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December 3rd, 2016
Resetting After a Hot Streak: My 80/20 on Outer Game
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Cat

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I often go through hot streaks where my emotional highs and delusional self-confidence carry me reeeeally far.  I'll totally forget about my process and just ride that wave. It's fucking sick.  Usually it lasts a few weeks.  I had a run of 7 new girls in 15 days after bootcamp, held on to three of them and have been fucking them endlessly during the month of July.  Thanks Tyler and Jeff, your lessons hit me subconsciously.  And I'm where I'm at now: TIME TO RESET AND HIT THE FUNDAMENTALS HARD.

As of today, these are the "Fundamentals To Reset My Process".  I focus on these parts of the game every night I go out and have during my times of "normal results".  So far these help me a ton.

**Note: this is not new information, this is just emphasizing the minimum I can focus on that produces "great nights" for me.  I define "great nights" as executing and being in an emotionally high zone.   Cool results "correlate highly" with great nights but not always by any means.**

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The WHOLE Night:
 Hit hit hit hit hit hit hit hit hit  // Always be in set

Approaching (Hitting):
 Eye contact
 Loud
 Slow down everything
 Smile

After She Hooks:
 Move her around

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And that's it.

No fancy bells and whistles, no crazy focus on words or framing or drama or body language.  Minimal shit to think about which I find is crucial. 

I just make sure that I'm ALWAYS talking to a girl, that I'm looking her in the eyes, being LOUD, and CALMING MYSELF DOWN.  When I find that girl that is into it, the only thing I need to focus on is just moving us around.  

The rest really takes care of itself.  Escalating, numbers, makeout, grabbing food, going home together.  Those are things that arise naturally (for me) from these very few behaviors.  80/20 at it's finest.

I'd be VERY interested in knowing WHAT ARE YOU 80/20 BEHAVIORS TO RE-GROUND YOURSELF WHEN YOU KNOW YOU NEED TO HIT THE FUNDAMENTALS/PROCESS HARD?
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When I need to reset I just down a bunch of Kombucha.
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By seriously, I do Dave's famous mall exercise, that shit will obliterate everything.
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Very simple, just great. This is what I needed  right now
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Hey Cat, I think we briefly met at Hotseat/free tour.

Seems like a great list of fundimentals, I assume you have verbal content down. What do you mean when you say loud? Like at certain points elevate your volume, pound on the table, just have a calm tone thats always loud but not yelling? What exactly are you thinking?
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I speak clearly, slowly, and loud enough so that people around me can hear.  This shows a lot of confidence.  Mostly it's just "be loud enough". 

This also means that when you want to approach a hottie who is walking by you in the club you do have to yell to stop her.  Loud really just means COMMITING to hitting on her.

In terms of verbal game, I do not think there is such a thing as "verbal content".  I sound like a normal chode with the words, but HOW I SAY THEM is how I flirt.  And how I'm looking at her and smiling.  So while my words might be exactly the same as a noob, I am LOOSE from hitting so much (noobs do not approach enough) and I am EXPRESSING FLIRTATION by being loose, smiling, calm, loud.  
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Hey Cat, I think we briefly met at Hotseat/free tour.

Seems like a great list of fundimentals, I assume you have verbal content down. What do you mean when you say loud? Like at certain points elevate your volume, pound on the table, just have a calm tone thats always loud but not yelling? What exactly are you thinking?
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Actually the main shit is not really "game" related.

1. Get a haircut.  Shave.  Brush my teeth.  Shower.  Wear good clothes.  [AKA increasing self-love and self-respect]
2. Stop jerking off.  Meditate.  More tea.  Less coffee.  [AKA slowing it down and reducing impulsivity]
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What exactly do you mean by 80/20 behaviors???
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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pareto_principle

Basically doing an 80/20 analysis means sorting out which "few things" you do create the "most outputs / success". 

So when I do this I just focus on the BARE MINIMUM that will produce most of best nights.  
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"Slowing down" is my way of saying to myself: relax, take the pressure off, this isn't a big deal.

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What I find is that after the first few approaches where I'm "catching my breath", I find that I've good social energy, I'm calibrated, I'm loose, and I'm relaxed.  During nights like these I naturally slow down my talking, my breathing, my frequency of talking, the time it takes for me to respond, a lot of difference in the pacing / rhythm of my speech and eye contact.  

But doing 80/20 I sorta "know" that if I focus on "relaxing myself" as "a tactic" after each approach and bigging myself up for DOING SOMETHING/ANYTHING, I get in the zone much faster.  So I say to myself, slow the fuck down, smile, take your time.  Now when I'm super on and I kill it first thing this isn't necessary, but I know that if I do this every day, I will get better, faster.

Sometimes I go out and I'll get in an emotional rut where I'll feel like "I need to be doing something all the time".  I don't.  What I need to do is slow down and further take the pressure off of myself and relax and just keep hitting.  

Enjoy MAKING MOVES BABY, this shit is fun as fuck and when it's on, it's ON.

TL;DR:

Slowing down outer game: slow down you pace of speech.
Slowing down inner dialogue: this is a big experiment so relax, take your time, this isn't a big deal, enjoy it.
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So what do you talk about? Just regular conversation except with a slow, confident, and sexual rhythm?
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