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May 24th, 2017
Topics for Julien and myself to record vBlogs on while in Hawaii
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#41

Bowss

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Join Date: 07/22/2012 | Posts: 273

1) As an addition to some of Julien's stuff on pulling, just a really quick thing on ways to pull to hers. Obviously strength of interaction, assuming it, freedom from outcome, babystepping it etc. (I've also used food at hers or something interesting she's told me about herself she could show me), but ways for her to rationalise it? For half the year I live with my parents which makes mine that late at night v. tough and don't have the money for a hotel room or car or whatever. I think a lot of other young guys have this too.

2) Practical differences and pros and cons of high intensity game (hitting sets hard and direct with massive emotion/drama) as compared to relaxed game (lower intensity, longer duration, later 'target' selection). For example high intensity also seemingly needing more qualification (even when I've 'ridden the emotional wave' hard without falling, I've had hot girls freak out when I say let's go cos they know if they come they will get fucked, even if I've logically dealt with this), whereas relaxed chatting game can be too friend to friend. Also, the different time frames, transitioning to a more relaxed interaction after high intensity and relevance to different venues/ scenarios (+anything else!)

3) Working on densifying different areas for long-term growth vs. going for results (Tyler has covered this a bit, but more would be awesome)

4) Sticking points: how to find them, how to remove them

5) Leverage for QUICK rationalisation destruction: catchphrases (gun to your head, how are you gonna live your dreams, no reason i'm not enough, throw yourself in, etc.). An issue I have without momentum is that although I will often approach hotties like that, it's not always immediate and knowing they've noticed me it feels weak not going fast. So also something about out of state/ without momentum approaches on girls who you'd be interested in (on top of 'just do it...')

6) the relationship between not living in reaction, getting good at executing intent in work despite emotion etc.; and the parallels in approaching and game in general

7) Ways to improve at game other than going out (meditation, improv, learning to execute.... +....)

Cheers. Your stuff is insane. Gonna book hotseat asap
T
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#42
Robert Paulson aka Captain Creepy

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Join Date: 05/14/2012 | Posts: 20

YO BRO!!  MY vid request  would be, how do you tune your R.A.S? I didnt even know wtf a R.A.S. wuz until you pulled my coat (thanx by the way). Now that i know what it is how do i make it work for me instead of against me?  A couple of months ago i was runnin in the park and i was tryin to step out of my comfort zone by sayin hi to every1 who crossed my path. Anyway i came across ( i WISH i came on, no! better yet came in LoL) a two set that looked like a mother daughter set. They both were fuckables but like the daughter  was SUPER cute . Im like Hi! and the young one was all smiles and strong eye contact, and im thinkin im prolly too old for her and later im like i should of found out . Idk i think im to  much of a nice guy when it comes to chix. How do i get rid of all these chode paradigms? ive NEVER been needy or desperate, ive always had a one strike  and your out policy. i could  next any chick in a hart beat. im more of an awkward and creepy typ of guy . Im creepy in the way of being to quiet and not knowin what to say or how to escalate. one time i grabbed a hot chicks ass and she freaked da fuck out and im like dont try that again lol. A few other R.A.S. malfuntions that constantly fuck me over ( im my own worst cock block) is : Chicks dont want sex dont take advantage of them. She has a boyfriend or husband dont take advantage of her. last month i had a married chick tell me she wanted to fuck me and my R.A.S. told me shes married . my intent was all fucked up i wanted to fuck but i guess i wanted to be morally sound as well smh. Or my R.A.S. will tell me im too out of shape or it will tell me dont open that set. if you do it prolly will hook and you wont know what to do next . should i jus ask her to cum over to my place or should i ask her to go out somewhere? My R.A.S. keeps me clueless, i miss soooo many windows. at the gym hot chix proximity me and my R.A.S. is like she came to the gym to workout not get laid, she prolly got a bf anyway . today this sexy chick was walkin towards me and she had a chode wit her. she slows down he dosent notice and keeps goin . she completly stops opens me wit a indirect opener (can i use your phone) . anyway later when im walkin to my car tha dude kept lookin at me like he was madd and im like WTF. so i mean mug him til he looks away . thats when it dawned on me that the chick was tryin to pick me up! FUCK!! Does Meditation cure a chode R.A.S.?  either way i think i would benifit alot from meditation. also in your meditation vid could you explain the difference between meditation and hypnosis or a trance. is there a difference? do you do yoga? also mayB you could post one of your meditation sessions at the end of the vid after you finish explainin it so i could see what it look like. like where would you do it what type of chair you use. do you suppose to us incense or sum shit do you talk to yourself while your doin it etc ?

i think another good vid idea would be about expression. mayB you could explain how you are able to express yourself so well . the first thing i noticed bout you is how u speak soo clearly. you enunciate every word. and there is a wide range of expression in your voice as opposed to that borin soundin visine commercial motherfucker.  how you transition through so many facial expressions so skillfully. your able to go from hapE facial expressions, to funE facial expressions to serious alpha facial expressions. one time i went into the gym and a really social guy was like why you look sooo madd and im thinkin wtf is he talkin bout? im hapE im havin a great day. im thinkin my facial expressions are black and white tv resolution while yours is in 3D Hi Def lol . Your body language is gud as fuck as well , you talk wit your hands alot and shit . How can a chode develope this typ of shit, or was you always soooo polished? on your infield vid i noticed you make strong eye contact wit the chicks julien too. how did you guys master that? for ex. last week i ran into a chick i use to fuck at the supermarket . she was like hey! and i was like hey wuzup. at 1st she seemed like she wasnt happy to see me then im thinkin i dont give a fuck i nexted her anyway ( i really shouldnt have) then all of a sudden she was like she got a bf and then she starts make'n sexual eye contact wit me like she wanted me to fuck her in the parkin lot. i use to fuck her in the back seat of her fiance at the times car smh she told him i was her cuzin , when i meet him he was all excited to be my friend and shit . i felt like a scum bag afterwards . anyway i couldnt match this chicks eye contact. how do you make porn star eye contact as opposed to creepy eye contact. when i try it i feel like im doin it wrong..

As for Julien, WUZUP BRO!! my question for you would be. when it comes to givin these chicks the drama they soo desperately need. when is the rite time to start dishin it out? on a chick you jus met and a chick you been kickin it wit for a while? and like how do you know when the drama is needed? and how much? like is it possible to over do it? you could open any set prolly , how would you open a set wit chick who was wit her dad? would you still be able to make out on open ? i seen a chick the other day i wanted to close thats why i ask.

i dont know if any of these would be gud vid topics, jus brainstormin, tryin to add value thats all. RSDnation is my nu family tree, i love you motherfuckers like blood Relatives.  

 live long and prosper!!
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#43
tonyson

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Join Date: 03/31/2012 | Posts: 73

Yo man do this one for us bro 

talk about bonners and how sometimes its hard to get them even when a girl is ready to go. has this ever happened to you has it changed since you got more expierence thanks tyler/Julian tulian....
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#44

Porifaural

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Join Date: 05/14/2012 | Posts: 33

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#45

TheSteak

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Join Date: 03/07/2012 | Posts: 51

Talk about natural introversion and extroversion and natural passiveness and agressiveness. By beeing an introvert you restore energy by beeing alone, by beeing more extrovert u do so by beeing with people. Most people on the forum are probably introverts. And usually u like more deep discussions, u like quality over quanitity when it comes to friend, u need less stimulation. I think that from RSD you are coming across as people should act more extrovertly than be their natural self, which is not as talkative, more quiet. Most people mix up introversion as beeing anti social or shy, not always the case. Maybe you can look into the subject a little bit better and explain it more and how to align it with your style?
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#46

egotrippin

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Join Date: 06/30/2012 | Posts: 146

 girl-friending girls, how often do you girlfriend a girl, and how do you typically do it? after how many hangouts? do you say it exclusively like "we're dating" or just keep seeing them and let it be assumed or what?
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#47
jboy1967

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Join Date: 09/21/2010 | Posts: 16

 Tyler,

You have provided some invaluable insight on everything to be done in-field. Assuming one understand the fundamentals enough, social dynamics, one's self, and lives from a place of abundance, one should not encounter issues with a woman.

However, I am very curious as to how you handle all the logistics with your girlfriend/ mother of your children. How do handle her jelousy of you being with other women? How do you treat her? In essence what is the frame? You make is clear that she is your girlfriend, but she also holds a special role. 

I, and I am sure others on the forum might be very interested in how you hold a well balance relationship while still being a gangster. I am in a bit of a limbo, as I really like a girl, but I will not give up my lifestyle. So ultimately how should I go about it with her. She says she is going to let me live my life, but I can tell she constantly has that worry/jelousy on her mind even though she doesn't want to.

Thanks again for all your input.

-Jay
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Sheen

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Join Date: 06/16/2008 | Posts: 567

jboy1967 wrote:
 Tyler,

You have provided some invaluable insight on everything to be done in-field. Assuming one understand the fundamentals enough, social dynamics, one's self, and lives from a place of abundance, one should not encounter issues with a woman.

However, I am very curious as to how you handle all the logistics with your girlfriend/ mother of your children. How do handle her jelousy of you being with other women? How do you treat her? In essence what is the frame? You make is clear that she is your girlfriend, but she also holds a special role. 

I, and I am sure others on the forum might be very interested in how you hold a well balance relationship while still being a gangster. I am in a bit of a limbo, as I really like a girl, but I will not give up my lifestyle. So ultimately how should I go about it with her. She says she is going to let me live my life, but I can tell she constantly has that worry/jelousy on her mind even though she doesn't want to.

Thanks again for all your input.

-Jay


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#49

Rakeem

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Join Date: 05/28/2010 | Posts: 36

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#50

Rakeem

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Join Date: 05/28/2010 | Posts: 36

Topics that in my mind need clarification . :


How to get balls vs how to get over social anxiety. 

 In my opionion theese are two seperate but related processes and guys get them all mixed up. Coldapproaching is good for learning to deal with negative emotions, growning balls( pushing through fear) and get reference experience BUT for breaking nasty though patterns thats heavily ingrained in your neurology its not really usefull and other processes are needed. Cold approaching does take a lot of willpower and I think the first like year or so that should be the main focus but if you are still not getting results after a year then you should reasess what you are doing wrong ( I did go out for like four years and my social anxiety was still high, but I was one of theese very screwed up self hating people who would have probably shoot up some high school if I did not commit to this pursuit 100%)
Theres a lot of "dont be a fucking pussy" going around and I really feel like theese guys a lot of time simply dont understand how the mind works and how for a lot of people, there is a need for a more balanced view of how to get results. I think that should include things like doing martial arts, going to the gym, getting a therapist etc - but at the same time still with a heavy focus that if this is not balanced with a lot approaching, its just self helf help masturbation and not oriented to real permanent change. One thing that I think its really important to mention here is the need to hang out with people who dont feed in to your reality all the time and can call you out on your bs so you can actually move past it- this is ofcourse mentioned in other videos but it needs to hammered  to infinity becouse theres always gonna be a mass of people that think that the best thing to do is get tons of friends with exactly the same beliefs as themselves so they can sit in a circle jerk and never evolve.

Assertivness over dominance.

I think the word dominance assumes the need for control over other people, wich in itself is bad . A lot of people in this community seem to like this word, becouse it fits in to a simplistic world view where the superdominant alphas walks around women left and rigth - but reality is not black and white like that. Assertivness is a much better concept that assumes that you dont react to other people, you just put your opinions , feeling and though out there and you have clear boundaries for other peoples bullshit. Assertivness is much more related to real self esteem.

Give out openers thats routine based but not pussyfied.

Another thing I think would be really usefull is actually start to give out openers that are both funny and ballsy from the get go. Theres waaaaaaay to much focus on the idea that the words dont matter. When you got down your belief systems and mindset, of course they dont really matter becouse by then your a real as fucker who stand shoulders above people who dont think for themselves and who are not assertive, but the process to get there (in my opionion) is much easier if you get something to say thats really stretching your comfort zone and give you a taste to the rigth attitude. Theres this rocker guy from LA teaching this type of openers ( you do now who I talk about )  and I think its great stuff. Its not trying to hide behind magic routine, its things that when you say them you cant out becouse its built in that you have to step hard - so the opener becomes a help for internalization and not a weaksauce of an excuse to talk to girls.

A video on why everyone is cut from the same cloth

Give a logical and scientific argument for this thesis with plenty of examples. Of course this is going to be flammed by fags that thinks it deviates from todays "worship the average, remove the outlier, you are your genes  " type science but I think it would help guys that really have a lot of self doubt to see things a bit clearer.
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