Well after a two day rest, I decided to go approach again.
First set I approached was a GREAT approach. I was so smooth, so EXTRAORDINARY, I was the ULTIMATE MAN.
The Knight that comes to take her away.
I was that man.
So I end up closing her and inviting her to a party I have tomorrow. I texted her, she hasn't answered. Flake? Idk yet.
Then I approached another girl and then again I was VERY relaxed and the approach was quite good.
However, the girl was a bit intimidated. Maybe I was way too relaxed. And then I fell into the problem of running out of things to say. I think the same thing happened in the last set and that was why I closed.
Lessons Before closing, bounce the girl to "buy some water", so go walk with her and if she can't then close. And if she just falls on my frame, then that's like better rapport so even better.
November 23 - Day 10 SDC Challenge - International Student Party
Well so I had this party of international students.
So I met a girl I had approached like a month ago and her friend and we went to the party with some of my friends and my brother of course.
My date was quite receptive at the beginning but then at the party her state went kinda down and she wasn't really complying to much. So I got bored and just started hitting on other girls.
Oh I also hit on my date's friend, and escalated physically on her haha
But whatever, it's all good.
I just texted her, she replied laughing and agreeing that I shouldn't have mixed pisco and wine.
I just sent her a text message telling her to go out one of these days. We'll see what happens :)
I think she can agree as well that the party and her friends and my friends was not the best place for some physical intimacy.
Lessons Be free, abundant, and on your purpose.
I noticed that I was concerned for results and "trying" to get something. Terrible. Even worse was that I drank alcohol to get out of that state, but it didn't happen that way. My philosophy for life now that I wake up at the next day is "Forget about your little fucking outcomes, goals, and woo woo purpose in life. Enjoy whatever fucked up or beautiful phase/stage you are going through in life right now. Appreciate the person that you are right now. Of course, in the future you'll think that you were naive. So what? Embrace who you are, be thankful for what you have, and move with ease towards the place that you sincerely feel it's for you. You will not get a second chance to live this moment :) " - TropicalMan
Allow frustration and bad feelings to be as well. Stop resisting god damn it! Allow it to be!
Last set was a girl.. not really attractive but receptive and caring.
So I closed her. Not sure if following up. I guess I'll just follow up and maybe set up a hang out. Whatever...
Life is good.
Be thankful for life!
Lessons Make eye contact and put yourself ahead of the girl with walking sets. HIgher rate of success. You can make the approach while you are walking in front of her and still frame it as something spontaneous (that's what I did in the last set)
From tomorrow on I'll start doing CRAZY ASS approaches. I'll call it Courage Builders.
I'll do at least ONE courage builder every day in ANY sort of situation, whether it is at college or at University. The sooner I am done with the courage builder and the harder that it is the better.
So I'll include one Courage Builder section in this journal of course.
@VanWilder: HAHAHAHAHA daaaamn epic sex song hahahahahaha
November 25 - Day 13 of SDC Challenge
Well today was a nice day.
My Courage Builder for the day was throwing little pieces of paper to Asian girl on my class, telling her to sit down next to me, and then just walking with her out of class.
The funny thing is I don't even know why I was unsure about doing that. Maybe it was just very early in the morning and I was still all fucked up lol.
What I realize is that all throughout my day I am constantly being courageous and just pushing my limits, taking action, and at the same time having so much fun!
But that is the KEY thing, take action and HAVE FUN with it!
Always see the humourous side of it... there is always a humourous side to absolutely everything.
So I guess the Courage Builder Section thing will be kind of like the winner of all the Courage Builders that I do throughout the day. It will be about something new and kind of crazy that I did today... something scary that I had not done before... something outside the box, and related with interacting with girls as well. That way I am also motivated to push myself to do funny creative stuff... or just what I really want to do lol.
At the daygame dojo I just approached one girl.
I had some anxiety lol
But I still managed to approach her and have a nice interaction. She was very shy.
I closed her. I just texted her and she answered back.
I am not sure of going out with her.
BUT... who cares I guess I'll just do and have a nice time with her.
Positive emotions must be shared!
Like Zyzz said:
"Dont ever pay people out or put people down. Instead just put yourself up and let the haters do their thing. Id rather be a person thats hated on, than a person that does the hating. A wise man one said... Haters gonna hate!"
The Father of Aesthetics!
Lessons Be thankful... always. People do not give a fuck about you or what you do. They are way more concerned about what you will think of them. So, OWN your actions, OWN who you are, and jUST DO WHATEVER THE FUCK YOU WANT TO DO.
Oh and tomorrow I'll approach hardcore. It's time to AMP THIS UP. It's time to approach hard ass funny sets. Who cares about what the hell happens!!
There is only this one life, this one moment... there is no point of living while being afraid of what other people think.
Tuesday November 26 - Day 14 of The Social Dynamics Creation Challenge
So I approached a lot and got a lot of rejections.
On the last approach, the girl stopped.
The thing is: I've been focusing a lot on changing and checking if I am doing several stuff right, BUT I am failing at one KEY fundamental thing. And I realized this thanks to my brother.
The KEY fundamental thing is CLARITY OF INTENT.
How I am going to get this? 1. When I see girl that I want to approach, set my Intention: "I get girl" 2. JUST DO IT. Anything other than the physical manifestation of that Intention will be a Counter-Intention, and thus will be identified and RELEASED as such.
This way I train hard my focus and align my intent.
Once I fucking feel like I want to approach and set the Intention, then it is DONE. I am just pressing the gas pedal after that and let my Natural Instincts kick in.
By the way, this is called Dodson's Reality Creation Technique, check it out if you like it.
Lesson Approach to get the girl.
Alright so I'll do what I proposed above. Set intention, just do it and release anything I feel as Counter Intentions.
Let's do this!
Courage Builder: Approaching several fucking girls lol... I don't know what else. I'll go for something more creative tomorrow huh!
Oh and I planned a date for next week with the girl I number closed yesterday, even though I don't really like her.
New rule: what I approach, I CLOSE! Closer mentality mothafuckas!
Alright so I went out solo and began to immediately implement what I proposed in my FR post yesterday.
It worked really well.
It didn't matter if I felt anxiety or anything, I would just approach and take action.
Pretty much what I did was: 1. See girl. 2. Set Intention: "Get girl" 3. Release all Counter Intentions until getting the girl.
However, my first sets were fails.
What I realized was that I wasn't taking the intention all the way and I wasn't even persisting or applying 4 No's Rule.
So yeah... even though I set my Intention as getting the girl, I feel like I was in the strong motion and inertia of just approaching her. So my Intention was getting the girl, but my actions actually showed an Intention of just approaching her and were not really congruent with the originial Intention.
SO, I worked on this.
Gradually I began to get better.
My first kind of successful set was a cute older woman. She was quite nice and receptive. She did not want me to give me her whatsapp though.
And well, I left with no 4 No's Rule.
After leaving I realized that and said "FUCK".
So right after that set, I approach my last set, which is a cute girl!
I approach her, vibe a bit with her, and number close her.
So good stuff.
I left with a good result because right after that set my time set for pickup in the day was done. So I left the daygame/evening dojo.
Lessons THERE IS NO REASON WHY I AM NOT ENOUGH. So, just approach the girl, get close to her, put some physicality and create some physical rapport, and always 4 times rule. Why? Because there is no reason why I am not enough. Done. DONE! Counter Intentions (anxiety, fear, doubt, etc) must be released way beyond the approach and until the Intention of "I get girl" manifests itself physically.
First girl was a rejection, or well she didn't even look at me lol.
Then the next set was a sexy slutty Colombian woman. I got physical with her lol. She liked that kind of treatment. Well, it kind of opens my eyes that girls LIKE THAT KIND OF PHYSICAL TREATMENT! (so I'll employ more physicality from now on)
I number closed her. I texted her, but no answer. I think this is more a thing of CALLING though. So I'll call that slutty woman. I don't know why but I think that she might have been a Colombian prostitute. We'll see if I can fuck her without paying haha
Then I approached a lone girl waiting for her friend. I closed her fast before her friend came. I haven't found her on facebook so whatever...
Oh shit I didn't approach at college as well.
I just gotta throw myself into the fucking pool it seems.
And I think that to "punish" myself I will approach two girls at college next week. And it is not really a punishment though, kind of more like a reward lol. So it's all good!
Lessons Light non aggressive physicality is great! Kind of a gentle physicality without grabbing or pulling in, but just really respecting her space while creating physical rapport.