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Recovered Alcoholics in RSD????????
Start with day game. When you get comfortable going into bars without the temptation to drink, you can build up your night game.
Never ever be tempted to order a drink. You have to learn to act uninhibited sober without using chemicals as a crutch.
Most alcoholics use alcohol as a way to get "in state." In other words, they get 'state' from their environment. A true master of seduction, as Julien & Tyler say, ping off of themselves, not the environment. Learning how is certainly a hard road, but if it were easy, everyone would be doing it.
Never ever be tempted to order a drink. You have to learn to act uninhibited sober without using chemicals as a crutch.
Most alcoholics use alcohol as a way to get "in state." In other words, they get 'state' from their environment. A true master of seduction, as Julien & Tyler say, ping off of themselves, not the environment. Learning how is certainly a hard road, but if it were easy, everyone would be doing it.
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Yeah dude, you're talking to one here. Under categories of Ex-Junky Ex-Alcoholic.
Well. Alcoholic might be a little strong -- a better way to put it is someone that drank until he became the biggest douche on the planet. Not the self-amusing kind, more like insult everyone you see and then pass out in his own vomit in the hallway. Very charming stuff happened a few too many times.
What kind of situations are you getting into that are uncomfortable or dangerous? Where other people are drinking or doing drugs? Well hell yeah it's uncomfortable. Get the fuck out of there man if you are second guessing whether or not you want to do it. It's a tough hurdle to jump and it's worth jumping. I don't talk to ANYONE that does cocain, and I didn't maintain my friendship with people who roll every other weekend. Because those things are fun as hell and I'll want to do them. Instead, I just see those people for what they are (a mirror of what I was, even) and I'm done with it, move up, move on.
Well. Alcoholic might be a little strong -- a better way to put it is someone that drank until he became the biggest douche on the planet. Not the self-amusing kind, more like insult everyone you see and then pass out in his own vomit in the hallway. Very charming stuff happened a few too many times.
What kind of situations are you getting into that are uncomfortable or dangerous? Where other people are drinking or doing drugs? Well hell yeah it's uncomfortable. Get the fuck out of there man if you are second guessing whether or not you want to do it. It's a tough hurdle to jump and it's worth jumping. I don't talk to ANYONE that does cocain, and I didn't maintain my friendship with people who roll every other weekend. Because those things are fun as hell and I'll want to do them. Instead, I just see those people for what they are (a mirror of what I was, even) and I'm done with it, move up, move on.
20 month sober and out of rehab.... amphetamine benzodiazepine alcoholic.... and yes cold approaching as a lifestyle is way better than the 12 steps.... especially if you follow the important rsd trends like exercise meditation working on self esteem and taking action with cold approaching...etc...
What I have found most value in is deffinatly regularly exercising and meditation... also balance is key, like being social with friends then there is nutrition... This will all make the recovery easyer... I wasnt able to start cold approaching untill just recently but I have discovered that for fixing broken self esteem taking right action ie cold approach rsd style is the abselute best
What I have found most value in is deffinatly regularly exercising and meditation... also balance is key, like being social with friends then there is nutrition... This will all make the recovery easyer... I wasnt able to start cold approaching untill just recently but I have discovered that for fixing broken self esteem taking right action ie cold approach rsd style is the abselute best
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30 day challenge coming soon
30 day challenge coming soon
Im actually currently working on creating a recovery program based on cold approaching...
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30 day challenge coming soon
30 day challenge coming soon
I'm on track to becoming an addiction counselor, LSD, weed, and extacy were my drugs of choice before I got sober.
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That was then... THIS IS NOW.
Going from being a drunk and using alcohol as a crutch to approaching sober has been a challenge. I had no (conscious) idea of how much I used alcohol to put me in state and give me the courage to escalate. I stayed out of bars for the first 2 months and now I can go back in no problem. It's up to you to decide. Once you make the decision it's easy.
That aside, it will take a lot of effort on your part to retrain your brain that it's "OK" to be in a bar sober, that no one else cares, and that as long as you're cool with it everyone else will be too.
That aside, it will take a lot of effort on your part to retrain your brain that it's "OK" to be in a bar sober, that no one else cares, and that as long as you're cool with it everyone else will be too.
me
i was a freaking alcoholic
i was a freaking alcoholic
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My Chode Confession (BACK IN MY RETARD TIMES LOL): http://www.rsdnation.com/node/233115/forum?page=3
My journal (INDEX IS IN FIRST PAGE OF JOURNAL) http://www.rsdnation.com/node/227409/forum (Current: 10th 30 DAY-JOURNEY TO AWESOMENESS and my JOURNEY TO THE MILLIONARIE)
GPS in Peru: www.nvzglobal.com
My Chode Confession (BACK IN MY RETARD TIMES LOL): http://www.rsdnation.com/node/233115/forum?page=3
My journal (INDEX IS IN FIRST PAGE OF JOURNAL) http://www.rsdnation.com/node/227409/forum (Current: 10th 30 DAY-JOURNEY TO AWESOMENESS and my JOURNEY TO THE MILLIONARIE)
GPS in Peru: www.nvzglobal.com
Thanks for the feedback.
Some of you asked about the sticky situations. Let me think of some scenarios, as well as, some that have happened in my limited time in pick up.
Actually, I don’t think specific situations are relevant, it’s just this: I have multiple felonies on my record, that’s how bad drugs got a hold of me. So I wasn’t just a problem drinker, I was the real deal. 10 treatment centers later, homelessness, and my longest stay was a year in jail.
Someone mentioned the 12 steps, I have done them, and it’s a process that has been around for thousands of years. Many spiritual disciplines call for honest self-appraisal, and rigorous honesty. This is the true answer as the 12 step programs are concerned, but therein lays the problem. Honestly, let’s face it guys, there is a lot of dishonest manipulation that will go on hear, in the world of pick-up; if you really want to be successful.
I guess I will need to find my nitch, somewhere between a naturalist “fuck girls anywhere anytime” to a “nice guy”, but it will be a difficult balance. Anyway that’s why I was asking everyone, hoping some would be further down this road I envision for myself.
I was happy to see how adamant Tyler is about not drinking, but I once saw a clip of him talking about this one chick making him drink, or he wasn’t going to get to fuck her, so he did it……………… That would be a major mistake for me.
Some of you asked about the sticky situations. Let me think of some scenarios, as well as, some that have happened in my limited time in pick up.
Actually, I don’t think specific situations are relevant, it’s just this: I have multiple felonies on my record, that’s how bad drugs got a hold of me. So I wasn’t just a problem drinker, I was the real deal. 10 treatment centers later, homelessness, and my longest stay was a year in jail.
Someone mentioned the 12 steps, I have done them, and it’s a process that has been around for thousands of years. Many spiritual disciplines call for honest self-appraisal, and rigorous honesty. This is the true answer as the 12 step programs are concerned, but therein lays the problem. Honestly, let’s face it guys, there is a lot of dishonest manipulation that will go on hear, in the world of pick-up; if you really want to be successful.
I guess I will need to find my nitch, somewhere between a naturalist “fuck girls anywhere anytime” to a “nice guy”, but it will be a difficult balance. Anyway that’s why I was asking everyone, hoping some would be further down this road I envision for myself.
I was happy to see how adamant Tyler is about not drinking, but I once saw a clip of him talking about this one chick making him drink, or he wasn’t going to get to fuck her, so he did it……………… That would be a major mistake for me.
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Thanks for the feedback! It will take me time, but I will be free!!! To be free is why anyone drinks, beyond socially; its why a lot of dudes do it to play the game. Well trust me; I remember way back when I didn’t need pick-up - that was fake though. I highly value this notion of conquering fear 100% sober, and will do so!
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dandan1712
Junior Member
Join Date: 08/07/2012 | Posts: 24
I was hoping I could find some other fellas that are into pick-up that are recovered/recovering alcoholics. For people like me I am presented with some different challenges and I really would appreciate support for these issues. Basically, for an X hard-core junkie/alcoholic like me, some situations can be very dangerous, or at least very uncomfortable.
Any feedback would be great……..