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This is something that I can relate to. I used to get really angry with myself for not approaching particularly when I was pre 18 so coulnt go clubbing
But now way I look at it is, sure if you feeling it go for it, but dont let it mess with your head so your always thinking "I should be approaching right now"
you could be a friendly guy, doesnt mean you've gotta go out of your way to talk to everyone possible.
maybe im just a chode who needs to get over limiting beliefs about daygame, who knows
But now way I look at it is, sure if you feeling it go for it, but dont let it mess with your head so your always thinking "I should be approaching right now"
you could be a friendly guy, doesnt mean you've gotta go out of your way to talk to everyone possible.
maybe im just a chode who needs to get over limiting beliefs about daygame, who knows
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If you are not approaching because you are a pussy, then you have a problem. If you aren't approaching because you have so many bitches on your dick that you don't feel motivated, then you are ok. Ask yourself this question: If there was a 100% guarenteed chance of fucking that girl tonight, would I have approached? If the answer is yes, then you should have approached.
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all of the time everywhere ( especially when bad logistics are involved )... I do it because I enjoy the adventure
Sometimes I just want to relax and take it easy, sometimes I want to hit it up like crazy. As long as you are taking action ur fine. + how could gaining reference experiences in new environments be bad or unhealthy ??? doesn't make sense man
Sometimes I just want to relax and take it easy, sometimes I want to hit it up like crazy. As long as you are taking action ur fine. + how could gaining reference experiences in new environments be bad or unhealthy ??? doesn't make sense man
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all of the time everywhere ( especially when bad logistics are involved )... I do it because I enjoy the adventure
Sometimes I just want to relax and take it easy, sometimes I want to hit it up like crazy. As long as you are taking action ur fine. + how could gaining reference experiences in new environments be bad or unhealthy ??? doesn't make sense man
Sometimes I just want to relax and take it easy, sometimes I want to hit it up like crazy. As long as you are taking action ur fine. + how could gaining reference experiences in new environments be bad or unhealthy ??? doesn't make sense man
The way I was looking at it was basically the psychological analogy of overtraining for sports/muscle gain...too much can be counterproductive and bad for overall health/happiness. I read good posts by Saad (a very experienced member), ozzie and alex a little bit ago basically saying the same thing. Its not that Im so horny that I have to contain myself from overgaming lest I allow the rest of my life to end up in shambles like evil stiffler, I guess the idea is that its not healthy to always be pushing into your fears.
Thanks RocknRoll, appreciate it.
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Good point.
I was thinking about that 100% guaranteed chance lately, and it's painful to think about it.
I was thinking about that 100% guaranteed chance lately, and it's painful to think about it.
If you are not approaching because you are a pussy, then you have a problem. If you aren't approaching because you have so many bitches on your dick that you don't feel motivated, then you are ok. Ask yourself this question: If there was a 100% guarenteed chance of fucking that girl tonight, would I have approached? If the answer is yes, then you should have approached.
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Dude, if I ddn't approach as much as I do, I'd probably lose my fuckin mind.
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Not anymore. As a newbie yeah I felt it was my duty to approach everything and flex those muscles but once you get some success and you've dated some girls, the need to approach a lot of girls dies down.
I'm also busy and wouldn't have time to date 5 girls at the same time so now I tend to just approach the ones I find very attractive or when the situation is condusive to meeting someone new. With experience you'll learn which approaches are favorable and you'll see windows of opportunity.
After a while you don't wanna be the guy that chases women down the street as they're getting into cabs of buses. Or even the guy that hits on every single women in a club, because you probably have some girls on the go or you know you will meet one if you chill and have fun, a better scenerio will present itself if you're patient.
I'm also busy and wouldn't have time to date 5 girls at the same time so now I tend to just approach the ones I find very attractive or when the situation is condusive to meeting someone new. With experience you'll learn which approaches are favorable and you'll see windows of opportunity.
After a while you don't wanna be the guy that chases women down the street as they're getting into cabs of buses. Or even the guy that hits on every single women in a club, because you probably have some girls on the go or you know you will meet one if you chill and have fun, a better scenerio will present itself if you're patient.
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Falc mate, I am currently in a relationship with my girlfriend.
This is still no excuse not to pick up.
I have pulled in clubs, bathroom pulled, sex on the beach, did the robbery on some parents in NYC @ a Jets game pulling a SMOKE SHOW as they stood in awe.
I've out done my (natural) self over the years but, a relationship is still a lame excuse, and where a man gets lazy, someone else hungrier will fill his place.
Make no mistake about this. The misunderstanding and assumption is that, "I must have a flirt in fear someone else will take her away."
Not so.
I remind you the story of the frog and the scorpion. The scorpion jumping on the frog's back to cross the pond Sure enough, the scorpion stings the frog. The question is logically, "we both will die now. Why would you do that?"
The response from the scorpion is, "its in my nature."
Mate, that is it in a nutshell. My girlfriend knows how I am. I am attractive, I pull, if I don't pick up, women pick me up.
If your into self mastery and development, its all about escaping the mundanity of everyday life.
Mediocrity and complacency have no place here.
I could care less if she has a relationship, she is not of age, she is with her parents, with her mates, is getting married.
Falc mate, I don't chase. I replace. Its in my nature.
Having women is no more an excuse then settling for mediocrity or pussying out.
Its settling for the mundanity of everyday life.
The point of all this is to avoid just that.
This is how a man gets no pussy when they leave for the better looking fella or man with more going on.
This is still no excuse not to pick up.
I have pulled in clubs, bathroom pulled, sex on the beach, did the robbery on some parents in NYC @ a Jets game pulling a SMOKE SHOW as they stood in awe.
I've out done my (natural) self over the years but, a relationship is still a lame excuse, and where a man gets lazy, someone else hungrier will fill his place.
Make no mistake about this. The misunderstanding and assumption is that, "I must have a flirt in fear someone else will take her away."
Not so.
I remind you the story of the frog and the scorpion. The scorpion jumping on the frog's back to cross the pond Sure enough, the scorpion stings the frog. The question is logically, "we both will die now. Why would you do that?"
The response from the scorpion is, "its in my nature."
Mate, that is it in a nutshell. My girlfriend knows how I am. I am attractive, I pull, if I don't pick up, women pick me up.
If your into self mastery and development, its all about escaping the mundanity of everyday life.
Mediocrity and complacency have no place here.
I could care less if she has a relationship, she is not of age, she is with her parents, with her mates, is getting married.
Falc mate, I don't chase. I replace. Its in my nature.
Good point.
I was thinking about that 100% guaranteed chance lately, and it's painful to think about it.
Rock mate, I disagree (respectfull of course). I was thinking about that 100% guaranteed chance lately, and it's painful to think about it.
If you are not approaching because you are a pussy, then you have a problem. If you aren't approaching because you have so many bitches on your dick that you don't feel motivated, then you are ok. Ask yourself this question: If there was a 100% guarenteed chance of fucking that girl tonight, would I have approached? If the answer is yes, then you should have approached.
Having women is no more an excuse then settling for mediocrity or pussying out.
Its settling for the mundanity of everyday life.
The point of all this is to avoid just that.
This is how a man gets no pussy when they leave for the better looking fella or man with more going on.
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Ambiguity: I don't chase, I replace.
Tyler:This is ultimately one of the keys to the game -- viewing EVERYTHING AS A JOKE. It's ALL funny.
Tim:`How can I make this fun?
brad:This thread got Ambiguity banned, you can thank me later.
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Alex: "The famous ambiguity!" + "This is what happens when your naturally attractive; cheekyinnit#!
Ambiguity: I don't chase, I replace.
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Thanks ambiguity, inspiring words. My question wasnt so much about whats possible though as much as, if you still have AA, do you force yourseld to approach whenever youre in public if youre already going out 7x a week. I just wanna see if this has burnt anyone out.
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I keep oscillating between being like "NO! YOU HAVE TO APPROACH EVERYTHING!" and being like "Nah dude, chill, don't make it to painful, you already go harder then 95% of these dudes and as hard as youd need to go to get good". Just interested to see how other guys roll, if you don't go out to game alot I understand how this may be a way to get your approaches in but I'm more intereted in guys that go out to game like machines but also approach when they are out for other reasons. You think it will be unhealthy to be approaching ALL the time? If I do decide to never let myself shy away from an approach, I will always be approaching because I literally always see hot girls on the way to and from work and out runnIng aronds. Sometimes I just want to listen to my music lol, but obviously if you offered me a choice between that and bang the 9 standing next to me I'd take the latter, I just feel like it may be unhealthy/counterproductive for longterm progress.
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