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Ahhhhh couldnt handle the last minute resistance. Advices?
Go fuck other women.
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Well i will but she is super hot so i wanna fuck her as well. That is why im asking for advice. How can i recover it. She was obviously into me i had the power but when she started resisting i became pushy/ needy and lost the attraction. How can i play the game at this point? Serious advice pls
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You dun goofd.
Should've let her walk or picked her up.
Should've let her walk or picked her up.
That's not LMR, LMR is you're in a fuckable location and you have your dick out and are fingering her but she won't let you stick it in. Here, she wouldn't even go to an unknown location with you.
You fucked up by not telling her where you wanted to take her. I don't usually tell a girl where I'm gonna take her but if she's insisting on going somewhere else, which shoulda been obvious after she told you multiple times, I'd just tell her where we're going even if I leave out some details. You shoulda told her you were taking her to your favorite pub where your friends work and they make the most awesome drinks, or whatever, just play it up. Her telling you she wanted to go to the bus stop was her way of telling you she wanted assurance from you or she was leaving. You missed that.
When she started walking to the bus stop, you shoulda told her "ok let me walk you to the bus stop" and just walked with instead of trying to make her walk elsewhere. Then you could've changed her mood and suggested one last place before she leaves. Never try to convince a girl to do something the opposite of what she wants to do. Make her think you're agreeing with whatever it is she's saying/doing then make it seem like it's her idea to do whatever it is you want to do. You pressing her further about going to the pub after she turned around and walked away from you was pretty ridiculous. Dude, she'd rather walk by herself alone at night than go somewhere with you and yet you're still trying to convince to leave with you? Use common sense man.
When she said she wasn't in the mood tonight for sex you shoulda acted surprised and been like "wow, i'm sorry, I didn't realize you thought I was trying to take you home for sex, I just wanted to take you to a pub where my friends are cuz I wanted you to meet them." Or even just saying all you wanted was to watch a movie at your place would have been preferable to saying you just wanted to hug and kiss her. You need a plausible excuse for wherever you're taking her. Having sex or foreplay doesn't count.
You fucked it up pretty bad. Not sure if this is recoverable. You showed her all your cards. Now she knows the next time you see her you're just going to want sex. That kills it. There's no mystery anymore.
Your best bet is to wait two weeks and then text her again. Text her a statement; something that could even make her wonder if it's a mass text. For instance, if it was 4th of July weekend you could send something like "hope your 4th of july is awesome. watching fireworks on the beach is my favorite part of summer" or whatever shit. I wouldn't personalize it. If that doesn't work, wait a month after that and then send a personalized message but one that doesn't necessarily require a response. Then drop it after that.
You fucked up by not telling her where you wanted to take her. I don't usually tell a girl where I'm gonna take her but if she's insisting on going somewhere else, which shoulda been obvious after she told you multiple times, I'd just tell her where we're going even if I leave out some details. You shoulda told her you were taking her to your favorite pub where your friends work and they make the most awesome drinks, or whatever, just play it up. Her telling you she wanted to go to the bus stop was her way of telling you she wanted assurance from you or she was leaving. You missed that.
When she started walking to the bus stop, you shoulda told her "ok let me walk you to the bus stop" and just walked with instead of trying to make her walk elsewhere. Then you could've changed her mood and suggested one last place before she leaves. Never try to convince a girl to do something the opposite of what she wants to do. Make her think you're agreeing with whatever it is she's saying/doing then make it seem like it's her idea to do whatever it is you want to do. You pressing her further about going to the pub after she turned around and walked away from you was pretty ridiculous. Dude, she'd rather walk by herself alone at night than go somewhere with you and yet you're still trying to convince to leave with you? Use common sense man.
When she said she wasn't in the mood tonight for sex you shoulda acted surprised and been like "wow, i'm sorry, I didn't realize you thought I was trying to take you home for sex, I just wanted to take you to a pub where my friends are cuz I wanted you to meet them." Or even just saying all you wanted was to watch a movie at your place would have been preferable to saying you just wanted to hug and kiss her. You need a plausible excuse for wherever you're taking her. Having sex or foreplay doesn't count.
You fucked it up pretty bad. Not sure if this is recoverable. You showed her all your cards. Now she knows the next time you see her you're just going to want sex. That kills it. There's no mystery anymore.
Your best bet is to wait two weeks and then text her again. Text her a statement; something that could even make her wonder if it's a mass text. For instance, if it was 4th of July weekend you could send something like "hope your 4th of july is awesome. watching fireworks on the beach is my favorite part of summer" or whatever shit. I wouldn't personalize it. If that doesn't work, wait a month after that and then send a personalized message but one that doesn't necessarily require a response. Then drop it after that.
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That's not LMR, LMR is you're in a fuckable location and you have your dick out and are fingering her but she won't let you stick it in. Here, she wouldn't even go to an unknown location with you.
You fucked up by not telling her where you wanted to take her. I don't usually tell a girl where I'm gonna take her but if she's insisting on going somewhere else, which shoulda been obvious after she told you multiple times, I'd just tell her where we're going even if I leave out some details. You shoulda told her you were taking her to your favorite pub where your friends work and they make the most awesome drinks, or whatever, just play it up. Her telling you she wanted to go to the bus stop was her way of telling you she wanted assurance from you or she was leaving. You missed that.
When she started walking to the bus stop, you shoulda told her "ok let me walk you to the bus stop" and just walked with instead of trying to make her walk elsewhere. Then you could've changed her mood and suggested one last place before she leaves. Never try to convince a girl to do something the opposite of what she wants to do. Make her think you're agreeing with whatever it is she's saying/doing then make it seem like it's her idea to do whatever it is you want to do. You pressing her further about going to the pub after she turned around and walked away from you was pretty ridiculous. Dude, she'd rather walk by herself alone at night than go somewhere with you and yet you're still trying to convince to leave with you? Use common sense man.
When she said she wasn't in the mood tonight for sex you shoulda acted surprised and been like "wow, i'm sorry, I didn't realize you thought I was trying to take you home for sex, I just wanted to take you to a pub where my friends are cuz I wanted you to meet them." Or even just saying all you wanted was to watch a movie at your place would have been preferable to saying you just wanted to hug and kiss her. You need a plausible excuse for wherever you're taking her. Having sex or foreplay doesn't count.
You fucked it up pretty bad. Not sure if this is recoverable. You showed her all your cards. Now she knows the next time you see her you're just going to want sex. That kills it. There's no mystery anymore.
Your best bet is to wait two weeks and then text her again. Text her a statement; something that could even make her wonder if it's a mass text. For instance, if it was 4th of July weekend you could send something like "hope your 4th of july is awesome. watching fireworks on the beach is my favorite part of summer" or whatever shit. I wouldn't personalize it. If that doesn't work, wait a month after that and then send a personalized message but one that doesn't necessarily require a response. Then drop it after that.
You fucked up by not telling her where you wanted to take her. I don't usually tell a girl where I'm gonna take her but if she's insisting on going somewhere else, which shoulda been obvious after she told you multiple times, I'd just tell her where we're going even if I leave out some details. You shoulda told her you were taking her to your favorite pub where your friends work and they make the most awesome drinks, or whatever, just play it up. Her telling you she wanted to go to the bus stop was her way of telling you she wanted assurance from you or she was leaving. You missed that.
When she started walking to the bus stop, you shoulda told her "ok let me walk you to the bus stop" and just walked with instead of trying to make her walk elsewhere. Then you could've changed her mood and suggested one last place before she leaves. Never try to convince a girl to do something the opposite of what she wants to do. Make her think you're agreeing with whatever it is she's saying/doing then make it seem like it's her idea to do whatever it is you want to do. You pressing her further about going to the pub after she turned around and walked away from you was pretty ridiculous. Dude, she'd rather walk by herself alone at night than go somewhere with you and yet you're still trying to convince to leave with you? Use common sense man.
When she said she wasn't in the mood tonight for sex you shoulda acted surprised and been like "wow, i'm sorry, I didn't realize you thought I was trying to take you home for sex, I just wanted to take you to a pub where my friends are cuz I wanted you to meet them." Or even just saying all you wanted was to watch a movie at your place would have been preferable to saying you just wanted to hug and kiss her. You need a plausible excuse for wherever you're taking her. Having sex or foreplay doesn't count.
You fucked it up pretty bad. Not sure if this is recoverable. You showed her all your cards. Now she knows the next time you see her you're just going to want sex. That kills it. There's no mystery anymore.
Your best bet is to wait two weeks and then text her again. Text her a statement; something that could even make her wonder if it's a mass text. For instance, if it was 4th of July weekend you could send something like "hope your 4th of july is awesome. watching fireworks on the beach is my favorite part of summer" or whatever shit. I wouldn't personalize it. If that doesn't work, wait a month after that and then send a personalized message but one that doesn't necessarily require a response. Then drop it after that.
Thanks for the advice but you misunderstood one point. She knew that we were going to my fav. Pub. İn fact she ac cepted it but later on she suddenly changed her mind. As our whole interaction was kinda sexual i just didnt wanna loose the opportunity which puts me into a needy mood. İm gonna wait a bit and invite her to play bowling...
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any other advices? What is the best strategy to come back? Planning to text smthing like;
The funniest thing just happened!! I saw a girl in the gym who looks exactly like you. Wanted to make fun with it and gave her a hug. On this sec I realised that she wasn't you. I didn't know that you have an Indian twin :))'
(actually I saw someone in the gym today who looks exactly like her and couldnt actually be sure whether it was her or not. Later on I learnt that she was just a random lady from india. I believe this situation is pretty hilarious and an awesome reengage material"
The funniest thing just happened!! I saw a girl in the gym who looks exactly like you. Wanted to make fun with it and gave her a hug. On this sec I realised that she wasn't you. I didn't know that you have an Indian twin :))'
(actually I saw someone in the gym today who looks exactly like her and couldnt actually be sure whether it was her or not. Later on I learnt that she was just a random lady from india. I believe this situation is pretty hilarious and an awesome reengage material"
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that wouldn't necessarily be my go-to text cuz it's a bit try-hard but it should be good enough if she's still interested. Only thing is I would edit it down by half. "Wow, I just ran into your Indian twin.. She gave me a weird look when I went to say hi so I realized it wasn't you. I'll sneak a pic for you next time :)"
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Then we left. As soon as we left she started kissing me with passion at the middle of the street (she did this in every couple of meters). I resisted she was like there is no one is here just kiss me!!! In fact in order to increase the tension whenever she wanted to kiss me I moved my head away so she was reaching me to kiss me. She told me that she wanted to go to the bus stop, I thought it was another shit test and I told her that we have another venue to go which is my favourite place (pub next to my flat lol) then I will take her to the bus stop. She started resisting in a playful way so I didnt care. She was like "I wanna go to the bus stop" constantly. I was like yeah yeah you will. I took her to the direction of the pub. She was still talking, I thought it was a shit test because she was coming with me. But at the end she suddenly turned left and walking to the bus stop (think about it like a circle, there are couple of ways to reach to the bus stop) I walked after her, tried to convince her resistance got higher every minute. She told me that she just broke up with her boyfriend she is not in the mood tonight. I was like dont worry we are not gonna have sex, we are just gonna hug and kiss eachother where no one can interrupt us, nothing you dont want is gonna happen today!. I tried to convince her but it didnt work. During the whole date, I was teasing her with her body (she has an awesome model look body though lol). During this arguement/ me trying to convince her times i was like let me compare your ass with my ex italian girl friend., she was like do it and i put my hand in her panty and grabbed her ass. I tried to reach her pussy but couldnt. At the end her resistance got higher and higher so I ended up taking her to the bus stop. Once her bus arrived she kissed me on the chick and left. After 20 min I texted her "get home safe babe.." no respond. At this point how should I behave in order to get her back? I am planning to give a break for about like a week to go out of this needy frame. Then I will text her smthing like' whadup mafia queen??' (she is from sicily so I was teasing her saying her father is probably a mafia, I am scared of her etc..). Thoughts? Advices???