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I haven't read only one sentence from your OP jarnow.


Just that you're asking   "... discipline, and is it really worth it?",  is just about enough for me.




.... without discipline.... men. what do you think you're going to hear now?






all best and keep on doing.

 I have ADHD. Something I have accepted is that setting goals are most likely to fail, because my brain simply is not wired like that.
If you want to know why I suggest you read more in ADHD.

Now I don't know how it is with autism, but maybe you are hard on yourself about something you can't do anything about.
Like a paralized person constantly being mad at himself for not being able to walk!

Then, when you accepted it, you can work around it.
I get accomplished a lot but I don't set goals anymore for far away in the future.
My goals are set in a short time period.
Example: I need to write an essay for 20th of june.
I need to learn for an exam that I have at 19th of june.

No goals for the far future. 

Within those goals I try to stay as flexible and in the moment as possible.
This sounds like another Tolle-fanboy shit.
A part of ADHD is not that you are not able to concentrate, its more that you concentrate on everything around you. So, I want to clean my room, I find something i wrote in the past. I start to read it and before I know it I am busy with some Anthony Robbins excersises.
Well, so be it.
I get back to the task eventually, but it might just take me a bit longer then most.
Then hyper focus sets in and I finish my project with 3 hours where others need 2 weeks of work.

I always thought I needed tons of rules to accomplish stuff, but this always backfired. 
I just go with the flow.
In a way people with ADHD are being forced into the moment because they are really bad in anticipating the future + they get distracted constantly what happens 'now'.
I can hate this, I can hate how I can not stick to a task. Talking negative about it and shit. And even hate myself, hate my mother for her genes etc... but, what good is that gonna do?
Just roll with what you have. 
Now you don't have ADHD, but you can take something out of what I am saying.
Find your own way in doing things.
If it did not work the first, second and thirth time you might want to change the aproach.

This might mean you need to make big chances now, and just tweaking it a bit in the future. 

That big long term goal-thing is a self help concept. I have not taken any action in the past because I was thinking so hard about my long term goal haha
I just does not work for me like that, but I do agree a lot that people need to push theirselves.

So, why not look around and see where you can push yourself now? No need to have a long term goal.
The other day I was talking to a athlete, he is super strong. He told me he never really had long term goals, he just liked sport a lot and kept at it.

Long term goals can be a great motivator, but it can also put you in a circle in search for that long term goal while life is happening around you.

I do not disagree with you, i just wanted to balance out the perspectice 

I remember when I first got into RSD, I forced myself to adopt certain habits. I forced myself to approach girls, I forced myself to take on waaaayyy too much all at the same time. My suggestion is to take just ONE. just one habit and put it into your daily routine. start small, until it becomes as natural as brushing your teeth.

You have to implement habits, ONE AT A TIME. 

To implement a habit you have to focus on it for an extended period of time. 

I'd advise you to:

1) Make a list of all the habits you want to implement
You need to brainstorm. Find the habits you'd like to have. 
Listing your main goals will help. Start with goals, see the habits you need to achive them, list those habits. 

2) Write an action plan how what you need to get there
For example, if you want to eat paleo, you need to go to a new grocery store because it's the only one where you'll find good fruits and vegetables. 

3) Make a new list of the habits you ACTUALLY need to be succesful (you discover them during step 2)
In this example, you must implement the habit of going to the grocery store instead of going to McDonald's. Habits have an ecosystem, and you have to design it. 
If you want to read, you have to find time, but in order to do that you have to implement the habit of managing your schedule and planning your day. Otherwise you'll never find 3h to sit and read. Managing your schedule is now a part of your habit list. 

4) Focus on ONE habit for 30 days straight, i.e. 30 day challenge on one habit. 
If you do only 7 days, you'll lose it. 
They say you have to focus on 21 days to împlement a habit, but the safe way is 30 days. Plus, it's easy to manage. 
You want to implement key habits first. There are overarching habits you need to implement first, so that the rest comes easily. For example, habits like planning a schedule, journaling, setting goals and action plans, are very important and can come first. 

5) After 30 days, switch to another one, and repeat until your list is done.
You don't give up on the first one, you keep on practicing, but now your focus switch to another one. It's gonna be easy because the first one is on autopilot.

I'd advise you to start with overarching habits and easy habits, so that you get the hang of it. In practical terms, it means: take the habit of journalling every day for 30 days (overarching habit), THEN start implementing an easy habit to get momentum (like 10 push ups every morning, and you keep on journaling), then get to the hard stuff. 

And check those threads:
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/140026
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/129196