THE FORUMS
A couple questions: The 'safe' option, and a manly dilemma.
I would go over to that girl's place tonight and close it down hardcore. Otherwise, what's the point of going out if you're not going to accept the rewards of your hard work? That's my $.02 at least.
Unless you're not keen on fucking her, in which case you should go out with your buddy and upgrade your options. IT'S FRIDAY NIGHT WHHOOO!
Unless you're not keen on fucking her, in which case you should go out with your buddy and upgrade your options. IT'S FRIDAY NIGHT WHHOOO!
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Skyfist
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Join Date: 04/14/2012 | Posts: 44
I've been improving so much recently, it's weird to think that 2 months ago I had crippling, crippling approach anxiety.
To get over this initial hurdle my friend convinced me to get wasted drunk and go out, which was awesome for killing nerves, and I kept it up for ages, getting a couple makeouts here and there, and once actually pulled a chick home, through complete fluke (made a thread about that shit). Started getting some not-insignificant results, though it was all through an alcoholic haze. Saw Juliens video about going sober and swallowing the hit to your short term results in favour of long-term progress, decided I wanted to go full natural, and made the switch.
The transition was pretty bullshit, but in the past week I've brought myself to the point where I can consistently open with a little self discipline. I can talk at them, lead, clumsily escalate, etc etc. My verbals still need work - I find myself forcing out words to fill the silence instead of saying what I want to - but I've successfully brought myself to a place where I've got a solid foundation, and all I need to do is chip off the bullshit, and hone the fundamentals before going hardcore. I get a few numbers and makeouts from sixes and sevens, and I know all I need to do is keep going out. Pretty sure I hit state once - that was fucking awesome. I felt like the venue was my house, and everyone there was like a shiny object for me to go play with.
A long way from being the creepy, depressed loner in highschool. (:
So anyway, yeah, I had a couple questions about last night:
1) A couple of my friends got talking to a group of girls. I started talking to this kind of cute girl, and we ended up talking about travel and life goals for the next 2 hours, until the venue closed. It was pretty awesome. Went for the pull, logistics weren't in my favour despite her being into it, so I got her number. But like... the night was over. I'd spent a big chunk of the night talking to a chick who I wasn't incredibly attracted to, and I'm wondering whether this was a good idea. My friend told me I was being a bitch and choosing the 'safe' option. I'm not sure whether it's rationalisation or not when I answered "she was cool, I liked talking to her".
2) Said girl just invited me to her place tonight. The alternative option is to go out again with my friend. The first is pretty awesome short term because obviously practicing closing, plus increasing confidence, whatever. The other is probably better for long, longterm results by increasing my general approaching skills by like 0.1%. What's the better idea?