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Patterns For Girls Who Call You Back After Sex VS You Don't Hear From Again...
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Tyler

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I'm working on the newbie website and have my own views on this topic.

Basically I find that if I take a girl to breakfast after sex, she's usually going to be so blown away she's going to want to hang out again.  I tend to become absolutely hilarious after sex (imagine a Free Tour video 10X more funny to the point the surrounding people at the restaurant are rolling around laughing) and simultaneously super chill and relaxed -- they see this and want more of the vibe.

Conversely some girls you just immediately kick out "You were good...." and they like the abuse and call you, as opposed to all the other guys they fuck and don't call back because the guy was desperate to hang out with them again (and overly validates them).

Mostly I find that if the girl feels she "deserves" it she will call back, whereas I think some girls get the sense I can do better DESPITE that they're solid 9's and there's no guy on earth who can pull a 9 every night he goes out (but just the fact they sense you could get a 10 occassionally they know you could eventually do better and get low self esteem over it -- even pretending like they just wanted to fuck when in reality they'd die to get a guy like you as a boyfriend and just have a "success barrier).

I think girls have a 6th sense of whether or not you have the right vibe / chemistry to keep hanging out or not, and will base it on that.  Their emotions tell them "Yeah I should call this guy back" or else "That was fun but I'm blocking it out of my head (so I'm not a slut) and continuing to meet other guys who would be the right match".

There's probably also some factor related to sex, like I'm not done until I fuck the girl several times and the ones who like this will be calling me back, whereas many girls get a sense "This guy doesn't even want to talk to me that much, he just wants to fuck me all day..." and won't call back because they haven't fully developed their sexuality yet (eg: a 21 year old who doesn't know how to orgasm yet, etc...).

I think that this reflects more MY OWN experience and I wanted to get a conversation going about it, because I want the newbie site to reflect a wider range of experiences that people will come across.

Any thoughts on what makes a girl call you back after sex VS not??  Thanks!!

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startale

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I have no idea. Fuck. I will go out more.
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AlexV

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 well, me, they rarely call back after sex cause i'm still a n00b, haha

however,

the ones that have an orgasm, call back in general ;))
also, ones who feel there's...... unfinished business :)) (in case they didn't get orgasm but feel there's still one coming and well, they're just not that pretty so they'll just keep trying with me)

so yeah, that's completely opposite, depends on girl i guess?
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Hotdog

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My experience is that it relates directly to how connected she felt to you during sex, leading upto sex when I know its on I will usually 'screen for sex.'

Find out about her home life
Her relationship with her father
Ex boyfriends
Sexual experiences etc

This way I get a clear picture of what her sexual fantasies will be and just how rough she will like it, obviously this is not an exact science but Im getting better at it. The most important thing BY FAR is to use this information to get inside her head during sex and fuck her mind not her body. There are lots of standard fantasies girls have anyway like or getting fucked pregnant etc.

You need a level of calibration to this related to the level of comfort they have with you, and usually its better to get into fantasy land the 3rd or 4th time you fuck her, but this can be on the same night. Remember sex itself will bring her closer to you emotionally anyway.

It is very hard for girls to find guys that will do this for them and most girls are sexually frustrated because of it. You dont have to go FULL OUT RAPE FANTASY the first night you fuck, but by just veering into that territory it will massively peak her curiosity for the future.

The downside to this is that if you get it wrong she definately wont call you back, LOL. But when you get it right you own her.

I dont like girls to sleep over during the week anyway cos I find it hard to sleep when they are in my bed, but if they do stay over, my experience is a very high call back rate maybe 85-90%
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Cat

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I'll speak to a few different scenarios via my limited experience:

Sleep together on our first day2 -->  
-- Yes on Pillow Talk 
-- Reassure her that I was the one that escalated quickly and affirm her sexuality, spontaneity, willingness to go with the flow.  
-- Seed something low key and cute to do together next time.
-- Always kick her out, at least almost always --> this is because I have to frame the scenario right in terms of an open relationship and I find this is the best way to do it (this goes for all scenarions) // I will let her sleep over if I want to make her my main girl
-- Text the next morning
-- Call the next day, leave a vmail

Sleep together after a few dates -->
-- Yes on Pillow Talk
-- Everything is implicitly solid, we've hung out a few times, we like each other, no questions.

Sleep together that night -->  Girl is crazy -->
-- No on Pillow Talk
-- Kick her the fuck out
-- Text her that night "that shit was crazy"
-- These types of girls want to get ignored, have some of their own problems.  I normally simply do not bother seeing these girls again... even though the sex is usually HOT AS FUCK.  Last time I had one of these it was one of those "attracted in a negative way" to me, girl slaps me in the face and hits my chest before we fuck, but god damn she was so so so good when I hit it.  I simply don't have the time to deal with or pretend to want to deal with these weird ass quirks / negative headspace to see them again in any other context besides the same exact thing.  
-- Booty call them
-- Low % of return visitors

Sleep together that night --> girl is hot but low self esteem -->
-- Yes on Pillow Talk
-- Demonstrate insecurity / vulnerability // almost "be more nervous" 
-- Mostly just calm her down, don't argue with her about her insecurities, qualify her a lot after speaking to the shit that she has that you like
-- I normally don't want to see these girls again because they are lower quality

Sleep together that night --> Girl is a sweetheart -->  
-- Yes on Pillow Talk
-- She's a sweetheart :) 
-- IME these girls LOVE a guy who is cool, about developing himself, is charming, and wants to enjoy her again.  These are the ideal girls :)  You just gotta coax that crazy sex out of them ;)
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jlaix

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Eh it's largely based on intangibles IMO... "chemistry"

And nothing is solidified until the third time typically. Which means until the third session it's still "game on". Regardless of how good the sex is. Or how bad it is for that matter haha

To be honest, I'm more concerned about whether or not *I'LL* call *HER* back. Ie does she do something that annoys me, which isn't hard to do
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 Anal.
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haha a newbie should be glad he got laid not butthurt over not seeing her again, which for me at least was the norm my first year. in the short term, it just depends on the individual girl, her personality, situation, your vibe together, how good the sex was etc and most of these are out of your immediate control. the single most important thing i think is whether or not you're in abundance. if you're not then she's probably gone, if you are then she'll be back barring random extraneous factors. 

i really don't see the value of a newbie focusing on this at all, it's one of the many things which are fixed automatically by taking right action. 

that said, i noticed two patterns when they fuck off. when i was intermediate, momentum put me in state toward the end of the night, and i'd pull. in the morning if you haven't solidified your entitlement you'll probably fuck things up. your identity is still as a chode and the state of abundance was a temporary fluke. they sense that and bounce. the other situation is when the girl really needs some dick and is so horny you get her even though you probably wouldn't if you had met her at some other time. you're her best option at that moment and she takes it, but later she's not as horny/desperate/has better options and she totally blocks you out. these can be really brutal because while you typically don't have a deep connection you still feel like everything is going good, and then she abruptly breaks off all contact for seemingly no reason.

again i don't see any short-term technique to deal with this, it's out of your control for any particular girl the best you can do is keep yourself in abundance and you'll have the best chance of seeing her again. of course, at that point you probably won't give a shit if you do. gotta love how the game works lol
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Dr Feelgood

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Awesome thread, exactly what I need at the moment!

IME, it depends on if you fucked her well: treat her a bit rough, almost all girls like this; fuck her hard, change positions, don't let it become boring. Say: "I bet you are one who likes it rough, aren't you?", then proceed to spank ass and pull hair, you are now officially entitled too. Unless she completely objects to what you say (hasn't happened to me so far). Just do it, even though you maybe just met her.

Also, kick her out, this communicates non-neediness. I say: "My wife and the kids are coming, you have to go now!" Be very, very non-needy afterwards and the day after or whenever. In case of doubt, treat her bad.

Do you guys get mostly get callbacks? I usually have to initiate contact on my own.

Also, when would you call her a fuck buddy? Is it kind of "solid" after two times meeting and fucking?
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Todd

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If you make them chase you hard for the sex, that helps a lot IMO.  Virtually all girls I sleep with want it over and over, but the few that don't are the ones where I had to bust through crazy LMR or otherwise 'force' it.  If I slow down pre-sex and make them chase a bit it's pretty much assured.  

Even if they aren't literally 'chasing' you, the fact that you showed a bit of patience in the foreplay helps as well.

Interestingly, slowing down my approach tends to SPEED UP the process toward sex as well...
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 I think has alot to do with how and why she is sent away. personally iv sent girls out and theyve had to pay the cab fair and iv felt like a dick and yet iv had it where there was just a time restraint and she had to go. the later made the girls want to come back for more where the former caused a negative effect. If there is time for breakfast then I do it, if not then I dont :P 

I also had an experiacne in cuba where the girl ignored me in the morning after I left?  I had to go flirt with some other girls and then she started chilling in my visitnity and that was when we got back together lol she just needed to know I was not a because I spent the night there when she said I should go out and bang another girl.
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