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Hmm, i might be in trouble..
From what you've said it's kind of hard to tell exactly whats going on. Are you pushing for sex a lot? Do you try to and she stops? Maybe every time you come home from work so tired you just sort of relax and go to bed, and your just realizing now no sex, so it could be you aswell. What\s her values like? Is she an honest, trustworthy girl? Does she keep her messages hidden, her facebook acount private? IF she is super worried about those messages, id be cautious. I would just have an honest conversation with her "Babe i notice we don't have sex anymore, is there something going on?" . If she doesn't like the fact that you're working so much maybe try to cut back hours, for her. If working too much is a huge problem for her you might have to decide what's more important her or the job.
Well work isnt that important, im quitting after june 30th anyway ^^. But cant slack off to much since i need god refrences...
Hmm she has alway's been quite private and not really one of those girls that like facebook or use it that much.
She doesnt seem worried leaving the phone around, and im not the person to go check through hur messages.
Trust me, im never to tired for sex :D Yea i have been shut down some, think il just try to be more flirty, and not push for sex at all, se if that does some changes.
Im always up for good advice if someone has it ? Going to cut down on work hours too, do more on free time.
But it kindow sucks if this is going to happend every period i work longer days, and dont have as much time...
More advice please guy's, i know there are many with great experiences here ^^
Hmm she has alway's been quite private and not really one of those girls that like facebook or use it that much.
She doesnt seem worried leaving the phone around, and im not the person to go check through hur messages.
Trust me, im never to tired for sex :D Yea i have been shut down some, think il just try to be more flirty, and not push for sex at all, se if that does some changes.
Im always up for good advice if someone has it ? Going to cut down on work hours too, do more on free time.
But it kindow sucks if this is going to happend every period i work longer days, and dont have as much time...
More advice please guy's, i know there are many with great experiences here ^^
Hehe here comes the shitt tests... i like them, think everything comes down too that i have been working too much, and have not made enough time for hur, and have not been the same fun guy since i have been to burned out... Cutting down and returning to my self now, then things should go back to normal, after some shitt tests ^^
To be honest thats pretty crappy that she doesn't understand you are worn out from work.
I'm sorry but a 2 month shit test is ridiculous.
You need to talk to her. If you two can't discuss this then forget about getting married. If you are going to have sex exclusively to one person, then you want to be having sex with that person!
I'd speak to her and make it very clear. A relationship is sex + friendship. If we are not having sex, we become just friends.
I'm sorry but a 2 month shit test is ridiculous.
You need to talk to her. If you two can't discuss this then forget about getting married. If you are going to have sex exclusively to one person, then you want to be having sex with that person!
I'd speak to her and make it very clear. A relationship is sex + friendship. If we are not having sex, we become just friends.
Jojje
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Join Date: 10/22/2010 | Posts: 42
But the last two month's things have started to change, sex has gone down dramatically... = NO SEX!
WTF has happend... ? Lately i have not had as much time for doing fun stuff and i have been pretty worn out from work.
She say's that we dont do enough stuff, and i know i have not been the most exciting fiance lately but thats mostly a passing moment because now i have been working 12 hour days.
Is she testing me to see if i will continue to be myself and do fun stuff with hur even though we dont have sex at the moment?
I know from earlyer she has had some experience that men just want hur for sex and dont want to do other fun social things with hur.
So am i suddenly getting the biggest shitt tests ever to see if i am man enough for hur to stay with in the long run? That has been 1 of my theory's.. but im here to hear from other's experiences.
I do know that this can be a massive warning sign for other things as well, for example:
1. She could have found others for sex, me working long hours wouldnt really know of it.
2. The motherload of Shitt test i mentioned, because i have been working 2 much etc, and she wants to be sure i will be able to stay even though sex declines in periods..
3. well my mind is a bit cluded now so i gues you will have to help me with the other ones :P
NEED HELP!?!
And no i have not been needy etc, still leading, but im in a situation of change, new job, and getting a new apartment + 12 hour work days.. so my stress levels have been off the charts lately
Anyone every been in same situation, or something similar... please share!
I do love this women, but if she breaks my foundational rules (cheat) i will break it off without a question.