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May 25th, 2017
Graduating college and feeling weird
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snowdog

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I graduated college two weeks ago. Now I'm left with a weird kind of empty feeling. Everything is out of place somehow. I'm a natural good talker and I haven't had problems opening hot girls or even groups, but now I'm pussying out every time. I'm just off balance, I don't get it. I thought it would give me this amazing confidence boost, but the opposite is happening. 

What the fuck is going on?
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NewDude

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 Did you out before? If not then it's probably because you have no purpose in life. Find a purpose.
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LeeShoes

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did you just get a new job? like some boring office job where you feel like you are forced into submission?

Happened to me. pretty hard man but I ended up getting out of it.
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iRyan

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You can't get enough of what you don't want, society told you to go to college and get a good degree then that will get you a high paying job and chicks will be all over you, now the reality is kicking in that it's all bullshit! LOL

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snowdog

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Dude that's funny you say that, because I had that exact same mindset when I was in my senior year.

No offense, brother, but you can't tell me anything unless you've been there yourself. I'll catch you on the flip side.
jaythekillerinyoursleep wrote:
Im on my senior year of college right now and I have absolutely NO FEAR of this happening

In fact I have the OPPOSITE problem.  I have literally NO PURPOSE other then finishing school and going to work.

As soon as I graduate it will be very liberating for me because I will be able to SEEK MY PURPOSE (which I actually already know, its just mandatory that I have a degree)

Like the others said, get your purpose figured out ASAP and pursue it like you would pickup. 

YOUR LUCKY YOU DONT HAVE TO WAIT A YEAR LIKE I DO...  You can start right NOW!!!!
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Goundy

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iRyan wrote:
You can't get enough of what you don't want, society told you to go to college and get a good degree then that will get you a high paying job and chicks will be all over you, now the reality is kicking in that it's all bullshit! LOL


What this guys said.

David Deida talks about it in his book, 'Way of the Superior man'. He says that your just at that time of your life where youv'e completed a a task in life and the natural cylce is to go on to another task that fulfills you. If you feel sad, its probably becaue like what Ryan said and your realizing that spending a good number of your prime years in life wasn't actually getting you what you desired in life; just living the american fairy tail.

Anyway, graduating college to improve social skills?
Thats like building boats to become a better fisherman.

You need to prioritize specific skillset. Great skillsets aren't attained by indirect means.
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This is good. 

However, I do think college is important, especially for the scientific and quanitative fields. Also, there is a lot of opportunity to mature our social skills.

Paradigms will change.
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iRyan wrote:
You can't get enough of what you don't want, society told you to go to college and get a good degree then that will get you a high paying job and chicks will be all over you, now the reality is kicking in that it's all bullshit! LOL


What this guys said.

David Deida talks about it in his book, 'Way of the Superior man'. He says that your just at that time of your life where youv'e completed a a task in life and the natural cylce is to go on to another task that fulfills you. If you feel sad, its probably becaue like what Ryan said and your realizing that spending a good number of your prime years in life wasn't actually getting you what you desired in life; just living the american fairy tail.

Anyway, graduating college to improve social skills?
Thats like building boats to become a better fisherman.

You need to prioritize specific skillset. Great skillsets aren't attained by indirect means.

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Courage

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It's definitely an adjustment. In a lot of ways though, it's really similar to college. You can still party on weekends and have a great time. You get a job yet?
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I'm going through this right now as well. I think it's just after 22 years of ALWAYS having someone to do, something to look forward to; to strive for, now we're in sort-of a limbo where nothing is forcing us or keeping us away from doing anything in life. It might be fear of the unlimited possibilities, or just the fact that we don't have a purpose - any purpose - that makes us feel this way. It's probably normal though, and nothing to be worried about. The way out is through action.
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mikevick07

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you didnt really want to go to college, you probaly just went because of societal pressure....you had a passion elsewhere but chose college instead....just course correct
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Zer0.Point

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College has been amazing for me (I gruaduated a couple months ago). However I always viewed it in two ways. First I viewed it as a place where people go to get brainwashed. And second I viewed it as a place where you can go and mature and become educated on what it is to socialize with peers.

So my education wasn't so much "in the classroom" as it was out of the classroom.

But if you can put yourself in very social situations without being in college, if you read good books, and if you have a passion and direction, I don't think college can really add much to that.

Although I loved my four years in college, I found it difficult to pretend that the story I was being sold "matters" really. People try to sell you on a lot of dreams there. They bait you, prod you, try to get you all emotional to pursue a direction they want you to pursue. But ultimately all that is bullshit.

I quickly learned that the only people I can trust are people who have no agenda and no stake in persuading me to believe something.
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