THE FORUMS

Yeah listen to Marko.  Dude you almost have to do this shit solo.  Unless your social circle contains all the girls you will ever want, and your buddies are good with chicks and hip to going out and approaching random hoes with you, then you on your own.  It's not that hard.  Just start talking and pretty soon you know some people.  Eventually you meet enough people that you start seeing the same people when you go out, now you have freinds everywhere.

I have DREADED going out solo, but have recently just been doing it.  The first week was SLOW.  Last night, I had a bit of a breakthrough and wrote about it in my FR thread.  I have NEVER done well going out solo, but last night I ended up breaking into several sets, sat talking with one HB8 for half the night, then ended up being at a table with two new guy friends who want to hang again, and two HOT sisters both of whom were hugging me and giving me their number, talking about hanging out again.  I went from dude sitting at the bar by himself to a guy that if you had walked in and seen me, you'd have just thought I was some guy with a group of hot girls and cool guys having fun.  Basically, I just went out, stayed open to the chance of talking with anybody, worked my way into a set, didn't buy anyone any drinks, acted like a cool guy that had fun, and ended up closing down the place.  At one point, I drove past my new friends, one of the girls liked my car, and one of the guys was telling her, "Just get in and go home with him!"  She didn't, but at least she and her friends considered me a decent enough guy that it was a possibility.  You just have to do it.  Not every night will be like this....last week sucked.  But last night was a good night that will prompt me to do it again soon.  Just go and just try to have a good time doing whatever it is you're doing while you are there.

Ok....this MIGHT make you gun shy.  BUT....you are stuck in this story too.  That is BS.  I used to be stuck in my story.  I was a guy that was too short, too average, to bland for girls to like who had nothing going for me and would always hang out with less than hot girls because that's all I could get.  I TOLD myself this.  A few months back, I started doing some work and committed that this would NOT be my story.  And when you're at a bar, and people walk in, they just see a guy....they don't see all these footnotes we have that tell who we are.  So go out, and commit that you're not the guy in this quote....what you are is one BAMF who has endured more shit than most people ever will and who KNOWS he can handle any little shit some chick throws at you, and that you have a lot of interests that they may or may not share, including reverse cowgirl, but that you don't give two shits what they think or don't....you're where the party is gonna be at, so they should come along for the ride.

I sort of took that approach last night.  I went out, found a place to sit, and decided, everything within arm's reach is fun as shit, and it is mine.  And I'm telling you, by the end of the night, the party DID come to where I was, and I found myself hanging with two girls that I would previously have looked at across the room thinking, "why are they hanging out with that douche....I'm such a pussy."  No more, dude.  And you can do it to.

well even if you don't know anyone in the club (travelling, new city) it still doens't make any difference. Admitadly I'm a strange predatory type who doesn't go out to socialize but to push limits and fondle some boobs but the truth remains that if you're standing in a middle of a club alone not even talking to anyone why should it feel any different than standing in your living room? Think about it? Doesn't really make sense, does it?

I'll give you two tips (using rsd terminology so hopefully you'll get it) that made going out to a club to get a girl as easy as getting up from your couch to fetch a beer from the fridge:

1) DO NOT PING of the environment. AGAIN DO NOT PING. Focus your attention invards to your own soaring coal state. This is actually easier to do when you go solo, and a true reason to do it
2) Go out a COUPLE nights, just spend two hours standing there, in the middle of the club, DO NOT TALK TO ANYBODY and just feel normal, feel cool. No ones judging you, no ones noticing you, no one gives a fuck really, you're invisible - that's kinda liberating

after you've done this few times just go to a club and talk to people if you feel like, or if the club is really bouncing with high energy than it helps to open within 30sec of entering the club, it pumps your state and your approach has that kick it needs to get her RAS. Or don't talk at all on nights you don't feel like talking, lower energy parties etc. You'll notice it doesn't make that much difference anyway. You'll still get the girl. And if not, you'll meet your princess the next night.