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December 6th, 2016
Chode Confesion.. never kissed a girl
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dcampo3

dcampo3

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Join Date: 05/01/2012 | Posts: 1988

Remember the fat kid at school who was nerdy as fuck, but would be really freaking scared about girls? That was  me.. I was 14 years old, never had a girlfriend, i was 210 pounds 5'5'... never had kissed a girl.
When I was 14 years old my parents moved from one country to another.. they test me in the new school to see what level i should be placed in.. turns im freaking smart and they put me with guys that are 17 18 by the time. My game was like me being a freaking monkey and them being freaking pimps.. i didnt know a shit...i dont even know if i liked girls lol. High school... never kissed a girl

I started college at LSU when I was 16.. at least by this time i knew i liked girls lol. I remember my first approach to a girl i liked in my calculus class. She was 23. I ask her for her pencil. After the test, i try to start conversation.. but i retardedly pushed my seat and all the seats falls down. I feel like a jack ass. Girl looks at me like an idiot. Freshman year.. never kissed a girl.

Sophomore year started, i discovered alcohol. Met a girl that freaking loved me.. but was a dating a marine. I somehow went to her appartment and we were chilling. She really liked me.. but i didnt kiss her. Sophomore year... never kissed a fucking girl. (P.s: I got the nickname 'The terrorist' for talking to this chick LOL)

Junior year, I started working out like 3 hours a day.. i went fucking crazy... I really wanted girls to like me.. i wanted to get chicks.. and i thought looks mattered. I lost almost all my fat by then. I went to the clubs.. and guess what.. Never kissed a girl

Senior year, its my 20th birthday.. and i seriously believe im the biggest loser with chicks. I decide to get drunk as fuck and high as fuck. I could barely walk in the party that my friends had thrown for me. Suddenly, I am making out with a girl... it was fucking weird... i dont even know who she was.. or how she looked like. I know it was a bad makeout.. i just know.
The next month i went to a club.. got drunk as fuck again.. i make out with a fatass black girl.. like a freaking 1/10.. it was naaasty (A FRIEND WHO WAS ALSO REALLY DRUNK WAS MAKING OUT WITH HER, AND RIGHT AFTER THAT  I DID IT.. YEA THATS FUCKING NASTY) . Next month.. same happened.. this time obese chick was white.. but nasty as fuck again.  I finally got to kiss a girl in my freaking senior year.. but i was so fucking drunk all these times (like literally falling down)... that i feel like i dont even freaking remember!

Now im 21. By far the best year ive had with respect to success with women... i have been doing RSD for a little more than 3 months.. and thank god i started sober..now.. I have girls following me at nights.. girls that i know want to make out with me.. girls that who knows even want to fuck me.. but for some reason... i just cant do it! Its like im trying to break the freaking chinese wall.. its just so hard.. that its almost very desperating. I have been learning to take every single night as a learning experience.. and i dont regret any moves that ive made and anything.. but i really feel like i need someone to push me here. The idea in my head of making out is so outside my reality.. that i am seriously concerned of how im going to reach this. Like my attraction game, kino game is freaking awesome.. but i always reach that wall... and i stay like.. FUCK.. NOT AGAIN!!!

Just writing this post cus i felt like i had to fucking say to the world how big of a chode i am right now.. and i hope to be really good one day.
If i get my makeout.. this will be dedicated for you guys.. freaking RSD is changing my whole concept of life and my sense of value. Of course my first lay will be dedicated for you too.
PEACE!

And... i wonder if you guys can tell me if any of you went through something like this... and how did you break that barrier? Thanks bros
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Etzio

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Join Date: 04/02/2012 | Posts: 88

You are deluding yourself, your game sucks. Go on the dancefloor, claw a girl, unflinching eye contact, pull her in for the makeout. Problem solved. Making out doesn't mean anything.
dcampo3 wrote:
Like my attraction game, kino game is freaking awesome


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dcampo3

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maybe i am you know... it most likely sucks..
the thing is that i have even brought more than two girls home.. but keep reaching the wall.. its just frustrating

look im aware that my game is not the best.. and thats why im looking for improvement every day i go out... that was some ego showing itself i guess... but yea.. i am pretty aware that I am not even close to my goal.
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 Each time you go home after a night out, think about your sets that went well, then think about how you could've pushed the interaction a step further.

Before I had ever kissed a girl or even gotten a number, this is what I did, and this is what really helped me.

First I would think about grinding with a girl. Then I would think about pushing it a step further, and having her face me. THEN I would consider looking into her eyes and doing triangular gazing...

After that, just get really close to her face, without making out.. if she doesn't object, then makeout.

These are all physical things that you just need to be comfortable leading with. It can only be learned with experience.
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In my eyes you're a pretty cool guy OP. 

I know to you it feels like you are a super chode but you just don't realize how normal your story actually is in one way or the other... The only difference is you are actually doing something about it. You are wanting a change in your life and actually taking action to make that change.

Dude you know how many desperate chodes there are out there that will never change or seek growth. They just assume they are what they are and will forever live a life of pure shit... The fact that you are even here is a big deal and says alot about you.

So stop being hard on yourself - You are right on track. You are still young and have LOTS of prime years ahead of you.
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Kjaye777

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Don't be hard on yourself, it sounds like you're actually making a lot of progress compared to where you were at at 14.

Be proud of the progress you have made and are making. Don't worry about stumbling along the way, having setbacks, embarrassing fails etc etc. What matters is that you are pushing yourself to step up.

From the sounds of it you are attracting girls ok, you just have a few hangups to get past. Once you break past them you will be doing great.
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Wow, that's the lamest story I've ever heard. Maybe you're learning disabled and will never get laid.
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dcampo3

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haha Trojan = fuck you.
Hey thanks everybody.. you are right.. Ill try to push things further. There was a moment i started doing this bu for some reason i stopped.. or maybe i didnt.. im just going really slow.
Peace
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thespice

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dcampo, it sounds like you're being a bit masochistic.  Your title says you never kissed a girl, but you have kissed a girl...... almost as if you believe you are worse with women than you are.  When you're a virgin though, I know you want to have sex and know what it is.  There are a lot of illusions about sex.  Your description of getting your makeout reminds me of myself in a way.  I wanted sex and kissing to be awesome, but then when it happens, you realize it can be nasty, but you still want it.

Anyway, your problem with your early years sounds like you were focussing on like one girl per year.  There are so many girls out there, and especially when you're in college, so many girls to do day game with.  Instead of going to clubs and getting sick drunk and resorting to making out with the nastiest on the planet, you may have been better off to simply ask a pretty girl to get a coffee, sit next to her in a booth, get close to her, and kiss at some point.  In retrospect.  

So you can talk to lots of girls that you don't feel very strong about at first.  She'll probably like you more that you don't have a lot invested in the interaction.  But then, you say you have girls following you.  You sound to be doing fine, I don't know what your problem is.
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dcampo3

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the thing is that i have just reached a plateau and i need to cross it.. but thanks man... like tyler says... its the simplest but at the same time the hardest thing to do.
Peace bro
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GianniR

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 don't TRY, just let it go.. then when you have let it go, try again, it will be MUCH easier :)
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