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Who cares dude? You're forgetting the basic principle of non reactivness. Douchebags feed off the energy you give them by you reacting. Plus, it's not even like you're trying to pick him up.
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Hmmm yeah, some funny responses! It's not like being at a club though it's my gym, same people go every day, last thing I want is to get shit every time I go there...
But yeah annoyingly long wait between sets, was a bit bored, doing this lean gains rpt workout...
The whole reacting thing is fucked up, the whole building momentum is great in a club but I'm in the gym I don't know
Anyone I've never been so out of state in my life - whats right action? I try talking to someone it's Just so of when I'm in that head space...
What do you guys do to get in state when you're not 'doing pickup' ?
But yeah annoyingly long wait between sets, was a bit bored, doing this lean gains rpt workout...
The whole reacting thing is fucked up, the whole building momentum is great in a club but I'm in the gym I don't know
Anyone I've never been so out of state in my life - whats right action? I try talking to someone it's Just so of when I'm in that head space...
What do you guys do to get in state when you're not 'doing pickup' ?
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Who cares dude? You're forgetting the basic principle of non reactivness. Douchebags feed off the energy you give them by you reacting. Plus, it's not even like you're trying to pick him up.
This,
non reaction is just great. Personally i'd have just responded oh 2 more then continued on with my shit casually, funnily enough that kind of response gets chodes more riled up than a reaction even but then they feel like they can't do anything more at risk of looking like a cocksucker so sit in the corner in quiet anger.
+ nothing matters really
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Remember kids: raw heroes, do not become war heroes.
tell him he has under developed calves. works everytime.
Seriously a sweet move you could pull is wait till he goes to the water fountain, jump right in front of him and refill your huge water bottle right in front of him. when its full take a raw sip straight from the fountain. wipe your face with your shirt (while still standing in front of the fountain).
Then proceed to do bicep barbell curls in the squat rack. with poor form.
All that while listening to loud deathmetal music on your ipod
Seriously a sweet move you could pull is wait till he goes to the water fountain, jump right in front of him and refill your huge water bottle right in front of him. when its full take a raw sip straight from the fountain. wipe your face with your shirt (while still standing in front of the fountain).
Then proceed to do bicep barbell curls in the squat rack. with poor form.
All that while listening to loud deathmetal music on your ipod
Being honest mate there is no need for all this. Clearly that old dude is right cos our man here is pissing everyone off by taking space and not working out. If I'm working out and anyone is waiting I would offer them to take there sets with me and expect the same.
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Seriously though, don't take things so seriously. Getting tooled only works if it affects you. TBH I'd have asked him if he wants to work in.
Seriously though, don't take things so seriously. Getting tooled only works if it affects you. TBH I'd have asked him if he wants to work in.
The more important question to ask is: What is YOUR problem.
You get psyched out by a guy that wants to use the squat-machine and asking you in a "funny-negging way" how long you gonna take. You interpret so much bullshit into that one sentence with your alpha-beta-paranoid attitude. Chill out dude.
You get psyched out by a guy that wants to use the squat-machine and asking you in a "funny-negging way" how long you gonna take. You interpret so much bullshit into that one sentence with your alpha-beta-paranoid attitude. Chill out dude.
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you had it coming to you by being a fuckbag (on phone, not working out, 5 minute breaks like a pussy).
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While you are being a phag spending 3-5 minutes resting (I think they say 2 minutes should be MAX, and that's for compound lifts - no idea where you get your info from...the point is to challenge the muscle...anyways) was the gym packed? I would imagine there are other squat racks / machines for dude to use. But yeah man, if you're in a squat rack or something, and it's the only one get your shit done pronto. At my gym there is only one squat rack.
So I'm there on the squat machine and I'm doing a lean gains approach exercise routine with 3-5 minute breaks. So I'm resting on my phone and I turn and theres this big bald 40ish year old man inches away from my face meaning over my machine. He says "how many sets you got left on that love?" So I can't really ignore him cause of gym etiquette and he has friends, but if I answer him I concede that I'm worthy of being called 'love'.
So I just say "two sets". And he's constantly pinging off the room while smirking.
So I carry on with my workout and he's goes on a bike behind me. The gym is like a square quite small you can hear what everyone's saying with ease. He starts making conversations with people like "when I go to the gym I actually just work I don't think phOnes should be aloud. He's really loud and alpha and everyone's like agreeing with him.
So I get off the machine and head gesture it to him and he says "Are you gonna take the weights off then!?" and it's like what the fuck is this guys problem!? I should really take the weights off but he's being a prick so I just pull a sort of 'don't worry about it face' and walk off.
Then I hear a quiet uproar of under breathe dissaproval.
Do any of you have any advice? Would have done things differently? Etc.
ThOughts?
Cheers
JB
So I just say "two sets". And he's constantly pinging off the room while smirking.
So I carry on with my workout and he's goes on a bike behind me. The gym is like a square quite small you can hear what everyone's saying with ease. He starts making conversations with people like "when I go to the gym I actually just work I don't think phOnes should be aloud. He's really loud and alpha and everyone's like agreeing with him.
So I get off the machine and head gesture it to him and he says "Are you gonna take the weights off then!?" and it's like what the fuck is this guys problem!? I should really take the weights off but he's being a prick so I just pull a sort of 'don't worry about it face' and walk off.
Then I hear a quiet uproar of under breathe dissaproval.
Do any of you have any advice? Would have done things differently? Etc.
ThOughts?
Cheers
JB
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My personal philosophy: You need to step to every single girl like a fucking bomb. You need to have presence. You need to stand out, and not in a surface level way such as what you're wearing, but as who you are and the way in which you communicate. You need to be unforgettable. You need to create a sense of urgency, that you are now or never. You need to push and at the same time be completely willing to walk away. It is essential to disidentify with the ego, otherwise the inherent rejection associated with pickup will destroy you.
"You need to let them know what kind of man you are, so they know what kind of woman to be."
"Fear is always a constant, but accepting it...makes you stronger."
"Once you done slayed 20-30 of them hoodrats, now you ready to go up to the upper echelon type ho."
"I've got no game. And every face looks the same. They've got no name. So I don't need game to play. I just say whatever I want to whoever I want. Whenever I want, wherever I want, however I want."
The more important question to ask is: What is YOUR problem.
You get psyched out by a guy that wants to use the squat-machine and asking you in a "funny-negging way" how long you gonna take. You interpret so much bullshit into that one sentence with your alpha-beta-paranoid attitude. Chill out dude.
You get psyched out by a guy that wants to use the squat-machine and asking you in a "funny-negging way" how long you gonna take. You interpret so much bullshit into that one sentence with your alpha-beta-paranoid attitude. Chill out dude.
Yeah fair point. I just get pissed off at guys who go out of their way to tool 'easy targets' cause i'd never do that! Oh well...
JB
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The fact that you even considered ignoring him makes it apparent that you have a lot of work to do.
You ignore guys other guys when you are gaming a GIRL otherwise you just come across as a push over.
Look at it like a guy shit test... If you respond like a cool guy he'll probably end up respecting you and treat you like an equal.
Virtually exactly the same situation happened to my skinny friend at the gym. A big buff 40+ cave troll looking guy approached him and asked him in a semi agressive way if he ever planned to finish. He just smiled back and said "oh, just two more sets cutie". Cave troll was a bit shocked by his snappy reply, but eventually they became friends and he always volunteered to help my friend with tips on form and greeted him when he arrived.