@sexuality: Oh yeah sure I used to do that a lot. I think it was called the M3 model. I used to use it as a blueprint always. Now I think it is just there in the back of my head.
Monday July 29 - Day 19
Interesting day. I did some approaches. It took a while to tune in.
In my first approach, when I was doing everything shitty, I remembered the stuff about talking at the girl and that kind of stuff. So yeah my first approach was the girl telling me she did not talk to strangers. She still laughed a bit but still she would not pay full attention.
And then I approached a more cute girl. But she said she really had to go.
Then I went to eat some nice high calorie shawarmas. Yeah. And after that I went to a sexy girl and approached her in a dark street. The sexy girl told me she had a 33 year old boyfriend lol. She was 20 years old. Anyways, I really liked her. I think it was more of a friendzone thing. But whatever, I might see her other day to go party or go to some club or whatever.
I bounced this girl to buy some water and then I walked with her a long distance and then I said goodbye. Number close and facebook close.
What I did to baby step it to move her was say "Hey let's go get some water over there, I am a bit thirsty". And yeah, great way to move her.
- Baby step by saying that you want to get some water, and move her. If she does not want to move, use false time constraints and say it is around the corner, whatever.
- In isolated dark streets it is okay to open the girl by saying "excuse me" a fet few from behind her. It is a bit more calibrated actually, it seems like it is.
- Be aware of mistakes when approaching, and calibrate, calibrate, calibrate, keep approaching and do GREAT!
@sexuality: Holy shit. Yeah you are right. The good thing is that my approaching dojo is probably one of the safest places in whole Lima, there is very few crime.
Tuesday July 30 - Day 20
I only did one set today. I stayed like 30 minutes in the field. And my approach lasted I think like 12 minutes in total. And the other time was spent walking like an idiot. There were lots of people and sets. I wanted to stay more time but I was quite late there and did not want to get back home late by myself due to risk of being stolen or something. I was sarging solo.
So the first set, she was at her bus stop, waiting for her bus. I just went talk to her. Self-amusement, talking at her, pinging of myself.
It took some time to land the plane. She was one of those girls that takes a while to land the plane and with whom you have to be very emphatetic, patient, and just fucking stay there self-amusing and creating initiative.
She gave me her facebook. But she did not give me her number. She did not want to. I was close to get her number after enduring her tests. She laughed. But still, not number. So I left with facebook. Now, I don't like facebook, I hate that shit. Worthless shit. I am tired of having female friends from nowhere that do nothing and are not even related to a nice high status social circle. Does that sound discriminating? Maybe I give a fuck about what other people will think about adding those women to my facebook. Whatever...
I think I won't add her. Next time I'll get number.
So how will I get the number of this kind of girl?
I think what I needed to do was create more TRUST, build more trust.
And I think I could do that by:
- Staying more time in set, which was not possible here because she was about to leave in her bus.
- Build more physical rapport. Build more INTIMACY. Get more comfortable in her space and let her be more comfortable in mine. So I guess I lacked a bit of that in this approach. What I could do in this approach was using high notes in the interaction to get closer to her and get a bit physical or whatever. When she laughed, for example, I could get closer or use whatever excuse to hug her "Aw! You cute I love you!".
It was sort of an instant date. I sat with the girl and we had a nice chat.
Now, what happened was this:
- I felt as if everything I was doing was "game with no soul". Shitty feeling.
- I would try to get a reaction.
- I liked the girl for her personality and that would put me a bit in my head.
- She was kind of a leading girl and that put me a little bit in my head. I mean she suggested to sit down and everything and I wasn't even expecting that lol.
Talk AT the girl. Say and do stuff in a manner that it will feel good to me. Forget about the girl for a second. Look inside of myself and see what will make me feel good and just focus on myself.
I went to the daygame dojo. I approach a sexy ass girl. Very sexy. Everyone is staring at me, random people. She is like a bit nervous and says that she has to go. Whatever.
Then I ate shawarma and more arabic food, after that I smoked weed, and then I went to a house party of a friend. House party was shit. I did nothing and knew no one... my friend knew like a couple of people lol.
And then we leave early. I go home.
And now I am here writing this report, thinking that I could be sharper and better if I would've truly dedicated some amount of time to approaching. But well, I was risking, since I didn't know the party would be so bad. I thought it was going to be pure social circle.
Go hard at sarging! Hell yeah! When going to a party, it would be ideal to do some nice sarging before that to earn more skills and get some women!
Ah! women here in Peru are flakey as fuck! I get to answer but the dates are always very flakey.
I think I may have another party tomorrow. I hope it is good.
I got into the dojo, and I felt anxious. And then I also felt sexually frustrated. Fuck.
I felt bad because pretty much all my numbers turned cold on me. The solid girls I had have turned cold.
And yeah. I felt pretty bad.
I felt pain.
I did some sets.
Then I felt so bad that I sat down and listened to E.T. (the motivational speaker) on my iPod.
After that I felt really great. I approached a cute girl, facing reality and my fears head on. It was tough shit. But I did it. Then I ejected from the set. After walking a bit, I thought of going back to that girl, but I find her on her phone and accept that as an excuse... not good.
But anyways, after that I felt great.
And now I just feel good you know.
I just watched like half the walkthrough campaign of Call of Duty Black Ops 2... like for two hours lol.
Anyways I've learned some lessons:
- Make it happen with any number or girl that you get. It is okay to be careless due to relative abundance but you have got to make it happen and see them on dates.
Yeah I think that is the big one.
I am also learning that you can reframe anything in a way that you are fucking awesome cool and that it click in her reality.
- Make the approach click in her reality.
- Talk AT the girl. I didn't do much of this today. I don't think I even remembered this what the fuck.
I decided this is a good time to think about my values and goals. It is a great time to remind myself of what I want and what is the process to get there.
I want to be healthy. I want a great sex life, social life. I also want to get big.
So this is what I will do:
- Eat brown rice, eggs, spinach, broccoli, red bell pepper (those are the vegetables I eat the most), bananas, tangerines, meat (chicken, etc), nuts. This is the stuff I can eat and will be eating.
- NO processed foods.
- NO sugar.
- NO milk.
- Eat every 3 hours.
- Drink organic dark chocolate and green tea every day.
Go three times a week. 5x5 sets. Do drop sets. Deadlifts, squats to pump up testosterone.
Cold approach pickup
Go out every day to bring new people into my life. Bring along people into the daily stuff that I love doing.
20 minutes every day.
Reading and Education
Check out Field Reports of guys successful here.
Check out Jeffy Nine Ball.
Read Robert Kiyosaki.
Watch Alex's videos of Natural Instincts Method
No Fap Challenge is Over
It lasted like a year and a bit more. It is done. Time to break the pattern and see what other stuff happens.
Basically I think I am thinking of sex and girls as very valuable things. Fuck that. I am the shit, the coolest badass motherfucker that ever walked the earth.