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Girl with boyfriend - what do you think should be my next text?
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Dr Feelgood

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I met this girl ten days or so ago in a club with a girlfriend next to her, she is a German HB7.5. Went in quite aggressively, saw attraction, she seemed to like it but didn't comply too much, then she told me why: She had a boyfriend somerwhere in the venue. So I say "Tell me your number, I will learn it by heart!" and I do so (so nobody can see I'm taking her number).

The next day or so I text her, this is our convo streched out over a couple of days:

HBnurse: Hi DrFeelgood I find it really impressive that you remembered the number! But I told you I have a boyfriend and I don't know why you are calling, I wish you well take care anika
Me: Hi anika! We can just meetup and see where it goes, will be nice for sure! I'm not here over the next days, but are you free eg next Thursday? Kiss, DrFeelgood
HBnurse: No I got uni next week but anyways it's just not possible how would you feel if your girlfriend did something like this?
Me: If I didn't know it, everything would be alright! Who doesn't know about your relationship should not say anything about it. You will have your reasons. Anyways, I find you extreeeemly cute, that's why I put that much effort into it...
HBnurse: Thank you, I will just take it as a compliment, you are really cool but a couple of years too late. In a relationship I'm expecting faithfulness and that is the way I behave too! Sounds boring I know but that's the way I am wink Take care, many greetings anika

Her last text was sent 5 days ago, I didn't really have time to put this up on the forum earlier. In case you are wondering, my texts usually don't sound that clingy, but I wanted to reinforce the idea that I really liked her here.

So what would be your response to this? Do you think there is any chance left this is going to happen (after all, she gave me her phone number with her boyfriend being very close and let me get quite physical)?

Advanced guys, thanks for your input!

EDIT: The thread somehow transformed into the question: How do you distinguish between the girls with BFs you have a chance to fuck and the ones you have no chance to?
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She was probably drunk when she gave the number and let you get physical etc.. looks pretty dead in the water right now to me bro. But good shit on trying.
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Thats some loser orbiter shit lol what a waste of time
cyrax86 wrote:
now have a 45 minute conversation about it.

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Ist dies Maedchen ein Deutsches Maedchen? Sowieso, wenn das war mir, ich will spreche:

HB: Hallo DrFeelGood. Du beeindruckst mir mit dir Speicher. Aber, Ich spracht, Ich habe ein fruend und Ich wiesses nicht du mir anrufen warum. Bis bald.
Me: Ich bin sehr mehr erstaunlich dan das
HB: durch durch durch
Me: So, heute, ich habe aufgestanden und Ich realisiert das ich ist 10% mehr hubsch
HB: doch doch doch
Me: Lasst trefft unser Donnerstag.


Basically, ignore her excuses and plow with how awesome you are and how she needs to meet you.
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ThePostalDude

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cyrax86 wrote:
i ran my normal 'routine' like playing the question game, telling stories, we even talked about sex - she was into me.
Explain your normal routine? I remember when I was younger I truth & dared basically every girl with a 99% success rate (seriously, shit was mad), but now I'm older I can't really do childish shit like that anymore. Sorry to go off topic.

@ OP, that sucks, like the other guys said with these girls you have to act like what you're doing is innocent. Invite them over, to the movies, whatever... They usually go along with it, but the SECOND you say "date" or "lol we're gonna fuck" (not literally that, but you get my point) BOOM they will fucking blow your ass out of the water. "Oh I thought this was a friend thing!" said after you've already been BLATANT about your sexual interest in her. I swear, the bitches know what's going on, all the "oh I didn't know you intended to fuck me!" shit they say after you outright state your intentions is complete bullshit.

Best chances for you would be to play it off cool like it doesn't effect you, all whilst continuing your advance. You can be overt as you like, as long as you don't literally say in words what you want to do. Tell her to dress sexy, spread flowers on the bed, whatever, she'll probably go with it. It's only when you outright say "oh by the way, we're fucking tonight" that they start playing innocent.
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Tell her: "I'm flattered. I'm actually gay on Tuesdays. Let's go out on Tuesday. It will be Fabulous!@!@!!!!"

Then proceed to hit on her and meet up on Tuesday
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I will reiterate what I've said a few times before...

She gave you her number so you would go away and leave her alone. Maybe you should have started to hit on her friend at the boyfriend objection - or asked if she had any single friends in the venue.

If a girl tells you she has a boyfriend it 99% of the time means she will NOT fuck you. Falls into the categories of: Lying to reject you, being honest and not interested, being honest and if she was SINGLE would be interested - but she isn't single, and she isn't cheating on her boyfriend.

I sense a strong KJ vibe coming form this thread. I doubt ANY guy on this forum (instructor and all) would have been able to fuck this chick giving the circumstances (happy with her LTR).

Let's say the girl was naive enough to actually meet up with you on the basis of a "friendly" hangout, she would still reject your attempts at escalation.

Maybe a guy bangs out a girl with a supposed "boyfriend" (the boyfriend actually being some casual dude shes been seeing for 2 months, the sex is bad, and she's just about to break up with him) and think they can bang out girls who are in happy 3 year + LTR's. lmfao, give me a break. Yeah maybe you are in the right place at the right time (relationships about to end anyway) but it's rare.

The only "success" I've had with a girl who had a boyfriend was a quick makeout, that's it - apparently she ran home crying after because she realized what she did.

Point is, when you get the boyfriend objection - ask if any of her friends are single. She'll almost ALWAYS be willing to put in a good word for you - I've had more lays from doing this than actually trying to keep gaming the girl with the BF. Oh and a lot of times the friend/s end up being hotter than her...
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 are you kidding? you're never gonna fuck this woman. No amount of gay wordplay is going to change the fact that she has a bf and is not into you. Nor will you be able to "fool her" into meeting you "as friends" and then convert it. My next text to her would be "fuck you kill yourself"
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 are you kidding? you're never gonna fuck this woman. No amount of gay wordplay is going to change the fact that she has a bf and is not into you. Nor will you be able to "fool her" into meeting you "as friends" and then convert it. My next text to her would be "fuck you kill yourself"
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 Julien could probably bang her though.
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jlaix wrote:
 are you kidding? you're never gonna fuck this woman. No amount of gay wordplay is going to change the fact that she has a bf and is not into you. Nor will you be able to "fool her" into meeting you "as friends" and then convert it. My next text to her would be "fuck you kill yourself"
Jeffy, you're crazy, you're telling me you've never met up with a taken girl and ended up railing her?

*rereads thread*
Quote:
Hi DrFeelgood I find it really impressive that you remembered the number! But I told you I have a boyfriend and I don't know why you are calling, I wish you well take care anika


Oh... Riiiiiight. I only read the final text she sent you.
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So wait a minute, how the fuck did you get this chick's number haha.

Anyway, OP, don't worry that you sent "clingy messages". I have read texts of playerish alpha guys at times and they are sending "chode" shit like "babe just give me a chance to impress you tonight, you won't regret it I promise", and I read it thinking "wait, wtf, you're alpha as fuck and bang multiple new girls per week, surely you can't be saying shit like this?!" But when it comes down to it I think every guy says chodey shit to girls from time to time, or gets a bit attached to one they "really like".
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