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October 22nd, 2017
Extreme negativity, deep confusion and indecisiveness
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iznogold

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Join Date: 07/25/2011 | Posts: 961

I used the "1000% machiavelian exercise" I found here on rsdn forums. Let me demonstrate my confusion.
I wrote "I have excessive body weight. This is attractive to girls. Thats because you look more average, so your confidence seems more impressive because women understand that it doesnt come from your body shape but from something deeper. Also, they can feel more relaxed about their bodyshapes and that means that they can fuck with LESS resistance. Moreover, because of your massive body they feel more secure. Women are not attracted to what mass media say they are." Then I attacked another negative belief like this "Running is very interesting. When you run, you constantly improve. You increase your speed, your stamina, you shape your body. You can experiment with these things. If I go running for half an hour at night and at morning I will lose 2,5 kgs in a week. I will be able to do this because I will keep a diary" then I attacked another one "Women are full of fear. They cant stand the slightest aggression. If you so some understanding at their fears they will be happy!" Then, I wrote some more negative beliefs but they seem to be endless.  Its like everything is negative. And I might end up using too much time trying to become positive. Is there an end to this? the answer is probably yes, but any thoughts are welcome.

In self development they say, in order to have the life you want, you must change the way you think. Yes, but to which direction? That is confusing!
For instance, it is quiet confusing wether someone should try to lose weight or not. Personally, my motivation to work out derives from a lowered self esteem from the belief "overwheight men cant have succcess with women". If my belief is deconditioned, I wont have a legit reason to try lose weight. And at times when I am surrounded by people that dont mind excessive weight I stop caring about it too.
But that way, the only reason for someone to have a schedule is a long term success. You must focus in your future prosper and say "I want this thing in my life!" and then go get it. Because you have too much time to just sit around.

An what if that belief system I am trying to "install" is contrary to human nature and therefore its impossible to install it. I used to want the "I am ready to die" belief. I tried to install it but.. I feel that every new belief I install it fucks my life in some way and fixes it in others.Thats because it seems that many times the problem is not that I dont know how to get something but what I want is unattainable for a human being! Burgers+lean body=unattainable. I came in pua community with the googled question "how to make a girl fall in love with you" and I ended up ignoring girls! And that pattern seems endless! It seems like what I want is unattainable and I must first get another state of mind, lower some expectations, increase some others so I succeed to fit "happily" in this world. I must change what I want to get what I want. How can I have a schedule when everytime I read something I must stop wanting what I want and start wanting something else because what I wanted in the first place is uanttainable? Maybe more hardcore action taking with taking the price of being ignorant of the true nature of things? It seems that being something less than my ideal self is a fact for  my future and I'd better accept this. Super-me will never exist.

Any comments, thoughts are welcomed.
The underlined sentences are those answers I could find to my confusion. Maybe they are naive maybe they are not. Lets talk.
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Tyler

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You don't need to understand you just need to gangster through every god damned day of your life until you have the results you want.

Go WEST.  As long as you're going GENERALLY to the West you are fine.  Don't get hung up in the specifics until you are in a state of massive momentum.  Then re-adjust.

Tyler
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Helmholtz

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 go West ? 

Elaborate 
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okheregoes

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i think he means move to L.A.
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stianosaurus

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go west means move in the general direction of progress. when you walk somewhere, you don't walk in a straight line towards it. you follow roads that lead you to where you wanna go.
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ambiguity

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Tyler wrote:
You don't need to understand you just need to gangster through every god damned day of your life until you have the results you want.

Go WEST.  As long as you're going GENERALLY to the West you are fine.  Don't get hung up in the specifics until you are in a state of massive momentum.  Then re-adjust.

Tyler
+1

I like this post.

One of my mates is far from in fit shape however, he pulls and beyond being physically (no homo) attractive, he behaves in a attractive manner.

WOmen like this so, condition yourself in a more attractive manner, and recalibrate when you lose a step here or there.

If you are still breathing, its not too late. Think about it?
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Thorzen

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Helmholtz wrote:
 go West ? 

Elaborate 
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