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sooners123's Adventures in Austin, TX
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#31

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@dave7 yeah it will be fucking awesome!

Monday
I approached an older lady at supermarket. Needed to let body recover from 21 days of night game
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Tuesday, July 12
authenticity - behaving in alignment with my goals
my goal - to fuck as many girls as possible

I had an interesting discussion with wing.  He let me know that I wasn't authentic with my physical intent (hand on her hip).  After some discussion, I realized that he's right -- I was putting hand on hip as a REACTION.  I wanted to seed further physical interaction, and I was only putting my hand on her hip to make HER COMFORTABLE.  That is what "I'm supposed to do" to get her comfortable with me so that I can progress.  However, my intent is to fuck her, but I tone down my physical escalation because "that's how it's supposed to be".  It is very reactive based on how I *THINK* she'll react, and it doesn't align with my true intention.  I should be focused on what I want, rather than worry about what she thinks or  others think.  I should be physical because I like her and I want to, rather than "these are the next steps to get her to like me".

On the same subject of having clarity of intent, I discussed how I wasn't sure about HBAsian, whether I wanted to be her friend or to fuck her since I'm attracted to her.  I rationalized it as "I can fuck her friends" or "she'll be good social proof for me".  He then asked me, would you rather go out with her or with guys into game?  I answered guys with game, because I feel like I can learn a lot more.
*So, even though there are "benefits" for her being my friend only, I still WOULDN'T choose to utilize it*
This was clear that I wasn't acting through my own intentions.  I was making excuses for not sleeping with her

How to get more clear on my intentions
-If I ever say "I want to x, BUT".  The BUT is a clear excuse for not acting towards my intentions.  Be aware of this
-Figure out what I really want, and make a COMMITMENT to my goal.  Really commit to it, and take the actions that will move me towards my goal

I admitted to myself logically that yes, not all of my actions align with my goal.  However, I don't feel like I accept it yet.  I'll take some time to reflect and really accept and acknowledge that I'm not fully committed.  From there, I can commit fully.

Next steps for me
-Identify what is important to me, and commit to the goal.  Take actions to move towards goal
-Examine why I want to "make them comfortable" even at the expense of my goal
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Wednesday
It took all my willpower to muster up 1 approach at supermarket today.  It turned out much better than I expected.  I'm at the point where I feel like I'm in the wrong mindset during the day -- more outcome dependent, seeking permission, anti-abundance mentality

I'll just need more reference experiences to show myself that day game is the same as night
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Good job with understanding being physical, it's def all about doing what is fun for you, and the girl enjoys when you're having fun b/c of law of state transference and so forth. So maybe in any given interaction you really just want to hold her hand: then try that and she will prob like it that you like it. Girls feel happy when they know that they are making you feel good (more specifically you are feeling good by taking action b/c you like the girl, but the girl likes it when her role as a woman in the interaction is established so that it is man to woman).
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dave7- wrote:
Good job with understanding being physical, it's def all about doing what is fun for you, and the girl enjoys when you're having fun b/c of law of state transference and so forth. So maybe in any given interaction you really just want to hold her hand: then try that and she will prob like it that you like it. Girls feel happy when they know that they are making you feel good (more specifically you are feeling good by taking action b/c you like the girl, but the girl likes it when her role as a woman in the interaction is established so that it is man to woman).
Golden nugget of virtual dave wisdom. I cant wait for the real thing, irl!!
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RAWR
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Thursday, June 14th

Tonight was fucking awesome.  I watched one of Tyler's new videos on getting off that dirty (naughty) high due to validation and really creating state from within.  It filled in the gaps from my FRs for the past two weeks.  This video helped fortify my centered on self mindset.  It also helped me realize that I like HBAsian because she validates and devalidates me (push/pull).  It's very addicting when she comes up to me and puts her arms around me with a sexual stare.  However, I lost genuine interest in her already.


I met up with my main wing and his Indian wing.  I immediately open a street set, and she gets awkward.  I felt really centered even though the approach didn't go well.  I was getting into state from just one approach.  We go into a bar and open a few.  Head back to the street and stop a 3 set.  I immediately spin her and grab her close (because I felt like it).  We role played a lot and had some fun.  She was pretty cool.  Wings wing the friends and at some point blow out, so my girl gets dragged away.  Oh well.  Still feeling centered and really LIKING MYSELF.  We head to a couple of bars, and my main wing meets up with a girl he semi-knows.  She's attached to him and tags along.  We bounce to many bars.  Then, we hit the clubs.  I feel very uncomfortable and stupid dancing.  I also feel like I can't approach since I don't know how to dance.  I get in my head and out of state -- I do the awkward dance.  I felt so white...

I still manage to open a girl even though I was out of state.  I look over, and my main wing has this girl dancing up on him.  The indian wing is grinding up on some girl.  Totally not my scene, but I did stay in it for a longer period that I was comfortable with.  Out of state because I start comparing  myself to my wingsHit the streets and solo.  The interesting part is even though I was out of state, I still felt centered.  I still liked myself.  So, state crash wouldn't really be the right word -- it was more of a state fluctuation.  I got outcome independent, approached a set and got back in state immediately.  Getting out of a state fluctation is pretty bitchin.  I really felt like the great big grounded tree, and the women were the little squirrels

Noteable approaches (around 20 total)
-I was able to get sets to stop that either of my wings may have tried but didn't persist on.  This was early in the night before they got in state.  So, it was cool to see the differences in reactions between state and not in state.
-3 set street, standing: I opened one with situational.  Then went hard flirtatious and intent on hottie.  Her friend tries to pull her away, but my hottie brushes her off.  After a couple of tries, the friend saves face by grabbing the cigarette from hottie saying she wanted a drag.  It was pretty cool.  We vibe for a while longer before both friends drag her away.
-2 Set sisters street: both very hot mexican/black breed.  this was cool because I didn't go physical at the beginning.  I went physical BECAUSE I FELT LIKE TOUCHING HER.  She just accepted it and we vibed.  During this time, some black guys were trying to spit game and interrupt, but the girl focused on me.  Eventually, the sister drags her away
-2 Set street: hottie has been hit on 4 times by the time I open her.  she is dismissive but I could tell she was somewhat open.  I fling mud at the wall (I"m a nice guy.  I'm harmless.  I have pure thoughts).  Coming from a place of centeredness, it's actually pretty cool (despite how needy it sounds).  She gave me a laugh of recognition (knew that my intent was to hit on her, and she accepted it).  She stops to talk but then her CB friend drags her away.

My street sets were a little harder to get to work since I focused on my target and ignored CBs.  I got separated from  my wings while I was beasting into the streets.

What I learned
-Being centered within myself and liking myself is the key to being authentic, and to draw state from within.  My criteria is just that I take action
-All of my state crashes/fluctuations are due to me being outcome dependent.  Being centered helps prevent me from being outcome dependent, but sometimes recognizing that my behavior is outcome dependent is necessary to get me out of it.
-I really like getting physical with intent and on my own terms.  The few that I did tonight were legit, I felt good, I showed intent, the women loved it and they accepted it
-I can say anything if it's coming from the right mindset

How I can improve
-Continue to get physical because I like it
-Stay in set as long as possible (as I'm doing now)
-Address the cock blocks if I'm going solo.  Be aware of my surroundings
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You're too much of a badass now, it's not fair bro!
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@dave thanks for the insight.  I totally agree.  Now it's a matter of holding myself to take the right action
@synergist not too much, just enough :-)

So anyways was having a debate regarding effectiveness of numbers.  In the past 4 months, I've gotten 24 numbers.  Around 12 responded.  Only 3 separate dates/day 2s.  That's less than 1 date a month, and a lot of work.  Maybe it really is more worthwhile to go for the SNL rather than numbers based on this track record

What's everyone else's experience with numbers?  go for it?  no?  alternative?
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sooners123 wrote:
@dave thanks for the insight.  I totally agree.  Now it's a matter of holding myself to take the right action
@synergist not too much, just enough :-)

So anyways was having a debate regarding effectiveness of numbers.  In the past 4 months, I've gotten 24 numbers.  Around 12 responded.  Only 3 separate dates/day 2s.  That's less than 1 date a month, and a lot of work.  Maybe it really is more worthwhile to go for the SNL rather than numbers based on this track record

What's everyone else's experience with numbers?  go for it?  no?  alternative?
Push for the SNL.

Think of it this way. Out of those 24 girls who gave you their number. If just one banged you, then youd already have better results. 1 lay vs 3 d2s.
Also those girls liked you enough to give you their number. It means probably you could have escalated the interaction. Even if no lay, you get field expereinces going deeper into set lenght wise and more expereience escalating, leading, pulling, towards the close.
Also think about how many times you took a girls number and you know that you could have pushed it further. 
Play to win. Thats the only way to win. Playing safe doesnt give you the full awesomeness you're striving for.
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I just want to enjoy amazing girls. Crazy what sort of journey ive embarked on pursuing this quest.
My adventures in Dallas - 2013
 My adventures in Austin - 2012  
Tyler/Julien, Honolulu Bootcamp July 2011
Tyler hotseat2 x5 (2011-2012)
Alex hotseat x2 (2013)
girlslovepenis.tumblr.com 
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