THE FORUMS

December 3rd, 2016
3 minutes of "in-field video" -- lots of tiny lessons for me
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UtopiaFive

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Well, I do feel like seeing yourself doing the shit is enlightening and humbling haha, but here is something SpikeSpiegel filmed for me randomly while I was't looking...

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UtopiaFive

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So BTW this is at the end of the night, like 2:15 AM or some shit...

Things about this video I notice:
- hmm my voice sounds different than I think it does
- I'm talking quicker than I expect to "fill in the space"
- when she walks back a bit I walk in to fill in the space (whereas she needed a slight amount of space, all I can see at this point as given how late it was and her reaction she was lookin for some dick and needed to evaluate that I was cool n normal whereas my needing to fill the space was indicating otherwise, meh)
- hands in the pockets
- when I walk up to her I see myself "walking into her reality" rather htan the opposite
- actually look WAY BETTER in person than I think I do in my head lol
- I know that when I "catch myself" putting the hands in the pockets I purposefully take them out and put em on my head, I think just cuz I read that "the alpha gorilla" does this lol
- when giong for the pull "lets go get pizza" I don't persist
- when she starts walking off its pretty abrupt HEY HEY HEY like I don't expect her to stop and turn around
- again I should have kept persisting
- when I come back I'm still focused on "how gay I am with my hands in my pockets"
- also my posture could be better there
- I'm all "I don't know why it didn't go well"
- "that I was gay" is pretty lame self-talk on that TBH, and I sound slightly distressed on the why this didn't go well talk at the end as well

And then good things
- good "lets walk up the street" instead of just sitting there
- good "ooooo i love your boots" just random comments to random people for no reason
- good "does noone love her boots?" (stupid question that has no real answer -- illogical -- good)
- good messing w her a bit when she says "shake hands" like not complying 100% (yep im totally looking for things that are good haha)
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Obisco

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I couldn't hear anything...
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Sweet Toof

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 You had your hands behind your head for quite a while which to me seemed a bit of a weird gesture...I NEVER see people do that.
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UtopiaFive

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Yeah I mean he was just recording me randomly, but this does remind me that I want to get an audio recorder ASAP.  Time to Amazon this shit...
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I couldn't hear anything...
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UtopiaFive

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Yup, if I'm not escalating I like don't know what to do w my hands or something haha.  

But I'm sure you've seen people like w one hand behind their head, like scratching the back of their head.

From http://www.marcandangel.com/2008/07/07/25-acts-of-body-language-to-avoid... ---
Scratching at the Backside of Your Head and Neck – a typical sign of doubt and uncertainty. It can also be interpreted as an indication of lying. Try to keep your hands away from your head when you’re communicating with others.

So clearly I'm doubly doubtful and uncertain heh.  

Sweet Toof wrote:
 You had your hands behind your head for quite a while which to me seemed a bit of a weird gesture...I NEVER see people do that.
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Also I remember I asked something like "how was your night?" whereas in the past usually when I "catch myself" doing that, I tend to just answer the question for myself, whereas this time I didn't do that...just tried to leave the "onus on her" n shit.
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 Yes several other things stood out blaringly as well 
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 You're in that funny stage where you expect girls to like you and show it before you invest. So you veer off the fundamentals. 

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Like?
Manwhore wrote:
 Yes several other things stood out blaringly as well 
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UtopiaFive

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SO you mean like I'm acting "overentitled" like I think she's gonna suck my cock just cuz I'm standing there?
Manwhore wrote:
 You're in that funny stage where you expect girls to like you and show it before you invest. So you veer off the fundamentals. 

You are not a princess 
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