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December 7th, 2016
Not taking action feel so much shittier than getting rejected
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Ballgames

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So last night I didn't take as much action as I'm used to... it was an off night but it's okay... I got dates set up for every night except tomorrow for the rest of the week but tomorrow I will BEAST.

Anyway- was texting some of the dudes I go out with from rsd and we all agreed:

NOT TAKING ACTION FEELS SHITTIER THAN ANY REJECTION YOU COULD POSSIBLY GET

It's a great lesson and a great understanding to have. If you are doubting yourself at all... just do the approach, the rejections don't feel bad at all... It's not taking action that feels shitty.

Get it done, baby.
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Sunny667

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yeah, it does. some nights of zero action. I feel like shit and promise that will change.
anyway in the morning, the pain is gone and the action is limited.
how to keep the pain alive?
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Burton2

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This is so true realized this last night
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Paris Boum Boum

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When you get rejected, it may or may not sting a little bit. If you don't care about what you can't control, it fades away quickly. 

When you don't even approach, you feel like a fucking piece of shit, Lord ChodeMcPhaggott, and you feel bad for 4+ hours - then for your whole life because you're a loser.

Nice post. 
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Magellan

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Agreed NO action is a million times worse then getting blown out. I actually don't care if I get blown out. My friend and I were out last night. We were sitting next to a famous chick and he opened her and had a great interaction. I winged her friend as he was doing money.

I Got blown out a few times after but all we talked about was the first set. Both were into Tolle and cool. Other people obviously knew who she was but we were the only ones who approached.

If we did not approach the regret would hold more weight then a lay from another chick.

Its like not taking a shot at basketball. Just shoot the fucking ball!
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Kapangus

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 Yep, thats true man. I 'm one of them. You feel frustrated , like shit and like again.
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Magellan

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Right! I still think about the chicks I did not approach years later! REGRET is a virus to be avoided at all costs.
SpikeSpiegel wrote:
I remember a couple of bad blowouts from when I was first starting. When the infamous minotaur told me to go on a fattie and I immediately put my hands on her waist and she said "get the fuck off buddy" and pushed me away as hard as she could. Then minotaur told me to go back in on her. It was not pleasant.

I also remember approaching my university's entire female volleyball team and getting ignored and laughed at the whole time. 

There's also a couple blowouts from girls who are my perfect tens aka the girls that look so good it hurts your feelings. I remember one that told me to go away immediately on approaching, and I said something like "you gotta give me a second" and she get extremely pissed and said "NO I REALLY DON'T, FUCK OFF"

Yeah they sucked in the moment, but I actually LOVE those experiences now because they are a part of my thicker skin. The pain goes away and transforms into something good over time.

Now the only painful emotion that doesn't go away is fucking REGRET. 

I still remember that cute cute girl that kept staring at me at the nightclub the whole night three thursdays ago. But I was too "solo and out of state durr."
And I remember all the girls in college that wanted me to make a move on them so badly but i was such a faggot expecting them to be the brave/confident ones and do all the work.
i still remember that HOT ass girl walking down the mall in Honolulu by herself just begging to be approached and all i could do was stalk behind her for 10 minutes as she walked slowly to her car. 

UGH

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