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December 10th, 2016
My quest to plow girls like a field (FR)
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sunshine

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Join Date: 07/16/2012 | Posts: 148

I finally took the plunge and created an account!

heres my background:

First off,
a lot of times this feels like my theme song (along with every other chode haha) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ajcGDaLy4Zw&feature=relmfu



For the past year I have known about RSD and have been going out with my friends every weekend but didn't really take this stuff seriously until I went to Hotseat a month ago. Since then I have been going out about 4 days a week. I got into RSD philosophies because my best friend introduced it to me, and now some of my closest friends are the guys I go out with every weekend. Hell of a journey we are on!

I am naturally a pretty outgoing person and when Im feeling good I can have amazing interactions with girls. At this point I am able to get makeouts every weekend but have yet to get laid through cold
approach (with the exception of one time when this girl approached me and Matt281, Im sure he wrote about it in his field report). For the past couple weeks I have been so close to getting lays but they have always fallen through! I live far from the city where we go out so I never have the option of bringing girls to my place.

During this past year Ive watched my friends grow through gaming and it’s inspiring! These guys have paved the way for me and now Im heading down that road.

My biggest weaknesses:


1)Getting started early in the night (I stand around for about 2 hours but go hard afterwards) I usually just try to chill and absorb the atmosphere during the first two hours but I realize that Im wasting valuable time that could be used to approach women.


2)being aggressive/physical. My friends have pushed me a lot recently to get way more physical and I can already see it paying off, but I am nowhere near as physical as my friends.

3) Taking rejections personally

4) CLOSING! I feel like Ive hit a wall, Ive been progressing a lot lately and have had situations in which I was 100 percent sure I was going to get laid, but something always goes wrong!

Here are two recent journal entries (Ive started journaling with the intent of copying and pasting it on this thread)

a) adjunkie texted to come to this Bar he was at immediately. Went I got there he had two girls so I took one of them and charmed the hell out of her! I was killing it! She was very reserved and didn’t trust me but I broke through that. adjunkie said lets have an afterparty at his place so we headed over to his house (which is fuckin amazing btw, awesome view!) .My girl and I bonded like crazy, we flirted a lot out on adjunkie’s balcony, adjunkie takes his girl up to his room ( his girl was hella into him!) then I went for a makeout and my girl rejected me! She has a BF of 1 year. I was so close! Ugh. I should have made out with her at the bar just to see if she was DTF instead of assuming that she is. Anyways I drove her home and she talked about how amazing I am and how I earned her trust and stuff. W/E I still didn’t get it in.

b) I saw Matt281do the sickest open! He made eye contact with this really hot girl and just gestured for her to come to him. She swam through a sea of people just to get to him! He got physical right away and talked to her. Eventually her friend came around so I grabbed her and got physical. We both talked to our girls outside of Amber (a bar) for about 15 minutes then Matt281’s girl had to pee so we went inside Amber. They peed then came back and we all danced for 15 mins in amber. Then we all left and headed for Matt281’s place for an afterparty . My girl was giving a lot of resistance, I could tell she wanted it but she was also going to be the “responsible one” but we eventually got to his place and my girl said we are only stopping for water then leaving. So we got water, talked for a bit and then my girl said they had to girl because Matt281’s girl had to work in the morning. So Matt281 and I gave them a ride to their car, which was parked a couple miles away. I made out with my girl when we said goodbye and she was totally feeling up on me I could tell she was turned on. I should have told her that she and I should finish the afterparty at her place or something but I didnt.


Anyways, this is where I am at now. I have several other similar stories to the ones above, and it gets really frustrating that Im so close yet it always falls apart in the end. I will start writing about my nights from now on!
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Matt281

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Bout time boi! Little do you know but you're already famous :p
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nice dude. im jealous. it seems you got some pretty experienced and dedicated wings to help you grow!
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sunshine

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 @novel: for sure, to be honest I probably wouldnt even have the balls to do this if it wasnt for my crew. That being said, if you're doing this solo then power to you bro! I went out solo for the first time two weeks ago and it was hard but eventually i broke through and had a great night! 

@Matt: haha thanks for the nickname bro
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 Monday 7/16:

Went to a club in the Hill (amazing on Mondays!). I had an awesome interaction with this hot blonde girl early in the night, nothing physical but some great bantering. In my head I thought "now I have a potential girl to follow up on later in the night" but I learned later that if you snooze you lose. Adjunkie came through about an hour later and like a boss he went straight up to that girl (not knowing that I had even talked to her) and started dancing with her. Lesson learned! I can't ever think "its too early to go up to that girl again" because any minute some other dude can swoop right in and take her before I get a chance to follow up. 

It was a tough night for me because I was feeling very awkward about getting physical. My eyes weren't even seeing opportunities that I usually take. Thinking back, it wasnt until today that I realized that this Indian girl last night totally pursued me. She came and asked me when the dancefloor was opening pretty early in the night because she "thought I was a bouncer" I bantered with her a bit but then I ditched it like a pussy. later on when the dancefloor opened up she happened to pass by me and we started talking again but this time i was very awkward, asking her stupid questions about what she does for a living and shit. She was cool though, and offered me some of her drink, so I took a sip. I tried dancing with her a little bit but she was a terrible dancer and I can't deal with that so I ditched. She came up to me a little later and said "this is a wierd question but do you know where I can get some drugs for my friend?" I said "sorry hun you're asking the wrong guy!" An hour later I was chilling and she popped out of the crowd and tapped me on the shoulder just to say whats up, but this time I finally had momentum going from previous sets so I grabbed her and started dancing with her, this time I was controlling everything. We were getting hella close and at one point she thought I was going in to makeout with her so she leaned in and closed her eyes (i actually wasnt trying to makeout with her lol) so I decided to madeout with her for a little bit but then her friend came and her demeaner totally changed. I wasnt very into her so I ditched.

I had some other good sets throughout the night but none of them amounted to anything. I had a good conversation with this beautiful girl but I was too much of a to even get her number and she eventually left. The thing I did well is I kept pushing myself to approach last night and didn't let any of the rejections get to me, I just laughed them off. After the club Adjunkie, Matt281, and I did some street game. I approached this decent blonde girl and simply said "how was your night?" and she wouldnt even answer me, but I stuck around and befriended her asian friend. But this was one of the strangest sets i have done because they were totally messing around with me, trying to pass me off to one another. I left them but ran into them again later, and the asian girl was trying to get the blonde girl to give me her phone number but she kept giving me a fake number  (like 1234567...lol) so I ditched them. i opened some more girls but most were blowouts. Later Matt281 and I were next to his car talking about the night when two girls across the street stopped to pee in a parking lot. I yelled to them "are you playing patty cake!?" and one of the girls got really excited and said "yea!". They werent that cute but after they peed they walked across the street to us and I started talking to them because they totally looked DTF (Matt wasnt feeling them so he let me try this set ) but somehow I managed to screw this one up haha because they eventually walked off, I think it was because I was joking too much.

Matt281 noticed that I tend to overgame and joke around too much. This was a great observation because thinking back on the past couple times Ive gone out, most of my sets were just me goofing around and being witty/funny, which is great to hook the girl but after a while Im sure it gets old and i need to get more serious/sexual. Im going to work on this next time Im out for sure!
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about motherfuckin time sunshine! 

haha

Reading that last report made me think about something alex said.  You+time gets the girl.  The longer you stay in, the better of a chance you have of closing the deal.  Something to keep in mind the next time you're with a hot girl and you get the urge to pre-ejectulate ;)

Good to see you on here man. 
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 Haha great point actually. I tend to bail on sets rather quickly. I noticed you're hella persistant! Something Im working on.
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yeS!! finally brother
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 I have been out of town for a few weeks so I was away from the game for a bit. But I am back! 

8/2: Monday

Matt281, Brother and I went to an area of the city where the girls are super hot but tend to be very stuck up/full of themselves. 

I arived early and was alon for about 1 1/2 hours so I decided to try to have a good time on my own in order to get myself in a good mood to approach (this method works for me, I have a great time then I approach and have much more success than if I jumped right into approaching). At the first club I was at, the DJ played a Michael Jackson song and so I went to the dancefloor and danced by myself. A group of girls was dancing nearby and one of them came up to me and grabbed me, she said "you need to come dance with us!" so I went and danced with her group and then with her. She was very into it and looked she wanted to get fucked. The funny thing is she is I soon found out her husband was there as well, so I ditched her and started hitting on her cute friend "L" , the ineraction went great but I bailed after a while (another issue I need to work on, I need to stay in sets until they are burned to the ground, I tend to bail too early). I ran into these girls again 10 minutes later as they were leaving and I talked to "L", telling her she should stay. She was going to stay with me but I found out she has a husband and kid at home so I got the hell out of there! I do not mess with girls who are married. Regardless, I cannot stress how important it is for me to have a good time when I am out, if I am genuinly just having a blast then girls will even open me or present themselves to me. So I suggest you guys try it if you are struggling! You will be amazed at how much easier it is to open girls, and at how many girls will come up to you. Im not the prettiest guy so there is no reason why girls should approach me, if it works for me Im sure it will work for you! just make sure you are genuinly having a good time, it also builds up your confidence. 

I went to another club, it was pretty empty except for some cute girls dancing up on a stage. One of them was wearing sunglasses so I said to her "are you seriously wearing sunglasses in the club?" and her reaction was actually pretty nice, she just laughed and took them off. I talked to her for 30 seconds, being witty then I mentioned how the music sucked, she totally agreed and said we should talk to the DJ about it. So I helped her down from the stage and she held my hand as she led me (I know, we should always be leading the girl but its kind of hot when a girl does it to you!) to the DJ, he said he doesnt take requests. I told her to go to the other club with me, she said she had to stay with her friends but theyll go there soon. I hugged her goodbye, I notice she kind of pecked my neck, so I said "come on, give me a real kiss" and we made out for about 10 seconds. This is the quickest makeout close I have ever done! The whole interaction was maybe 3 minutes tops!

As Im heading back to the first club Im getting on an escalator at the same time as two girls, I said "ladies first" and they were like "oh thats so nice!" then one of them said "are you wearing a snap-button shirt?" and I said yes, then she grabbed my shirt and yanked, makikng all the buttons unbutton at the same time. Anyways I hung out with them for a while in the club but they were not that cute so I eventually said I had to go. One of them said to me "You need to keep wearing cool shirts like that, if you weren't lame and leaving, you would probably get some tonight" haha I probably should of stayed but compared to the other girls in the area they were not very cute so I had to shoot for the stars. I met up with Matt281 and went to this new club we had never been to. This club had like 15 super hot girls all around a table in the center and it felt very unwelcoming. Brother also showed up. 

After getting off to a strong start this night, I started getting multiple rejections at this club because these girls were unlike most Ive ever opened. These girls were so bitchy! I tried even asking a simple question like "what are you guys celebrating tonight?" and one girl just glared at me, then walks right passed me lol. i need to figure out how to talk to 9s and 10s who think they are the shit. Perhaps I need to say something outrageous or something to put them down so it throws them out of their rhythm. Any input on this is appreciated! 
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 8/3: Friday 

Went out with Brother and Matt281, and my other buddy who has a screenname on here, Just dont know what it is yet. This was a pretty rough night, I was really tired because I only slept a few hours the night before. At a bar Brother and I opened two girls, one of which he already knew from a class he took with her. My girl and I had a great interaction, she was loving my jokes and stuff, eventually her friends left her alone with me to talk (I realize that is a very good thing) but I failed to act on it. Eventually it died and I moved on. I opened a few other girls with minimal interactions. We went to a club and I could not get myself to approach. Brother made me approach a random set of girls, turns out I knew one of them through a mutual friend. I had met her before and remember being able to tell she liked me. I was not very smooth when I opened her and her friends but she was all over me in a second. I warmed up and flirted really well then we danced and she was dancing hella dirty with me. I could tell she wanted it. Eventually she has to go with her friends to the bathroom. I go and approach other girls here and there. 

One girl kept pushing on my back to get through a crowd and I turned around and said "is there a reason you keep pushing me?" She said "Im not pushing you" I said "well somebody behind me was" she said "you're wierd, get a ay from me!" haha gotta love straight up rejections.

I ran into the girl I was dancing with before again. I danced with her again and she was dancing very dirty but I was such a I couldnt get myself to makeout with her. I felt like I took a step backwards tonight, this is something I should be able to do by now. Eventually they had to leave so I said "you have to give me a kiss goodbye" and she said "Im not that easy, you think you'll get lucky?" and I said "I dont need luck" then she said "ok" and we kissed but it was just a peck. Matt281 said it is a bad idea to say that because the girl gets put on the spotlight, it would be better if I just initiated the makeout myself. Lesson learned! 

Hit up a whole of girls on the street but nothing amounted. Back at the bar I approached this cute girl and it was going great but I was not aggresive enough so it died. I need to be more aggressive and physical! I will work on these tomorrow!
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 8/4: Saturday

I was feeling like crap again today, did not sleep very well last night. Took a while to get going as I just was not feeling good and had zero confidence. My first set was a huge blowout. I just asked a girl if the vip area of this lounge was open and she said she had no idea  then I said "oh come on, you have to know so you can tell me, thats your job!" and she did NOT take that well! lol she stared at me for 20 seconds then said "was that supposed to offend me?" I said "well actually it was a joke but apparently you didnt take it that way" and she said "get away from me" haha anyways it was mostly that kind of a night. 

I had a couple more terrible sets. I had one open though that I was happy with. There was this cute girl standing at the bar and I went up confidently without thinking and just said "what is your name" she answered quickly and i could tell this could potentially lead somewhere based on her body language. Of course, I screwed it up, I said my name and put my hand out to shake hands and she didnt even realize my hand was out there then it got awkward and collapsed. 

I have never had this problem before. Usually, when I make jokes I deliver them well, and with confidence so they are received well. Tonight, it seemed like none of my jokes were landing, nore was I even able to talk to a girl without making her awkward or pissing her off. 

Luckely, Brother kept pushing me. We went to a different bar and I decided we should open this set of two hot girls, and we killed it! I was able to instantly snap out of my dullness and spent about 15 minutes charming the hell out of my girl. But unfortunately the question of age came up and she said she is 26, and Im only 22. The age thing kills me a lot of times. It shouldnt matter but I think I disqualify myself when it comes up, I need to change that. 

I had some momentum now and spent another 15 minutes talking to a girl outside who seemed to really like me but I found out she has two kids, 4 years old! So it all went downhill from there. I Went to a club and opened some brazilian girls, spoke with one of them for 15 mins but I pussied out, I NEED TO START PUSHING BOUNDARIES! I need to start escalating quicker and getting harsh rejections, otherwise I stand there like a tool talking to girls without physical interactions.

The night ended pretty shitty with more blowouts. Ah well, theyre good to experience!
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