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December 6th, 2016
Cold Approach Fundamentals- Part 1 How to Open Consistently
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RockNRollPUA

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Being that this is a forum that is supposed to be about cold approaching women in clubs/street/wherever I've decided to write a series of posts on the mechanics of successfull pickup.  These are Ideas from my own experiences as a regular guy learning this shit for years and I want to help the guys who actually come here and want to be able to approach, date women, and have sex.  There is allot of mental masterbation on these forums, It's time to usher in a new era where we get back to the core topic that will actually get guys results.  Lets begin with the most basic and probably most stressfull part of the whole pickup thing, Opening.

The 3 second Rule still applies.

The 3 second rule is one of the oldest Ideas that still hold true regaurdless of using natural game or canned pickup lines.  If you don't follow this rule, you will get nervouse and psych yourself out.  You should have a few simple standard ways to open a conversation in your back pocket.  Your opener doesn't matter for the most part, but you must use one, and you must execute before overthinking your initial approach.  You don't need elaborate routines, a simple "Hey, how's it going" or a "Hey I saw you and thought you were cute so I wanted to come say hi." is far superior than whatever you will come up with thin the 3 minutes you spend rationalizing reasons not to approach.  See the girl, if she is cute, go in.  One thing you might want to look for if anything is to see if she has a wedding ring, but even that can be irrelevant if you are good enough.  You should come up with a few basic things to try before you even go out. 

Approach as soon as possible when you get in the club.

As soon as you enter then venue open anyone near the entrance, guys, girls, say hi to the bouncer, whatever.  If you fuck up the first minute and start getting in your head, you have just started a viscious cycle that is guarenteed to give you a bad night.  The first 5 approaches should just be general socializing and getting warmed up.  You need to be able to just talk to people like a normal guy before you start going insane.  Once you are used to approaching people you can just start off trying to pickup girls, but as a newb you need to focus on just being a social cool guy first.  If you have tons of approach anxiety, just use alchohol to calm your nerves, but don't get plastered.  Bring a flask of liquor, get a buzz going in your car, then leave it in the car. Don't go into the club and procrastinate ordering drinks and wasting money.  If you can't approach with a buzz, you probably can't approach sober either.

What to open with?

It really doesn't matter.  For the most part don't open with anything wierd or stupid.  If you can't figure out what wierd or stupid is, then you need to focus on general socializing before trying to seduce women.  I usually open with the Claw in loud environments, it goes over allot more smoothly than you think it will if you have never done it before.  Girls rarely ever get creeped out, atleast in my experience, and if they do who gives a shit you are learning.  If the environment is chill, open chill and relaxed.  Being to gamey or high energy in a chill quiet place just makes you look like a social retard.

If a girl is walking past you, stop her really quick and just say "Hey whats up?"  She will usually say she is going to XYZ to do ABC.  Just pull her in with the claw and say "Oh I thought you came over here to talk to me :) "

If a huge train of girls are walking by it is usually pretty hard to get them all to stop and have a conversation with you.  Look for girls just standing around talking to eachother, then go right in with your opener.  Talk to the whole group, joke around for a bit and show them you are a cool dude, then either talk to the cute one or if they are all cute talk to the one that is most receptive/talkative.  If they all just kind of stare at you and don't say shit, just sit there and plow untill they leave or they start talking to you.  This will get you accustomed to dealing with social pressure and build a habit of persistance.  Most girls are usually pretty friendly and shy.  They want guys to talk to them.  They do not go out to bite guys heads off, they want to meet guys.

Top 5 openers:
1.  Hey whats up guys? I'm RockNRollPua.  You guys having fun? -High Five / Handshake
2. Hey you're cute come talk to me. -Claw
3. Hey guys, do you like douchebags, cuz I am one.  You want to be friends? -Credit Jeffy-  I really like this one, its funny, girls usually laugh and will ask you why you are a douche bag.  I usually tell them it's probably because my parents didn't raise me properly.  That usually gets a laugh, and I'm in. Follow with the claw.
4. Two or more girls dancing - Double claw, work your way in the middle and grind on both of em.
5. Whats up motha fuckaaaas!!!! - Double claw / High five / Spin Handshake.  This one is supposed to be high energy and fun.

What if I get blown out?

Move on and approach a new group.  Don't dwell on it.  You will get blown out allot, even if you are a cool guy.  You gotta learn to deal with it and not take things personally.  Some girls will like you, some girls won't.  Thats life.

That is pretty much all you really need to open consistantly.  There are tons of different ways to open but they all lead to the same place...what to do after you open.  Stay tuned for part 2.
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Whats your way of opening girls in streetgame at night?
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Cool stuff man.  

You mention club and street as you start this off.  Do you do it on the street?  Do you do the same exact thing?  I actually think your "Where are you up to?  Oh I thought you were coming to talk to me." would be even more awesome not at the club haha.  
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RockNRollPUA

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UtopiaFive wrote:
Cool stuff man.  

You mention club and street as you start this off.  Do you do it on the street?  Do you do the same exact thing?  I actually think your "Where are you up to?  Oh I thought you were coming to talk to me." would be even more awesome not at the club haha.  
Yah I do do street game, and yah that opener works awesome.  There is a badass street in cleveland that has all the clubs.  You can pretty much do street game the whole time and never set foot inside.  My wing Newstuff18 has an awesome street opener where he just gets in front of the girls as they are coming and puts his hand up like a police officer causing the girls to stop out of curiosity.  Then he just says "Hey I'm newstuff18 whats up?"  Sometimes I just go: "Hey where the hell do you think you are going, come here!"  really dominant, that is a fun one to play around with.  I don't really differentiate street and club game as far as opening is concerned, it all pretty much works the same.  Another street opening trick if they don't stop right away is just to keep walking backwards and plowing different openers until they stop/run away in terror.  My whole mindset is, I'm a cool guy, they want to talk to me, so they will talk to me.  I don't need to do anything special, and neither do you.
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 solid thread afer solid thread....going way too hardddd
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RockNRollPUA wrote:
Being that this is a forum that is supposed to be about cold approaching women in clubs/street/wherever I've decided to write a series of posts on the mechanics of successfull pickup.  These are Ideas from my own experiences as a regular guy learning this shit for years and I want to help the guys who actually come here and want to be able to approach, date women, and have sex.  There is allot of mental masterbation on these forums, It's time to usher in a new era where we get back to the core topic that will actually get guys results.  Lets begin with the most basic and probably most stressfull part of the whole pickup thing, Opening.
Mad props man! Thanks!
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Really cool  and really simple. shades

Thumbs up to whomever suggested a newbie forum.
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good thread, i like your opener for moving sets.
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Well done, if someone just strating going out should stick to it definetly. I think hardest place just start do it, and then look your own path. A
The claw is the shit in loud night clubs!
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