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December 7th, 2016
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fidelity

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I'm a pickup noob.

I'm a bit of an odd case. I'm 23 years old, tall, decently good looking, not socially akward, have friends etc. BUT i've only had one girlfriend who I never actually fucked, 3 lays and zero ONS.

Seriously heavy inner game issues, worthiness, lack of self love, you get it. My problems have grown out of control and it's time to address this shit. I'm not going to cry about it or write you guys a novel detailing how fucked up I am.

I firmly believe I could be an absolute beast if I approach this area of my life with consistant effort. I used to work in the nightlife industry and made friends with a lot of dudes that were absolute pickup assassins, like 300+ lay type shit. I've got some legend to live up to.

It's not that i'm afraid of girls. I've just never consciously approached them.

As with any skill that develops over time i'm going to be focusing on consistency, and setting the bar for success really low. Friday and Saturday nights I MUST go out and at the very least enter a club, if I don't approach, whatever I met my goal. On top of that I will be doing one approach a day, must be female, i'm not focusing on closing just approaching and starting a conversation. I'm also going to start messing around with POF and OKCupid. These are my pickup goals, super simple. My deadline for re evaluation of these goals is the end of August.

Non pickup related goals will be brought up at a later date. It's early evening in Vancouver's Westend, I just got back from English Bay, sooo many beautiful girls. I saw three asian dudes doing approaches. I should of said hi. I'm going to the gym right now, and will be hitting up one club on Granville tonight, all I have to do is go inside and chode around for a few mins and i've met my goal. Wish me luck.
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Friday

Pretty satisfied with myself right now. I forgot what satisfaction felt like.

I walked up to Granville and strolled back and forth down the street for a while. The street game is absolute top notch. The cops shut down approx. 4 blocks of the street and it's filled with people. Fuck going into a venue, you almost don't need to.

I had some anxiety but managed to get myself into Caprice for 15 mins, it's ok. Lot's of skanky brown chicks, should be easy pickings when I finally decide to man up. It was $15 cover though, and my financials are not in a good state. I've been here 4 months without a job and can't afford to pay cover or drink, although i'd like to. Note to self: Caprice has no cover on Sundays.

I noticed some people handing out no cover tix to Venue and some other spot, definitely taking advantage of that tomorrow night. Goal for tommorow is to hit up Granville and get into a place w/ no cover AND stay inside for 30mins minimum.

I really had to force myself to be happy with the fact that I even went out. I have high expectations and often forget to appreciate my small victories. It's not a good mindset.

FUUUUCK Vancouver has some fiiiine girls, maybe it's just summer or maybe it's something about the city but chicks here dress to impress. They also travel in groups, most of the dudes look like chodes and the ladies look like they want to get fucked.

I'm going to this city. Goodnight bitches.
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Saturday

FAIL.

I couldn't make it out of my apartment due to a deadly full body sunburn I sustained while chilling at English Bay.

I couldn't bring myself to put on a shirt by 10pm haha.

Lame as fuck evening, I would of rather gone out and walked around at the very least. I sat down and planned out my Sunday though, which is something I need to make a habit of. Plan the next day the night before, what are my priorities, my level one commitments, things that must be done, then all the other stuff.

I find, especially on the weekends if I can tackle all my important shit in the first four hours of the morning im good, anytime after that is a lost cause.

I'm going to try and make it out tonight dependant on skin cancer levels, i'd like to make up for yesterdays fail.
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Monday

Did my one approach, it seemed benign at first and I felt like it didn't really count but I pushed myself to talk to some chick in a store that I would of otherwise walked right by. Success! Well that was easy.

I got an FB message from a POF chicked I talked to a couple months ago. She wanted to hang but we have seriously conflicting schedules so I forgot about it. Anyway this girl is in Victoria and wanted me to accompany her to this social event at the Hastings Racetrack, suit and tie, ascots, snooty beverages, diner. I couldn't afford it and was a little suprised she'd invite a total stranger to an event like this. She's already told me she finds me extremely attractive and I get the sense she's rich as well (travels a lot, always posting about events on FB etc.) so I attempted to play the boy in need of a sugar momma angle. No dice. Oh well..she wants to fuck, its obvious so if we happen to run into each other in the city then so be it, but whatever. 

Have any tall dudes noticed more attention from older women than is customary for a young guy? I feel like I get a lot of unsolicited cougars checking me out. I'd totally bang an older successful rich city women. Nice apartment, dinners, cars, travel. Fuck, that's my new goal. Find a hot older sugar momma.

I need to be more assertive, doing what I want, not asking, being more forceful etc. This is going to be a secondary goal moving forward. I'm finally in the 240's again, cutting weight fucking BLOWS. I never want to have to do this again, constant headaches, fatigue, hunger, shitty stupid chicken breasts and spinach. Fuck. 30lbs to go before abs of glory. I will be a sexy beast once again, just a couple more weeks of torture. 

Don't get fat and lazy....its not worth it. 
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Saturday

OK i've been chode deluxe supreme all week. Wasted a perfectly good Friday getting drunk with people I don't like. I'm going to Granville tonight, probably around 11pm.

MISSION: try and scoop a free cover ticket for venue or caprice from one of those street promoters.

If anyone wants to meetup PM me and i'll send you my number.

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Approached a promoter and got a free ticket for Forum, place was reeeally dead. Stood in line at Caprice for a while. Was not down to stick out a 1 hour line up so I wandered Granville for a bit then went home. Chode deluxe. Welcome to Vancity.
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Sunday

Roxy Sundays. I'm in love. I feel like i'm home again. So good, there was easily more girls than guys. I was able to dodge cover by saying I was industry, which I'm not anymore but i've still got my card from back home so we'll see how long I can work that. This bar is awesome, great music, cheap drinks, HOT girls down to party. I was wandering about with a big stupid grin on my face thinking to myself..."I've found my Rio". YES!! SO stoked to beast this spot in the coming months. If any Van crew wants to hit this up with me next week PM me and ill send you my number. I could definitley use a little kick in the ass. From experience I know once I get over that first approach i'm golden. I've got game hidden deep down somewhere inside but flipping the switch and getting it to come out is my main issue. I for some reason lose all presence when I enter a venue, like I couldn't even think about wrestling my mind into a calmer state, it's a little chaotic upstairs, I can't even tell myself to chill because I'm so disconnected from my brain. This will change.

I didn't do any approaches besides random situational conversation in line and with the staff but it's all about momentum, tonight was 1% easier than last night, which is what I'm aiming for.

Time to unleash the beast. So happy, so stoked to kill it. I had a good day today, very productive, very goal oriented. Doing it up right feels good.

Later bitches.
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Monday

I finally admit that the ego I built around my last job has done nothing but hurt me and feed a false sense of entitlement. I am not who I think I am and am shocked that it took nearly 2 years to see through this ego induced lie. I had a reputation to protect and didn't want to damage it. This is OK though, atleast I can be real with myself and my place in life now. I'm starting at zero and am grateful to be here, I don't think this process would be so easy back home. Starting fresh was a tough fucking move but it's going to be worth it.

I made a tough decision and committed myself to a few more days here in Vancouver for free tour and hotseat2 in late August when I should be back home dealing with family obligations. It's only two days out of 10 that should be spent at home but this is important shit and there is no good reason to pass up a learning experience like this.

I think a lot of my resistance and silly self-defeating rationalizations in the past have come from an unfair judgement of the process. It took me a while to get over the gross feeling that this was all just about getting laid, which it isn't. I for some time felt like I was above this whole desire to get good with women. It's not about that though, it's about becoming a better version of myself.

I want to go out to Cellar tonight but at the same time need to stay in due to school. I'm glad that i'm finally looking forward to going out, even if it's just to chode around. It's progress. A month ago you wouldn't of been able to get me past my front door on a Friday night.

I WILL be going out to Celebrities tommorrow night. My goal is to stay past midnight, sober. Sunday was a strong exercise in embracing discomfort. Standing in line alone at Roxy brought back a lot of ugly feelings from my past, but sticking it out and leaning into that fear and discomfort was really fucking worth it. I feel like a champ for making solid moves towards my goals. Fuck it, who knows maybe I'll even approach a girl tommorow.

Side note. There's so much cool shit I want to be doing right now but I am being held back by my income. I realize I'm a student and time is tight but I feel like I could be doing more to help out my bank account. I just came off two of the best years of my life financially and now I'm struggling to pay cover 5 nights a week, not a fun feeling. I can't even remember paying cover in the last two years back home, not because it didn't happen but because dropping $20 at the door was almost laughable when I was going to drop $200 at the bar 4 nights a week. The gold rush is over. Time to develop that hustle and start looking into some more creative income sources.

The wheels are finally turning gentleman.
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Tuesday - Celebrities

I'm going to get in the habit of banging these FR's out as soon as I get home as to not forget any lessons and put a few important thoughts down before they get lost.

All in all a VERY interesting night. I roll up to Celebrities for the first time and at 1015 the lineup is massive. In short I overhear a convo happening behind me about Todd's new front page video and lo and behold it's Marcel and couple of non RSD guys. Crazy coincidence. I tried to track you guys down before I left to grab names and numbers but couldn't find anyone. Big thanks for helping me out with guestlist, much appreciated, really made my night and I look forward to going out with you boys in the future. Next available night is Friday so PM me and we can exchange numbers. I was impressed, you guys don't mess around, all of you were hitting up sets within minutes of entering, awesome to see.

I choded around and took in the venue for 15 mins before hitting my first set. I bump into a girl that opens me, asking if i'm a bouncer. Big smile, get right up in her face..

Me "No i'm not"
her "Good"
Me, pulls her in close, instantly physical "Who are you? Your fucking cute."
her "blah blah" it's too loud.

Get dragged to the dancefloor where I get my face eaten off for the next 30 mins. Fun times. She was hot. Pretty sure she was high as fuck. I ended up losing her due to ADD behavior, re-opened but it wasn't strong enough to re-hook her. She's all over another dude, oh well.

Hightlight of the interaction. We're dry humping on the railing. I'm pretty icy, lazer eyes, then staring away from her. She in the middle of the fuck session goes "I work at Earls!" lol ok that's nice, w/e, hope your enjoying my dick right now. LOL!


Lessons on the evening:

- I get no state boost out of alcohol. I enjoy drinking but ultimately it's expensive and just a way to waste time waiting at the bar. Tonight was my last night drinking although Celebrities is fucking cheap..maybe when I get some more work coming in I can re-consider.
- Just show up, no matter how tired, how busy, whatever excuse just show up. You never know what's going to happen.
- Week nights are probably going to be approach machine type nights, ex. how many sets can I do in two hours, collect numbers..I can't stay out too late due to school so 9-12pm is the schedule.
- I could of closed that set if I played the long game, stuck around, opened other girls then re-approached later in the night. This is why i'm looking forward to weekends.


Big moments my friends, there is a monster in the making.
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Marcel

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It was sweet running into you man! We got so lucky skipping the line lol
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Marcel wrote:
It was sweet running into you man! We got so lucky skipping the line lol
Yeah shit, I'm not messing around next week, i'll be in line by 9pm lol
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 Hey it was nice meeting u on tuesday, you're doing really good man. Hit me up if you wanna go out again!
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