THE FORUMS
Functional Whoring for the Working Man - (30 day challenge)
Bad first night...
Monday night is a really slow night in my town and it was dead everywhere tonight. Missioned around empty bars and streets with random dudes in cafes, fuck this, whats the point of opening if its 10 minutes till I find another person.
Found a local bar where there were some film geeks at some kind of film promotion. Opened and riffed a bit but ultimately I couldnt get horny for them, lol...
the whole place was really low quality, I even went to the toilet to try and get an erection but as soon as I went back in set with the crusties I went floppy:)))))
Made a decision to get home and plan things better.
Forget Mondays without a plan for cold approach. I will reserve it for day2s.
Sorted a cracking party out for tommorow... at least it cant get worse than tonight. OKC messages as usual, gonna ween myself off it, makes me lazy stick to cold approach instead for this month.
Monday night is a really slow night in my town and it was dead everywhere tonight. Missioned around empty bars and streets with random dudes in cafes, fuck this, whats the point of opening if its 10 minutes till I find another person.
Found a local bar where there were some film geeks at some kind of film promotion. Opened and riffed a bit but ultimately I couldnt get horny for them, lol...
the whole place was really low quality, I even went to the toilet to try and get an erection but as soon as I went back in set with the crusties I went floppy:)))))
Made a decision to get home and plan things better.
Forget Mondays without a plan for cold approach. I will reserve it for day2s.
Sorted a cracking party out for tommorow... at least it cant get worse than tonight. OKC messages as usual, gonna ween myself off it, makes me lazy stick to cold approach instead for this month.
__________________
"Woman begins by resisting a man's advances and ends by blocking his retreat." - Oscar Wilde
Good day at work today, I'm really learning to harness my own self-respect and use the energy to pack in loads more activity.
I think this is translating to my game as well, tonight I really didn't want to go out I was really tired but I knew I couldn't respect myself tomorrow if I did not.
I blew out on a few warm ups couldn't really remember them.
Opened some hottie with a male friend, befriended him tho and he started offering me his weed, Stuck on the girl but ragged on her a bit too hard.
Finally found a nice table of 4 girls and had a bit of a juggling session. They were all really into me, but I maintained a sexual frame closing in on my target quick, a year ago I would have entertained them all but I have learned from those mistakes. Something else I was reminded of was how powerful it can be to lock on to a girl within a few seconds in front of all her friends, it kind of amps her attraction.
Riffed a bit between different sets of girls, and even though I was feeling tired I stuck with a really chilled vibe instead of forcing myself to be in-congruent, something I learned in a recent Tyler vid, as always excellent advice. Girls are like lie detectors for the in-congruent man.
Finally found my main target for the night, very cool sexy girl lawyer 28 great body. We meshed immediately. All around us was silent we were in a bubble, others were watching on observing the magic, lol.. I was genuinely into our convo all about Freud and psychology that I forgot the time, when I remembered some mates of hers showed up and it was hard to isolate at that point.
I had missed my chance...fuck...I cant be so chilled that I forget the fucking goal..got her number and she was obviously keen to meet up, but I am pissed off with myself for not seizing the moment...no more excuses, step up...mustn't be too hard on myself tho, last year I would have gone home early but I pushed though and I can look at my reflection and respect myself tomorrow, that is all anyone of us should really want.
To Improve
Escalate faster
Isolate sooner
Posatives
Any failure is my responsibility never the situation's
Using self-respect to fuel action
Game is not separate it is a representation of who I am in all areas of my life
I think this is translating to my game as well, tonight I really didn't want to go out I was really tired but I knew I couldn't respect myself tomorrow if I did not.
I blew out on a few warm ups couldn't really remember them.
Opened some hottie with a male friend, befriended him tho and he started offering me his weed, Stuck on the girl but ragged on her a bit too hard.
Finally found a nice table of 4 girls and had a bit of a juggling session. They were all really into me, but I maintained a sexual frame closing in on my target quick, a year ago I would have entertained them all but I have learned from those mistakes. Something else I was reminded of was how powerful it can be to lock on to a girl within a few seconds in front of all her friends, it kind of amps her attraction.
Riffed a bit between different sets of girls, and even though I was feeling tired I stuck with a really chilled vibe instead of forcing myself to be in-congruent, something I learned in a recent Tyler vid, as always excellent advice. Girls are like lie detectors for the in-congruent man.
Finally found my main target for the night, very cool sexy girl lawyer 28 great body. We meshed immediately. All around us was silent we were in a bubble, others were watching on observing the magic, lol.. I was genuinely into our convo all about Freud and psychology that I forgot the time, when I remembered some mates of hers showed up and it was hard to isolate at that point.
I had missed my chance...fuck...I cant be so chilled that I forget the fucking goal..got her number and she was obviously keen to meet up, but I am pissed off with myself for not seizing the moment...no more excuses, step up...mustn't be too hard on myself tho, last year I would have gone home early but I pushed though and I can look at my reflection and respect myself tomorrow, that is all anyone of us should really want.
To Improve
Escalate faster
Isolate sooner
Posatives
Any failure is my responsibility never the situation's
Using self-respect to fuel action
Game is not separate it is a representation of who I am in all areas of my life
__________________
"Woman begins by resisting a man's advances and ends by blocking his retreat." - Oscar Wilde
Kind of a mixed night.
First few warm up sets went ok, I am ejecting too early tho. Even tho I know they are only warmups I must keep going full tilt in them, otherwise it takes too long to get upto speed.
When I got the first blow out it really helped as always to focus me more.
Opened some girl canned (stupid) in-congruent move and she just turned away. hahaha
When I got inside the club I opened a group of 3 girls went ok, then a group of 4 better still. Hard to isolate the target due to logistics..my fault tho no one else is to blame.
Next few were a blur, but now I was getting into a rythem and BAAANG opened a cute little couple of French girls blew wide open the hot one was giggling like a school girl, I closed distance nose to nose, hands on hips, she was laughing and I was saying the most boring shit about work, lol... I didnt go for the make out fast enough fucking iiiidiot. I spotted some girl with some wierd design on her top and started taking to her wtf!!!!.
Suddenly her mate was all 'hey wats up'....bollocks some crazy girl I dated a year ago, she was always a cold girl and it kind of pulled me into a logiocal head space, as we spoke between the lines I should have gone back to the French girl but then the lights of the bar came on for a spontanious 5 minute dance show...fuuuuckk.
I really fucked the pooch on that one she was hot and really into me. Got to get my trigger pulling back to speed.
Left and went to the next bar cos craazy girl was fucking up my head and the lack of alcohol made it harder.
Opened a little south african 20yr old cutie, she wanted my to come to the corner of the bar with her mates..I choded along again didnt close fast enough and got distracted.
Sober game is haaaard to adapt to. Riffed a bit anyway and wnet back to the club, found frenchie who said they were going to another bar and I should come. So I took the lead and acted like it was all my idea socially lassood her mates and led them out of the club. We had to stand there for a while while we waited for another of her friends.. tried to lead them anyway but they wanted to wait for her.
Fuck this.... left them there went to the other bar opened a fucking super hot tall girl she was with the band. She was married but her friend was hot too, tried to get it on but she was waaay stoned, and the band were trying to make friends with me and it distracted me.
Bottom line in social proof terms great but what does that really mean...fuck all.
I probably opened around 20 sets tonight in all and it brought back some recurring issues I am not escalating fast enough and kissing girls when I get the 'eyes bright' thing.
Trust in the process, keep going out and I will get back upto speed. This closing thing was a recurring issue before and it has raised its ugly head.
I think I am getting addicted to the attraction and not going for broke enough.
Fix it NOW or forever hold my 12" piece, :)
Use the pain of failure to fuel success
First few warm up sets went ok, I am ejecting too early tho. Even tho I know they are only warmups I must keep going full tilt in them, otherwise it takes too long to get upto speed.
When I got the first blow out it really helped as always to focus me more.
Opened some girl canned (stupid) in-congruent move and she just turned away. hahaha
When I got inside the club I opened a group of 3 girls went ok, then a group of 4 better still. Hard to isolate the target due to logistics..my fault tho no one else is to blame.
Next few were a blur, but now I was getting into a rythem and BAAANG opened a cute little couple of French girls blew wide open the hot one was giggling like a school girl, I closed distance nose to nose, hands on hips, she was laughing and I was saying the most boring shit about work, lol... I didnt go for the make out fast enough fucking iiiidiot. I spotted some girl with some wierd design on her top and started taking to her wtf!!!!.
Suddenly her mate was all 'hey wats up'....bollocks some crazy girl I dated a year ago, she was always a cold girl and it kind of pulled me into a logiocal head space, as we spoke between the lines I should have gone back to the French girl but then the lights of the bar came on for a spontanious 5 minute dance show...fuuuuckk.
I really fucked the pooch on that one she was hot and really into me. Got to get my trigger pulling back to speed.
Left and went to the next bar cos craazy girl was fucking up my head and the lack of alcohol made it harder.
Opened a little south african 20yr old cutie, she wanted my to come to the corner of the bar with her mates..I choded along again didnt close fast enough and got distracted.
Sober game is haaaard to adapt to. Riffed a bit anyway and wnet back to the club, found frenchie who said they were going to another bar and I should come. So I took the lead and acted like it was all my idea socially lassood her mates and led them out of the club. We had to stand there for a while while we waited for another of her friends.. tried to lead them anyway but they wanted to wait for her.
Fuck this.... left them there went to the other bar opened a fucking super hot tall girl she was with the band. She was married but her friend was hot too, tried to get it on but she was waaay stoned, and the band were trying to make friends with me and it distracted me.
Bottom line in social proof terms great but what does that really mean...fuck all.
I probably opened around 20 sets tonight in all and it brought back some recurring issues I am not escalating fast enough and kissing girls when I get the 'eyes bright' thing.
Trust in the process, keep going out and I will get back upto speed. This closing thing was a recurring issue before and it has raised its ugly head.
I think I am getting addicted to the attraction and not going for broke enough.
Fix it NOW or forever hold my 12" piece, :)
Use the pain of failure to fuel success
__________________
"Woman begins by resisting a man's advances and ends by blocking his retreat." - Oscar Wilde
Pretty crazy night.
It was independence day here last night, went to a private party, jacuzzi, dancers, fireworks etc.
I must have spoken to everyone there maybe 40+ cold approaches. took a while to settle into my rhythm, I went back to some basics last night. It can be tough some nights without a good wing, u do the same mistakes over and over and it takes twice as long to spot them, hahaha.
Anyway a few girls stand out.
A cute little blond thing, teacher, great ass. my eye contact sucked, sometimes I get so wrapped in my own world when talking I forget the little things. Not enough sexual energy as a result.
Another little blondie, scuba diver. waaay better this time there was sexual tension the main problem was logistics, popular girl her friends kept moving her about.
A milf crazy into me, I was about an inch from her face the entire time and she was doing all the talking, she practically begged for my number.. it was pretty much a picture perfect interaction.
another cute blonde this time from dallas, again attraction is easy, but she was with some dude, who was blocking like crazzy, truth be told I should have just picked her up and taken her away. (need to be a lot more dominant with superhot girls)
last interaction, the best of the night. very cute girl, chemistry was great, by this point I was so chilled it was rediculous, haha had to settle for her number as her friends wanted to go.
Good Points.
approaching and sparking attraction is so easy it takes less than no effort.
When I settle down and just chill out every thing goes much better.
man/woman distance, eyes etc is getting excellent as the night progresses.
To Work on.
Chill out earlier in the night - remember less is always more.
Need to examine some basics my tone at times was SR while other things were dominant. This is creating mixed messages, and confusing girls sometimes.
Again I need to go for the kiss earlier and isolate hotties away from their friends.
Same issue cropping up again and again - get this shit dialled, on some level I must still be looking for approval
It was independence day here last night, went to a private party, jacuzzi, dancers, fireworks etc.
I must have spoken to everyone there maybe 40+ cold approaches. took a while to settle into my rhythm, I went back to some basics last night. It can be tough some nights without a good wing, u do the same mistakes over and over and it takes twice as long to spot them, hahaha.
Anyway a few girls stand out.
A cute little blond thing, teacher, great ass. my eye contact sucked, sometimes I get so wrapped in my own world when talking I forget the little things. Not enough sexual energy as a result.
Another little blondie, scuba diver. waaay better this time there was sexual tension the main problem was logistics, popular girl her friends kept moving her about.
A milf crazy into me, I was about an inch from her face the entire time and she was doing all the talking, she practically begged for my number.. it was pretty much a picture perfect interaction.
another cute blonde this time from dallas, again attraction is easy, but she was with some dude, who was blocking like crazzy, truth be told I should have just picked her up and taken her away. (need to be a lot more dominant with superhot girls)
last interaction, the best of the night. very cute girl, chemistry was great, by this point I was so chilled it was rediculous, haha had to settle for her number as her friends wanted to go.
Good Points.
approaching and sparking attraction is so easy it takes less than no effort.
When I settle down and just chill out every thing goes much better.
man/woman distance, eyes etc is getting excellent as the night progresses.
To Work on.
Chill out earlier in the night - remember less is always more.
Need to examine some basics my tone at times was SR while other things were dominant. This is creating mixed messages, and confusing girls sometimes.
Again I need to go for the kiss earlier and isolate hotties away from their friends.
Same issue cropping up again and again - get this shit dialled, on some level I must still be looking for approval
__________________
"Woman begins by resisting a man's advances and ends by blocking his retreat." - Oscar Wilde
Ok Its official, Hotdog is in a fucking plateau...lol
One the one hand great Im about to hit a new level.
On the other.....Im in a fucking plateau.
Another night of tomfoolery in Tel Aviv, bars & clubs easy attraction, numbers blah blah. But when the time came at the end of the night, I ballsed it!!
Again I approached 30+
Standouts were a very cute blondie chick, great chemistry, I have to fuck this girl asap, something about her vibe, kind of cool & sexy surpisingly hard to find. Not much more to say, her mate was hanging about and logistics were really awkward but fair played I felt I did well.
A redhead ballet chick, sexy body face and I want to fuck exhanged details blah blah, but the reason I feel pleased is because she had a seriously strong frame and I had to plough like fuck to get through. Even when I did she wouldnt give an inch so I played a slower game more vibing and chilling together, she is on my list to call tho.
A couple of girls that I should have really pulled was at the end of the night.
One was a girl I met in the upstars of the club no one about and we were both going to the bathroom. In retrospect I could have probably pushed her in to the cubicle and got busy but wasnt alert enough in the moment.
After we came out the toilets, I again should have at least kissed her but I hesitated. Maybe Its because I had a few whiskies tonight, either way when that moment comes along at the end of the night I cant waste it like that.
The other was two girls who I left the club with, they were going home and I really should have taken them for food or venue changed in some way. one of them was just my type,,fffuuuuck, bollllocks.
Earlier in the night when I've had a couple of drinks Im great and even though I'm chilled and getting my own style going, I havnt developed the insticts for those in the moment decisions when I have a few drinks in me..answer....no more alchohol at all. one drink at the beginning of the night and thats all...or I'll keep hitting this alertness in the moment cieling.
All things considered Ive developed miles from where I was but Im off the pace still and Im not where I want to be.
Im in a valley but I know Ill come out the other side eventually.
I have a shit load of callbacks so I need to crack on with my day 2 schedule.
pros
relaxed, cool, attraction easy, man/woman blah blah.
My state is stable all night solo
negatives
damn plateau, insticts rocky on booze late in the night when I need them most (no more booz, no more excuses)
One the one hand great Im about to hit a new level.
On the other.....Im in a fucking plateau.
Another night of tomfoolery in Tel Aviv, bars & clubs easy attraction, numbers blah blah. But when the time came at the end of the night, I ballsed it!!
Again I approached 30+
Standouts were a very cute blondie chick, great chemistry, I have to fuck this girl asap, something about her vibe, kind of cool & sexy surpisingly hard to find. Not much more to say, her mate was hanging about and logistics were really awkward but fair played I felt I did well.
A redhead ballet chick, sexy body face and I want to fuck exhanged details blah blah, but the reason I feel pleased is because she had a seriously strong frame and I had to plough like fuck to get through. Even when I did she wouldnt give an inch so I played a slower game more vibing and chilling together, she is on my list to call tho.
A couple of girls that I should have really pulled was at the end of the night.
One was a girl I met in the upstars of the club no one about and we were both going to the bathroom. In retrospect I could have probably pushed her in to the cubicle and got busy but wasnt alert enough in the moment.
After we came out the toilets, I again should have at least kissed her but I hesitated. Maybe Its because I had a few whiskies tonight, either way when that moment comes along at the end of the night I cant waste it like that.
The other was two girls who I left the club with, they were going home and I really should have taken them for food or venue changed in some way. one of them was just my type,,fffuuuuck, bollllocks.
Earlier in the night when I've had a couple of drinks Im great and even though I'm chilled and getting my own style going, I havnt developed the insticts for those in the moment decisions when I have a few drinks in me..answer....no more alchohol at all. one drink at the beginning of the night and thats all...or I'll keep hitting this alertness in the moment cieling.
All things considered Ive developed miles from where I was but Im off the pace still and Im not where I want to be.
Im in a valley but I know Ill come out the other side eventually.
I have a shit load of callbacks so I need to crack on with my day 2 schedule.
pros
relaxed, cool, attraction easy, man/woman blah blah.
My state is stable all night solo
negatives
damn plateau, insticts rocky on booze late in the night when I need them most (no more booz, no more excuses)
__________________
"Woman begins by resisting a man's advances and ends by blocking his retreat." - Oscar Wilde
Hotdog
Respected Member
Join Date: 03/12/2011 | Posts: 966
Hardest thing for me is balance I go through periods of intense work and then dont go out enough or I go out all the time and work suffers.
Now its time for balance.
How to achieve balance the of a regimented diet of work, exercise and vegetables while whoring, pimping, slut banging and thinking with my dick Or Functional Whoring for the working man 30 day challenge.
Gotta start with another 30 day challenge, but Im gonna put on limits so I don't fly off the wall.
1. No alcohol - This I'm not doing just for game its so I can work at 100% the next day as well.
2. Weekday Evenings I go out will be 9-13.00 max and at 12.00 whoever Im talking to I pull.
3. Keep the rotation to a maximum of 3, this will teach me to get ruthless/economical with any hangers on and stop fucking uglies + time wasters.
4. Work takes priority over all sex based activity
Start tonight I leave in 40 minutes, shower on.....