THE FORUMS
Need some help to walk away with some dignity
1. Im going to try and keep this short
2. I am currently married
1. you lied2. I am currently married
2. I stopped reading
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What's the issue here? Are you just afraid you won't keep the house? Are there kids involved or something? People get divorced every day dude. I'm not seeing the problem.
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@reborn09 Funny but not helpful.
@synergist'12
The marriage side of things isnt the issue. The marriage is over, the issue isnt with the wife it is with the ex that cam back on the scene. I just want to know how to respond to that last message she sent.
@synergist'12
The marriage side of things isnt the issue. The marriage is over, the issue isnt with the wife it is with the ex that cam back on the scene. I just want to know how to respond to that last message she sent.
Do some bath salts and go ZOMBIE on that ass!
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Hit me up by PM if you want to game in NYC. Don't care about your skill level just need the balls to approach and have a good time. Always looking for new people to game with.
Hit me up by PM if you want to game in NYC. Don't care about your skill level just need the balls to approach and have a good time. Always looking for new people to game with.
Don't respond at all. This girl is a waste of your time. Stay with your wife, save yourself an ass raping in the divorce. Cheat on her with new women you meet when going about your business, and don't tell her about it. If she is fooling around on you, keep your mouth shut. In the mean while you need to secure as many of your financial assets as possible in such a way that when divorce lawyers come for your wallet, there is nothing left to take.
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Typing that much about drama makes you borderline female....dude just man the flunk up , ditch all this b.s and start over reborn . Who gives a fuck about w and e? After watching The Blueprint and Tylers youtube vids do you really think either of these girls are the best matches on earth for you? HELLLLLL NO. No on on this forum can help you bc ur coming from scarcity and everyone on this forum is coming from a abudence mindset.
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How would you secure financial assets?
Don't respond at all. This girl is a waste of your time. Stay with your wife, save yourself an ass raping in the divorce. Cheat on her with new women you meet when going about your business, and don't tell her about it. If she is fooling around on you, keep your mouth shut. In the mean while you need to secure as many of your financial assets as possible in such a way that when divorce lawyers come for your wallet, there is nothing left to take.
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My personal philosophy: You need to step to every single girl like a fucking bomb. You need to have presence. You need to stand out, and not in a surface level way such as what you're wearing, but as who you are and the way in which you communicate. You need to be unforgettable. You need to create a sense of urgency, that you are now or never. You need to push and at the same time be completely willing to walk away. It is essential to disidentify with the ego, otherwise the inherent rejection associated with pickup will destroy you.
"You need to let them know what kind of man you are, so they know what kind of woman to be."
"Fear is always a constant, but accepting it...makes you stronger."
"Once you done slayed 20-30 of them hoodrats, now you ready to go up to the upper echelon type ho."
"I've got no game. And every face looks the same. They've got no name. So I don't need game to play. I just say whatever I want to whoever I want. Whenever I want, wherever I want, however I want."
My personal philosophy: You need to step to every single girl like a fucking bomb. You need to have presence. You need to stand out, and not in a surface level way such as what you're wearing, but as who you are and the way in which you communicate. You need to be unforgettable. You need to create a sense of urgency, that you are now or never. You need to push and at the same time be completely willing to walk away. It is essential to disidentify with the ego, otherwise the inherent rejection associated with pickup will destroy you.
"You need to let them know what kind of man you are, so they know what kind of woman to be."
"Fear is always a constant, but accepting it...makes you stronger."
"Once you done slayed 20-30 of them hoodrats, now you ready to go up to the upper echelon type ho."
"I've got no game. And every face looks the same. They've got no name. So I don't need game to play. I just say whatever I want to whoever I want. Whenever I want, wherever I want, however I want."
You are correct, I am coming from a point of view of scarcity. But admiting that means I can be helped. I just need to get better with PU. Im doing more than most would do. Most people wont even admit that there is anything wrong with being AFC.
I think the best response is a non response. For no other reason than Im done. I want to move on to the next...and the next and the next. All Im really asking is do I slip away or give her some s***t first. I think just leave it be and move on.
I think the best response is a non response. For no other reason than Im done. I want to move on to the next...and the next and the next. All Im really asking is do I slip away or give her some s***t first. I think just leave it be and move on.
You are correct, I am coming from a point of view of scarcity. But admiting that means I can be helped. I just need to get better with PU. Im doing more than most would do. Most people wont even admit that there is anything wrong with being AFC.
I think the best response is a non response. For no other reason than Im done. I want to move on to the next...and the next and the next. All Im really asking is do I slip away or give her some s***t first. I think just leave it be and move on.
The thing that pisses girls off the most is ignoring them. Anything you say to her just gives her more attention and drama that she enjoys. When you straight up ignore them, they become insecure and cry like little babies. I think the best response is a non response. For no other reason than Im done. I want to move on to the next...and the next and the next. All Im really asking is do I slip away or give her some s***t first. I think just leave it be and move on.
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How would you secure financial assets?
You would have to talk to a lawyer for advice on that depending on your state and country you live in. Basically the idea is to not legally own all the things that you own. You set up some kind of trust or LLC that owns your house, car, cash , and property, while you control the company that owns it. or better yet you own some kind of company that owns another shell company that owns all your stuff, so that way it is even harder to legally go after any of your shit. That way when somebody sues you personally or divorces you they can't go after stuff that the Company owns because the company is legally a different person, but you control the company so you controll all of the assets. It's complicated, and the best way to do it is to set it up before getting married in the first place, but there are still ways you can protect yourself after the fact, you just need to get a lawyer to help you figure out your options. Don't respond at all. This girl is a waste of your time. Stay with your wife, save yourself an ass raping in the divorce. Cheat on her with new women you meet when going about your business, and don't tell her about it. If she is fooling around on you, keep your mouth shut. In the mean while you need to secure as many of your financial assets as possible in such a way that when divorce lawyers come for your wallet, there is nothing left to take.
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Seethehoop
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Join Date: 03/19/2012 | Posts: 10
I am currently married but separated. My relationship with my wife (we will call her W) started to dwindle about 18 months ago, but if im honest it wasn’t really working from way before this.
About 10 months ago an ex contacted me (lets call her E), I was still with my wife and E was with her bf. It was friendly to begin with but it started to get flirty and E and I started to invest. I became AFC though confessing feelings and I thought she was playing mind games. This is what led me to read all about PU and attraction etc.
In January E split with the BF and about 12 weeks ago I split with my wife. W wanted another go at making it work, I didn’t but as she couldn’t understand why we had split up (the passion had died long ago for me) I said we could have another go. In my head this was just so I could at least say I’d tried to work it out.
I was open about it with E, I told her I was back with W but “was going to be single moving forward”. As E carried on talking to me over the net (most of the chat was over fbook) I thought she was happy to keep pursuing things with me during this period. A few weeks later I went to see E, there was some big IOIs, lots of kino, innuendos and even her validating her self and some future projection from her.
The problem was that as I was leaving she asked me why I was still wearing my wedding ring. I responded by telling her I was still with W. This didn’t seem like the wrong thing as I had already been honest about it before. E blew her stack, claiming she didn’t know and she was only flirting with me as she thought I was single. She then started to backwards rationalise by telling me she was over me now anyway. She said she didn’t want to see me any more but when I left she said, “I will speak with you later”.
Anyways, I left it a few days and messaged her saying that I understood why she acted like she did but there was more to it and that I would like to talk more. She said she would talk to me so I called her a few days later when we could both talk.
During the convo I told her I wasn’t hiding anything and if I wanted to hide it I would have just taken the ring off! I told her that W and I were in separate rooms and we had now called it a day, we just had to sort out the house etc. She said she wanted me to go away and think about what I want, saying “you may decide you don’t want me in a few weeks” I responded by saying I didn’t want to do that but I would respect her wishes. The whole convo was surprisingly jovial with banter and lots of laughs.
I left it another week and texted her saying I didn’t see the point in ignoring each other and asked what she had been up to. She actively ignored me. The message was probably a little too cocky but I wanted to kind of push past the issue.
I then left it about 4 weeks and sent her another message, again a little cocky but asking how she was. Still no response.
I left it a further 5 days and thought I cant do any more damage so I thought I would send her one last message sort of saying no hard feelings, lets move on.
That was bout a week ago. So yesterday I go online and she has unblocked me on chat. I decided that I wouldn’t say anything as I had kind of said all I wanted in my last message. I sign off chat and about a min later she sends me this message
“Im quite happy to talk if you accept it is on friendly terms only, I don’t want to find myself in a situation a month down the line where you feel Ive led you on. Ive started seeing someone, its going really well and thought I should say something from the get go (whatever get go actually means)”
Ive not responded, I don’t really know what to respond with Im not accepting her terms whether she has a new BF of not. Im not letting anyone dictate term like this especially after 6 weeks of silent treatment. I think I do need to respond or she will think Im accepting the frame of “he cant handle being friends with me cos Im seeing someone or he has feelings for me”
I have my own ideas about how to respond but I want to end it with some dignity and maybe leave the door open a crack so that if the opportunity does arise 6-12months down the line I can have another go. This is prob the wrong approach and a little bit afc to want to leave some chance further down the line but should I slam the door?
Sorry I know this is a long post but it could be way longer with specifics. I know the mistakes Ive made so this isn’t the issue. I just need help with how to respond to this one last message.
Any thoughs?