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October 5 - Keeping it solid with the process

Taking action is the most important thing. That is it.

Lots of blowouts today. I didn't hook a single set wtf, I tried to plough a lot but I had some pretty bad luck as well, like a guy coming in and sabotaging my set or... well I don't really know what is going wrong here. It could possibly be an outer game thing... who the fuck knows... I just gotta keep taking action and learning a lesson from everything that I do. 

I did some 10 approaches at most.

I could notice I started going very half assed at the end. It is pretty hard to go full committed after getting blown out a lot for weeks.

But hey! I am liking the journey here. It is pretty obvious that I will get results some day if I keep doing this, if I keep honing my social skills and constantly looking for places where I can improve.

Today I've been able to see how I go half-assed and get rejected. I also learned a lot to keep a flow of relaxation and keeping a flow of positive emotions. Great shit. Alex~ rocks. 

So tomorrow I am doing night game! I am also going hard with the SAT. My goal for exam: leave it all, consume all of my energy and willpower, literally BURN MYSELF OUT. That is it. I will aim to go with the principle that I have a GUN in my head the whole time. THIS IS FUCKING IMPORTANT. Time to fucking TAKE HARD ACTION AND LET THE CHIPS FALL WHERE THEY MAY.

FUCK YEAH!!!!

This is my time motherfuckers. Remember that vid where Tyler talks about the lane? WELL THIS IS MY FUCKING LANE. My greatest gift is a curse. Fuck yeah. I am sorry to break the news, oh and guess what else? Santa doesn't exist.

This is reality babies. This is time to fucking leave my legacy out there. This is just the beginnings. These field reports are gold right here, they are gold, they represent the lowly beginnings of a guy who will be a fucking star ten years from now. It's done. It's written. It's meant to happen. It's just a matter of time.

PEACE.



It's my time. I already have a nice plan to start on Monday. It is some high intensity shit. LOVE THAT SHIT. BRING IT BABY. BRING IT.
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 October 6 - Beasting at the club

Nightgame... finally. And what an awesome fantastic night it was. 

Pickup is definitely hard. Lots of rejections. But what I love about it is that eventually you end up hooking sets.

First. Let's talk about daygame.

Daygame

We went to the mall. I started opening on the street right away. Blowout.

I honestly thought it was going to be one of those days full of blowouts and no hooks, but I still tried to implement new stuff and see how I could hook sets. Outer game is really what I am lacking at right now. I would say that the last days my daygame approaches have been a bit of Sacha style in the sense that I really don't give a fuck about rejections and I've been trying some self-amusement too. We'll see how I maintain those positive emotions lol.

So, after approaching some sets, I finally hooked one. Here, I discovered the art of ploughing.

Yesterday I learned how very important it is to get your waffle on, get in a very relaxed state, and just ramble with deliberate illogicality. I am finally clicking with some of Alex~ concepts, which is pretty great. 

The daygame set I hooked, pretty cute american girl, 2 set. I went up to them, direct opener, and I noticed the same pattern again "Hey thank you but no", so before they even got a chance to say that I started talking about random stuff. The most random stuff ever lol. Things like my favorite childhood cartoons, my mom wanting me to be an engineer, and me not speaking spanish nor english but speaking Italian. Then they were about to continue with their "Oh haha cool but no", and I started asking questions fast, I think I even did some cold reads, which is awesome. 

Second significant daygame approach

We went to a park, at night. I saw two girls. I just went direct, low energy, even with poor vocal projection lol, but very relaxed. Girls liked me. I got a bit physical. Hugged my target's friend. By getting a bit physical I mean touching shoulder lol. I thought about clawing but... I dont know lol. 

So I tried out one of Julien's methods to spark emotions. I told them that I had come to Peru for the funeral lol. And I really got in touch with my own negative emotions lol, I even wanted to cry for a moment. It was actually a bit more fucked up because I said that the funeral was for a brother of mine who had escaped at 14 years old and they found him dead but we don't care 'cause he was a crackhead and we were partying lol. However, I did not say the "I am just kidding" and go for a reframe. Well.. I think I actually did but my girl got pretty emotionally touched by that. Her friend was pretty cool. But my target was in that low emotional place of the rollercoaster. And... she stayed there lol. I failed to change my mood haha. I stayed a bit down for like the next 20 minutes. The thing that I said was pretty shocking. I realize that in order to be like Julien and say things like that while getting in touch with those emotions and then switching to your positive emotions is probably something that only a icy badass motherfucker who has been through a lot of shit can do.

The last thing that I mentioned just reminded me of this video. I'll watch it later. Hopefully, I'll be able to see new stuff.



I went for the number in this last set. She said she would not give me her number because of me being a stranger. She was staying there though. I just did not know how to keep pushing. I had really pushed far into the unknown lol.

Nightgame

Yay!! finally nightgame! and what a funny awesome night.

What's really great is that I can get in a really turbo-charged mood without taking alcohol. It is funny how my brother and I go really HIGH energy, like REAAAALLY high energy, just enjoying the environment and, most importantly, our own selves. 

We were pretty lucky because when we were hanging out with our Asian wing on the streets, we found renowned guys from the pickup community here in Peru who have their pickup company and stuff. Pretty cool guys! They had a nice vibe about them and, most importantly, we have very important mutual interests :)

I guess I'll sign up to take a bootcamp with them at Halloween festivals. That shit looks pretty intense. 

So, those guys helped me get into the club, which rocks because I am 17 and we even payed half the price. High quality girls in there :) At least in peruvian standards, very high quality lol. Not that kind of girls you see at the mall, you see those kinds of girls like every now and then in the mall, and when we do, WE MAKE SURE WE APPROACH THEM. But they are usually with boyfriends which sucks too. That shouldn't be an excuse.

Outside the club I do one spectacular approach. 

I go to this two set that the guys point at me. Hot girls lol, in their high heels and shit. 

I go with direct opener. As soon as I notice that they are going to start with the usual polite bullshit of "Oh thank you but we have to go", I said "no no I don't give a fuck about that", and I am pissed because I've gotten this reaction so many times that I was just unwilling to get it again lol. So... I GOT THEM VERY REACTIVE. I ask for the name of the other girl, she says it stuttering lol. I vibe a bit with her. Then I switch to the girl that I was an asshole to lol, she tells me her name fast without me even answering. God I love days/nights like this! Then a guy comes, I shake his hand but he takes them away... Cool stuff!

We get in the club and it's on bitches. We had so much fun it's not even funny lol... IT'S BLOODY AWESOME MATES!

And I love how lots of things are clicking.

I did like 50 approaches in total I think. Who knows... maybe more lol. Got a ton of rejections. But they key is to lose the ego fuck yes! I hooked some good sets as well. 

I told the funeral story to two pretty cute girls as well. One was from Argentina, pretty fucking hot ;)

When I told that story, I saw the anime eyes in the cute non argentina girl. Then I switched effectively to the positive emotions. Yay! I went for the group hug.

The thought of a double makeout crossed my mind. I guess I should have gone for the girl who got the anime eyes. And then for the one lol. BUT FUCK SAKES THAT WAS A HARD THING TO DO!!!! AAAAH! FUCK! Still, awesome night, and awesome set.



Then, their male friends came by, and they had to leave with them.

I did some great claw openers. I love touching girls. When I am not touching girls, I get pretty frustrated. I really like the human affection! I will find any excuse to even go for a high five or hug. It is just so much love and positive emotions! Love it.

I talked to an American girl. She seemed down for it. Does that have anything to do with the fact that she was American? I am just saying lol. No offending here. Yeah It's Kewl.

Well.. after talking to her for a while, I said "Happy Birthday!! Have you had your first bar makeout yet?" (Got that from Tim lol). And I think she got a little mad lol. She got her hand around my neck, as if wanting to kill me lol. Funny funny. Kept talking to her for a while and then she told her friends to leave. It was going fine until that line. Who cares lol. Still AWESOME!

Then I talked to a girl, got her attracted, seemed like that lol. Her boyfriend was behind. He came. Guy was like "Hey hey hey what the fuck dude?". I was like "Oh I thought she was someone else". Funny funny!


AWESOME MATES AWESOME FUCK YEAH! 

Alright that's it. Lovely night :)

Spectacular.

Things I learned in a nutshell:
- Relaxation. Relax the body, face, muscles, everything. Do some ballistic stretch.
- Ploughing.
- Get your waffle on. Deliberate illogicality. I’ll check out the videos later. This thread looks pretty great, I'll check it out too. http://www.rsdnation.com/node/184102
- BE THE PARTY! High fiving! Fist bumping the air!
- Claw over the shoulder as opener.
- I am working on the claw on the arm opener. Got some nice blowouts with that one lol.
- Tapping on the shoulder opener.
- Open by staring at them for a while.
- Open by shouting “HEY!” to the top of my lungs lol.
- 30 seconds game. Had a nice time with my bro and other guys doing this lol.
- 4 No's rule. Did this a couple of times. Funny lol.
- Going beastmode haha

And lastly getting more internalized the fact that it is all about the process. Believing in the process is like believing in God. You CHOOSE to believe it and to do so passionately and with certainty. In the worst times, it may make NO SENSE AT ALL. But that doesn't matter because you BELIEVE IN THE PROCESS. YOU BELIEVE IN SOMETHING THAT YOU CANNOT REALLY SEE BUT YOU STILL HAVE FAITH! And that is probably a golden lesson learned right there. I got rejected straight for two fucking weeks, no hooking, nothing, and I still kept rocking it baby. I did not complain nor care. And now, as I am getting good lessons from the journey and finally hooking some sets, oh I feel completely entitled to BRAG hahaha. What a douche.

Anyways, probably a very important thing is to not really make pickup the central thing in your life that your world revolves around and have other things that give you that DRIVE to aspire in certain things.

For example, I did not really care about my blowouts and rejections because I was pretty focused and I might say even passionate about my studying with the SAT at that time. Well, now the SAT is over. So I guess I will start playing lots of guitar, really cultivating that passion and even writing more songs. I'll also write short stories, I am thinking about participating in a contest, but I don't know if I should take it seriously. I guess I'll just do for the purpose of doing it and submit my work to the contest. In addition, I'll start doing paleo diet which will keep my mind focused on that. A future project is to film vlogs, but I'll do that as soon as I get my dad's badass camera. 

Alex~ explains this better :)



Much love :)

Edit. Woops I forgot another important realization.

It is basically that self-amusement is KEY. Everything that comes out of your mouth and all of your actions should be to entertain yourself and make yourself laugh. If you are bored then do/say things to have fun.

As Tim would say (I think it was him I am not sure) "How can I make this fun?".

Peace out.
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 October 7 - The Humble, Epic Beginnings of the Tropical Man

The legend is unfolding. 

Tropical Man, in a desperate attempt to relief his pain from evolutionary pressure, fell into several of his bad habits.

Reaching a pain threshold and building leverage, Tropical Man decided to change the course of his life forever. In the midst of his self-sabotaging pleasure, he took the power in his hands and envisioned a future filled with personal successes and the completion of an unforgettable legacy destined to remain in distant generations, in which children will visualize him as the person who gave it all for a purpose greater than himself.

"Who was this great man? Who was Tropical Man?" children will curiously inquire to their successful parents. The parents, with tears emerging from their eyes, will respond "A great man son. Someone whose principles will shape your own pursuit of goals and happiness. Someone who... along with dozens of inspiring men, sacrificed for us to step out of the haze and take deliberate action to achieve what we want achieve, BE WHO WE WANT TO BE".

And that child, perplexed by the contradictory grin and tears of regret of his parents, will grow to become a legend himself and thus, create a cycle of accomplishment, of complete harmony with BEING and DOING. In this civilization, far from being a utopian society, more and more people will access that inner power that we all possess. 

Now, Tropical Man will embark on a journey of struggle and hustle. For anyone, only this implication would mean immediate retreat. But not for Tropical Man. For him, NO PRICE IS TOO GREAT TO ACHIEVE HIS DREAMS; HE WOULD RATHER DIE. FOR HIM, THE ONLY TRUE SUCCESS COMES FROM TAKING MASSIVE COMMITTED ACTION AND NEVER QUITTING, GOING THROUGH WHATEVER PAINS ARE NECESSARY IN ORDER TO LIVE HIS DREAMS AND BUILD HIS EMPIRE, LEAVE HIS LEGACY.

Habits

Alright so I've made a plan that I hope will help me attain my now short term goal of Nov. 1st. 

This are the 2 habits for the next month (I will do this HELL OR HIGHWATER):
- Paleo Diet.
- Approaching every single day.

That is it. 


Projects

Write a 60 - 120 page short story. I will wander into the fields of creative writing. 

Compose my first solo album. Six songs minimum. Cultivating my passion for song writing.

Speed Reading.

Lose-Your-Ego Project.


Plans

Creative Writing: Dedicate Friday to this. Do it whenever I feel like it as well.

Song writing: Dedicate Saturday to this as rule, but also doing this whenever the fuck I want. Same with playing guitar and singing, doing whenever the FUCK I want.

Speed Reading: Read a book per week. I'll do two productivity session chunks with this. One after my morning ritual, and one after lunch. I'll try to apply some techniques I saw on the internet for the first week, then I'll crack into it like a pro with proper instruction from a book :) I'll dedicate one of those chunks everyday for Triple your Reading Speed by Wade E. Cutler until I finish reading it. 

Monday 8 - Sunday 14 : The Primal Blueprint by Mark Sisson.

Monday 15 - Sunday 21 : Awaken the Giant Within by Anthonny Robbins (I gotta finish this one lol) 

Monday 22 - Sunday 28 : Boundaries

Monday Oct. 29 - Sunday Nov. 4 : The Blank Slate by Steven Pinker


And finally, the most important one for my goal of November 1st:

LOSE-YOUR-EGO PROJECT


The LYE Project is a plan designed for the completion of my Nov. 1st goal. This project maximizes output to a whole new level, which will maximize the input in very gratifying ways. This project will be alive until the end of November 1st, a very special day for me, where I will be rejoicing with pride of my glorious exploits.

The LYE Project is mostly inspired in the content of one of Tyler's videos and consists in:
- Approaching TONS of girls. Just TONS and TONS of girls.
- When I see a girl that I like, I will approach her.
- Talk to EVERYBODY wherever I go to (includes girls I am not attracted to, guys, old people at the bus, who the fuck cares; the thing is to keep the nice rhythm and macro momentum going).
- Just focus on the process and in ways to refine that process (fuck results).

So, whenever I see a girl I am attracted to and I go like "I am a little cry baby and I am gonna cry if she is not nice to me", I will be aware of that thought and say "Fuck it. I am just gonna lose my ego and talk to everybody". And BAM! I go approach her. Fuck my ego lol.

These are some benefits I could get from this (there is probably A LOT MORE, these are some obvious ones. I'll be happy to see all of the benefits at the end of this challenge):

- MASSIVE reference experiences.

- Densifying the social aspect of my personality. Losing my ego... lol.



So, there is no “pickup hour” now. For this whole month, I will be constantly socializing everywhere, in the bus, waiting in line, while I am hanging out with my family, at the streets, bus stop, walking home, while I am exhausted. There is literally NO EXCUSES to not talk to a person this month. Not even their looks will be excuses. There is no “too young, too ugly, nyaaa nyaaa, too short/tall/cute”, none of that stupid shit. This plan is designed so that I can build lots of macro momentum and teach my brain that the one who rules here is ME, and that I don’t give a fuck about his little silly stupid excuses.

To achieve this plan is important to keep this concepts in mind:

-Calibrating after the fact. Even if I don’t know what to say, I’ll just fucking go and calibrate afterwards.

- Gun to my head principle. What would I do if I had a GUN TO MY HEAD? This challenge is about surrendering to the fact that I will inevitably die someday. It is about accepting that it is just a matter of time until I die, that I could die at any moment or get a fucking heart attack in the next minute and I AM DONE FOREVER. It is about realizing how precious life is and that it should not be taken for granted at any time. NEVER EVER EVER. Not least, it is about taking advantage of every precious second in life and working towards those ultimate goals while surrendering to any pain or sign of discomfort.

- Being non-judgemental of my game, mood, state, or anything. I will just BE and LET IT ALL BE. WHO THE FUCK AM I TO JUDGE?

- 4 No’s rule of Alex. Stay in set with this rule. This is a CRUCIAL PART of the challenge. If I want to be social, I should not only approach people and talk to them, but actually STAYING THE HELL IN THERE and pushing myself to stay there until they tell me to go away four times. No “fuck off” will affect me until I’ve been told so four times in set.

- Be a 100% relaxed 100% of the time. Do this by relaxing physique (ballistic stretching, relax face muscles, etc), and also by letting everything be by not judging my state, mood, or anything; just letting things BE. LET IT BE.

LET'S START THE MYTH.
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 October 8 - LYE Project is ON

I did around 10 approaches. Probably more.

So I went out today, approached right at the bus stop to follow the process of my new approaching project.

I went indirect, "How old do I look like?" lol.

From now on, I will try to focus all of my willpower on approaching out of the mall, in bus stops, streets. As soon as I step out of home, I am in the field and it is time to approach HARD with NO EXCUSES, and GUN TO MY HEAD PRINCIPLE. That is it.

Then, walking to the mall I tried to open some girls. I went half-assed, got blowouts haha.

My blowouts are mostly because I go half-assed, not fully committed to my actions, which transmits sort of a "playing to not lose" attitude. 

I got some nice interactions.

I hooked a set particularly well, one of the girls was hot. My brother came to wing me; he did an awesome job. We vibed some good time. One of the girls was uninterested/bored though. We ejected without asking for a number lol. That should not happen again! I am choosing to go for fb/number close next time. This is for a good cause.

Then, I approached two pretty cute girls. Blondes, pretty eyes, young, white girls... lol. It was the third time I saw them at the mall. The first two times I pussied out like a big pussy. They were with their mother. I saw them a third time and tried to build some leverage to approach them with their mom. I was like "God just put me this great gifts in front of me right now. He is rewarding me for my good behavior and now I am not taking advantage of his gifts... WTF!". However, the mom leaves and the girls start walking by themselves, and I am like "Thank God, fuck yeah you are awesome", and I go approach them lol. Good reactions. I walked with them. Girl points out that she is walking in another direction, I think she wanted me to go with her, but I wasn't sure of what to do and did not want to seem needy or be seen by her mom. I need to BREAK OUT OF MY COMFORT ZONE and FIND OUT what happens when you do things like these. I am choosing to do this. THIS IS FOR A GREATER PURPOSE.

And, if I don't do those things, the game will start to get boring and repetitive anyways. So, LET'S GO AHEAD AND LEAD THE INTERACTION. LET'S KEEP MOVING THE INTERACTION FORWARDS AT ALL TIMES! I guess this is one of the most important things I've learned or re-learned today. Awesome.

That is it. 

Re-posting my goals here to keep them in mind:
- Approach TONS of girls. Just TONS and TONS of girls.
- When I see a girl that I like, I will approach her.
- Talk to EVERYBODY wherever I go to (includes girls I am not attracted to, guys, old people at the bus, who the fuck cares; the thing is to keep the nice rhythm and macro momentum going).
- Just focus on the process and in ways to refine that process (fuck results).

Something important to focus on tomorrow, or in other words, a way to refine the process:
USE ALL OF MY WILLPOWER TO APPROACH AT STREETS, BUS STOPS, BRIDGE... EVERYWHERE BUT THE MALL.

Time to expand my reality some more and densify that social side of myself!

Hasta la vista!
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 Waddup bruhh, have u gotten laid yet? Or not yet, sorry I haven't put aside the time to read all ur posts XD
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@Trunkz: hey whatsuuup man! Yeah don't worry about the posts, pretty long posts not gonna lie, I wouldn't read them at all if they were from another guy lol. Anyways, I haven't gotten laid yet haha. But I've definitely learned some stuff and improved a lot too. Some months ago, I wouldn't see myself approaching hot girls and getting in state without alcohol; the journey so far has been a blast, and I am really loving it. My hopes are that if I keep working hard and approaching consistently with complete faith in the process and getting MASSIVE reference experiences, I will not only lose my virginity (which is the November 1st goal) but also get laid more than that. I am planning on opening an OKCupid account the weekend to speed up the meeting women process. Hopefully, I'll get my first D2 ever in Friday. So when are you updating those field reports man? Pretty sick stories in there lol.



October 9 - The party continues at the mall

I had a nice approaching session today.

I felt a lot of approach anxiety at first, but I decided to change my emotions. So I did not judge my mood at all, changed my self talk / vocabulary for the better, began to self-amuse, laugh, and deliberately getting my waffle on. Finally, I got pretty relaxed. It took me some time and effort to get into this zone. Alex~ stuff on relaxation were crucial in this. I can see that this relaxation aspect definitely helps a lot in my game. 

I did about 10 approaches, a bit more, like 12 probably. 

I am learning to walk with the girl to talk to her. I'll keep practicing this. 

I realize that this walking-with-the-girl thing arises from necessity lol. I really want to fuck those girls. More than one month in a no fap challenge here... :D

So, some approaches went well in terms of reactions but it could have been better in terms of my actions... like walking with the girl and talking to her while self-amusing, and expressing myself to the fullest as a form of art.

Some hot girls. Smiles from them.

I would say I had an improved vocal projection, eye contact, even body language, going very non-apologetic I would say, which is awesome. However, at the end of my approaching session, I noticed how my tonality started to switch into trying for rapport, just a bit, which conveyed some neediness. It's funny how this usually happens after getting rejected a lot. I will even go half-assed because a part of me is afraid to get rejected. It seems like a part of me does not completely understand yet that, paradoxically, a trying for rapport tonality will exacerbate the situation and get me some pitty "thank you's".

WELL FUCK THAT SHIT.

I need to work on my commitment to the approach. Really commit to it and letting the chips fall where they may. If I get rejected, big deal, I just go approach another girl. Fuck my ego. But I have to truly go in there, either authoritative or charming and funny. Also, I am starting to see that there is a fine line between going charming and funny (which is also my usual style) and going trying for rapport. I need to get that neutral tonality in those last approaches when my form starts to flake. I really lose it sometimes lol. Well, part of the process I guess. 

So... just walk with those girls and plough, plough, PLOUGH! 

I guess that is it. I am hitting it up again tomorrow. Mall again. Fuck yeah.

Oh... I HAVE TO APPROACH OUTSIDE THE MALL GODDAMNIT. WTF is wrong with me not doing this? Come on! ALL OF MY WILLPOWER DIRECTED TOWARDS THAT TOMORROW, I REALLY NEED TO BREAK THAT COMFORT ZONE. JUST TALK TO ANYBODY.

Goals:
- Approach TONS of girls. Just TONS and TONS of girls.
- When I see a girl that I like, I will approach her.
- Talk to EVERYBODY wherever I go to (includes girls I am not attracted to, guys, old people at the bus, who the fuck cares; the thing is to keep the nice rhythm and macro momentum going).
- Just focus on the process and in ways to refine that process (fuck results).

USE ALL OF MY WILLPOWER TO APPROACH AT STREETS, BUS STOPS, BRIDGE... EVERYWHERE BUT THE MALL.
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 October 10 - Deep Respect For The Journey

Today I could really see the magnificence of the journey, how it is so huge and complicated that focusing in its destination is just a waste of time and unnecessary stress.

The only thing that could ever matter in the journey is the NOW and the immediate next step, knowing where you are going.

Today I realized how in 2 months I've covered a lot of that journey, which made me proud and grateful; however, I also realized that I have a LONG LONG LONG road to go. I realize that the road is so fucking long that it might even seem that there is not even a destination at all. So, it is all about focusing on the process and having sort of an idea of where you are going.

It is pretty awesome. 

I think what gave me the most certainty that there is a journey was having faith in it (sounds a bit weird, like "believe then see"), and I guess of course the undeniable evidence of its existence. The last weeks my approaches sucked, but the last days it has been going great. I never complained, or thought about giving up, because I had been there so many times before that I JUST KNEW that it was going to be okay somewhere a long the line. I mean, nothing lasts forever. 

But I think that the point here is that I am having some trouble accepting how great "expansions" can be because I don't want to leave myself vulnerable when I reach a bad low. I fear that bad low. Sounds insane lol. 

For this reason, I am trying to just not judge or label my moments as highs or lows and just let it be as it is, and enjoy it. However, I think that deep down inside, I have tremendous fear of going into a low of both inner game and outer game. Lately, I've been killing it with the inner game, feeling so fucking good at times, and the last days I've learning some pretty awesome techniques to keep conversations going, self-amuse, etc. But I really can feel that pain of not letting myself get into that. Yet, how can I truly enjoy a high if I don't even immerse myself into it. And a part of me just can't let go and surrender to this dilemma of the journey. That part wants to keep expanding forever and not have to feel severe pain again. Actually I just put myself in contact with that part, and could feel the pain. So, it would seem like even not surrendering brings pain. 

I just have to surrender. Just let go. This too will pass. Everything will pass! 

Approaches

My first two approaches were pretty fucking awesome. I would say that in terms of my actions, those approaches successes.

The first were two cute girls sitting. I approached and started talking. They were quite shy and did not talk much but laughed a lot. Anyways, I talked to them for a while, tried to make them talk. But after a while, I was like "is this really worth it". So I left because they weren't my type. WTF dude? Of course it is worth it, this is to become a better person and give lots of value to the world. FUCK. I forgot that hehe

Second approach were three cute girls sitting. Again, I went direct, committed, and did an amazing job. I self-amused, put my waffle on, and was doing great. I was smashing tests too, making some pretty great job. Within some minutes, I had the girls laughing. However, there was this girl that would always be giving me shit tests. It was funny because there was a girl that really liked me, another girl that wasn't sure, and a girl that really did not like me lol. I made them laugh a lot. However, the girl that did not really like me (I arrive to this conclusion because she suggested me to go away several times) then throwed a test like "Are you on drugs? You are saying a lot of incoherent stuff". And then I got reactive and got like "NO!" haha. Next time I could say something like "By that you mean that I like to milk cows while watching my favorite sitcom", or some other deliberate illogicality thing. Well, she got me there. And I think I am also taking things a bit personal. I mean, it is not that the girl did not like; actually, what happened was that she had not seen how awesome I was and she was screening to see that awesomeness. All I had to do was keep being awesome. But well, I have to keep reframing my interactions in that self-love way lol. 

The rest of approaches were blowout. It was like after those 2 approaches I got somewhat lazy, wanted to go home, yet I still managed to relax to a certain extent and approach the fuck out of the girls.

A huge negative thought pattern that I am having is that I should not approach many girls because then I will have approached ALL girls or the majority of them, which implies that I will have to deal with bullshit like them calling me out for having approached them before, not remembering their faces, or seeing me as a "pickup guy" (I think this one is probably the worst lol).

BUT WHO THE FUCK CARES WHAT THOSE GIRLS THINK ABOUT ME?

I have to reframe this NTP like this:
- If I re-approach a girl without recognizing her, then I deal with her bullshit and shit tests and let her screen me to see how AWESOME I am. Wow! Pretty simple huh? And guess what? This will actually make me better at this as I will be able to really PUT MY FUCKING ELBOWS IN THE MOTHERFUCKING MUD AND BE A FUCKING MAN ALREADY.

I think that one is enough. NO BULLSHIT. LET'S MAN THE FUCK UP. FUCK YEAH. 

Lastly, another reasons to keep approaching those girls is to: JUST LOSE MY FUCKING EGO, AND START THE FUCKING MYTH.

The Myth? Yeah the myth. Be that fucking guy that did all he possibly could to live his dreams and attain success. The guy who pushed really hard and lived life to the fullest, taking advantage of opportunities, and learning from failures, even learning from the failing to take advantage of an opportunity. The guy who beat himself up to man the fuck up already instead of being a little bitch. A guy who becomes a MAN through hard work. A GUY WHO EARNED BEING A MAN AND WHOSE LEGACY WILL ENHANCE THE LIVES OF MANY PEOPLE. A TRUE BADASS MOTHERFUCKER - PIMP.

That is it. That's it. Literally. 

TAKE MASSIVE, COMMITED ACTION! NO EXCUSES!

Geez... lol

I am still having lots of problems talking to people at the bus or outside the mall lol. How am I supposed to do this shit? It is a lot of pressure right there lol. 

I guess that for now, when I am in the bus or outside the mall, I will only talk to those girls that I am really attracted TO, and get my ass rejected and ego beaten to the fucking ground if necessary lol. Then at the mall it is time to talk to everybody again to stay in the rhythm and just get as many reference experiences as I can :)

Gosh... this pickup thing can really hurt! The worst is that a part of me really enjoys it. That masochistic part that laughs at my pain lol. I hate but I love it.

Isn't that weird? I think that is pretty weird lol

Goals:
- Approach TONS of girls. Just TONS and TONS of girls.
- When I see a girl that I like, I will approach her.
- Talk to EVERYBODY wherever I go to (includes girls I am not attracted to, guys, old people at the bus, who the fuck cares; the thing is to keep the nice rhythm and macro momentum going).
- Just focus on the process and in ways to refine that process (fuck results).

USE ALL OF MY WILLPOWER TO APPROACH AT STREETS, BUS STOPS, BRIDGE... EVERYWHERE BUT THE MALL. THEN AT THE MALL, USE WHATEVER WILLPOWER I HAVE LEFT. 

LET'S DO THIS. LET'S CALIBRATE AFTER THE FACT!!!!

Talking about calibrating after the fact, I approached a girl talking on the phone today. I think this is one of the first times I do this, but I had done it before. By now, I just know that tapping her shoulder and saying something or making some sign is a way to go about it. I'll have to calibrate this too :D

Peace!
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October 11 - Wandering into the unknown

Alright I had some great experiences today that were in my relative unknown, as I haven't had these type of interactions before.

After some reflection and analysis of these experiences in order to calibrate after the fact, I've gotten some realizations or "clicks", internalizing concepts watched in several RSD videos, which are:

- THINK OUTSIDE THE BOX TO MAKE HER COMFORTABLE, AND MAKING IT HAPPEN.
- SCREEN FOR LOGISTICS TO GET THE GIRL.
- ASSUMING ALL ATTENTION IS FUNNY AND POSITIVE.


All of them are good "clicks", all very important to keep improving my game in certain areas. 

So, the last days I've been saying how girls say things like "Thank you" and keep walking, or say "I really have to go here" and keep walking. And, I said that the solution to this problems would be to walk with them. Alright great. I tried that out a bit the last days. It was okay. The main thing is that I tried it.

Now, today I tried it again.


First significant approach

Pretty CUTE girl here. Blonde, white, pretty eyes, the type of girl that I like. I go with a direct opener, "Hey I think you are cute, I had to meet you. What's your name?" BAM. She tells me her name. Awesome.

I talk shit for a while, trying to self-amuse, pump my own state with the things that I say. I was about to say some stupid shit, but then I remembered the realization I had this weekend of saying things to feel better, things that will pump your state. So, BAM, I do that. I talk about her name being french, then about french cafes (we were in front of a cage), and applying some deliberate illogicality here and there. Things that do not really make sense but make me laugh. 

So then she says "haha oh that's really cool but I have to go to my university here". I see the opportunity and I say, "Oh okay let's go!". 

Now here is where "assuming all attention is funny and positive" comes into place. Who knows, she might have said that to reject me, who the fuck knows, I say it was to screen if I was as awesome as I am and to walk with me towards her university. So I walk with her lol. 

I start talking about her studies. Some playful comments here and there, like "oh so you are going to be my marketer in four years", things like that. Then, she starts to invest. She asks me where I am from. I say Costa Rica. Oh forgot about saying that I was for the funeral lol! But whatever, it was just a really nice interaction. And we talked about Costa Rican beaches, and which beaches here in Peru are great.

Then, the interaction kind of starts to stagnate, like it seemed like there was no emotional spikes anymore, it probably got too predictable into the positive emotions. I could say something like "I hate you" out of the blue next time. That's cool. I just keep talking, ask her some questions, and talk talk talk. 

However, some of her friends behind us call her. She says "oh wait a minute here, those are my friends". So, I make a big mistake and stand there waiting for her to finish talking to her friends. I knew I had to go there and pretend I was her friend that she met a long time ago. But I didn't, and I waited there thinking that she might take initiative and leave her friends to keep talking to me. Now that could happen with a girl that really likes me, but I forgot that I can't take things like that for granted and that I have to always take initiative and BE PROACTIVE. Finally, after waiting there for like 2 minutes I think lol, I decided to man the fuck up and go talk to the group. I talk to the chode-ass guys for a while, and the guy tells me to leave. Well... Girl probably wanted to be judged... whatever. I tell her, "hey it's that okay?". She is like "yeah my university is right there", all kind lol. So, damn I left. lol

But, things could have been different if I WOULD HAVE THOUGHT OUTSIDE THE BOX TO MAKE HER COMFORTABLE.

First, I should have stayed there, give a handshake to the guys, befriend them, and pretend that I know the girl from years.

Then, if they asked me "so how do you know each other?" (which has happened several times before), I should have said something like "Oh we are childhood friends". That's it lol. That way, I would've made her comfortable, or at least less uncomfortable as she doesn't risk being judged by her friends by them knowing that she is talking to a guy who she just met at the mall lol. 

I could have even lied and made a pretty awesome story, which at the same time, would have made a conspiracy between us, I guess... I still have to field test all of these things lol. 


Second significant approach

Similar situation. I stopped a cute girl. It was going well. She said she had to go. I should have walked with her. But I wasn't really feeling it lol. I guess I should have broke out of my comfort zone, shut the fuck up, and just get on with it. But well... next time!!


Third significant approach

Pretty cute girl. Again, kinda blonde, pretty eyes, white, the type of girl that I like. She wasn't as pretty as the first one but still... good genes haha :D 

She said she was from Mexico, etc. We vibed for a while. But I decided to leave because she told she was visiting, staying at her cousin's house. 

Now, I still had to screen further for logistics. I could've asked "Until when are you staying here?", "Do you know the city well to use public transport?". Or I don't know... asking questions that would've indicated me that she was available for a D2. Well... next time!!

That is it. Then I got blown out, or unreactive girls lol.

That's cool.

Finally I am starting some things in game and learning from all the failures that I had all of this time. What is even better is to learn a lesson from all of my small victories today. Because... come on, that first girl was definitely a small victory. Fuck... a HUGE victory. 

That shit was pretty awesome!

FUCK YEAAAAH!!! FUCK YEAAAAAAH!!!!

Today, I had a nice opportunity to talk to some girls near home in the morning while walking to a leisure complex.

However, I didn't do it!!! AND I HAVE TO DO IT!! At least, I have to keep building that emotional leverage to fucking go and JUST LOSE MY FUCKING EGO!

So, that is it for today.

Goals:
- Approach TONS of girls. Just TONS and TONS of girls.
- When I see a girl that I like, I will approach her.
- Talk to EVERYBODY wherever I go to (includes girls I am not attracted to, guys, old people at the bus, who the fuck cares; the thing is to keep the nice rhythm and macro momentum going).
- Just focus on the process and in ways to refine that process (fuck results).

USE ALL OF MY WILLPOWER TO APPROACH AT STREETS, BUS STOPS, BRIDGE... EVERYWHERE BUT THE MALL. THEN AT THE MALL, USE WHATEVER WILLPOWER I HAVE LEFT.

LET'S DO THIS. LET'S CALIBRATE AFTER THE FACT!!!!


A demain ;) 
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October 12 - Getting some good results

RANT


Yeah, the title. True. Well fuck that shit.

I've noticed how I these good results kind of got me into a state of being a little sissy and caring about girl's reaction, whether they accept me in facebook or not, or why do they lied with their last names haha

Well so yeah, I said that a part of this LYE Project was to say "FUCK RESULTS" and keep approaching TONS and TONS of girls regardless of any results, always questioning myself here and there to see where I can improve.

So that being said, I have improved some stuff. Some game improvements are in:
- Self-amusing. I realized how I have to say things that will make me feel good, say things for myself and just myself.
- Staying in set.
- Getting relaxed.

So those are some pretty good improvements. I still gotta improve in my closing abilities. Cool. Awesome.

Want to see something really awesome? I wrote this a week ago in October 5:
TropicalMan wrote:
October 5 - Keeping it solid with the process

Taking action is the most important thing. That is it.

Lots of blowouts today. I didn't hook a single set wtf, I tried to plough a lot but I had some pretty bad luck as well, like a guy coming in and sabotaging my set or... well I don't really know what is going wrong here. It could possibly be an outer game thing... who the fuck knows... I just gotta keep taking action and learning a lesson from everything that I do. 

I did some 10 approaches at most.

I could notice I started going very half assed at the end. It is pretty hard to go full committed after getting blown out a lot for weeks.

But hey! I am liking the journey here. It is pretty obvious that I will get results some day if I keep doing this, if I keep honing my social skills and constantly looking for places where I can improve.

Today I've been able to see how I go half-assed and get rejected. I also learned a lot to keep a flow of relaxation and keeping a flow of positive emotions. Great shit. Alex~ rocks. 

I've been seeing my mindset and attitude of a week ago, and that shit is pretty admiring. Like really, I admire the guy who wrote that. And well, that guys is me. So, time to come back to center and keep taking massive amounts of committed action. For one moment, I was wandering off into pussyness and judging shit and not wanting to let go of moments.

But well FUCK THAT SHIT.

Just fucking enjoy reality. Take your slap in the face some days, and other days take the glorious pats on the back. Whatever it is, SURRENDER TO IT, AND FUCKING ENJOY IT. 

Don't get attached to a certain moment. Say: This too will pass. Fuck yeah it will. And if you don't accept that, you are up for a good beating in the face that will make you realize that everything will pass, but in a way that fucking unneccesarily hurts. 

Whatever it is that you are going through, just enjoy on the process and focus on that next step. 

You might be really enjoying your current place in the journey. But fuck that shit, because in the muddy mountain that is the journey, something like "Oh I really like this, I think this is enough, I'll stay here forever!!" will make you fall back in your journey and fuck up with all your progress. So well, it is important to keep taking action and go through whatever pains are necessary in order to go further in the endless journey. Just go further, into the unknown, go into places that not many people has gone through. I know for sure that now, I am in place that surely only 1% percent of the world population have gone through. And a large percentage of that 1% are RSD guys who I owe a lot of respect and admiration. 

To even think all of the bullshit I've gone through. This is so fucking sweet. Like really, sweet! And to consider the inevitable fact that I will keep putting up with even MORE bullshit, it just makes it more SWEET. FUCKING SWEET. COME ON! BRING ME THE PAIN! 

COME ON!!! BRING ME THE PAIN!!! FUCKERS. WHERE IS THE PAIN HUH? BRING ME THE PAIN MOTHERFUCKERS! I WILL FUCKING THAT FUCKING PAIN IN THE ASS AND KEEP MY FUCKING JOURNEY AND ACHIEVE MY DREAMS MOTHERFUCKERS. WATCH ME. WATCH ME. FUUUUCK! WATCH ME.

I AM IN FOR THIS UNTIL I FUCKING COLLAPSE FROM EXHAUSTION. AND WHEN I COLLAPSE, I WILL GET BACK UP AND KEEP PUSHING FORWARD. 

THIS IS ABOUT MY FUCKING DREAMS. MY FUCKING GOALS. IT IS ABOUT GETTING MY PORTION OF TOUGH REALITY EVERY FUCKING DAY AND ENJOYING IT'S BITTERSWEET TASTE.

LET'S FUCKING DO THIS!


Approaches

15 approaches

I had some pretty good approaches. I started by asking lots of people “Where is the Starbucks?”. I even did some tough sets with that one lol.

Anyways, I decided to go direct.



First significant approach

Pretty cute girl walking out of the bathroom. I see her, I approach. Pretty cool girl. As I am saying my opener, I see her get the anime eyes lol. She is pretty cool. I keep talking to her for a while. I really need to go to the bathroom, so I decide to eject. Not a good decision I guess. I could have tell her to wait for me there or something. Anyways, I hug her and enter to the bathroom. Pretty solid approach. It could have been a solid number. It is time to work on my asking of numbers, calibrating after the fact with that shit.



Second significant approach

Two cute girls. One of them is PRETTY FUCKING CUTE. LIKE HOLY SHIT, A HOTTIE. So, anyways, I go, tell the hot girl that I think she is cute. I walk with her for a while, then they stop. We talk there. I notice how in these type of sets I have to work harder on saying things that will pump my own state. A part of me says stuff to please them. FUCK THAT SHIT. The shit I say should be for me and just for me. FUCK GIRLS lol :D (Much love <3)

So yeah, I think that for a second when I got the validation from the hot girl I started to get like “Oh can I keep you? Pleaaase”. So anyways, I facebook closed. The friend of the hot girl seemed pretty attracted to me. I just found her on facebook. Let’s see if she adds me. The hot girl lied to me with her last name haha I just saw her in her friend’s pictures. Not gonna take it personally lol. It’s all kewl! I don’t know if I should add her because it might seem creepy. But… if I am enough, and there is no reason why I am not enough, then I should probably add her. Now, the downside is that I was not particularly feeling 100% enough when I was talking to her. So there you go. I’ll add her friend and game her lol. I’ll get more girls so that I build that abundance and entitlement and one day I’ll be able to get hot chicks like that.

So I really need to work on my closing game. Get those facebooks, possibly emails, and even better if it is their numbers.

I need to maintain going self-amusement mode, going fully committed to that approach, and holding a 100% relaxed state.

Most approaches today were hooks. I hooked pretty damn well.

If anyone could give me tips on asking for the number that would be pretty great. Hey bro dcampo3, do you have some advice?

So yeah… I have to keep it up with the diet. I am not sure when I will be writing songs and cultivating the passion for song-writing. I am currently concentrating a lot in my paleo diet and healthy lifestyle, so seems like I need to handle that first.

Also, the girl I had set up a date for today flaked. I’ll keep her there and try to set up a date for another day.

Alright that is it.

Peace :D

Goals:
- Approach TONS of girls. Just TONS and TONS of girls.
- When I see a girl that I like, I will approach her.
- Talk to EVERYBODY wherever I go to (includes girls I am not attracted to, guys, old people at the bus, who the fuck cares; the thing is to keep the nice rhythm and macro momentum going).
- Just focus on the process and in ways to refine that process (fuck results).

USE ALL OF MY WILLPOWER TO APPROACH AT STREETS, BUS STOPS, BRIDGE... EVERYWHERE BUT THE MALL.
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