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Emergency - Talked with Girl for 8 hours this weekend. Problem -- she lives far away. Need to F-close b4 friend frame occurs
My advice: move on. This isn't worth your time.
Probably good advice. I still want to experiment though because this is unfinished business.
I fear she is looking at me as a "safe" guy because she had me by the cahoonas a long time ago. Another problem is she makes more money then me. I can't kill her, so I'm going to have to f' her (j/k).
If I do go forward:
1.) Should I confidently say, we're meeting up at your beach house, Washington D.C. (where she lives), or Boston (where I live)? If so, do I do it right away? We've been talking intensely this weekend and texted a bit during the week. I don't want to ask too soon. What do I say if she objects?
2.) Should I talk foir a longer period of time and then bring it up? If so, how long and with what frequency should I be speaking with her?
3.) Is it worth ignoring her texts, etc.? She has good enough game to not reply when I pause replying.
I fear she is looking at me as a "safe" guy because she had me by the cahoonas a long time ago. Another problem is she makes more money then me. I can't kill her, so I'm going to have to f' her (j/k).
If I do go forward:
1.) Should I confidently say, we're meeting up at your beach house, Washington D.C. (where she lives), or Boston (where I live)? If so, do I do it right away? We've been talking intensely this weekend and texted a bit during the week. I don't want to ask too soon. What do I say if she objects?
2.) Should I talk foir a longer period of time and then bring it up? If so, how long and with what frequency should I be speaking with her?
3.) Is it worth ignoring her texts, etc.? She has good enough game to not reply when I pause replying.
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I just texted her "Hey. Give me a jingle at 6."
She texted back, "Uh oh, am I in trouble?" 6 min. after my initial text
I texted, "Yup. BIG trouble..." 11 min. later
She texted, "Awesome. I have spinning at 6:30 so hopefully the trouble won't be a long time :)"
I texted, "Ha. I was just gonna say bump it to 6:30, 6:00 is fine. I'm fighting a fire at work and kinda freakin' out. I'll talk to you later." 3 min. later
Her: "Ok good luck!! Don't freak out" 1 min. later
Me: "Thanks... haha. The statement, 'Don't freak out!' is funny in itself'.
I plan to set up plans when we talk. Speak now with advice/analysis or forever hold your piece.
She texted back, "Uh oh, am I in trouble?" 6 min. after my initial text
I texted, "Yup. BIG trouble..." 11 min. later
She texted, "Awesome. I have spinning at 6:30 so hopefully the trouble won't be a long time :)"
I texted, "Ha. I was just gonna say bump it to 6:30, 6:00 is fine. I'm fighting a fire at work and kinda freakin' out. I'll talk to you later." 3 min. later
Her: "Ok good luck!! Don't freak out" 1 min. later
Me: "Thanks... haha. The statement, 'Don't freak out!' is funny in itself'.
I plan to set up plans when we talk. Speak now with advice/analysis or forever hold your piece.
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Fr: I spoke on the phone and told her we are going to hang out. She's flying into Boston in two weeks.
Example of C/F: You're going to make a lot of girls cry... And adding I don't have a girlfriend because I don't play those games.
I also made sure she knew I was curious about her bc of x and y... Some positive, some slightly funny. I left it as curiousity and me liking her is conditional
Ex: I want to know what you look like and if you're moody
Mainly positive rapport 'cause she's so good at making me feel comfortable and building rapport.
Just an update. I also have a broad and her friend visiting in 1 week as well.. Wish me luck there.
I really see her as relationship possibility -- I am flustered. Is that state of mine okay??y
Example of C/F: You're going to make a lot of girls cry... And adding I don't have a girlfriend because I don't play those games.
I also made sure she knew I was curious about her bc of x and y... Some positive, some slightly funny. I left it as curiousity and me liking her is conditional
Ex: I want to know what you look like and if you're moody
Mainly positive rapport 'cause she's so good at making me feel comfortable and building rapport.
Just an update. I also have a broad and her friend visiting in 1 week as well.. Wish me luck there.
I really see her as relationship possibility -- I am flustered. Is that state of mine okay??y
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Big emergency that.
Abundance.
Open more girls, fuck more girls, date more girls. Do what you can to get her, but otherwise forget about it. It only seems important because you don't have MORE. Watch how your perception changes when you have MORE.
Tyler
Open more girls, fuck more girls, date more girls. Do what you can to get her, but otherwise forget about it. It only seems important because you don't have MORE. Watch how your perception changes when you have MORE.
Tyler
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Abundance.
Open more girls, fuck more girls, date more girls. Do what you can to get her, but otherwise forget about it. It only seems important because you don't have MORE. Watch how your perception changes when you have MORE.
Tyler
Thanks! Open more girls, fuck more girls, date more girls. Do what you can to get her, but otherwise forget about it. It only seems important because you don't have MORE. Watch how your perception changes when you have MORE.
Tyler
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- Foxx
She is coming to Boston (where I live) in two weeks because I'm busy next weekend. She texted me later with 3 flight times. I picked one and I'm pretty sure she bought it.
I am now going to work on building Abundance and become a machine!
I am now going to work on building Abundance and become a machine!
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8 Hours?.
Rrrrreeeeally?
Sounds boring as shit :)
Peace.
Rrrrreeeeally?
Sounds boring as shit :)
Peace.
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mcguiver
Junior Member
Join Date: 06/20/2012 | Posts: 19
I put a post up earlier covering the beginning portion of this. There is a girl I had one-itis for about 6 years ago in college. We kind of hooked up one time and didn't go all the way. I can tell she's getting over her last boyfriend.
She contacted me out of the blue on Facebook, and I converted that to texts, and now phone calls. The problem is I have spent a long time talking on the phone building rapport. She has texted me back things like, "I had a really good time talking to you." and then would get on the phone and extend conversations. I DON'T want to screw up and take the one-itis from along time ago and have it affect me now.
The Problem:
She lives 10+ hours away and we would have to meet at her beach house or something for face-to-face contact. I want to win.
I am afraid I will end up in the "boyfriend" frame or "nice guy but I don't feel attraction for him" situation if I don't sleep with her quickly. I could be wrong. The advice I was given previously after posting transcripts of Facebook messages was not to be too gamey because she's already really into me.
I feel less chemistry now than when we first spoke, but more intimacy.
She mentioned she had a beach house. I want to f-close and possibly LTR if she's good looking enough still (she could've gotten fat). I also don't want to be her little validation tool.
Options:
- Do I continue with the status quo and talk on the phone? My fear is that boredom will set in or I will seem too available.
- Ask her to hang out immediately? She may think that is too fast (she's a bit of a nerd). Perhaps I say it's not worth my time if we don't meet.
- Tell her I'm seeing another girl (I do have a fwb) and do some kind of rejection? Probably too much and I'll never hear from her
How do I engineer this so we f-close and it's good? I am afraid that if we keep doing this long-distance talking thing before we've had sex, I am going to lose her.
NOTE: I am starting to get really invested in this becaues I like her... this has not happened to me in a long time. What do I do?
ANY ADVICE PLEASE WOULD BE GREATLY APPRECIATED
THANKS!
MCGUIVER