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some sticking points I've noticed. Social awkwardness
I'm the same way and its actually very self-entertaining.
This is very subtle but for me the difference between coming across creepy/awkward and cool/pimp is me simply pausing and speaking slowly.
Take this for example:
"I had a hamburger for lunch, it was fucking delicious"
Say it quick, and say it slow. One way sounds pimp the other sounds CHODE.
The reason this shit for me manifests this way is two fold:
1) On some level I believe what I say has no value (so I say it as fast as I can to relieve the preassure that comes with saying something that is worthless)
2) I believe the girl is going to just pack up her shit and run away.
When I'm indifferent this shit has no chance of coming ot the surface.
Hats off.
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Appendage
If you're really truly a computer nerd like I am, get physical from the start. I find when I'm really on, talking is actually useless and does more harm then good.
The last girl I pulled I said the following (something like):
"Who the FUCK are you?"
"You're fucking bad"
"Slow down, slow down, you're making me horny"
"Stop, stop, stop, slow down"
"We shouldn't be doing this"
"You're bad"
"Can we goto your place?"
"Lets goto the ally"
"Lets goto the ally"
"Lets find somewhere else"
"Here here here"
And that was all. I find me personally I feel like I have to say some over the top jedi shit when in reality its: the less I say, the better"
This is very subtle but for me the difference between coming across creepy/awkward and cool/pimp is me simply pausing and speaking slowly.
Take this for example:
"I had a hamburger for lunch, it was fucking delicious"
Say it quick, and say it slow. One way sounds pimp the other sounds CHODE.
The reason this shit for me manifests this way is two fold:
1) On some level I believe what I say has no value (so I say it as fast as I can to relieve the preassure that comes with saying something that is worthless)
2) I believe the girl is going to just pack up her shit and run away.
When I'm indifferent this shit has no chance of coming ot the surface.
Hats off.
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Appendage
If you're really truly a computer nerd like I am, get physical from the start. I find when I'm really on, talking is actually useless and does more harm then good.
The last girl I pulled I said the following (something like):
"Who the FUCK are you?"
"You're fucking bad"
"Slow down, slow down, you're making me horny"
"Stop, stop, stop, slow down"
"We shouldn't be doing this"
"You're bad"
"Can we goto your place?"
"Lets goto the ally"
"Lets goto the ally"
"Lets find somewhere else"
"Here here here"
And that was all. I find me personally I feel like I have to say some over the top jedi shit when in reality its: the less I say, the better"
So you are basically just sayin I should slow down my speech?
I tend to get these "approach withdrawals" sometimes where I feel like I need to approach like a machine in order to get over some anxiety/blow off some steam. It doesn't always work as far as getting laid, but I at least feel a little better.
I tend to get these "approach withdrawals" sometimes where I feel like I need to approach like a machine in order to get over some anxiety/blow off some steam. It doesn't always work as far as getting laid, but I at least feel a little better.
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Have you ever watched Tyler approach?
He's weird as fuck! Like I was on bootcamp and sometimes I felt really uncomfortable at how awkward the situation is.
Here's why it works for him though - he doesn't give a fuck at all. He's got this really relaxed eyes, seems like he is in his body and just continues with whatever he wants to do instead of thinking how he is being perceived. He KEEPS THE FRAME! and as a result, the set turns pretty good even though it started off really shit.
Faisal.
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SMILE. If necessary look in a mirror and force yourself to smile or smirk for like 2 minutes straight.
LAUGH. Make yourself do this as well, even if fake.
Notice how the more you do it the easier and more natural it becomes.
Now try to have fun in set... smile, laugh, joke around. It'll be weird sometimes (that's okay), but if you keep doing it, it will become natural. It's creepy when you approach girls and are not having fun. If you are having fun you cannot really be creepy.
That, and do a thousand sets.
LAUGH. Make yourself do this as well, even if fake.
Notice how the more you do it the easier and more natural it becomes.
Now try to have fun in set... smile, laugh, joke around. It'll be weird sometimes (that's okay), but if you keep doing it, it will become natural. It's creepy when you approach girls and are not having fun. If you are having fun you cannot really be creepy.
That, and do a thousand sets.
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Force yourself to do what's right. You'll thank yourself in the morning.
Stop trying to make it work; start trying to make it epic.
http://www.youtube.com/rsdtodd
http://www.youtube.com/toddfreetour
http://www.youtube.com/rsdinnercircle
http://www.facebook.com/rsdtodd
http://www.twitter.com/rsdtodd
So you are basically just sayin I should slow down my speech?
I tend to get these "approach withdrawals" sometimes where I feel like I need to approach like a machine in order to get over some anxiety/blow off some steam. It doesn't always work as far as getting laid, but I at least feel a little better.
For me I gotta watch out I don't get wrapped up in constantly approaching losing focus of my aim. This manifests with me bouncing from set to set to set to set to set. Which looking back wastes insane amounts of time. The momentum is gained and then wasted. I get over the anxiety by going in and staying in fighting all the bullshit. I tend to get these "approach withdrawals" sometimes where I feel like I need to approach like a machine in order to get over some anxiety/blow off some steam. It doesn't always work as far as getting laid, but I at least feel a little better.
This is a mindset that will become true of itself. Just because you belive it, its like that.
The 3 second rule is there for a reason. I have the same sticking point, but mine comes after approaching.
If you psyche yourself out, take it as a signal that you are on the right way. You brought yourself in a situation in which you could be psyched out in the first place.
This means that you are growing!
Keep at it bro!
Now go pimp, and talk about your cats lunch or something
The 3 second rule is there for a reason. I have the same sticking point, but mine comes after approaching.
If you psyche yourself out, take it as a signal that you are on the right way. You brought yourself in a situation in which you could be psyched out in the first place.
This means that you are growing!
Keep at it bro!
Now go pimp, and talk about your cats lunch or something
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Be more centered when you do your approaches.
BREATHE.
BREATHE.
Amazing1985
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My approaches may come accross as creepy or awkward. Maybe I even put off the wrong vibe. Does anyone know what I can do about this? Just do more approaches?
Thanks.