in-person as well... is there somehow less value on a girl after she's givin you her number, than before?
Like, I'll spend 2000 dollars so that I can game a girl in-person, but then I'm not going to put any work in via text....
Like, I get the philosophy of screening and just assuming she's down to meet... but, then you gotta be consistent about it.
And, obviously, this isn't directed at you, in particular... You seem like you know what you're doing, actually... But for a lot of guys, this is def. something where I"m just like, "huh?"
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The only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn, like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars
A man may fall down many times, but he won't be a f ailure until he says someone pushed him"
Buddha
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/233192/forum
The only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn, like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars
A man may fall down many times, but he won't be a f ailure until he says someone pushed him"
Buddha
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Really, Idk this chick at all you prob did the right thing.
MY Emotions are so emotional and stuff
I'll be fine once I get it.
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